I don't want to see you anymore...
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"Hey, it's not going to work out between us, Please don't contact me anymore"
Polite, but blunt.0 -
I didnt always say anything. I just never answered the phone and waited for them to stop calling.
Yea I know its not right, but I just didnt wanna bother having "the talk"
DON'T DO THIS. This is a coward way out and can do more harm then good since you are going to leave that person with many questions in their own mind. He'll wonder what he did or didn't do and can cause self esteem issues. Be upfront to him and let him know that you two just aren't compatible instead of leaving him wondering if he wasn't the sweet guy you say he is. Its going to be hard but its the mature respectful way to handle it.0 -
Tell him that you were drunk, had sex with you girlfriend and now you think you are gay.
I could see this backfiring.
like how?0 -
I would be completely honest- go so far as to tell him why (the pushover part). I mean, it could be just his nerves around you- and he isn't being his normal manself- but in either way regardless, the only thing he'll ever end up with being a pushover is a c**t tat will enjoy keeping him on a leash- so unless you want that for him- I'd be a true friend and tune him into it- as harsh as it will be- he'll thank you in the long run, likely never forget you, but it'll be over and he'll know why. Especially after seeing you 'man up' to the situation.0
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I didnt always say anything. I just never answered the phone and waited for them to stop calling.
Yea I know its not right, but I just didnt wanna bother having "the talk"
Why would someone using this site for change and embracing reality hide behind fear and social feelings just to make a guy guess and eventually hurt. Act like a big girl and tell him. Honesty is so much better than fear and unknowing.0 -
I normally tell them, i want to be friends. Then they turn crazy bat psycho and showing up in the middle of the night ringing my doorbell and constantly texting me to hang out. Then i realized the best way for me now is to start a fight and end it bad or end it like im the bad person.
Why are women nuts?
Cause you are so awesome, man0 -
I normally tell them, i want to be friends. Then they turn crazy bat psycho and showing up in the middle of the night ringing my doorbell and constantly texting me to hang out. Then i realized the best way for me now is to start a fight and end it bad or end it like im the bad person.
Why are women nuts?
My buddy does this. When he wants to break up, he starts a huge fight, and says things that can't be taken back later, and just has a blow out. He says, that's the only way. Fortunately, I've never had to go to that extreme. I just break up.0 -
I didnt always say anything. I just never answered the phone and waited for them to stop calling.
Yea I know its not right, but I just didnt wanna bother having "the talk"
Why would someone using this site for change and embracing reality hide behind fear and social feelings just to make a guy guess and eventually hurt. Act like a big girl and tell him. Honesty is so much better than fear and unknowing.
Better for who?0 -
Tell him that you were drunk, had sex with you girlfriend and now you think you are gay.
I could see this backfiring.
like how?
"Can I watch?"
"I'm open to a group relationship."
"It's okay, I'm curious too."0 -
Then he will want to watch.Tell him that you were drunk, had sex with you girlfriend and now you think you are gay.0 -
Heh.
& women complain about the games that us guys play?0 -
Don't call him. If he calls you, just tell him the truth... you're looking for something different. Wish him well, then adios.0
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There is no other guy...I just don't want to waste anymore of his or my time. It is not fair to him or me. He deserves to find the right woman for him...he seems to hink it is me...(he said so...quite a few times)...
I think you're over-thinking this. You're right, he deserves the truth. He might be a great guy for someone else, but just not you. It sounds like you know everything that you want to say! Now put it into a text message and hit send! (just kidding)0 -
Hmmm...if you arent feeling it just tell him straight up...not aure how many dates or how close y'all are but hes gotta know whats up...he may feel like its headed nowhere as well but being nice to you..hard to say without his opinion..best bet..end it honorably0
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I normally tell them, i want to be friends. Then they turn crazy bat psycho and showing up in the middle of the night ringing my doorbell and constantly texting me to hang out. Then i realized the best way for me now is to start a fight and end it bad or end it like im the bad person.
Why are women nuts?
uh, where are you finding these "women"? Maybe stop going there....
