girls dont like skinny guys

chrissyhy

I am attracted to humorous men, intelligent men, men with DIY skills, and I can find something physically attractive about just about every man. Until my husband, I had never dated anyone obese. We've been married three years now and I've never been happier. I wish he would make healthier choices and join me on my journey to healthier living, but I've learned I can't be the one to make him do it.

Anyhoo, I digress. If gaining some muscle mass will make YOU feel better - do it. When the right woman comes along, she will love you for what's inside (the outside should just be the icing on the already awesome cake).

WELL put. 100% Agreed!

RobynLB

That's a load of crap. I know lots of girls who prefer skinny guys. Just dye your hair black and get some tattoos, and you'll be good to go

seansquared

1) Eat more and make sure it's clean (lean meats, vegetables, fruits)
2) Lift heavy (check out Starting Strength and Stronglifts 5x5)

Also if you want to tuck a shirt in, try a suit. Women love men in a nice suit. A tucked-in polo is not a suit.

I just want to add, that my husband is 6'1" tall and about 180 lbs. He wears a 40L coat and 30-31 waist on his pants. He is quite slender and lean.

At 130 his cheeks would be sunken and he would look like a walking skeleton. I just don't think the photo attached to the OP's profile is accurate. Something just isn't right about this topic.

Yeap. I'm 6'1" and 180 with 17% bodyfat. At 130lbs I'd look like walking death.

brtrentgl

That's not true, I love skinny guys. I like being stronger.

mgloreth

I'm really skinny also but don't have that problem, girls don't seem to care that I'm skinny. Most of them say wow your really skinny gain some weight but that's all

misstoridanielle

Weight and build honestly don't matter to me. Though, I've always liked guys that were lean with a little muscle but not too much, I could totally go for just a skinny guy, chubby guy, ripped, whatever. I just like all types of men

Louisianababy93

I like muscles! They make me happy! Lol.

PikaKnight

I've been with a skinny guy but I do prefer men with muscles.

slkehl

My last boyfriend was totally skinny. No muscle definition whatsoever. But when there's chemistry, there's chemistry. And we sure had something.

Sublog

Hi I'm new here today. My goal is to add muscle to my frame. Currently I'm at 130 lbs Hoping to get to around 150 or so. I don't look that thin in my profile pic, think I may have zoomed in too much, but anyway I have trouble getting dates because most girls say I'm way to skinny that I need some muscle so that's why I'm here. I joined a gym last week , would it be more beneficial to get a personal trainer. Do most girls go for bigger guys?

Girls like facial aesthetics. Skinny doesn't really matter.

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Twilight

KS_4691

I have a rule: Any guy I date must be stronger than me (signficantly). My max deadlift is 245# & I squat 195#, so this rule actually eliminates a surprising number of men. However, my roommate is absolutely beautiful and she is dating a skinny engineer. Sometimes it just comes down to finding a man who makes you smile.

Cyndi1

Although Justin Bieber f*cked it up for a lot of guys.


too funny......lol. As for skinny guys- its the not body that determines if I am interested, its what comes out of your mouth- can you carry a convo to hold my interest....

Bobby__Clerici

I think attraction goes back to the instincts we had back when humans were still swinging by their tails from some vine in the loathsome jungle.
BIG STRONG MAN - MONKEY GIRL LIKE....:glasses:
Just work to be your best and let the cards fall where they may.
Women like a strong physical presence, and that's part attitude, muscularity and personality.
Happy Hunting!

eylia

It isn't really something that can be that generalised like that; it depends on the girl, it depends on the guy. If you feel you'd be more comfortable in yourself to add some bulk; do it, perhaps its confidence you lack. 'All' men like curves? I have none, and it's never been a problem. If someone had a problem with it, it doesn't bother me, because if its going to be that shallow I'm probably not interested anyway.

hdlb

Some woman like skinny, some like strong, some like body-builder types, some some chubby, there really is someone for everyone out there.

