**Warning, whining imminent** 27 lbs, no one is noticing?

HMToomey

I got to -40 before anyone noticed... Basically I was wearing tents all summer since nothing fit me, went to my twin goddaughters birthday party in a new shirt that fit me (It was a purple and blue party so I needed an appropriately colored shirt) and everyone finally noticed! I had gone from a size 20 down to a size 14 at that point!

People are oblivious and you need to hit them over the head! Do this for you, not them, and when they finally open their eyes You can laugh and ask where they've been! :flowerforyou:

libbymcbain

Hello, well done! Congrats on losing so much.

Think it can also be a case of there being "a magic pound" - there is just a pound where you suddenly look thinner. I know from past experience that I have several tipping points- going under 190, 164, 147 and 136- I just suddenly look a whole look slimmer than I did just a pound or two before. Then I have another plateau where I pretty much look the same til I reach the next tipping point and then suddenly I look thinner again.

Sometimes as well, we are looking for the "biggest loser" moment. Someone steps on the scale, has lost weight and there are gasps and applause. But there is a great big scale with huge numbers pointing that out next to the contestants.

violetpearl76

Years ago I lost, well, A LOT of weight and it was not the people I see everyday that would say something, it was those who great gaps of time has passed that would say something. Keep up the great work and don't get discouraged as you're sooooo worth the effort! Oh, and don't feel bad for "whining" as you're a human being; just great to see you acknowledging that you needed to do so and therefore are reinstating the "sucking it up" montra ;-)

alishacupcake

I agree that most poeple probably don't know how to approach you about it. Recently a woman I work with lost alot of weight and I didn't comment because I know how uncomfortable it makes me when someone comments on my weight, negative or positive.

In my teens I did a lot of yo yo dieting. An older lady said to me one time: You looks so good, I hope you can keep it off this time, just stay away from the cookies. I was mortified and of course I gained the weight back like I always did back then. So that's all I could think about was now what she must be thinking about me.

SabrinaLily

WoW. First off- that's AMAZING. Not only have you lost double digits, but you've lost 1/4 of 100 pounds (now THAT sounds impressive if you word it that way. LOL). Anywho, I am sorry that you're not getting more praise or people noticing. I don't know if it's that no one is actually noticing- maybe they feel weird asking "have you lost weight" because perhaps they fear you'll interpret it as a backwards way of saying "you needed to lose weight". Or, maybe they actually haven't noticed. Shoot, I'm beating myself up for having lost 5 tiny pounds and not seeing a difference (which is silly to even expect!). Regardless, keep in mind that you are doing this for YOURSELF, not them! I'd kill to have lost 27 pounds so whereas some people may not be noticing- keep in mind others (like me!) are crazy jealous of you! That takes A LOT of hard work. I don't know where it's coming off of you right now, and everyone's different, but sooner or later, they'll be bound to notice! But like I said, just cause they're not saying anything doesn't mean they're not noticing! Maybe they're even jealous- who knows. But if it helps, I'm damn proud of you!!!

aweigh2go

You should be losing the weight for yourself and not others. Seek your own approval and not that of those around you!

OfficiallySexyVal

Unfortunately no matter where you go, people will be oblivious to your weight loss! Or they are scared to say something about it because they feel it is a touchy subject! I have lost 55lbs on MFP and 60lbs over all and aside from my MFP friends who tell me how great I am looking everyday (I love them for that) but friends and family do not seem to notice.

Cobweb200

I suspect they maybe embarassed to mention it especially if you have not mentioned that you are trying. You (and we) know you have done it as does your partner. You just keep your head high, walk tall and keep focussed on that wedding date when there may well be some OMG faces. So what! You are doing this for you guys aren't you? Well done, keep calm and carry on xx

Faericn_Rising

Thanks all... I have indeed lost 1/4of my total goal, and knowing i have to do what i did already only 3 more times, is very inspiring to me. I am of course sticking with it, and while it wasnt so much discouraging not to have people notice, i guess i was just wanting attention, which is pretty childish, lol..

Im happy to be getting healthy. And i cant wait to ****ing run. Thanks for all the support.

I have started taking full body pics this week. and there are some of my face, in my profile.

Best of luck, and congrats to all of you on your own journeys.

danasings

Yep... I know this is all being done for me, and thats what keeps me going. my personal end goal is to run. I dont even bother explaining that to most people because they just look at me like 'uh... yeah... ok.... you do that...."

It is all for me. I know that. In fact, this honestly is entirely motivated by health, and not looks. I was confident to the point of being cocky, even when fat. I dont need any help there. ;-) However, I was kind of looking forward to when people did start to notice, and then no one did. and i found i was disappointed.

You are all right about people probably being cautious in case im sensitive.

I have not bought new clothes, because i dont want to waste my fiancees money by doing it 4 times, so im waiting for the end...
But maybe getting one or two new things to wear places wouldnt kill me...

I think i just need to recenter my focus to the fact that i want to live longer with my sweetie, and continue on just asi have been.

Thanks all.

Aw, I know just how you feel. When I first started losing, I felt like no one noticed...but then when I got below 180 (down 35 pounds), that's when another people started saying stuff, probably because I looked more like "my old self."

I think along the way you will have to buy some new clothes...your old ones will be falling off of you after a while! I wear belts with the size 14s (that had been sitting in my closet for years), but they still look ridiculous since I'm closer to an 8 now. I started buying cheaper things, workout clothes, pjs, etc. rather than actual number sizes until I reach my goal.

