The Unattainable soul mate..................

Charlie003
Charlie003 Posts: 1,333 Member
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Do you have an unattainable soul mate? A person in your life who you connect to more than anyone else. A person who you try to find excuses to have physical proximity too. That takes your breath away just to see them smile. A path that can never be taken. A tragedy in the making.....
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  • stubbseyt
    stubbseyt Posts: 84 Member
    could not think of anything more frustrating and sad than that. Thankfully no.
  • barbaramitchell101
    barbaramitchell101 Posts: 360 Member
    OMG..that brings memories.....he is dead now...when he was alive, I could "FEEL" whenever something bad was happening to him..all the way from the other side of the country....it was an experience to say the least......
  • bethvandenberg
    bethvandenberg Posts: 1,496 Member
    that's the worst....
  • HelloSweetie4
    HelloSweetie4 Posts: 1,214 Member
    nope, I married him :bigsmile:
  • DebraYvonne
    DebraYvonne Posts: 632 Member
    no -- a kind happy employed companion that laughs at my jokes, likes my kids & dogs & makes me laugh would be good enough for me.:flowerforyou:
  • WeatherGirl8
    WeatherGirl8 Posts: 91 Member
    Yes. Yes and it sucks. >.< I just kind of hope that I find someone like him.... not like, you know, but as amazing as? In their own way? I knew from the moment we became good friends that it would turn into this, and I just decided to enjoy the friendship and take it as a cue that people like him *do* exist in the world. :P
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    I'm very sad for you. I've had those feelings before. :cry:
  • GeekGirl23
    GeekGirl23 Posts: 517 Member
    Yes, and he's still a really really good friend. He's just in the past year (known him for 15 yrs) told me he's felt I was the one that got away.... But we are both married so we know it won't ever be more unless we are both single again someday... we joke about being love birds in the old folks home
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    If your soul mate doesn't want to be with you they aren't your soul mate. So you move on and find the one who you do belong with.
  • AngryDiet
    AngryDiet Posts: 1,349 Member
    If you set the bar high enough then you'll ensure they're unattainable.
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    Unsure if I even believe such a thing exists anymore.

    Bah humbug?
  • Charlie003
    Charlie003 Posts: 1,333 Member
    Yes, and he's still a really really good friend. He's just in the past year (known him for 15 yrs) told me he's felt I was the one that got away.... But we are both married so we know it won't ever be more unless we are both single again someday... we joke about being love birds in the old folks home

    I am here. Although neither of us will even acknowledge it. But it is communicated in the little things. The extra long hugs, etc. I wish I could hide the sadness behind my smile though.
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Yep I see them everytime I look in the mirror...
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    If your soul mate doesn't want to be with you they aren't your soul mate. So you move on and find the one who you do belong with.
    QFT \m/
  • MemphisKitten
    MemphisKitten Posts: 878 Member
    Yes. Mine doesn't want to be with me because I have some issues. It's a long story, but it doesn't make the fact that I finally found the one I want to be with forever and it didn't work out any easier. :cry: I guess I always thought when you found that "one person" that nothing could tear you apart. NOT TRUE!!
  • ZombieChaser
    ZombieChaser Posts: 1,555 Member
    If your soul mate doesn't want to be with you they aren't your soul mate. So you move on and find the one who you do belong with.

    This!
  • Carolyn_79
    Carolyn_79 Posts: 935 Member
    I felt that way once. It just wasn't meant to be then. It was meant to be 3 years later and were now married.
  • Charlie003
    Charlie003 Posts: 1,333 Member
    The situations I am referring to, and I apologise for not being more clear, are the ones where both parties feel it, but, due to life circumstances, it is impossible to act on.
  • SPBROOKS68
    SPBROOKS68 Posts: 561 Member
    If your soul mate doesn't want to be with you they aren't your soul mate. So you move on and find the one who you do belong with.

