What is the worst comment you ever got about your weight?
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One comes to mind and it was after I lost weight actually. I was discussing my weight loss with the owner of one of the gyms I go to and showed him a picture of my before and he made the most awful face and said "Ewwww...what is that" he had not idea that I was showing him what I looked like. To this day that breaks my heart and brings tears to my eyes because I was still the same kind, loving person I am now, that did not change. But all he saw was a nasty, gross, ugly fat woman.0
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A guy once told me, as we were getting to know each other and things were getting flirty, that he wasn't sure if he could be attracted to me because I was so big. I'm 5'7 and weighed 155 at the time.0
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after years of battling a serious illness i finally had enough energy to attend a family gathering. a childhood friend of my brother's was there and when i walked into the room he shouted out across the room to me, "i remember when you were hot! girl! you really have let yourself go! i can't believe the weight you have gained!" i was shocked and mortified and everyone became quiet. he knew i had been sick! so i smiled real big at him, and said, "hey bill! nice to see that you're still an *kitten*! i can lose my weight but unfortunately you will always be an *kitten*! give my condolences to your beautiful wife!" (she was sitting right next to him and this was the first time we were all meeting her) everyone started laughing and saying it's true....she married a jerk and we went on to enjoy our day but it did sting and i never forgot it. as for bill, his new bride left him after 6 months...he's still an *kitten*! as for me...i'm getting well and slowly and steadily taking off the weight!0
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"No one will ever be attracted to you because you're fat. If any man says that you're pretty, he's lying to you" - A guy I used to date.0
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Being an African-American female, and an African-American male replied to my "going to the gym" comment with, "Why are you trying to be skinny? What are you trying to be white?" Obnoxiously ignorant. That was like 4 years ago and I'm still like WTF :grumble:
I haaaaaaate that our people can think being fit is "a white thing." I had little support from my AA friends on my journey and would just work really hard on hiding it or bringing it up.0 -
My ex told me on our anniversary in the parking lot to the restaurant we were going to have lunch at to celebrate:
"I'm just not interested in sex with you anymore. It's like having sex with a fat pig. You are too fat for me and it disgusts me."
I stayed in the car and cried before I joined him. I dumped him after 8 years of dating when he told me that I had to pick between him and my 11 year old daughter. I told him not to let the door hit him on the way out. I should have done it sooner.0 -
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1 - when someone asked me if I was pregnant. I was not.
2 - (best one) "wow - it looks like you've been eating well!" ... thanks dad.0 -
About a month ago I my grandparents had invited us out to dinner at McDonald's (they eat there almost nightly). During dinner they were grilling my on my experiences with the Army in Alaska. When I told them that the only part that really sucked was having to run 4-6 miles outside 4 times a week until it was colder than -25 my Grandfather looked at me and said " If you worked out so much up there how'd you get so fat?"0
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Ive never gotten too many comments but I did once get the "you'd be really pretty if you weren't so big."0
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I don't think there's a way to pick just one.0
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Actually none. When I was overweight, no one said anything to me about it. I knew I was bigger, but I didn't really realize how much bigger I actually was until I unintentionally started shedding pounds. I look back at pictures and wished someone had said something to me to open my eyes up sooner.0
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Got told i looked preggo by some drunk dude in the student union...so i told him it was his and then walked out. (I wasn't pregnant btw!!)0
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"You cant get any smaller, you just wont look right."0
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Someone said I looked like Precious
And for those of you that haven't seen the movie or heard of the movie, here she is...
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Someone said I looked like Precious
And for those of you that haven't seen the movie or heard of the movie, here she is...
What?! Omgosh... They were being mean. I dont see any resemblance whatsoever. Smh0 -
Being underweight, I often got the whole "go eat a cheeseburger" deal, but more disturbing to me was the amount of people who thought it was okay to just stop me in public and comment on my size, or straight-up ask me what size I was. I can't imagine doing that to someone! For no reason at all- but just to giggle or gawk at! Literally had an old woman stop me at work once to essentially show me off to her friend what a size 0 looked like. Are you kidding me?! That's not okay!0
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My dad was always the most critical of my weight. I remember one time he took me shopping for some new clothes before the school year started (I was in HS) and I found a jacket I really liked. It was tight, but it zipped. I remember coming out of the fitting room to show him, and he said, "Maybe if you lost some weight, it would fit better." as he patted my stomach. I didn't get the jacket.
Other times, jean shopping, he'd ask what size I needed so that he could help me find jeans... His response was usually something like, "Maybe they'll have the big sizes in the back" or "Really? Wow."0 -
Someone said I looked like Precious
And for those of you that haven't seen the movie or heard of the movie, here she is...
you are slimmer and hotter than her!0 -
I was pregnant, but still...
I was going to get some pizza, and the pizza guy asked me when I was due. I told him, and he asked if it was just one. I laughed, and said, "Yeah, just one,"
He gave me a look of disgust and disbelief as he handed me my pizza and said, "Wow. You look like you're carrying twins."
I should have thrown the pizza at his face, but I didn't think about it until later.
I walked away, could hardly eat the stupid pizza and cried when I got home.
I relate to this. I came from a dysfunctional family with women who all had weight issues. Let's just say at 13 I started using dexatrim diet pills. So my self esteem was never very strong.