NYC, where i meet all of them. They are all crazy.. My favorite was my recent one, my father was diagnosed with cancer and i went on a date twice with this woman, she was cool. I told her i was going out to southampton where my parents live and she started fighting with me saying some crazy stuff about my parents. thinking i was going to see another woman. Sunday came along i got home around 3pm and she was sitting at my front door tapping her foot. I walked past her like she was a tree, walked into my house, sat down and started watching the movie the money pit, it was on cinemax, i was laughing at the part when the bath tub fell through the floor, while im laughing my *kitten* off, she kept rining my bell, i disconnected my bell which is right when you walk in, i just pulled the wire. Then she called me and texted me and finally left. The texts were all mean calling me a ahole and so on. Then 2 days later, she said she missed me and wants to get back together when we literally went on 2 dinner dates.
I have so many other crazy stories.. especially first date ones. Why cant i just meet "the one" get married have 2 to 3 kids and have a movie ending.0 -
I do not agree with the "Just don't answer his calls/texts" advice. If you're old enough to date, you're old enough to tell someone you're not interested in dating them. It's not easy, but it happens all the time and everyone survives it.0
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Just be honest and tell him how you feel...He may be feeling the same way, but has not gotten the nerve to tell you :huh:0
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It's like a bandaid. You can either rip it off in one fast motion and be done with it, or you can do it slow with agony every moment.
Just tell him like it is. Treat him like a man and walk away. We males can be more resilient than you might think. If it's only been a 3 date thing, he shouldn't be too invested anyway.0 -
I didnt always say anything. I just never answered the phone and waited for them to stop calling.
Yea I know its not right, but I just didnt wanna bother having "the talk"
DON'T DO THIS. This is a coward way out and can do more harm then good since you are going to leave that person with many questions in their own mind. He'll wonder what he did or didn't do and can cause self esteem issues. Be upfront to him and let him know that you two just aren't compatible instead of leaving him wondering if he wasn't the sweet guy you say he is. Its going to be hard but its the mature respectful way to handle it.
the ONLY reason I say stop answering is because its not serious, they have no titles or committments to each other and she planned the 1st 3 dates they went on... otherwise, be up front and honest, then stop answering if he doesn't get it after the talk.0 -
Just be honest. I try to treat people the way I want to be treated and I 'm sure you do too. When he calls, just tell him you have other plans, which you will. If he gets insistent on setting something up for later, just let him know that you'd really rather just be friends. If that is ok with him, great! We can't have too many friends. If he says no, then that's his choice.0
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I normally tell them, i want to be friends. Then they turn crazy bat psycho and showing up in the middle of the night ringing my doorbell and constantly texting me to hang out. Then i realized the best way for me now is to start a fight and end it bad or end it like im the bad person.
Why are women nuts?
uh, where are you finding these "women"? Maybe stop going there....
NYC, where i meet all of them. They are all crazy.. My favorite was my recent one, my father was diagnosed with cancer and i went on a date twice with this woman, she was cool. I told her i was going out to southampton where my parents live and she started fighting with me saying some crazy stuff about my parents. thinking i was going to see another woman. Sunday came along i got home around 3pm and she was sitting at my front door tapping her foot. I walked past her like she was a tree, walked into my house, sat down and started watching the movie the money pit, it was on cinemax, i was laughing at the part when the bath tub fell through the floor, while im laughing my *kitten* off, she kept rining my bell, i disconnected my bell which is right when you walk in, i just pulled the wire. Then she called me and texted me and finally left. The texts were all mean calling me a ahole and so on. Then 2 days later, she said she missed me and wants to get back together when we literally went on 2 dinner dates.
I have so many other crazy stories.. especially first date ones. Why cant i just meet "the one" get married have 2 to 3 kids and have a movie ending.
I'm sorry. I laughed. Seriously, someone did that? For real? You're kidding, right?0 -
NYC, where i meet all of them. They are all crazy.. My favorite was my recent one, my father was diagnosed with cancer and i went on a date twice with this woman, she was cool. I told her i was going out to southampton where my parents live and she started fighting with me saying some crazy stuff about my parents. thinking i was going to see another woman. Sunday came along i got home around 3pm and she was sitting at my front door tapping her foot. I walked past her like she was a tree, walked into my house, sat down and started watching the movie the money pit, it was on cinemax, i was laughing at the part when the bath tub fell through the floor, while im laughing my *kitten* off, she kept rining my bell, i disconnected my bell which is right when you walk in, i just pulled the wire. Then she called me and texted me and finally left. The texts were all mean calling me a ahole and so on. Then 2 days later, she said she missed me and wants to get back together when we literally went on 2 dinner dates.
