what should i do if i had to guys ask me to marry them ?

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  • Papalov100
    Papalov100 Posts: 1,593 Member
    Because I'm ready o have my own family and a lot more .
  • TorontoDiane
    TorontoDiane Posts: 1,413 Member
    you really should know your own heart

    take time away from both of them.. because being in love with 2 men is not a healthy situation for all 3 of you

    maybe a little space will clear up your mind.. marriage is a very serious committment.. expensive to get out of, if you marry the wrong one..

    maybe the right one is not either of these men.. maybe think about that !!!!

    the right man for you wont be that difficult a decision once he comes along..

    good luck hun
  • Tangerine302
    Tangerine302 Posts: 1,509 Member
    Because I'm ready o have my own family and a lot more .

    You may be ready to have your own family, but if you don't know right away who it is, it sounds like you should wait a while.
    If you wait a little, in time you will either know right away, or decide that neither of the two are what you want. I think sometimes people rush into things to later regret their choice.
  • waronmyfat
    waronmyfat Posts: 322 Member
    so your basically cheating on the guy you was with in Oklahoma .... Real nice your building your relationship on lies and sorry but you need to step up to the plate and be honest with both of them...
  • Papalov100
    Papalov100 Posts: 1,593 Member
    Well the guy in Oklahoma we use to date but not anymore
  • plynn54
    plynn54 Posts: 912 Member
    if you started seeing another man after being proposed to hes obviously not the one
  • Chief_Rocka
    Chief_Rocka Posts: 4,710 Member
    break up with both of them
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    Okay, I'm only guessing at the timeline here, but if you moved out of state, without responding to a man's proposal of marriage, I would pretty much classify that as a rejection of the proposal, at least at that time. Also, if you've been dating someone else for a year, that's pretty much a rejection of the proposal unless you're specifically in a poly relationship. As for the new guy. Do whatever you want.
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
    First guy doesn't even count anymore. Real question now is, do you really wanna marry the second guy.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    just marry them both and have Brother Husbands and make a show about it.....
  • SPBROOKS68
    SPBROOKS68 Posts: 561 Member
    They are both winners i just dont know where my heart goes too .

    One of my fav quotes-
    "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one, because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second."- Johnny Depp

    This you can not love two men with the same intensity.
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    If you don't love or respect either one of them enough to be exclusive with them, you shouldn't marry either of them.

    Please don't confuse monogamy with respect or love. Some people do have relationships that involve loving, respectful, carefully negotiated non-monogamy. This doesn't sound like one of those situations though.
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    They are both winners i just dont know where my heart goes too .

    One of my fav quotes-
    "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one, because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second."- Johnny Depp

    This you can not love two men with the same intensity.

    Is love some sort of exclusive thing? Can I not love my husband AND my mother? Or my brother AND my mother? AND my best friend? That's ridiculous. You can love a lot of people. Making relationships work is another issue, but you can (and most people do) love multiple people.

    Edited for punctuation.
  • BurtHuttz
    BurtHuttz Posts: 3,653 Member
    Congratulations on your weight loss success and congratulations on the decision that you've made. I hope he takes good care of you, and you him, and I'm sure you'll raise a beautiful family.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    I just read your profile. I think you should talk about this with a family member or friend that can give you support and advice.

    I agree with this too. Please talk to a family member or friend.

    This.....
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    I just read your profile. I think you should talk about this with a family member or friend that can give you support and advice.

    I agree.
  • plynn54
    plynn54 Posts: 912 Member
    I just noticed you are only 24, id wait a few years before marrying anyone, even if its not either of the 2
  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    You should create a thread on MFP and marry which ever one we pick. :huh:
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    just break up
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    This is an old thread. The OP is a special needs adult without any family support.
  • lizziebeth1028
    lizziebeth1028 Posts: 3,602 Member
    I'm confused, are you dating two people?


    *removed post*
  • EmilyOfTheSun
    EmilyOfTheSun Posts: 1,548 Member
    Don't get married. Live with someone or at least be in a relationship for a LONG time before you get married.
  • IronPlayground
    IronPlayground Posts: 1,594 Member
    *removed post*
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    This is an old thread. The OP is a special needs adult without any family support.

    I wish more people had caught on to this before posting.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    I;d give it way more time, dear.
  • IronDame
    IronDame Posts: 275
    pick the one with the most money and do this...
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  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
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  • _Bob_
    _Bob_ Posts: 1,487 Member
    pick the one with the most money and do this...
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    other than Break up I like this answer best.

    on a serious note, I was dating 3 girls for a while and 2 of them started to stand out. the 3rd was just for fun. I ended up breaking one of their hearts and marrying the other. after a while all I wanted was to be with the one so it all worked out.
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
    This is an old thread. The OP is a special needs adult without any family support.

    I wish more people had caught on to this before posting.

    Yes but OP revived the thread today. So that kinda makes it new. The special needs and no family part should be taken into consideration before answering though.

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