What woman don't like is a man who doesn't have confidence in himself. You need to feel good about yourself, and be happy with who you are, and woman will see that, and thats attractive.

fightininggirl

I would like to be at 130 pounds. I have the opposite problem I don't get asked on dates due to being to chubby. I am one who goes by personality to me that carries more weight. I will be glad to support you in wanting to add more muscle wish you lots of luck

loneworg

i like skinny guys...and fit guys...and chubby guys....i guess i just like guys lol.:blushing:

Same here! :happy:

neverstray

I believe you when you say that they say that they won't date you because they think you are too skinny. But, I don't believe that's the real reason they won't date you.

Just a thought.

Yaya1976

I'm pretty sure it depends on the woman. For me. I'm more attracted to bigger men. My boyfriend is between 180 and 196 @ any given time. I would feel awful if he was smaller than me. But HEY that's just me. Different strokes for different folks :drinker:

_KATzMeow

for me its mostly about the personality

Jkmumma

I like muscular guys... I like being able to feel a guys strength when his arms are around me. I'm physically fairly strong, and i always feel like i'm going to break the skinny boys.

Barbellerella

I'm not gonna argue with what girls like, because we are all different and have different preferences.

I don't think you necessarily need a trainer, Stronglifts would be a great program for you to start with. just do as much research as you can so you can keep good form, thats number 1.
http://stronglifts.com

If you are trying to put on muscle, start with eating a hundred or so calories above your TDEE.
http://www.fat2fitradio.com/tools/bmr/

SideSteel

Hi I'm new here today. My goal is to add muscle to my frame. Currently I'm at 130 lbs Hoping to get to around 150 or so. I don't look that thin in my profile pic, think I may have zoomed in too much, but anyway I have trouble getting dates because most girls say I'm way to skinny that I need some muscle so that's why I'm here. I joined a gym last week , would it be more beneficial to get a personal trainer. Do most girls go for bigger guys?

Girls like facial aesthetics. Skinny doesn't really matter.

Dude, when you post crap like this you should really back it up with something scientific. I can make up stuff too and not support it and make people walk around all misinformed and think wrong things so I'd appreciate it if you'd just stop m....

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Twilight

Nvm you're right, my bad Sublog.

MochaMixAZ

Hi! Welcome to MFP and I wish you great success!!

I don't think we can generalize - if you look through other forum threads, you'll see - people like all kinds of people. :-)

My personal taste used to be husky, football-big guys... until I met my husband. He's super-tall and super-lean. It was a chemistry thing... I saw him and just knew he was for me.

I was worried I'd break him in half- HA! Luckily, that hasn't been a problem.

So, good luck to you and developing the body YOU'RE most comfortable with. The confidence that comes with that will take you far!

LetsMakeupXtina

i like lean guys, as well as muscular. My husband is more on the lean side. but good for you for wanting to improve yours physique

_Wits_

Pfft....this is all preference. As long as you are sweet, funny, and know how to woo me, I don't much care if you're super skinny. I will admit in the past I've felt a bit uncomfortable having bfs who were smaller than me but I got over it cuz I liked the dude.

That being said...find out all that scientificy stuff that others have posted about BMR and yada yada and get to the weights, my friend

yoovie

I do.

fakeplastictree

I actually tend to find skinny guys attractive. But I also like the muscular type (not too muscular) Like someone said, It may not be the fact that you are "too thin" that is the problem maybe it's just their excuse??? IDK. Try for a Personal Trainer and eat good food stuff. And find a girl who likes you for you.

Danny_Boy13

I would get a PT if you are not familiar with lifting. Other then that if you are familiar with the gym and weights you should be fine.

As far as adding weight for the ladies....just be sure you do it right and dont be too impatient. If you are thin metabolism has a lot to do with that so your bio clock will be your biggest fight.. At your age I too had a hell of a time gaining Lean Muscle Mass....tried everything short of juice but it slowly came. One thing that helped me pack on the lbs was lifting heavy... like 85% 1MR. Check out stronglifts.com or Google "Reg Parks 5x5". That along with eating good quality meals (high in protein, low in carbs, fats, sugars, ect), will be the best and surest way to get the results you are looking for.

Onesnap

UM. What?

I've been with a skinny guy for 18 years.