What is the worst comment you ever got about your weight?
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Plenty of 'if you weighed less you'd be really pretty', but my husband's family are the worst. A few years ago his Grandma looked at me, sighed loudly, shook her head a little, and asked 'where's that beautiful, slim girl from your wedding?'. I wish to this day I'd been quick-witted enough to say 'I ate her', but I was just too shocked to say anything.0
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Being underweight, I often got the whole "go eat a cheeseburger" deal, but more disturbing to me was the amount of people who thought it was okay to just stop me in public and comment on my size, or straight-up ask me what size I was. I can't imagine doing that to someone! For no reason at all- but just to giggle or gawk at! Literally had an old woman stop me at work once to essentially show me off to her friend what a size 0 looked like. Are you kidding me?! That's not okay!
yep!!!! i used to get this all the time! its what made me so insecure about my weight and decide to start gaining!
people are just so cruel.0 -
Well it was not really a comment, but there is this one time i walked into an elevator (while i was over 120kg) with 3 pretty girls/woman standing already in it.
Then 1 of them stared at me, shaking her head in a no, then sigh and point out the sign in the elevator that said no more then 1000 kg
Then started giggling with her friends... had to go down 6 floors, worst elevator ride ever for me
you should have told her - Must be tough being such a s$%t when you clearly dont have the maths skills for it0 -
"Only thing good about your weight is how massive your tits are... for an Asian."0
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""you've lost a lot of weight hey"0
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"I relate to this. I came from a dysfunctional family with women who all had weight issues. Let's just say at 13 I started using dexatrim diet pills. So my self esteem was never very strong.
But this post brought back a painful memory. I was pregnant with my first child. My mother in law sat me down and explained to me how important it was for me to lose weight. Men in her family did not like big women. I was nine months pregnant! She told me that if I didn't get myself in control I may end up like her neighbor who is overweight. Then she explained to me how my father in law would tell her when she was gaining too much weight, and she would become more conscientious of what she would eat. Now to put this in context, she smoked more than a pack a day and was afraid to quit because she may gain weight. She smoked after every meal. I'm sure that curbed her appetitive. So here I was hormonal, nine months pregnant, and being told my husbands family do not like big women. I just about fell apart. I never felt comfortable with them again. It's been 13 years and they still watch what's on my plate. Im sensitive to a comment here and there, they are passive aggressive people They are what I think of thin but unhealthy. None of them, including my husband has any muscle mass. What made it worse was that I gained 30lbs in a year and was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and later with hashimotos disease. They, including my husband, don't understand the disease and think its an excuse to eat whatever I want, but it's e opposite. I eat less now than I ever did.
Last year was a new year for me. A series of events caused me to regain my self esteem. Now with MFP I have a healthier lifestyle and what my in laws or my family feel towards me doesn't seem to matter anymore. This pisses a lot of the family off and they are less passive with their comments, but I still stay true to myself. I struggle with weight loss, always will. But I ran 3 5ks last year and am training for a half marathon. This boggles their mind. My own mother thinks it must be the pill I'm taking for my thyroid that has allowed me to lose 29lbs. I say no, I've been on the same dosage for five years, there is no magic pill. She doesn't believe it and wants to know my secret. My father in law gives me grief about how I'm going to hurt myself running (because I'm big), it's bad for my joints, and any more than one mile is too much. He lets me know his opinion every time he sees me, especially when others are present No mention of the weight I lost, but to be fair, I don't think it's obvious yet. Ive learned to start to let the comments go. Mostly because I've learned that people with low self esteem like to make themselves look better by putting others down and I'm an easy target.
I believe to always be polite, remember the source, and just do what I need to do. I don't rely on support from anyone. I do my healthy lifestyle for my kids, but mostly for myselfflowerforyou "
they need to **** off and mind their own damn business
edit it didn't quote so I added myself0 -
Yesterday I got a message from a (former) friend. We weren't best friends, but still close.
"I just wanted you to know, I still think your boyfriend is dating you because of charity reason. I mean, look at you!"
It's the meanest thing I've ever heard about me and my weight. Not because her message was that rude, I know it could be worse, but because it came from someone I thought was a friend.0 -
Well at least you're jolly!0
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"You gonna work on those legs?"0
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"You gonna work on those legs?"
Did you place your feet between his teeth after that comment...
How about this one... From my mom: "you know... I think the reason your hips look so wide is because your waist is so small!"
Pretty sure she thought that was a compliment0 -
When are you due.......wasn't pregnant...0
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Funny story......So my mom was hitting the drive through at Burger Ting (what my three year old called it at the time) and the girl says, "Ma'am, I'm sorry about your wait". Seth, almost 4, says, "Oma, how rude that she said that about your weight!".