I have so many other crazy stories.. especially first date ones. Why cant i just meet "the one" get married have 2 to 3 kids and have a movie ending.
You want to meet "the one," get married and have a few kids? Move to Utah...you're every young woman's dream out here!0 -
How do you tell someone that you have been seeing that you don't want to see them anymore? I have gone out a few times with a new guy.
I LOVE to go out with my friends and/or my sister to go eat, go dancing, bowling movies or whatever...2x a week or so...he barely wants to go out and do ANYTHING. It was like pulling teeth getting him to plan a date for us. I planned the first 3....
He is a little bit of a pushover....okay a BIG pushover. I do not want a guy that I can walk all over. I need someone who will push back a little, let me know what he wants, and we make a compromise.
He is sweet, overall, has a good heart, but it won't work with us as a couple.....
I hate that no matter what I say, it will hurt him..but is there any way to help ease the pain a little...?? I know he likes and cares for me a lot...he has told me so.
when you figure this out....let me know...
i have a hanger on that didn't understand my "I'm not interested in seeing you anymore" speech.
Try 10% oleoresin capsicum. Works every time.0 -
You're awesome, but I don't feel anything when I'm with you. You deserve sparks.
Then say "Playaz gotta play, all day erry day" and pop your collar.
Bahahahaha awesome.....
OP, I can't stand pushover guys either.
He's gotta be able to take charge, plan stuff, etc...
I have dated guys like that before. And while it's easier to just not return calls, it's kinder to actually confront the situation and let him know whats going on.
A simple text or phone call will suffice. Just say, "I have really enjoyed your company, you are a nice sweet guy, but you aren't the guy for me. If you want to remain friends, I'm fine with that. Otherwise, I wish you well in life, take care."
I have used that before and have gotten positive responses from that. I actually got a really great close guy friend from that. We went out for like 2-3 weeks, but I wasn't into it and I told him. We became really great friends.
It's hard, because you don't want to hurt the other person. Especially if you know that person to be kind, sweet, etc... But bottom line, it's kinder to let him down gently but straightforward, then to beat around the bush or just disappear.
Plus it makes for less awkward situations if you just so happen to run into him when you are out somewhere.
Good luck!0 -
Probably not the best person to chime in .. it took me 7 years to GET a damn date and that was this passed weekend and it didn't end well.
but anyway.
Just be honest. I hate over thinking things, it's just as bad as playing games. Tell him you think he's a great guy just not for you.
Or maybe great is too important of a word, say nice.
But end it for real so he doesn't linger0 -
Yaaaaaaaaay!!! \m/Just break up0 -
Oh GOd I hate having "the Talk" - last one ended with a beating on my hotel door at 2am 3 states from his and mine hometown (when I was doing state to state travel work) I ignored went back to sleep woke up got ready for work was leaving thinking he finally left and to my surprise got pushed back in the room by my throat, then threatened "if I can't have you no one can" bs. i dialed 911 while he had me against the wall cursing and threatening me. the cops and his jail sentence made it easier from that point on.....
good luck!0 -
Post-it. "It's not you, it's me".0
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These specific words are the best way I have ever found: "I have enjoyed getting to know you, I just don't see this progressing romantically, for me, at this time." Just say it firmly, as many times as needed. It hits all your bases, and there isn't much that can be said to question it.0
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Oh GOd I hate having "the Talk" - last one ended with a beating on my hotel door at 2am 3 states from his and mine hometown (when I was doing state to state travel work) I ignored went back to sleep woke up got ready for work was leaving thinking he finally left and to my surprise got pushed back in the room by my throat, then threatened "if I can't have you no one can" bs. i dialed 911 while he had me against the wall cursing and threatening me. the cops and his jail sentence made it easier from that point on.....
good luck!
well, that sounds like a fun work day..... seriously, I hope you never heard from that creeper again.0
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