    ^^ So true..you can not make someone love you!
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
    Some people listen to too many love songs.
  • bethvandenberg
    bethvandenberg Posts: 1,496 Member
    It's the worst....
  • LittleMiss_WillLoseIt
    LittleMiss_WillLoseIt Posts: 1,373 Member
    If your soul mate doesn't want to be with you they aren't your soul mate. So you move on and find the one who you do belong with.

    Couldn't have put it better than this. :)
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    Some people listen to too many love songs.

    ^^^^^^^
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    Do you have an unattainable soul mate? A person in your life who you connect to more than anyone else. A person who you try to find excuses to have physical proximity too. That takes your breath away just to see them smile. A path that can never be taken. A tragedy in the making.....


    Wouldn't that make you delusional and not dealing with reality?
    Bless your heart.:flowerforyou:
  • Charlie003
    Charlie003 Posts: 1,333 Member
    Do you have an unattainable soul mate? A person in your life who you connect to more than anyone else. A person who you try to find excuses to have physical proximity too. That takes your breath away just to see them smile. A path that can never be taken. A tragedy in the making.....


    Wouldn't that make you delusional and not dealing with reality?
    Bless your heart.:flowerforyou:

    Delusional in what way? It is delusional to think you can make something happen, realistic when you know it can't.
  • BruteSquad
    BruteSquad Posts: 373 Member
    My life is WAY too short to worry about the ones I missed. I am not the same person I was 20 years ago and the right woman then would not be the right woman now.

    I don't believe there is only one person for each of us, if I did I would be horribly depressed. What if that one got hit by a bus or died of cancer before I met her?

    I do believe we connect better with some more than others. And even to a point where, at the right time, we might believe they are the only one for us. (Thus people still get married with over a 50% divorce rate) I believe we have been brain washed by Disney with Cinderella and such stories. But no one ever sees how Cinderella is doing after having three kids and the Prince is always out hunting with his buddies....and why is the bar maid stopping by after dark to "bring him is coat he left at the Pub?"

    There ARE people we can grow old with and are a good match. But I do not believe there is only one. And I believe it is a lot of work to maintain a relationship for more than 5 years. You will have to be open to growing as a person. (again the divorce rate proves most are not)

    Just let go of all that crap and be happy. When you are happy you are more likely to find that good match and less likely to miss them because you were fixated on that "One"
  • Blastastic
    Blastastic Posts: 280 Member
    Do you have an unattainable soul mate? A person in your life who you connect to more than anyone else. A person who you try to find excuses to have physical proximity too. That takes your breath away just to see them smile. A path that can never be taken. A tragedy in the making.....


    Wouldn't that make you delusional and not dealing with reality?
    Bless your heart.:flowerforyou:

    Delusional in what way? It is delusional to think you can make something happen, realistic when you know it can't.

    Stop making excuses! I firmly believed when I was 14 that Kathy Ireland was my soulmate but then the sanity kicked in and I realized that it wasn't goona happen, so I stopped following her around and looking through her windows. The restraining order helped out too!
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    If your soul mate doesn't want to be with you they aren't your soul mate. So you move on and find the one who you do belong with.

    "I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them. I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back. And it’s not the end of the world."

    Yep, I have. It sucks but you learn to move on.
  • Charlie003
    Charlie003 Posts: 1,333 Member
    My life is WAY too short to worry about the ones I missed. I am not the same person I was 20 years ago and the right woman then would not be the right woman now.

    I don't believe there is only one person for each of us, if I did I would be horribly depressed. What if that one got hit by a bus or died of cancer before I met her?

    I do believe we connect better with some more than others. And even to a point where, at the right time, we might believe they are the only one for us. (Thus people still get married with over a 50% divorce rate)

    There ARE people we can grow old with and are a good match. But I do not believe there is only one.

    Ahh. I agree. Every person has many opportunities. But when one such person is in your life, but for whatever reasons, you need to keep at arms length, this is what I am discussing.
  • sunnyside1213
    sunnyside1213 Posts: 1,205 Member
    The situations I am referring to, and I apologise for not being more clear, are the ones where both parties feel it, but, due to life circumstances, it is impossible to act on.

    This.

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