Now for me, it was when a little mentally challenged student asked me if I was pregnant......I was a 7th grader.......and no, I was not.0 -
From my Granddad, we are really close and I went to say hi to him at a family function and the first words out of his mouth were "your getting really fat". Not hello, how are you, just a comment about how fat I am. It made me really sad I must admit.0
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There were plenty of mean things said...however I think the worst thing is the "You would be so pretty if only you lost weight"....makes you think "Wowww..am I Quasimodo now??" People just don't think before they speak!
I was a bit chubby in high school. and a girl actually told me (as a compliment) that she and her friend hoped I never lost weight because then I'd be too much competition!!
:noway: :noway: :noway: :noway:
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I was at the mall shopping for prom dresses and a woman who worked at one of the shops told me to look at the discount rack because "That's where the bigger sizes that no one buys are."
To this day I can't walk into a dress shop without thinking about that. Words are a powerful thing.0 -
I was pregnant, but still...
I was going to get some pizza, and the pizza guy asked me when I was due. I told him, and he asked if it was just one. I laughed, and said, "Yeah, just one,"
He gave me a look of disgust and disbelief as he handed me my pizza and said, "Wow. You look like you're carrying twins."
I should have thrown the pizza at his face, but I didn't think about it until later.
I walked away, could hardly eat the stupid pizza and cried when I got home.
I relate to this. I came from a dysfunctional family with women who all had weight issues. Let's just say at 13 I started using dexatrim diet pills. So my self esteem was never very strong.
But this post brought back a painful memory. I was pregnant with my first child. My mother in law sat me down and explained to me how important it was for me to lose weight. Men in her family did not like big women. I was nine months pregnant! She told me that if I didn't get myself in control I may end up like her neighbor who is overweight. Then she explained to me how my father in law would tell her when she was gaining too much weight, and she would become more conscientious of what she would eat. Now to put this in context, she smoked more than a pack a day and was afraid to quit because she may gain weight. She smoked after every meal. I'm sure that curbed her appetitive. So here I was hormonal, nine months pregnant, and being told my husbands family do not like big women. I just about fell apart. I never felt comfortable with them again. It's been 13 years and they still watch what's on my plate. Im sensitive to a comment here and there, they are passive aggressive people They are what I think of thin but unhealthy. None of them, including my husband has any muscle mass. What made it worse was that I gained 30lbs in a year and was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and later with hashimotos disease. They, including my husband, don't understand the disease and think its an excuse to eat whatever I want, but it's e opposite. I eat less now than I ever did.
Last year was a new year for me. A series of events caused me to regain my self esteem. Now with MFP I have a healthier lifestyle and what my in laws or my family feel towards me doesn't seem to matter anymore. This pisses a lot of the family off and they are less passive with their comments, but I still stay true to myself. I struggle with weight loss, always will. But I ran 3 5ks last year and am training for a half marathon. This boggles their mind. My own mother thinks it must be the pill I'm taking for my thyroid that has allowed me to lose 29lbs. I say no, I've been on the same dosage for five years, there is no magic pill. She doesn't believe it and wants to know my secret. My father in law gives me grief about how I'm going to hurt myself running (because I'm big), it's bad for my joints, and any more than one mile is too much. He lets me know his opinion every time he sees me, especially when others are present No mention of the weight I lost, but to be fair, I don't think it's obvious yet. Ive learned to start to let the comments go. Mostly because I've learned that people with low self esteem like to make themselves look better by putting others down and I'm an easy target.
I believe to always be polite, remember the source, and just do what I need to do. I don't rely on support from anyone. I do my healthy lifestyle for my kids, but mostly for myself:flowerforyou:
sweetheart, you need to form some boundaries! I would avoid those in-laws like the plague!0 -
Had a co-worker that always seemed to find an occasion to say, " Man, that guys was huge, REALLY HUGE! He was even bigger than YOU!". I never really had a good come back. I was 5'9" about 285.0
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Either, "Are you pregnant?" or "Run some more, fat-*kitten*" while I was running as exercise.0
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I was very active in high school with sports and extra activities, so I was heavier than the average female but in pretty good shape. Fast forward to the end of my freshman year of college, I came home and my grandma made a comment, and I know she didn't mean it to be hurtful, but she said "You've lost some muscle and gotten a little flabby". She was honest though, and really look at the average college dining hall menu; potatoes, pasta, cereal, and bread - all carbs, no sports schedule and the introduction of a lot of beer didn't help things.
On the other hand though, looking at things from a skinny person's perspective. My mom suffered from lung disease and could not keep weight on due to her body expending all its energy to her breathing. She was 5'6" and at her lowest weighed 89 lbs, very sickly skinny. People would approach her and comment about how awful she looked and why would she want to be that skinny (she tried like h*ll to put weight on). Some people would go as far as to buy a burger or cinnabun and bring it to her (this happened in the mall) and tell her to eat it, that she needed it. This was a woman who I watched eat over 4,000 calories a day and still lose weight. Because of both of our struggles with weight I NEVER make a comment about someone's size, I have no idea what has led them to be who they are and it is none of my business.0 -
The one that hurt the most was you would be beautiful if you weren't fat. That's what motivated me to lose this weight.0
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I got invited to go to a Christmas party for a company that I'd worked for for 10 years by an ex-coworker who's wife suggested he ask me to go since she hated going.
