what should i do if i had to guys ask me to marry them ?

Papalov100
Papalov100 Posts: 1,593 Member
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Ok i lived in oklahoma for 2 and a half years i was dating this one guy for a couple of months and then he asked me to marry him before i moved . Now i lived in gerogia this guy we are dating for a 1 yr and he asked me to marry him what should i do ?
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  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    If you don't want to marry them, say no thank you politely. Always the best option. :)
  • karenjoy
    karenjoy Posts: 1,840 Member
    well what did you say at the time? Just walk off and leave them hanging? Do you like them? Why are you asking?

    I am not sure what you want to know, what should you do about men asking you to marry them? Or what should you say? Or what?
  • Papalov100
    Papalov100 Posts: 1,593 Member
    I love them both
  • karenjoy
    karenjoy Posts: 1,840 Member
    oh dear, do you have someone that knows you well that you could talk to?
  • HiKaren
    HiKaren Posts: 1,306 Member
    Crap... Nevermind... I think you'll figure it out. I don't think your ready to get married, if the answer wasn't a Definate Yes, at the time of asking...
  • ToughTulip
    ToughTulip Posts: 1,118 Member
    I'm confused, are you dating two people?
  • SofaKingRad_
    SofaKingRad_ Posts: 276
    Do a threesome. Don't tell them the whole time you're doing it that it's really a competition between the two of them. The first one to make you "climax" wins. Then you look to the one who didn't make you climax and say, "It was a race, b*tch! YOU LOSE!" Then kick him out, continue on living happily ever after with the winner! The end.
  • HopefulLeigh
    HopefulLeigh Posts: 363 Member
    Ok i lived in oklahoma for 2 and a half years i was dating this one guy for a couple of months and then he asked me to marry him before i moved . Now i lived in gerogia this guy we are dating for a 1 yr and he asked me to marry him what should i do ?
    I love them both

    Did you tell the first guy that you started seriously dating the second one? Does the second one know you're engaged to the first one? Hell of a pickle you're in.
  • MyOwnSunshine
    MyOwnSunshine Posts: 1,312 Member
    If you don't love or respect either one of them enough to be exclusive with them, you shouldn't marry either of them.
  • Papalov100
    Papalov100 Posts: 1,593 Member
    They are both winners i just dont know where my heart goes too .
  • HopefulLeigh
    HopefulLeigh Posts: 363 Member
    They are both winners i just dont know where my heart goes too .

    Clearly neither.
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    I'm kinda confused...

    You dated a guy in OK and he asked you to marry him after a few months before you moved.

    You moved to GA (didn't marry OK guy) and dated this guy for one year and he's proposing to you.

    You don't know who to say yes to?

    I'm pretty sure the proposal from the OK guy has expired. Does this guy you've been dating for one year know you're still considering a 1+ year old proposal?
  • MyOwnSunshine
    MyOwnSunshine Posts: 1,312 Member
    I just read your profile. I think you should talk about this with a family member or friend that can give you support and advice.
  • farfoorah
    farfoorah Posts: 168
    nevermind...;(
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    I just read your profile. I think you should talk about this with a family member or friend that can give you support and advice.

    ^^
    I think the guy in ATL would be more reliable if you've been dating him a year.. but that's just me. I think you have an obvious choice in front of you, it's just hard to give one up.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    I just read your profile. I think you should talk about this with a family member or friend that can give you support and advice.

    This. Please.
  • HopefulLeigh
    HopefulLeigh Posts: 363 Member
    I just read your profile. I think you should talk about this with a family member or friend that can give you support and advice.

    Yeah. I have to agree with that one.
  • HiKaren
    HiKaren Posts: 1,306 Member
    I just read your profile. I think you should talk about this with a family member or friend that can give you support and advice.

    Yes honey.. I think this lady is right... You should ask maybe a family member, like your mom or something.. Do these guys get along with you and your family? Do they treat you right? If you have any doubt, don't get married, until you know for sure... If theres something shady, and you hear a little voice telling you, somethings not right, usually something is NOT right.. Make sure FIRST... And also.. make sure you meet a variety of people first. The one who doesn't "Sweetheart Swindle" for your $, and the one who has many girlfriends.. Get to know them first... See how they treat other people.. But do ask a family member that you trust. Sometimes it can take awhile for their true selves to come out. So DONT rush in to anything.. Know them first. Good luck honey..
  • missashley2390
    missashley2390 Posts: 185
    They are both winners i just dont know where my heart goes too .

    Clearly neither.

    I agree..They don;t deserve that.
  • lots2live4
    lots2live4 Posts: 107 Member
    I just read your profile. I think you should talk about this with a family member or friend that can give you support and advice.

    I agree with this too. Please talk to a family member or friend.
  • skinnynerd
    skinnynerd Posts: 110
    Please talk to a family member. Getting married is not in your best interests.
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    I just read your profile. I think you should talk about this with a family member or friend that can give you support and advice.

    Yeah. I have to agree with that one.

    Definitely talk with a family member or friend.

    (Edited to increase the advice to snark ratio.)
  • shiraLA
    shiraLA Posts: 272 Member
    They are both winners i just dont know where my heart goes too .

    One of my fav quotes-
    "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one, because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second."- Johnny Depp
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    I remember this OP has learning difficulties.

    Papalov, with all due respect this is something you should be discussing with close family - not us.
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    I just read your profile. I think you should talk about this with a family member or friend that can give you support and advice.

    This is good advice. I hope whatever you choose works out for you. You deserve the best. :flowerforyou:
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    Um...I wouldn't marry either of them. Have you discussed this with any of your family yet? If not, you should.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    deleted because I read the OPs profile and I am not a heartless monster.

    Today
  • glitterjam
    glitterjam Posts: 145 Member
    Pick the second one. If you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen in love with the second one.
  • Papalov100
    Papalov100 Posts: 1,593 Member
    Me and my family are not that close we get into a lot of fights and so thats why am asking yall . Friends i dont have alot of friends so yea thats why im asking on here
  • MichelleLaree13
    MichelleLaree13 Posts: 865 Member
    If you are unsure, say no to both.

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