*** Supportive Friends -- Looking to Release 50+ Pounds ***
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So I started out today pretty down on myself. I've been doing MFP (and just being healthier in general) for 90 days now, which I should be really proud of but instead I was focusing on the fact that I wanted to be down 30 pounds at 90 days and I'm still about a pound away. Definitely the wrong mindset, I know. Anyway, I'm feeling much better...the weather is great, I did the first day of C25K (while pushing the stroller...), and I have Zumba tonight.
I agree with you Renaejae, I'm starting to love Mondays because it's a new start every week!0 -
How do you like the little snack I was offered on Romanian airline, healthy huh? It was this or 'cake'. Notice it hasn't been opened!
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@Ron, here are the Tardis pics!
This is how I spent the past 4 days, on & off... Glad they are finally done! The boys love them
Uhgg... can't get the links to work!0 -
5'3, 190lbs with 60lbs to lose. Don't know what that will look like on my frame. Need all the love and support I can get,0
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Jennypenny133, be encourage, take i step at a time and don't look back you will get there. If you fall get up but don't look back stay focus one day at a time.0
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OK here is the UGLY, my name is Heidi, I'm not from Austin lol that is my last name. I am a 38 year old that has been on the "diet" cycle for most of my life. four years ago, I had the lap band done and I lost about 67 pds and gained all 57 of it back. I have more then 100 pounds to lose and TODAY is a bad day for me. I got out of the shower this evening and looked at my naked body. I was disgusted by what I saw... my legs were nasty BIG and if I moved them they just jiggled and my belly just hung down and was full of cellulite. I am so sad today and I don't know what to do to get out of this funk. I feel like a big fat old mother that isn't ever going to like the way that she looks in the mirror. .... I need encouragement, not just hey keep up the good work but real encouragement and real story's like mine. Will I ever look good or even feel good about myself again?0
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My today was wonderful! I ate decently, cause I was on the go (which always works out in my favour as long as I'm not with family - they are fast food fiends), and I also did a great workout tonight! I'm really proud. My weigh-in is tomorrow.
Christines... If you find you eat after dinner, maybe try exchanging snacks for a hobby, reading, a long bath, or something else that would e enjoyable without the calories.
Stephaniez... Find that strength again! I can barely lift 15 lbs let alone 10 kg!!
Laura... I don't know what jambalaya is. :laugh: I googled it and it looks like something I would like to eat RIGHT NOW!
Tru... Your "slack 2 days" comment made me smile. Yes, I suppose that would be a start! Right now I do various workout videos (mainly Jillian Michaels), elliptical, and weights. Thanks for the support. And YES! I love youtube for workout videos. Unfortunately, since my computer was "fixed" the sound isn't working 100% and videos are glitchy, so I would have to workout in another room with another computer to do that. I always get library DVDs, but they just sit on the shelf...
Heidi... I can tell you've had a bad day. I have a sign above my computer I am reading right now (that I made) that says "Life is what YOU make it! How will your today be?" I made it on a day when I was having a REEEALLY crabby, everything is wrong, day when I realized that my attitude is my CHOICE. Books that have helped me with this attitude are "The Only Diet There Is" by Sondra Ray, "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne, and "The Power is Within You" by Louise L. Hay. I've read many more, but these 3 come to mind. Good luck.0 -
I'm new at this but I want to be apart of something I feel so left out because of my weight the time has come I want to live again
I stop living a long time ago I only go to work because that's a most when I'm off i stay home don't have friends because I feed like because am fat people laugh behind my back I'm alway in pain my knees ,back, feet hips everything hurts can't live like this anymore so this is my year I know I say this every year for the past 30 year but I can feel it in my bones that this is my year by Christmas I must be less 80 lbs0 -
Oh so many new people!!! Hello everyone!!!
So what goals has everyone hit recently? I reached my May goal earlier than I thought I would. Therefore, my new goal is to be 155 by my birthday (August 1). That will be about 19 more pounds.
Okay so about the boyfriend.... He was VERY overweight for most of his life. Then around 21 years old (he is 30 now) he got fit. We've been together for 2 years and he has always been very active at the gym. He just hasn't cared this year. I've tried to motivate him. I've left him alone. He NEEDS to go. He is very cranky and crabby when he doesn't go and get rid of his... well it's not really aggression, but his energy, I guess? Anyway, still kinda at a loss. I made him go with me on Sunday and he was still in a bad mood. Whatever. I'm back to leaving him alone.0 -
Oh so many new people!!! Hello everyone!!!
So what goals has everyone hit recently? I reached my May goal earlier than I thought I would. Therefore, my new goal is to be 155 by my birthday (August 1). That will be about 19 more pounds.
