Mrs. Robinson Syndrome? What's it all about?

AnahitaCanDoIt

Let me preface this by saying, I'm 100% happily married and not interested in anyone in real life or on here.

Now, I go out a lot with work colleagues 20 or so years younger than me. I am constantly amazed by the attraction that younger lads seem to have to older women. In fact, I don't get it. What is it about older women that young men find so attractive?

Here is what I used to think: That we older women are desperate, easy, grateful....or else they've seen too much MILF porn and think we're all like Courtney Cox or Demi Moore.

but then I starting asking these young fellas directly. So, they come up and chat me up. I tell them politely that I'm married but it's ok to chat...then I ask them (for research purposes only)...and this is what they say, almost universally:

Women your age know what they want.

Translation from YoungLad to English: Women your age are better in bed. Hornier. More daring and adventurous.

So, with the plethora of young fit lads in here and a whole lotta hottie MILFs...I'll ask...

What's the attraction by younger lads to older women?

pyrowill

I think as you get older you mature in many ways, particularly emotionally, so those wanting relationships, 'brief encounters' without strings, or less complications often find it easier with older women, simply cos most of them have 'been there done that' with heartbreak/difficult situations.

In my experience older women handle almost every situation better than the younger ones. I'm 27 now, when I was 20 I dated a 30 year old who had 2 children. Pretty much every conversation was easier and more mature and it was a welcome break from the 'still developing and finding yourself' younger people I had dated.

I imagine its the same the other way if you date older men, more experienced and more mature....maybe...although if anything I think I've de-matured. :laugh:

AnahitaCanDoIt

thanks pyro..well, to be honest, what I don't get is the attraction physically...in fact, I'll often say, if a guy is being too persistent, "Have you ever seen a c-section scar?" Seems to send them packing....but with the youthful flesh on offer, most of them barely dressed, I can't understand the lads hitting on women my age...but I do agree that what they want is a NSA situation. I have single older women friends who have great success with young lads, however they tend to be clingy and/or needy.

WeekndOVOXO

They're a lot easier.

AnahitaCanDoIt

They're a lot easier.

Haha...that was my first impression.

HotMummyMission

My lad mates live older women they think there filthy they Have been there done that and bought the t shirt and are more experienced hahah the same way girls like older men really x

AnahitaCanDoIt

Yeah that's what I thought, too...tbh, I think if you're naughty it's from the beginning...doesn't start at your 30s or 40s!

SarahCW1979

Haha, I think that we 'cougars' come with a lot less drama. We know what we want and exactly how to get it
Ive used the 'I have shoes older than you' to get rid of a particularly persistent one when 'Im happily married and have 2 kids' didnt work lol

joeysox

Yeah that's what I thought, too...tbh, I think if you're naughty it's from the beginning...doesn't start at your 30s or 40s!

this is true! ive dated younger and much older and randoms inbetween and ive never found age to be a factor...some people can just be crap for longer xxx

AnahitaCanDoIt

I agree SarahCW... to be honest, me not being available seems to make them more determined. Especially the hotter guys who think they can get any woman they want. It's frustrating that they can't get who they want !

MonkeyBars

confidence.... women gain their confidence in their 30s to 40s! They don't care so much about public opinion.
ps I'm 42, but remember being 20s

AnahitaCanDoIt

Exactly! If you're driven sexually, you're that way fairly early on...I think it's just being more comfortable with yourself comes with age and experience... but I know women my age who have only ever been with their husband...some of whom love sex and some can't be arsed.

MonkeyBars

the scary thing is, some people just click with sex & some don't!
sex isn't just about the act, it's the build up, the sharing, the intimacy.
young people are pretty much crap at it because it's normally selfish and "to the point".
but this compatibility cannot be learned because then it is faux.

seamatt

When I was 20 I ended up in a relationship with a girl of 34. My friends older sisters and mates used to come and join us around the campfire (my mate had a farm and we used to have camp fires on bbq's all night in the summers) when they came back from the pubs/clubs. I guess they used to just like to come have some food and smoke a doobie, but we ended up seeing each other.

From a young lads point of view the age was a bit exciting, I don't know why but she taught me so much in the bedroom department, that a young lad needs to know. It certainly helped me in later relationships.

So +1 for the MILFS

MellowGa

Well Anahita, you are a very good looking woman, I can't blame the young guys for admiring you.

robin52077

So, where are all the twenty something hotties that like 35 year old women?
Because they certainly don't live around here....
I am a proud cougar, and will gladly take that attention!

SarahCW1979

Well Anahita, you are a very good looking woman, I can't blame the young guys for admiring you.

Agreed! (Had to do a bit of stalker-esque profile creeping) That black dress is to die for on you!!

AnahitaCanDoIt

Well Anahita, you are a very good looking woman, I can't blame the young guys for admiring you.

Thanks, MellowGA! that's lovely to hear...every nice comment is working to try to fight the years of negativity about myself in my own head!

Thanks, SarahCW...I always wear that style, it kinda suits my body shape. I actually got that dress in red, too! Thakns so much for the stalking, work away!

AnahitaCanDoIt

So, where are all the twenty something hotties that like 35 year old women?
Because they certainly don't live around here....
I am a proud cougar, and will gladly take that attention!

They seem to congregate in pubs in Ireland...in large groups. Come on over and see for yourself!

Jo5ie

I am 43 and have been single for many years and I have been hit on by about 5 young me average age 25. I'm like you, i don't understand the physical attraction and I am not even tempted (although I have friends who have). I have a rule that if I'm old enough to be their mother then its a no go!!

AnahitaCanDoIt

Jo5ie: I think the attraction to older women increased when porn became more focussed on MILFs... I can't say as I've not been with a young lad but judging by some of the chest/abs/bum/back shots on the profiles here...I could be missing something!

(Yes, I know it's not all about looks, but when you're pervving someone on a forum, what else can you go by except their profile picture!)

sho3girl

So, where are all the twenty something hotties that like 35 year old women?
Because they certainly don't live around here....
I am a proud cougar, and will gladly take that attention!

They seem to congregate in pubs in Ireland...in large groups. Come on over and see for yourself!

young AND irish - you gonna have to put on extra flights

AnahitaCanDoIt

Haha...you just gotta get here in December. Everyone here does booze-free November to prepare for the holiday season. Though they might be of more use to you sober than pissed!

robin52077

Damn...hot young Irish guys that like older women? I was born in the wrong country.
I'll take Irish, Scottish, English, Aussie...any one of those accents can get my attention in a hurry!

EverlastBoston

Older woman = Less games, better educated,,,,can actually have a conversation!! Believe it or not an educated woman is hot!!

EverlastBoston

See above to prove my point!!!

My lad mates live older women they think there filthy they Have been there done that and bought the t shirt and are more experienced hahah the same way girls like older men really x

AnahitaCanDoIt

I know plenty of stupid older women, too!

Sexy is as sexy does.

EverlastBoston

Sorry to hear that!! You don't have to be brilliant...just be able to carry a conversation!!!

Scott_Chaput

Part of it might be that you don't look anything close to 43. I would have guessed a decade or more younger.

AnahitaCanDoIt

Thanks, very good genetics, thankfully. Also, not smoking helps.

Still, I'm sure if I showed them my csection scar that would be proof I'm no spring chicken!

sho3girl

Haha...you just gotta get here in December. Everyone here does booze-free November to prepare for the holiday season. Though they might be of more use to you sober than pissed!

Cheers will keep that in mind !