girls dont like skinny guys

jsdouglas26
jsdouglas26 Posts: 30
in Health and Weight Loss
Hi I'm new here today. My goal is to add muscle to my frame. Currently I'm at 130 lbs Hoping to get to around 150 or so. I don't look that thin in my profile pic, think I may have zoomed in too much, but anyway I have trouble getting dates because most girls say I'm way to skinny that I need some muscle so that's why I'm here. I joined a gym last week , would it be more beneficial to get a personal trainer. Do most girls go for bigger guys?
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  • jsdouglas26
    jsdouglas26 Posts: 30
    Is there any way to edit the topic
  • Lake_Po
    Lake_Po Posts: 228 Member
    I think a trainer would be beneficial if you don't know what you're doing yourself. :-)
  • sandervan85
    sandervan85 Posts: 9
    Join a gym do resistance training (lifting weights) find out your base metabolic rate (BMR) and eat around 200 calories over your BMR.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    No. I'd suggest either go with it or make a new one

    Edited to specify I was talking about the topic title
  • bdamaster60
    bdamaster60 Posts: 595 Member
    funny because some girls I talk to (and every girl/woman has her preference), tell me im getting to muscular and need to stop lifting weights. I say *kitten* YOU!! I don't lift weights for you. Funny enough the girls that say these are the ones with smaller frames and are psychologically immature. Our ancestors fought for dominance in tribes so they would get first pick of the women. It is instinct for women to prefer strong and fit men. Although Justin Bieber f*cked it up for a lot of guys.
  • bdamaster60
    bdamaster60 Posts: 595 Member
    Join a gym do resistance training (lifting weights) find out your base metabolic rate (BMR) and eat around 200 calories over your BMR.

    Basal* Metabolic Rate
  • laurynwithawhy
    laurynwithawhy Posts: 385 Member
    funny because some girls I talk to (and every girl/woman has her preference), tell me im getting to muscular and need to stop lifting weights. I say *kitten* YOU!! I don't lift weights for you. Funny enough the girls that say these are the ones with smaller frames and are psychologically immature. Our ancestors fought for dominance in tribes so they would get first pick of the women. It is instinct for women to prefer strong and fit men. Although Justin Bieber f*cked it up for a lot of guys.

    True that. All my skinny friends or even the overweight ones with NO muscle like skinny guys. Me and my friend who are a bit bigger and lift weights LOVE muscular guys. I want a man that can pick me up and run with me if the situation ever arose!
  • gluestic14
    gluestic14 Posts: 18 Member
    I don't think it's all true that girls don't go for skinny guys. I've always had a preference for skinny men. My guy now is very very skinny and I like it! :-)
  • Strength2Succeed
    Strength2Succeed Posts: 126 Member
    I am not a fan of men who are extremely skinny but I am attracted to both lean and muscular guys.
  • jsdouglas26
    jsdouglas26 Posts: 30
    Must be different around where I'm from because just about all girls I know have told me or my friend that they
    Wouldn't date me because I'm too skinny. Maybe in the wrong part of the country
  • Weebs628
    Weebs628 Posts: 574 Member
    It's all personal preference. My husband is skinny and I find that I'm attracted most to skinny guys. I just wish my waist was smaller than his! I'm working on that though...
  • red_road
    red_road Posts: 761 Member
    i like skinny guys...and fit guys...and chubby guys....i guess i just like guys lol.:blushing:
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    I would say first off that the RIGHT gal will like you for who you are; that being said, I think that there is great benefit to gaining some muscle. It makes doing many things a lot easier. I highly recommend it -- just do it for the right reason -- for you.

    That being said, a GOOD personal trainer is always best. He will be able to show you the proper technique and guide you so that you take a more efficient path to where you want to go. As far as women enjoying a muscular man? It is dependent upon the woman ... As for my wife, she enjoys when I work out ... I just lost about 115 lbs and she has enjoyed the change.. that is her. another woman may think differently. That don't matter because I am not in the market to change up... I am far from muscular though.

