husband hasn't noticed.

fleur_de_lis19

This is sad to me Goodness... when i lose a few ounces from taking a s**t my husband notices. Tells me I'm beautiful and how proud he is of my work, all the time. Maybe a new outfit to show off your progress would help. GREAT JOB btw!

Debbe2

Keep it up! You're doing great! He will notice and it's simply a matter of time. :flowerforyou:

ShiloughCoy

Feel lucky. My man watches my weight like a dog watches his favorite bone! :noway:

MissFit0101

So many people take compliments the wrong way when they've lost weight, and perhaps your husband is afraid that's what will happen if he says something. Bring it up to him! Let him know. I'm sure he's noticed and is very proud of you.

victoria4321

Maybe he thinks you need to lose a lot more but doesn't want to screw up your flow.

keem88

i think it may be like what other people have said, either it is because he sees you every day (my fiance and i live together, i went from 127 to 109 and he hasn't said anything), or he may think it will come out wrong and imply that you looked badly before. like everyone else said, talk to him about it if it is bothering you, i am sure it is nothing and prolly a silly miscommunication. but way to go with 25 lbs down, congrats!

mamaward64

Not sure if suggested cause too many post to read. But you say your clothes are hanging off of you. How about putting something smaller on a teeny dress, lingerie, run through with panties and a bra. He is sure to notice. I promise.

fleur_de_lis19

He sees you everyday... that makes it hard to notice a difference...

This. The first couple of months my family didn't notice, but my friends did. They're just so used to you it's harder for them to tell than people you don't see on a daily basis.

I think this is BS.. sorry but it is. I've known my husband since he was 15-16, we notice every little pound that the other loses and gains.

ELCABRA

I am with you momma, my wifey has barely said a word, now I've only lost like 15 pounds but damn it I'm busting my *kitten* and she seems to notice nothing. I tell ya what when another woman mentions it she take immediate notice but still fails to give me some props. I am thinking there is a bit of jealousy there and she is mad at herself for not adhering to a program and getting results. Maybe this is the case in your situation, I say get you some sexy girl clothes and blow his mind, maybe he needs a wake up call.

Good Luck Momma!!!

neasha27

My hubby didnt notice until we were "in bed" the other night...:blushing:

Effpcos

I've lost almost 30 lbs since July and the most acknowledgment I've gotten from my husband so far is that he grabs my *kitten* more. He's not a very talkative person anyway, so it doesn't bother me.

But as other people have mentioned maybe he doesn't know how to say something without offending you or maybe he's worried a "new you" means you'll be looking for a "new him".

Or he just genuinely hasn't noticed, he is male isn't he???

Maybe walking around the house in your underwear might get some attention from him? It works for me,

gabriellejayde

I have a good friend who is short (under 5' i think) and was a little over 200. I see her once a week or so. A few weeks ago, I complimented her shirt and she said, "I've lost 30 lbs... didn't you notice???"
well... no. I think she's cute nomatter what she weighs. I really didn't see it but after she said it, I thought... Oh.. right. you used to be heavier I guess.

My own husband looks the same to me at 230 as he does at 210. I really can NOT see a difference. I'm pretty sure he'd have to gain or lose 50 or more before I could tell because he always looks fine to me and I see him every day.

Don't sweat it- just tell him you'd like a compliment once in a while.

neasha27

I decided to let go of my irritation in my husband for not saying anything/much about my 43 pound loss when I realized he had also said nothing about my 80 lb. weight gain since we got married. Love that man!! :happy:

jdrapersr

Why don't you say I need some new cloths and I want us to go on a shoping date. Try on a lot of cloths that will fit and flatter you and then get one that's a little sexy and ask him what ones do you think I should get. My wife and I do this a lot and people will say how good she looks and she'll say that's the one Jack picked out for me Now her friends ask her if I can go shopping with them so get him involved and he'll come around and want to show you off....Good Luck

jesse1379

He probably feels threatened by your new found confidence and looks. Trust me when I say that he has noticed. Not acknowledging your weight loss is his way of playing a reverse psychology mind game to keep you in line lol.

staceyodell

Have you dressed in a way that shows that you have lost 25lbs or are you wearing frumpy clothes? You might try having a sexy night and wear some lingere or something. Sometimes, you have to force their hand to get a compliment! Good luck!

bricktowngal

I understand how you feel, my husband hasn't said much in the way of my weight loss either. But he is the type of guy who loves me no matter how I look. Maybe that's how your husband feels.

