Boyfriend is a Job Jumper

Pinkgurl13
Pinkgurl13 Posts: 47 Member
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Okay guys I need some advice.

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, and of course I love him. But he can't keep a job for more than 3 to 6 months. During the time I have been with him he has:

been a general contractor (quit)
opened his own moving business (quit)
GM at Chipotle (quit after a few weeks)
GM at Wendys (got fired)
GM at Hardees (quit)
GM at KFC (got fired)
GM at Perkins (got fired)

Thankfully he has always paid his side of the bills (even if he barely scrapes by until he gets another job). I told him its a problem and he needs to stop doing it because its too stressful on us. Am I just over reacting or what?
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  • PottsvilleCurse1925
    PottsvilleCurse1925 Posts: 354 Member
    Find someone new.
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    No mature adult ready to be part of a healthy relationship would have a job history like this.
  • j4nash
    j4nash Posts: 1,719 Member
    sounds like a loser, sorry, dump him. you think its bad now? imagine being married to him and having to support him because he has issues.
  • PottsvilleCurse1925
    PottsvilleCurse1925 Posts: 354 Member
    No mature adult ready to be part of a healthy relationship would have a job history like this.

    My advice was simpler but implied the same thing.
  • Rawrbyn
    Rawrbyn Posts: 109 Member
    I just don't understand how people like that can still keep getting jobs, yet people who have held jobs forever are having such a hard time finding work. Kind of makes me sick.
  • hearthemelody
    hearthemelody Posts: 1,025 Member
    I don't think I could marry or have kids with someone that I could not depend on.

    I don't know if those are your goals, but I certainly do not think a relationship evaluation is over-reacting.
  • BEERRUNNER
    BEERRUNNER Posts: 3,046 Member
    Its only inevitable that this will turn out bad. Find someone new..........ME!:bigsmile:
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    Try Mcdonalds?
  • PottsvilleCurse1925
    PottsvilleCurse1925 Posts: 354 Member
    How responsible can he be if he gets fired from.....KFC?
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    How's his balance? Sonic is always looking for skating carhops.
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    Tell him to quit peeing in the french fries for starters.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    How responsible can he be if he gets fired from.....KFC?


    Hah! Right?
  • RideaYeti
    RideaYeti Posts: 211 Member
    Agree with everyone else. As a father, I would not want my daughter to be with a guy who cannot show any commitment or responsibility in his job.
  • olsondre
    olsondre Posts: 198 Member
    How old is the guy?
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    His future looks bright.
  • Pinkgurl13
    Pinkgurl13 Posts: 47 Member
    Lol. He has actually already worked at Sonic as a GM. Thats the thing... he's 30 years old and has probably had 100 jobs in his life! Its freaking crazy.
  • RideaYeti
    RideaYeti Posts: 211 Member
    Lol. He has actually already worked at Sonic as a GM. Thats the thing... he's 30 years old and has probably had 100 jobs in his life! Its freaking crazy.

    Run! Run like the wind and never look back. He will not change.
  • PottsvilleCurse1925
    PottsvilleCurse1925 Posts: 354 Member
    Lol. He has actually already worked at Sonic as a GM. Thats the thing... he's 30 years old and has probably had 100 jobs in his life! Its freaking crazy.

    Sooo find someone else. You're a pretty girl. You will have no problem finding someone who has some drive in his life.
  • olsondre
    olsondre Posts: 198 Member
    Lol. He has actually already worked at Sonic as a GM. Thats the thing... he's 30 years old and has probably had 100 jobs in his life! Its freaking crazy.

    Not good.
  • Chief_Rocka
    Chief_Rocka Posts: 4,710 Member
    He'll change after you're married.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    He'll change after you're married.

    FTW.
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    Okay guys I need some advice.

    I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, and of course I love him. But he can't keep a job for more than 3 to 6 months. During the time I have been with him he has:

    been a general contractor (quit)
    opened his own moving business (quit)
    GM at Chipotle (quit after a few weeks)
    GM at Wendys (got fired)
    GM at Hardees (quit)
    GM at KFC (got fired)
    GM at Perkins (got fired)

    Thankfully he has always paid his side of the bills (even if he barely scrapes by until he gets another job). I told him its a problem and he needs to stop doing it because its too stressful on us. Am I just over reacting or what?

    I'll try a serious answer. (note I said TRY)
    Has he been tested for ADD/ADHD? I totally think this is an overused diagnosis in children (MY OPINION), but I have known a few adults that have been treated for this and have had life altering changes in behavior, to the better. That's one thought.

    Also, I would work very hard on being more independent, i.e., be sure you can support the two of you, b/c it's going to get to that point.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    I have a friend like that. He's cool, he's just nto wired for the day-job thing. He's tried going on his own for a while, but the problem is his work ethic. He just doesn't like to work. He's been married for 11 years, has two kids and seems to make things work. His wife hates it. Fortunately, she is stable and is the one that keeps things together.
  • racheljonel
    racheljonel Posts: 400 Member
    Been there, done that. Dump him. Like, yesterday. He will never grow up, and you can not change him!
  • emtjmac
    emtjmac Posts: 1,320 Member
    Just break up.
  • sarahharmintx
    sarahharmintx Posts: 868 Member
    No mature adult ready to be part of a healthy relationship would have a job history like this.
    nicely said
  • dsjohndrow
    dsjohndrow Posts: 1,820 Member
    It's not looking good. Find someone with a real job that is not in retail or fast food restaurants. Those are good jobs for kids and folks who have someone else who is pulling the freight.
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Give him a reason to stay at a job and he probably will.
  • Jaulen
    Jaulen Posts: 468 Member
    Lol. He has actually already worked at Sonic as a GM. Thats the thing... he's 30 years old and has probably had 100 jobs in his life! Its freaking crazy.

    holy crud!

    That's just too immature for 30.....especially with the number of job firings he's had.
  • sugboog29
    sugboog29 Posts: 630 Member
    Lol. He has actually already worked at Sonic as a GM. Thats the thing... he's 30 years old and has probably had 100 jobs in his life! Its freaking crazy.

    And you are with him ......why??? He will never change...trust me I've seen his type before...they never change and it is always someone elses fault they are no longer employed.

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