But this post brought back a painful memory. I was pregnant with my first child. My mother in law sat me down and explained to me how important it was for me to lose weight. Men in her family did not like big women. I was nine months pregnant! She told me that if I didn't get myself in control I may end up like her neighbor who is overweight. Then she explained to me how my father in law would tell her when she was gaining too much weight, and she would become more conscientious of what she would eat. Now to put this in context, she smoked more than a pack a day and was afraid to quit because she may gain weight. She smoked after every meal. I'm sure that curbed her appetitive. So here I was hormonal, nine months pregnant, and being told my husbands family do not like big women. I just about fell apart. I never felt comfortable with them again. It's been 13 years and they still watch what's on my plate. Im sensitive to a comment here and there, they are passive aggressive people They are what I think of thin but unhealthy. None of them, including my husband has any muscle mass. What made it worse was that I gained 30lbs in a year and was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and later with hashimotos disease. They, including my husband, don't understand the disease and think its an excuse to eat whatever I want, but it's e opposite. I eat less now than I ever did.
Last year was a new year for me. A series of events caused me to regain my self esteem. Now with MFP I have a healthier lifestyle and what my in laws or my family feel towards me doesn't seem to matter anymore. This pisses a lot of the family off and they are less passive with their comments, but I still stay true to myself. I struggle with weight loss, always will. But I ran 3 5ks last year and am training for a half marathon. This boggles their mind. My own mother thinks it must be the pill I'm taking for my thyroid that has allowed me to lose 29lbs. I say no, I've been on the same dosage for five years, there is no magic pill. She doesn't believe it and wants to know my secret. My father in law gives me grief about how I'm going to hurt myself running (because I'm big), it's bad for my joints, and any more than one mile is too much. He lets me know his opinion every time he sees me, especially when others are present No mention of the weight I lost, but to be fair, I don't think it's obvious yet. Ive learned to start to let the comments go. Mostly because I've learned that people with low self esteem like to make themselves look better by putting others down and I'm an easy target.
I believe to always be polite, remember the source, and just do what I need to do. I don't rely on support from anyone. I do my healthy lifestyle for my kids, but mostly for myself:flowerforyou:
Omg this is so much like my husbands family when I was at my biggest after just having twins by c section my mother in law said to me you could do with losing a bit now and then my father inlaw said to her I would leave you if you put on weight so I have always felt so uncomfortable around them but now In just don't care what they think !0 -
Told i was nothing but a piece of lard from someone very dear to me! Albeit they said it out of anger - it was the truth!0
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My mom has always been my biggest critic since I started kinda gaining at the end of grade 12. The one that sticks the most is when I found out through the grape vine (my 9 year old sister at the time) that my mom said I looked like a meatball in my prom dress back in 2010. I didn't even look big at prom! When I think of that time I wish I still looked the way I did then! If she thought it didn't look good why not tell me, and help me find a better one? Still hurts to this day, and she doesn't know that I know.
And a second one I just thought of! I went for blood and an ECG last week, and the nurse doing it all asked for an approximate height and weight for ECG purposes. So I told her and she goes "It's a bit better to be bigger, because when you're thin you don't eat a lot and your heart has to work harder". So assuming because of my height/weight measurements that I eat a lot? HA! The complete opposite. I hate passive aggressive people. I wanted to slap her!0 -
Just the other day I got asked by a customer that comes in to my work when I was due. I told her that I'm not pregnant but I do have 4 kids so my stomch does stick out a little and I feel like I look pregnant. In her defense she did think I was another employee who is pregnant and the other girl and I always get told we look like sisters.0
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Your fat... Are you pregnant?... You've got a fat tummy... Oh yes, do some exercise you need to (from someone who doesn't exercise and I always have since 14 grrr!!!!!!!) ... Ohh wow, I'm surprised you can exercise so much being 'curvy' (and I ain't got big boobs!!)... She's lost weight and she was even bigger than you (it was not in a nice way)... Atleast I've had a child...
And if I quoted my gran I'd be here forever!!!! I get a comment every time I see her, always have since childhood.0 -
Ohhh and the word that just fills me with dread "pop" said by my dad and brother whenever I ate something, from atleast age 10! They still so it
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"You're awful to hug, your hipbones stab me"
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My ex-boyfriend once told me (whilst we were in bed together I'd like to point out) that if I just lost some weight I'd be hot and have all the guys after me.
WHAT WAS THE POINT OF THAT COMMENT.
Needless to say he didn't last long after that.0 -
Being underweight, I often got the whole "go eat a cheeseburger" deal, but more disturbing to me was the amount of people who thought it was okay to just stop me in public and comment on my size, or straight-up ask me what size I was. I can't imagine doing that to someone! For no reason at all- but just to giggle or gawk at! Literally had an old woman stop me at work once to essentially show me off to her friend what a size 0 looked like. Are you kidding me?! That's not okay!
I completely see this - there's something about society that thinks it's ok to comment on a woman's body if she is thin. For the first time in my life I'm actually at a healthy weight for my height. I'm short and I take a size 0. I get comments now ALL THE TIME. Also, people whom I barely know seem to think it's ok to talk about how fat I was before I lost weight. That's not okay either... Just because I lost the weight, does not mean you can now mock me for being fat!0 -
My ex-boyfriend once told me (whilst we were in bed together I'd like to point out) that if I just lost some weight I'd be hot and have all the guys after me.
My uncle once said that to me... (except we weren't in bed together...but it's still creepy.)0 -
Here's a conversation with someone I consider a "nice acquaintance" that I COULDN'T BELIEVE while it was happening- (happened in front of a group of people I knew)
Her: Are you pregnant?
Me: No, but I did have a baby. (I try to help the person save face with this comment)
Her: Your second baby?
Me: No my first.
Her: Wasn't that a long time ago.
Me: Yes he's over a year old now!
Her: Why haven't you lost the weight yet?
Me....
Her: You're young, you should have bounced back by now! Is it hormonal-related?
Me: No, I'm pretty sure it's just over eating.
Her: Oh ok *stares
I was proud of myself for not crying after that conversation.0
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