Any spouses with separate bedrooms?

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  • PottsvilleCurse1925
    PottsvilleCurse1925 Posts: 354 Member
    I would hate this. I will say that I hate when I'm in bed trying to fall asleep and she's out cold next to me breathing heavy in her slumber. Pisses me right the hell off. I tend to cough loud or kick her to quiet her down in hopes of falling asleep. It usually doesn't work. But most nights we sleep fine together. I enjoy waking up with her next to me instead of in another room.
  • amberlykay1014
    amberlykay1014 Posts: 608 Member
    This could never happen for us.. Our favorite time of the day is getting into bed together and just letting the stress of the day melt away into nothingness as we drift into sleep. A lot of the time, we hold each other during the night and when one person rolls over, the other usually follows. Maybe it's because we've only been sleeping in the same bed for a year and half, but I'd like to think it will always be this way. Waking up together is pretty great too.
  • rgohm
    rgohm Posts: 294 Member
    My husband is gone for sometimes three months at a time and it is hard to get used to sleeping next to someone again but we do it. I have thought of separate bedrooms but I worry that ultimately it could lead to an emotional separation and I really don't want that! I think in theory it sounds awesome but I really don't want to chance it.
  • ilyahna
    ilyahna Posts: 96 Member
    My man and I have separate bedrooms, and I doubt either of us would like it otherwise. :)
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    My fiances refuses to sleep without me..in fact, even if we argue and I'm like "I'm going to sleep DOWNSTAIRS!" He comes downstairs just to beg me to at least sleep in the bed. I give in, but he loves the cuddles. So no sleeping in separate beds for us, but if it's works for other couples, that's great.

    HAAHA oh Fiances. Just wait a few years.

    My wife made me go to a sleep lab and I got a CPAP. I hate the thing to no end, but it works. Or just sleep on the couch and deal.
  • asgard825
    asgard825 Posts: 1,516 Member
    Nooooooooo....
  • FeatherBoBeather
    FeatherBoBeather Posts: 255 Member
    Sleeping in separate bedrooms seems like crazy talk to me.

    I couldn't agree more! ... I'll happily deal with every snore, pillow drool, blanket stealing, and early alarm of his, etc. if that's what it takes to sleep in the same bed as my fiance.
    I can't imagine WANTING to sleep separate... :/
    But... to each their own.
  • BlueObsidian
    BlueObsidian Posts: 297 Member
    We share a bedroom, but we have a spare/guest bedroom that either of us will use from time to time. He snores and I talk in my sleep, so we can seriously irritate each other some nights (plus, there are some days he has to wake up at 4 AM for work, which doesn't always go with my schedule). There were a few instances where one of us would wake up the other person to shut them up, and at that point we came to the agreement to just go sleep in the other room if we couldn't sleep in our bed.

    I do really like that we go to bed together, though. That bit of time to talk and cuddle (and whatnot) before bed is very important to us. But, it's also nice knowing that we have an alternative option so that we can both get a restful night sleep after that.
  • walkwithme1
    walkwithme1 Posts: 492 Member
    Sounds like a recipe for divorce. Married 11 and 1/2 years only time we have separate beds is if one of us is sick. (Maybe a combined total of a week in all those years)
  • rvicini
    rvicini Posts: 252 Member
    I would be miserable. I snore, now I snore less, but she snores too!. I miss being far from her...
  • PapaverSomniferum
    PapaverSomniferum Posts: 2,670 Member
    my x husband and I had separate bedrooms. He insisted.

    He also beat me regularly.
  • Crystle85
    Crystle85 Posts: 48
    My boyfriend of 12 years works nights (for the past 7 years) so we rarely get to sleep in the bed at the same time, I love the weekends and early mornings when we actually sleep at the same time, even if we fight horribly over our 10 pillows and full sized quilt, and apparently I wake him with my snoring and he wakes me with his flatulence, I wouldn't trade it for anything, I love those rare occasions when we are both in the bed at the same time.

    eta: I meant to add that I would never consider making him sleep in a separate room, he does annoy me because we're not used to sleeping together but I like being close to him so it just wouldn't work for us.
  • MrGonzo05
    MrGonzo05 Posts: 1,120 Member
    My lady lives in a separate house. Also, I haven't met her yet.
  • fatfrost
    fatfrost Posts: 367 Member
    We sort of have that. I have three kids and we idiotically failed to do sleep training so they now all sleep in the bed with my wife and I end up sleeping either on the couch or in one of the kids' beds. It's actually fine and occasionally I get motivated and take each of them into their respective rooms so that we can snuggle. But it involves stairs, so I have to be *really* motivated.
  • IslandDreamer64
    IslandDreamer64 Posts: 258 Member
    I sleep separate from my husband about 75% of the time because I am a HORRIBLE sleeper. Takes me forever to fall asleep, I'm a super light sleeper, and he snores (not terribly, but it's enough to wake me up and keep me from getting back to sleep. I also like sleeping with the fan on me and he doesn't want anything to do with that.

    We have a very good relationship and there are no issues other than my sleeping problems. And yes, I've been to doctors and tried everything and nothing has worked for me.
  • Cyndi1
    Cyndi1 Posts: 484 Member
    My parents had separate sleeping arrangements because of his snoring. They ended up more like roommates than husband/wife... then my dad started cheating... then they got divored. Just a thought.


    my thoughts too...