    Best wishes on achieving your goals.
  • sandervan85
    sandervan85 Posts: 9
    Join a gym do resistance training (lifting weights) find out your base metabolic rate (BMR) and eat around 200 calories over your BMR.

    Basal* Metabolic Rate
    My bad typing on iPhone autocorrect.
  • gingerveg
    gingerveg Posts: 748 Member
    funny because some girls I talk to (and every girl/woman has her preference), tell me im getting to muscular and need to stop lifting weights. I say *kitten* YOU!! I don't lift weights for you. Funny enough the girls that say these are the ones with smaller frames and are psychologically immature. Our ancestors fought for dominance in tribes so they would get first pick of the women. It is instinct for women to prefer strong and fit men. Although Justin Bieber f*cked it up for a lot of guys.
    You did not just say that.....
  • Sincere24
    Sincere24 Posts: 126 Member
    funny because some girls I talk to (and every girl/woman has her preference), tell me im getting to muscular and need to stop lifting weights. I say *kitten* YOU!! I don't lift weights for you. Funny enough the girls that say these are the ones with smaller frames and are psychologically immature. Our ancestors fought for dominance in tribes so they would get first pick of the women. It is instinct for women to prefer strong and fit men. Although Justin Bieber f*cked it up for a lot of guys.

    Damn your beiber! Haha, i think you need to realize that any goal that you set out to make should be for yourself, other it can be a bit hard to sustain, IMHO. But i agree resistance training with a structured program and eating about 15% above your TDEE will help you out with your goal.

    Cheers!
  • capriciousmoon
    capriciousmoon Posts: 1,263 Member
    It's mostly personal preference and that can usually (for me anyway) be won over by personality.

    I always liked skinny guys, but now I feel as if I'd need to be smaller than the guy I date. I don't know if that's really expected or not, but it's what I've been lead to believe. :ohwell:
  • bdamaster60
    bdamaster60 Posts: 595 Member
    funny because some girls I talk to (and every girl/woman has her preference), tell me im getting to muscular and need to stop lifting weights. I say *kitten* YOU!! I don't lift weights for you. Funny enough the girls that say these are the ones with smaller frames and are psychologically immature. Our ancestors fought for dominance in tribes so they would get first pick of the women. It is instinct for women to prefer strong and fit men. Although Justin Bieber f*cked it up for a lot of guys.
    You did not just say that.....

    I take it your a bieber fan? No hate on the little boy, just stating some interesting facts.
  • FloyMcCaudie
    FloyMcCaudie Posts: 1,132
    hahaha TROLL!!
  • jsdouglas26
    jsdouglas26 Posts: 30
    It's mostly personal preference and that can usually (for me anyway) be won over by personality.

    I always liked skinny guys, but now I feel as if I'd need to be smaller than the guy I date. I don't know if that's really expected or not, but it's what I've been lead to believe. :ohwell:
    that is what I hear the most is that the girl doesn't want to weigh less the guy.
  • emilynw10
    emilynw10 Posts: 60
    Yeah, my husband is pretty skinny (not ridiculously so, but he doesn't have much muscle). I obviously DO prefer muscle, but I'm super attracted to my husband too. As long as a guy is bigger than me and can lift a reasonable amount of weight (like move furniture and whatnot), it doesn't matter too much.
  • psuLemon
    psuLemon Posts: 38,426 MFP Moderator
    Join a gym do resistance training (lifting weights) find out your base metabolic rate (BMR) and eat around 200 calories over your BMR.

    Basal* Metabolic Rate
    My bad typing on iPhone autocorrect.

    Either way, this won't allow you to bulk. You need to eat over your TDEE or total daily energy expended. TDEE is the calories you burn from your BMR , daily routine and exercise. So my BMR is about 2080, i have a desk job (sedentary) and average 500 calories for a workout. I have done a slow bulk in the past so I eat 250 calories greater that my TDEE. So my caloric needs would be:

    =2080*1.2+500+250 = 3246

    Then you want to make sure you get 1-1.5g of protein per lb of lean body mass, .35 g of fat per lb of lean body mass and the rest can be carbs.