Okay so about the boyfriend.... He was VERY overweight for most of his life. Then around 21 years old (he is 30 now) he got fit. We've been together for 2 years and he has always been very active at the gym. He just hasn't cared this year. I've tried to motivate him. I've left him alone. He NEEDS to go. He is very cranky and crabby when he doesn't go and get rid of his... well it's not really aggression, but his energy, I guess? Anyway, still kinda at a loss. I made him go with me on Sunday and he was still in a bad mood. Whatever. I'm back to leaving him alone.
We all need support, love and motivation but at the end of the day, we have to want to do it. You are being a great girlfriend. He will get back in the head space he needs to be in.0 -
Hello!
Feeling a bit bummed this morning. On Sunday did a cheat hop on the scales and it showed me down 1.5lbs. Hopped on this morning for weigh in and it was up 1lb. Frustrated as I know I'm eating right and I'm back exercising. I was expecting a big loss this week not a gain. Not going to give up but feeling really GGGGRRRRRRRRR about it.0 -
well being kept busy with 7 kidos running a muck but having fun will check in when I get a chance to breath0
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Hello!
Feeling a bit bummed this morning. On Sunday did a cheat hop on the scales and it showed me down 1.5lbs. Hopped on this morning for weigh in and it was up 1lb. Frustrated as I know I'm eating right and I'm back exercising. I was expecting a big loss this week not a gain. Not going to give up but feeling really GGGGRRRRRRRRR about it.
One word Steph - Water. Maybe had a high salt meal, or just not drunk enough. Happens to me every time I travel, I get back, weigh myself and I'm the same or higher than the previous week. A couple of days at home, the weight drops off and I then can get a true figure. Drink lots of water today and try again tomorrow. I doubt very much you've gained.0 -
are we all still here? I'm restarting this week and holy what a hard time but I'm sticking to the diet though the gym seems far and away..my husband is home and I"m on deadline...sigh0
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Hey All... just popping in to say hi! Hope you're all having a good week. I seem to be having a good one so far. My SIL is in town visiting with my nephew, and we're spending a lot of time hanging out with them, so I've been making sure to get my workouts in early in the day. I'm hoping it stops raining for a little while later this morning (Pacific time :happy: ) so I can go on my lunch break run without getting soaked. I'm going either way though.
@Stephaniezoun, don't get too discouraged! Like Ron (who I have learned likes to be right, and usually is
) has said before, it's sodium or low water intake.
@Uhohkerri - Don't forget to breathe! LOL, have a good week with all the kiddos.0 -
Hi Guys,
Just a quick check in tonight- I'm pooped. Day 3 done for the jog. It was easier to roll out of bed this morning.
Steph- I'll post a jamalaya recipe at the weekend- its comforting goodness!!
Keep up the work everyone, it will pay off in the end!!0 -
I'm still, here, still crabby, still cycling to the station, still trying to take a leaf from thumper's mum and "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything"... So I'm not. I'm steering this black cloud away from all you guys so as not to rain on your parades.
Hope you're all doing well, sounds like things are (generally) going great! X
Ps update, he picked hemel, again, we found him a flat (thankfully furnished so no trip to ikea), he's been a self-centred *kitten* for best part of a month, he now doesn't want to move me in for (at least) 6 months (fine by me, but sick of him changing his mind and mucking me around). He's completely annoyed my mum to the point he's no longer welcome in her house OR my dad's house in swindon, she also doesn't want me using the car to get to him a his house, oh and she wants me to move out as I "can't put my life on hold for him", even though I can't afford to move out. Oh, and I also shouldn't let other people tell me what to do... Figure that out.0 -
Today was baaad eating. And yesterday (fries and cake). But I did have a homemade fruit and veggie juice, AND made some good choices, but a workout would have balanced it out. I still have an assignment due this weekend that I haven't really started. 3 days to work on it, so my focus is more on that - but I am trying to still remember to make good choices - and not boredom eat or eat without thinking/realizing it.
tnsummer... Remember, your b/f has to WANT it. You can want it for him all you want, but it won't make him want it until he makes up his mind that he does (note: speaking from own experience). Maybe get him a motivational book if he likes to read... A short one if he doesn't. Honestly, there are some powerful words published out there. Or ask him questions about what got him motivated in the first place, what is different now, and what his attitude is costing him, and potentially the relationship?
Stephanie... I used to weigh in everyday, but I never let the scale affect how I felt. What I did was take a weekly average, and it made me feel like I have a better view of my week, than weighing in just one day a week, or going from day-to-day. Weight will always fluctuate for a variety of reasons.
Laura... Looking forward to that recipe.0 -
Well I think our good weather is over here in North Carolina. We're supposed to get crazy bad storms today. I'm much less motivated when the weather is bad.