cindyhoney2

I decided to let go of my irritation in my husband for not saying anything/much about my 43 pound loss when I realized he had also said nothing about my 80 lb. weight gain since we got married. Love that man!! :happy:

This is awesome...my husband is very encouraging and he never complained even when I was at my heaviest. My M-I-L lost 25 lbs and I didn't notice and I see her everyday. I suggest mentioning it to him as well.

cindyhoney2

Why don't you say I need some new cloths and I want us to go on a shoping date. Try on a lot of cloths that will fit and flatter you and then get one that's a little sexy and ask him what ones do you think I should get. My wife and I do this a lot and people will say how good she looks and she'll say that's the one Jack picked out for me Now her friends ask her if I can go shopping with them so get him involved and he'll come around and want to show you off....Good Luck

YOU my friend...ROCK!

TraciStivers

My mom was really discouraged when people she saw everyday didn't notice her weightloss. They probably won't until its a really large loss but the people you see only once a month, even once a week, they will notice. Remember who you're doing this for too. This is for a healthier you Keep pushing through and look for encouragement on here. Sometimes people that aren't trying to lose weight just don't "get it".

Great job on your loss by the way! That is something to be very proud of.

She's absolutely right, if you aren't trying to lose weight then you have no understanding of how hard it is for the rest of us. I am counting every calorie but my husband thinks nothing of stopping at the McDonald's drive thru on the way home from soccer games! I order a parfait ( and then stress over what I am going to do to burn those few calories) and he orders a big mac, fries and large soda.

Another thing, my husband adores me whether I weigh 120 or 220, but he would never say anything either way. He;s just afraid to be taken the wrong way.

EvictingTheMassInMyAss

His not saying anything.....is actually shouting VOLUMES...His silence means.... "I love you no matter WHAT size you are!"

jynxxxed

He's a smart man, to be honest. Most men seem to KNOW that you should never ever comment on a woman's weight. He otherwise runs the risk of telling you that you look like you lost weight and it being taken as "jesus christ you were large before". I asked my boyfriend questions like "do my arms look better?" and he refuses to answer because he thinks I will take it as him saying I looked horrible beforehand. All he will say is "you look great regardless, but I can definitely see a difference".

Mention it to him and I'm sure he will tell you that he actually has noticed, he is just trying to not offend you!

77tes

Years ago, I dieted and lost 30 pounds, and my husband didn't notice. I was getting compliments from everyone, and my husband didn't notice. One day I said something about losing 30 pounds, and he said, "No way you've lost 30 pounds!" I was so hurt and mad that I immediately quit the diet and started eating. I gained it all back plus a whole lot more.

Moral of the story -- Just because your husband is a jerk (my husband is a wonderful guy, too, but he is a guy, so being a jerk happens, lol), don't be an idiot like I was.

By the way, this time he is noticing big time although he suggested I keep my fat clothes (That little bit of jerkiness just fueled my determination)!

Good luck with your continued success! :flowerforyou:

jerman01

That's a good point. But, losing a lot of weight should be a big deal and he should say nice job. Something....

saraann4

go shopping, buy a tight fitting shirt and some new jeans. If he doesn't notice....then I don't know what to tell you.

reneelee

Go buy new clothes that fit, he will notice!

swaymyway

I don't know what 25lbs means for you in terms of percentage as I don't know your starting weight, but if you have a lot to lose, even though 25lbs is a lot, if it's only 15% of what you plan to lose then it really won't be noticable. Also as others have pointed out if you are still wearing your old clothes and they are baggy on you it's even harder to notice.

Basically as everyone else has said there are many reasons he may not have noticed, or may have noticed but not said any thing, rather than just 'because he's an *kitten*!!' so comunicate with him, he's no more a mind reader than you are

RobertaKR

hello fellow MFPs.

I need to rant for a minute....
My clothes are hanging off my body and I just can't imagine why he doesn't say anything. grrrrrrr

thank you for listening to my rant.

Get some new clothes. Don't just hang on to the old ones. It will make you feel much better even if he still doesn't notice.

ines25

He meybe don't want to get u mad sometimes we act like total *****es so don't worry he will say it

radioonemike

Hmmm. Sorry to hear that. I can understand how frustrating that would be, especially since weight loss is always a difficult effort... Perhaps, he wants to keep mum until you reach your goal weight or perhaps he's just a guy and does not know quite what to say.