    If you don't know a workout routine, strong lift 5x5 is a good program to start with.

    OP- do you know your body fat and what is your height? I am thinking you will need 2700+ calories.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    i like skinny guys...and fit guys...and chubby guys....i guess i just like guys lol.:blushing:

    Ditto-- I've dated really skinny guys, lean and muscular guys, and bigger guys. My husband was overweight when we started dating. I don't know if I just don't have a "type" or what, but I've had chemistry with guys of all different body types.
  • jsdouglas26
    jsdouglas26 Posts: 30
    I actually had a girl ask me out a few months ago which doesn't happen with me but , after our date, which I thought went well she wouldn't go out again because she said she prefers a larger guy that she didn't feel comfortable being bigger than me. Why did she ask me out then? Lol
  • ashleyrose90
    ashleyrose90 Posts: 71 Member
    I don't think it's all true that girls don't go for skinny guys. I've always had a preference for skinny men. My guy now is very very skinny and I like it! :-)

    Agreed ;)
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,148 Member
    i like skinny guys...and fit guys...and chubby guys....i guess i just like guys lol.:blushing:

    Same here. Skinny guys usually don't like me.
  • nickyfm
    nickyfm Posts: 1,214 Member
    I don't mind skinny as long as they're tall =]

    Also if they don't mind booty, coz i got plenty LOL

    But if you wanna build some muscle, you're gonna need to eat and lift heavy, son!!
  • jsdouglas26
    jsdouglas26 Posts: 30
    I don't mind skinny as long as they're tall =]

    Also if they don't mind booty, coz i got plenty LOL

    But if you wanna build some muscle, you're gonna need to eat and lift heavy, son!!
    lol
  • BackTatJIM
    BackTatJIM Posts: 1,140 Member
    Join a gym do resistance training (lifting weights) find out your base metabolic rate (BMR) and eat around 200 calories over your BMR.

    Your BMR is what you burn doing nothing in 24 hours.If you work, move, and do anything besides lay in bed all day you need to find your your Total Daily Energy Expenditure (TDEE) and eat more calories then you burn in the entire day. I would agree with 200-300 a day over what you burn but you could also eat 500 more a day if you really wanted to. 200 calories over your Tdee would be more of a lean bulk takes longer but less fat gains, if you go crazy with the calories and bulk up fast expect some fat gain along with the muscle. As long as you get extra calories and lift weights you will grow. I would also recommend 1g of protein per lb of lean body mass and .33 grams of fat per lean body mass.( healthy fats would be best)

    ** you can Google tdee calculators online to get a a estimate, say you need to eat 2700 calories a day to gain a half pound a week, I would try it and see if you gain after 2-3 weeks, if not then add more calories and try again, eventually you will know how much your body burns in a day and how much food you should be eating.
  • spramn
    spramn Posts: 67 Member
    Hi I'm new here today. My goal is to add muscle to my frame. Currently I'm at 130 lbs Hoping to get to around 150 or so. I don't look that thin in my profile pic, think I may have zoomed in too much, but anyway I have trouble getting dates because most girls say I'm way to skinny that I need some muscle so that's why I'm here. I joined a gym last week , would it be more beneficial to get a personal trainer. Do most girls go for bigger guys?

    From my male perspective and experience there is no one body type that every woman will like. Women have such a great depth of character built into their nature, consciously or not, in my experience are attracted to all different body types. Some women love skinny guys, some love muscles, some love something a bit more cuddly.

    I’ve dated a woman that said the veins in my arms were disgusting, and i've had the total opposite.

    But hey, I’ve been on this earth for 29 years, women – still can confuse the hell out of me =) Do what you want for your reasons, the rest will come. If your happy, and confident with yourself, you will get the women of your dreams. All the best in your search and the gym, if you want any mass building help feel free to add me =)

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