It seems that people are having some cheat days here recently in this thread. If you can't trust yourself to stick to your diet, then don't cheat. Be responsible. Just like if you can't trust yourself to go to the bar and not get drunk... then don't go to the bar. If you can't stop yourself from being VERY BAD once you cheat on your diet, then just don't cheat to begin with. I struggled with this at first. Your body will crave all the crazy things they put in food these days. Once you give in, the "withdrawl cycle" starts again. I'm not saying I don't enjoy a cupcake now and then. However, I found that when I first started making changes, it was easier to STICK WITH THEM if I just always did it. I didn't allow myself a cheat day for 1.5 months. Trust me, after a while you either don't miss the junk or it'll make your stomach upset to eat it.
Come on guys! We're going to look amazing if we just keep at it!!!!!0 -
@penny - like I said, he doesn't deserve you. I hate to say it, but it sounds as if your Mum is right :ohwell: We old people know what we're on about!!
@ Meg, hope your rain stops. You may be interested to know it's been raining off and on in Romania all week, but fairly light, no real showers.
@tn - totally agree about Cheat days, I sometimes "cheat" a little and eat something unhealthy, but always within my calorie limits and pretty rare too, I haven't been over in more than two months since I started Cheat days to me are like not counting your strokes properly when you're playing golf, the only person you are cheating really is yourself and as you say, you have to go through the pain again. This is a lifestyle change people, a lifestyle change should not need cheat days!
Well, home again tomorrow, Romania has been good but I'll be glad to get home and I'm working from home all next week. A couple of days to get rid of the water I've retained and hopefully I'll be down on last week!0 -
Been using body form energy drink/appetite supressant before my work outs. I did my work out at 11am and I still feel pumped, only downside is I feel a little sick... Has anyone ever tried this before?
Honestly I was on fire during my work out I felt amazing.0 -
Hi - a newbie here keen to join the thread if you'll have me? I don't have 50+lbs to lose - I'm currently looking to shed the last 16. Though by the time I've lost a few then found that they've come back, it may total 50+! Andhaving clicked on this thread whilst looking for something else, I've been struck by how supportive you all are - honest, good and bad stuff - but still supportive.
So a bit about me. I'm Jane, I'm 36 years old living about 10 miles north of Brighton in the UK. Married to the love of my life since 2007 and we've just bought our first home so having a lot of fun making it what we want - which balances the 'omg what have we done, how much is the mortgage' questions! Work in London as a Learning and Development Manager - commute 4 days a week and work from home 1 day a week - trying to find the work life balance!
I've been on MFP for a couple of years now - on and off - and I initially made good progress. But I like my food rather too much - not in vast quantities but still. Like to cook for family and friends - and it's no fun if you can't eat the results! I'm on pretty much every day and log accurately most of the time - I try to live by the thought that this needs to be sustainable and therefore don't beat myself up if I have bad days, don't log everything etc. Having said that, I do better when I log so I should learn something from that!
Anyway, taken a break from work so must get back to it. Will catch up later 0 -
Hiya, my name is Stormy! I have been trying to lose weight for quite some time. Last year I lost around 30 pounds and then my boyfriend came down from Chicago for the summer and I gained every bit of it back. This time around it has been much harder to lose the weight but I am still trying. It is also difficult for me to lose weight because I have hypothyroidism and PCOS. I'm not saying it is impossible but very difficult nonetheless. I am looking to lose roughly 85 pounds!0
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@Stormy, welcome, I have a friend who deals with the same health issues you do, I've heard it can be very tough. We will be here for you, feel free to vent here!
@Jane, welcome. Congrats on your new home! It's so fun to get settled in and start making it your own (and good grief, expensive too! lol).
@Jolande, I've never heard of the energy drink/appetite suppressant you're using. I'd be very careful with that though. I'd rather get my energy from proper nutrition. If you're feeling sick, don't use it for a while to see if that is the real culprit.
@Ron, ever heard the expression, raining cats & dogs? Of course you have. Well, that is a typical day in the Pacific Northwest. Have to say though, It stopped for half an hour yesterday, right at my lunch break time. I was able to run and not come back soaked. Also I ran my normal route the opposite direction, and had a good sized hill to run up instead of down, but for some reason, my time was faster anyway!
@Penny, I think that this guy you're with doesn't realize what he's got, and he's taking you for granted. Real love is about putting the person you love ahead of yourself, and from what you say, he's not doing that. I hope that things get better with your mom. Although I think she is right about not allow the boyfriend to come around, she should be a little more understanding when it comes to your financial situation.
@Tnsumner, good words on the cheat days! I don't usually have those. I just usually eat what I want, as long as it fits in my calories, and if it doesn't well, I work out hard to make up for it. Like I had to on Sunday, when my husband wanted to go out for ice cream.