You're doing great, keep it up!!

secretlobster

HOW COME HER BOOBS STAY THE SAME SIZE!

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LauraDotts

Think it can also be a case of there being "a magic pound" - there is just a pound where you suddenly look thinner. I know from past experience that I have several tipping points- going under 190, 164, 147 and 136- I just suddenly look a whole look slimmer than I did just a pound or two before. Then I have another plateau where I pretty much look the same til I reach the next tipping point and then suddenly I look thinner again.

Yep. I think there is a "magic pound".

HypersonicFitNess

If it makes you feel any better (and maybe it doesn't); I lost 35 lbs and dropped 5 pant sizes and had someone say, "you must be running again, your face has gotten thin"...really? What about my @ss? I wasn't aware running shrunk your face.... js some people are oblivious to any change...I'm sure it is very noticeable that you lost the weight; you just don't know the right people. :flowerforyou: Hang in there sweety....you will get even THEIR attention eventually.

danasings

Think it can also be a case of there being "a magic pound" - there is just a pound where you suddenly look thinner. I know from past experience that I have several tipping points- going under 190, 164, 147 and 136- I just suddenly look a whole look slimmer than I did just a pound or two before. Then I have another plateau where I pretty much look the same til I reach the next tipping point and then suddenly I look thinner again.

Yep. I think there is a "magic pound".

AGREED!! Everybody has "a tipping point" when his/her body really shows the changes. Also, body recomposition shows a lot more than weight loss. If you don't strength train, you could end up looking exactly the same, just smaller.

tequilaCC

i know the feeling!! before i had my son i was trying to lost weight and i was successful (19lbs). So one day i went to get my hair done and my hair dresser WHISPERED to me " you're losing weight?!" i said yea, she said "are you trying to?" and im thinking ok im hella fat so OF COURSE im trying to WTH lol. BUT i share that story to say its not that they don't notice... Sometimes they just don't want to offend.

kooltray87

I've lost basically 20 lbs, and no one's noticed either. It took me going around with an old picture and bragging for anybody to care. hahaha.

lol I'm about 2 seconds from putting I've lost 15 lbs sign on my chest! I went to my bf's nephews bday party, where I haven't seen some of those people in at least a few weeks. NO ONE said anything, not even "oh, youre looking good" or "did you do something different?" I've gone down about 2 whole sizes and only my fam notices :-( Oh well maybe once I buy smaller clothes people will notice...

AXAGEM

It's great that you have done so well in losing 27lbs thus far. However, BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR, because when people do start to really notice and know that you are actively trying to lose weight, there WILL be some people who assign themselves as your very own “Food and Exercise Police”. Trying to tell you what they think you should and shouldn’t be eating and what exercise you should be doing.

EnchantedEvening

It can take longer for people to notice at a higher weight, especially when someone sees you often. That's why looking at strangers on MFP makes the loss really obvious, but if you saw someone every day, you might not notice. My boyfriend couldn't see the difference until I showed him my before and after pictures the other day, and people at work didn't notice until just recently. It's just because little, subtle changes over time are hard to spot. I have a good friend at work, and I couldn't tell she'd lost weight until she lost 70 pounds and showed up in a new outfit. Then, all of a sudden, it hit me and I asked her, "Where did the rest of you go?!?"

Even relatives I haven't seen in a while don't really notice because I'm still pretty heavy, and they've seen me around 300+ for many years, so it won't be obvious to them until I'm closer to 250 or 200.

Chin up. Have you been taking pictures? I take new pictures every 10 pounds because even I can't see the difference sometimes. It's more obvious now that I'm 40 pounds lighter, but it wasn't when I was 20-30 pounds lighter. As you keep losing, it will become more and more obvious. It's much easier to tell when someone who is 250 loses 25 pounds than it is when someone 300+ loses 25 pounds. Having pictures of yourself can be a great motivator, to see how far you've come.

cebreisch

Like others have said, it will come.

I got braces in March, but have been to that office since February when my daughter go her braces on. I've lost about 50 pounds since then, and they haven't said word one.

At work, they've seen me lose the whole 103-104 pounds, and I was 85 pounds into it when the Exec Director finally said something and I see her several times throughout the month. It took going to a board meeting where someone must have said something to her before she actually came over and asked how much weight I had lost. Now she asks about it more frequently.

Some people are just oblivious.

notmac

The other day, my 11 year old son said "Dad, you don't have as much fat hanging from your ribs as you used to." Is that what you had in mind?

Hahaha, that gave me a laugh, out of the the mouth of babe's

fdlafon

Keep up the good work . . . It will happen!

AXAGEM

HOW COME HER BOOBS STAY THE SAME SIZE!

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LOL!!

Bikerjewelz

I'm down 24lbs and at the point where, likely previous poster said, every pound is noticeable. I got down to 201 2 weeks ago and felt great but regained 5..however thats possible...and now I feel fat again, but everyone else says they don't even notice...we have a friend who I thought GAINED weight...then I saw her a week llater and she looked way thinner...turns out she had lost 20lbs...so obviously clothes make a Huge difference. So does confidence and the way you carry yourself. Chin up. 27Lbs is major and if you feelbit, people will see it. Maybe MIL is just jealous? I have someone in my life who is incapable of complimenting me and always has snide comments..because she's jealous.