I had left the company 11 months previously and was excited to see everyone again. I was all dolled up and felt great, saw this person and that and was doing a lot of catching up when one of the guys from my department came up to me, poked me in my stomach (rolls) and said "Packin' the pounds on there I see." SERIOUSLY!
I started bawling...friends at the table were trying to console me....he tried to backpedal, "Hey, it happens to all of us." WTF?
I left shortly after that. I will never forget that feeling.0 -
Reading through these posts, people can be so cruel .. i remember it hurt me when i was a child people calling my mother names as she was a big girl so ive always been aware of bullies and defending victim of it. ive only put on weight the past few years id say ive been lucky as the only time a guy dared to call me a fat greedy sl@g was when i was 9 months pregnant in mcdonalds i was getting a happy meal for my toddler and complaining the fries and toy were missing... this man in his 40's sitting with his wife and 3 kids shouted over.. there was just no need, i would have hit him if kids were not present instead i just said 'i can loose weight but no plastic surgery would ever fix your face or attitude' .
Laugh it off people and walk away, your a better person than them
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Same thing happened to me.When are you due.......wasn't pregnant...
But the worst comment is a family member's response when I say I need to lose weight: "you dont need to lose weight, girls from the south (no idea what that means, what south??) have large hips and arent meant to be skinny." she explained later the hips helps "women from the south" carry babies...
great, so I am a bunny meant to be fat - thanks!0 -
When my husband told me that he was no longer interested in having sex with me, because I was too fat and unattractive for him. His constant negativity and lack of encouragement led me to turn even more to food for comfort.
He is now my was-band. His constant belittling of me combined with his alcoholism made me finally boot him out. I am now happily married to a wonderful man. Together, he and I have lost a total of 130lbs. He knows that fat-shaming and criticism do not work.
I am now in the best shape of my life, and only 10lbs heavier than when I was in high school. I am within 15 lbs of my goal weight, and I will attain that this year.0 -
When I was 20 my boyfriend's mother said to me, in front of him, "[your boyfriend] told me he thinks your thighs are getting fat."
He swore he'd never said anything of the sort and I believe him, she was just a nasty witch who has a bad habit of deliberately insulting every girlfriend he'd ever had. I had gained a whole 5lb since I'd last seen her and was already a little self-conscious about it without her *****y comments.0 -
A childhood friend I hadn't seen in a couple of years took me by surprise when he just kept going on and on about how much I must eat. Was not the re-union party I had hoped for, lol..... We still talk and now he is freezing cold 24/7 because he smokes very heavily and drinks a lot. Starting to have health issues. ..... I have lost most of my weight and don't have any health issues any more.0
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My now father-in-law told me he and his wife were really surprised when her son "brought home such a fat girl. There's nothing really wrong with you, he's always just dated hot fit girls, you know, 'cause that's how he is and all..,"
Then it was super funny when he told his mom we were getting married. She looked mortified and said "you don't have to marry her!" I guess she was imagining little pudgy grand kids or something.0 -
I have gotten rude comments all of my life. When I was a kid, a boy on my bus started calling me Twinkie. To this day, I have never even eaten a twinkie. That was the last time I ever let someone see me cry, though. The next time a boy picked on me, I punched him in the face.
Even as an adult, I've been cat called (except about being fat, not good looking). I have been denied entry to a concert venue for being "fat and sloppy." I used to get wrecked by this stuff. I would literally lock myself in my house for months at a time following an embarrassing encounter like this. I had no idea that it wasn't *me* who should be ashamed, but the people who dared to say such horrible things to a complete stranger.0 -
I was born in the USSR and moved to the states when I was 7.
I was never really fat until about 2-3 years ago but all through my late childhood and adolescence my mother would constantly tell me I was fat and that I wouldn't be able to find a husband.
When I went back to Belarus to visit friends and family everyone would ask me how I got so fat (mind you this was when I was like a size 8).
Now that I actually am fat, my mother has stopped telling me how fat I am and I'd love to see the response to my current weight from my friends in Belarus.
I guess it's a cultural thing, or just an Eastern European thing. I've never seen a fat chick in Belarus, unless they were much older.
Can't say that the comments hurt me or anything. I've never given two sh*ts what people think. I found it really funny though that my mom stopped commenting, and that a size 8 is considered super fat.0 -
10 year old me "I want to be a Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader!"
Dad: "They don't let fat-*kitten* become cheerleaders."
I wasn't really that fat, I was the type of chubby some little girls go through right before starting puberty.
Years later, I talked to him about it. He had been drinking and he didn't remember it and when I told him how much it hurt, he cried(second time I had ever seen him cry.)0
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