@Laura, good job on getting the jogging done!
@Steph_135, on the subject of boredom eating, have you tried finding a way to keep your hands busy at times you know you would want to be snacking? I took up knitting last year, it seems to work really well for me in the evenings when I want to be grazing.
Well, today is my Friday (yay!) I'm lucky in that my husband has a good enough job that I can afford to work very short hours (total of 15 a week). It's also my official rest day. I don't know about you guys, but I'm realizing I have a very hard time taking a rest day. I want to be working out EVERY day. But I also know that my body needs the down time. This is a fairly new phenomenon for me, I used to absolutely hate sweating. But now I love that feeling when I'm working out so hard that the sweat is dripping down my face and back. I've seen that saying here and there, "Sweat is just fat crying". I guess in a way that is true. So, I'm a little sad that I'm not exercising today, but I'll deal with that. Have a good Thursday ya'll!0 -
@renaejae – Hello!
@jennypenny – Try focusing on how great you feel, not on the number. Your health is more important that what the scale tells you.
@megblackburn – Love the pics! That is so cool!!!!
@joawilliams – Welcome!
@heidiaustin – You need to take note of ALL that you are. Not just what you perceive as negatives. I have no doubt there will be many more positives. Focus on those and be proud of them. As for the others, they are just starting points. You've already made the decision to change them or you wouldn't be here. So stop beating yourself up. It takes time to make changes. There is no point waiting until they have been made to love yourself. Love yourself now.
@steph_135 – I try. Laughter really is the best medicine!
@sweetmissie – Welcome! Just take it one day at a time and you will succeed!
@tnsummer – That's fantastic! You are crushing it!
@stephaniezoundi – So glad you're not giving up! Use that GRRRRRRR as workout steam!
@breezedays – You can do it!
@penny_eclipse – I once had a wise person tell me that the best thing you can do is live on your own for at least one year. If you can't afford your own flat, then perhaps you can find a room to rent somewhere or a basement apartment or similar (that is not with family). This will allow you to discover who you really are (and what you really want) on your own away from other influences and is also a great all-around life-learning experience.
@ron – Welcome home. A whole week at home sounds like a rarity for you! I'm still just blown away by all the travelling you do! Have a great week!
@jolande – I don't know anything about that drink, but is it possible that it just let you work out too hard? Is/was your heart racing? Did you get enough water? There are many possibilities, but feeling sick afterwards is of concern.
@janetaye – Welcome! I encourage you to log everything. I found it a bit tedious at first, but now I don't know how I got along without doing so. It really does help to see what you are putting into your body and how much activity you are getting and mostly it holds you accountable.
@teamianoshea – Welcome! You will lose again. You just have to stick with it. Unfortunately with hypothyroidism and PCOS you will have to be a little more diligent, but you'll also notice that you feel thousands of times better! Focus on how much more energy you have!
@megblackburn – That's a great feeling! You could always go for a light stroll. Enough to burn off some of the extra energy, but not too stressing on the body. Welcome to the new you! So proud of you!
Happy Thursday everyone!!0 -
Hi all,
@meg - happy Friday to you. I love the idea of working sligtly reduced hours, perhaps only working 4 in every 5. Not really an option right now but some day!
Feel like I've had a good day - got lots of work done, worked out for 45 minutes and I'm well within my calorie goal for the day. Inside of all my macros apart from sugar. Haven't done as well as I might have done with water today - can and will do better. Just need to make it through tomorrow - we are going to the cinema with a friend after work - the challenge will be to not fill my face with maltesers while we are there. I'm usually quite disciplined and popcorn does nothing for me - but my husband will have to be in charge of the maltesers!
Anyway, have a good evening all - the good news is that it's nearly weekend - woohoo!0 -
@Tru, is a mile & a half a light stroll? LOL, it's the round trip walk to pick up my son from school, and I'm considering it since the sun is out right now. I do have to walk with a preschooler (almost 4 year old) so it's not super fast :bigsmile: I think am I gonna do it. I do have too much energy right now after sitting at my desk since 9:30 this morning.
@Jane, have fun at the movies! I don't know about you, but I sneak my snacks into the theater (I'm not paying 4 times the amount I would pay elsewhere for the exact same thing, I'm a cheapskate!) I don't go often, but have a couple times since beginning this journey, and I sneak very small portions of my favorite candy, and a small healthy snack too.0 -
HI everyone!!! I am so new, I Hope i'm posting this right!! one of my biggest concerns is that once I read something on a message board I can't find it again!! I hope I could find you all cause this looks like a really cool page!! and please i'm looking for new friends too please add me ....thank you all!!0
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How do you like the little snack I was offered on Romanian airline, healthy huh? It was this or 'cake'. Notice it hasn't been opened!
Stay strong, my friend!!0
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