Friends with benifits

intrepidity

Do you think its wrong to have a friend that you really like and really like to be around, workout with, laugh with, but you have crazy sex? But it has no chance at a relationship as far as bf/gf marriage?

DamnImASexyBitch

Is it wrong? No. Does it work out? No. Someone ALWAYS develops feelings.

pudadough

To each their own, I guess.

For ME, I could never do it. I think it's wrong for my own life. But I'm sure some folks are quite happy with that arrangement.

bettacheckyoself

Good luck...you will need it ...

iulia_maddie

Nothing wrong with that, as long as both people are exactly on the same page about it.

intrepidity

@vkaylor No disrespect, but do you know from experience? Cause I'm looking for honest advice. Theirs this girl and she wants to but I'm scared it will ruin our friendship. I really like her.

mndamon

Nothing wrong with that, as long as both people are exactly on the same page about it.

This

emmeylou

@vkaylor No disrespect, but do you know from experience? Cause I'm looking for honest advice. Theirs this girl and she wants to but I'm scared it will ruin our friendship. I really like her.

I don't know from experience... but just what you wrote, right here, tells me that this would be a BAD idea. It seems to me like you would be the one to develop deeper feelings and she would eventually hurt you, even if it was not on purpose. I don't know why it could never develop into a relationship, as you mentioned in your first post., but maybe you should tell her this.

sm1zzle

Nothing wrong with it at all.

The female will almost always end up wanting more though and ruin it.

lovelyMYlovely

no this is hard to do... someone always develops feelings... i wouldnt.. because someone will get hurt... i had a friend who was in this situation... and she was very sad that he wouldnt want her....... u said it wont work out.. why?.. maybe u guys will be perfect.... but as of friends with bebefits its dangereous... i wouldnt..

MireyGal76

This was in "Muscle & Fitness Hers", Nov/Dec 2012 issue... I tend to believe they're right...

intrepidity

Really appreciate the honesty and good feedback. Thanks so much.

Lift_This_

if you are asking us, then you subconsciously think its a bad idea...stay friends for a bit longer, or go out on few dates and then see what that leads to...if you don't want to ruin it go slow for a while.

vanguardfitness

not at all wrong. We're human. Life is much more enjoyable when you give in to carnal desires.

sizzle92

That never works out.

MireyGal76

Sorry. Need to resize it... right click and view image in new tab lol

Sorry also for the dupe post... I better get to a computer and off my android!

vanguardfitness

Nothing wrong with it at all.

The female will almost always end up wanting more though and ruin it.

QFT

LowcarbNY

Do you think its wrong to have a friend that you really like and really like to be around, workout with, laugh with, but you have crazy sex? But it has no chance at a relationship as far as bf/gf marriage?

Since you asked. Yes I think it is wrong. Objectively wrong and immoral. There is a reason why morality exists. It is good for us and good for society. The destruction of traditional values is freedom but is is the freedom to be destructive, not just to oneself but also to the fabric of community.

mdyorston

Is it wrong? No. Does it work out? No. Someone ALWAYS develops feelings.

Not necessarily. I've had a friend with benefits for years. We see each other infrequently and if either of us starts seeing someone we take a break. When we reconnect we have a don't ask, don't tell policy. It works for us.

Jonesingmucho

Aww! Slippery slopes are SO much fun on the way down but really impossible to get back to the top. I hope it works out but I have never seen it work in real life. Tell me again why u two wont date?

PikaKnight

Is it wrong? No. Does it work out? No. Someone ALWAYS develops feelings.

Yeah, no such thing as no strings attached if it ends up being a longer than a week friends with benefits deal.

PikaKnight

@vkaylor No disrespect, but do you know from experience? Cause I'm looking for honest advice. Theirs this girl and she wants to but I'm scared it will ruin our friendship. I really like her.

Just to let you know....if you tell her no, that'll put a damper on your friendship anyways. Not saying you can't move past it and still be platonic friends, but telling you to prepare yourself for a little awkwardness.

Then again, better than doing it and a month later one of you wants something more and the other doesn't.

Just_do_it_xo

Is it wrong? No. Does it work out? No. Someone ALWAYS develops feelings.

^^^This
Someone ALWAYS CATCHES FEELINGS! & I speak this from experience. bestfriends before & now 9 months later after not speaking to eachother still heartbroken. careful with that.

RECowgill

Things cannot be won unless action is taken. :brokenheart:

Mr_Bad_Example

Do you think its wrong to have a friend that you really like and really like to be around, workout with, laugh with, but you have crazy sex? But it has no chance at a relationship as far as bf/gf marriage?

Since you asked. Yes I think it is wrong. Objectively wrong and immoral. There is a reason why morality exists. It is good for us and good for society. The destruction of traditional values is freedom but is is the freedom to be destructive, not just to oneself but also to the fabric of community.

So, you would equate something like a friends with benefits relationship to, I don't know, murder? I mean, murder is pretty immoral.

iulia_maddie

This was in "Muscle & Fitness Hers", Nov/Dec 2012 issue... I tend to believe they're right...



Sorry. Need to resize it... right click and view image in new tab lol

What i get from this is that people are more likely to develop feelings for their friend with benefits if they have orgasms. So OP..if you decide to go for it..keep that in mind haha

MinMin97

Sexually Transmitted Diseases.

ryanb80

Ive done it and am currently doing it now for the last year with a younger friend. Its just like anything you just have to get the right setup and it works. Never had major problems, but if one develops feelings then the friendship stops cold in my setup, Ive been on both sides of the feelings part myself. My reasons for being in this type thing is I work away from home, never home basically so I found a person who works like me but could be around in town when I come. Having a loved one at home alone is miserable so I wont do that to anyone, and will not let them come to work with me either.

intrepidity

Aww! Slippery slopes are SO much fun on the way down but really impossible to get back to the top. I hope it works out but I have never seen it work in real life. Tell me again why u two wont date?

Well for starters she's a student in my crossfit class. I know her parents and she's about 12 yrs younger than me She wants to and she's really hot but I respect her parents and the ethics of student/teacher relationship.

pudadough

not at all wrong. We're human. Life is much more enjoyable when you give in to carnal desires.

False. This attitude is why a lot of us here are fat. Food and sex are both "carnal" desires and lack of caution can lead to unintended and unpleasant consequences relating to both.

childermass

THREE TIME RULE!
Heard of it? seen it in action...usually from the girl's side.