    I can see how it may start off as a good idea for a good sleep- sleep is important but I cant imagine not being in bed without my partner....
  • shammxo
    shammxo Posts: 1,432 Member
    My Grandparents had separate bedrooms for as long as I can remember...

    They stayed married.

    To each their own.
  • PurpleCupcakes101
    PurpleCupcakes101 Posts: 17
    Well I guess I'm strange because I like having my husband in the bed next to me. I would not do a separate bedroom...even on days he gets on my last nerve.
  • Cyndi1
    Cyndi1 Posts: 484 Member
    watch the movie Hope Springs.... it might give you a little thing to consider....
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    **** van *kitten* and mary tyler moore
  • JustinDoctrinated
    JustinDoctrinated Posts: 10
    Uh huh. It's called the couch. But it's only my bedroom when I do something stupid.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Tim Burton and Helena Bonham Carter have separate houses (next door to each other though, and they just built a connecting hall or something like that). If one had the money, that would be interesting :happy:
  • klescz
    klescz Posts: 1
    My husband and I have been married 10 years. He has a severe snoring problem. Neither of us were getting any sleep. When we were married 5 years, he had serious surgery and had to sleep alone so he wouldn't get bumped accidentally. After his recovery period, we had a serious talk and decided we liked sleeping alone. It has not impacted our marriage one bit. If anything, it's made it better.
  • cubbies77
    cubbies77 Posts: 607 Member
    My parents have had separate bedrooms for around 10 years or so. Mom needs a CPAP to sleep and is pretty ill, so she needs a really good night's sleep. My dad's snoring and tossing and turning woke her up all night and made her feel worse. Plus, they weren't comfortable in their queen-size bed anymore. So, she put a queen-size bed in my old room, and Dad kept their room. They both have a TV/DVR and painted their rooms in colors they like. Hers is full of frilly pillows and flowers, and his is a man cave. :) His room (the master) has a half-bath, so they even have separate bathrooms now. It works really well for them. They sleep better, which means they're happier and get along better.

    I worked a different schedule from my boyfriend for a long time, and he snores like a freight train. I'm a really light sleeper, and if I wake up, it takes forever to get back to sleep. Nothing worked - I tried earplugs and sleeping pills, and he tried those Breathe Right strips. For a while, we had separate bedrooms. It was either that or argue all the time. Now that I'm sleeping better and working a better shift, we share a room again. Still, there are times he wakes me up with his snoring, and rather than smother him with a pillow, I go and sleep in the spare room. I always feel bad when I leave him, but he says it doesn't make him sad to wake up alone. He feels bad that he wakes me up, so he'd rather have me in another room sleeping well than next to him ready to kill him. ;)
  • fleur_de_lis19
    fleur_de_lis19 Posts: 926 Member
    My husband is a heavy sleeper and snores really loud, but we just go to bed at different times and it really helps. If i go to bed and I'm down for a good 2 hours before he comes to bed i can sleep through it. I could see who separate rooms could work for some but it wouldn't work for us. We need that intimacy.
  • dschassie
    dschassie Posts: 192 Member
    I cant even imagine not sleeping with my husband when he is home. He is deployed right now and I hate being without him. Even when he is home he wakes up way earlier than me but I like to wake up and get him coffee and say goodbye before he leaves for work. Sleeping in separate bedrooms seems like crazy talk to me.

    Exactly how it is at my house. We've been married for over 10 years and he has deployed so many times during our marriage that when he is at home, we cherish the moments we get together. I love laying close to him and hearing his heart beat (makes me so grateful that he came home safely) and although he gets up earlier than me in the mornings, we don't leave the house without kissing each other goodbye and telling each other "I love You". I know this sounds mushy but life is short and you don't know how much time you might have together!
  • sarahertzberger
    sarahertzberger Posts: 534 Member
    I could never not sleep in the same bed as my husband, that would be awful, it would seem to me that not having that time together even though you are sleeping could be hurtful to the relationship. I would hate that.
  • DamnImASexyBitch
    DamnImASexyBitch Posts: 740 Member
    This seems downright strange to me. My husband works midnights, and I work afternoons. We rarely get to sleep together except for the weekends. Both of us totally miss one another when we have to sleep alone. I couldn't imagine him being in another bedroom seperate from me.
  • Rehobobound
    Rehobobound Posts: 143 Member
    Not odd at all. My husband snores horribly so I made the decision to sleep in the guest room rather than be awoken every night by the snoring and the desire to smother him. Our relationship thrives and benefits from our being well rested. We enjoy all sorts of activities together, sleeping just isn't one of them.
  • sclarktiw
    sclarktiw Posts: 217
    I work away from home and am usually only home every 3rd weekend, when I was at my heaviest I was (APPARENTLY) snoring something terrible...and more often than not I was sleeping on the couch or when our daughter went to college her room. Well, since I have lost 60 lbs, I DON'T snore anymore and we sleep together ALL the time (unless one of us us sick). Being on the road, I sleep on a lot of harder mattresses so when I am home I have hard time adjusting to the soft pillow top mattress right away. But I cherish the time I spend with my wife and can deal with the pain for the next day as long as I sleep with her! I could be wrong but I think some of the spouses on here need to join MFP as well...I know when I was 295 and I dropped to 271,. my snoring was GREATLY resduced and when I yo yo dieted and gained a pound back (yes, 272) I started snoring alot more. Then I found MFP and am at 235 and NO SNORING.

    Good luck to all on here!

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