Flirting ..disrepectful or not at all?
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Not at all if it is between consenting adults.
Flirting is nothing more than giving someone your full attention for a few minutes or seconds and approving of them. Certainly makes the day go quicker and things go more smoothly.
You are in a relationship, not blind, deaf and dumb! People who get jealous over harmless stuff like that just look insecure and like they don't trust their partner.0 -
Some people are natural flirts. I flirt with girls more than boys though. Weird?
I agree with Modifiedmama
Im a natural born flirt, the games on here are designed to have a bit of fun and hell yeah Im gonna flirt along with the rest of them.
Im not acting on those thoughts etc and I do know when to draw the line
I guess if you know that line then its all good.0 -
I don't get this. If you look that's one thing, but if you actively flirt I assume you're interested and single (that or you're cheating scum). Beh. Don't waste my time if you're taken. I hate that!
I don't know if your significant other thinks you're disrespecting her when you do that, but for sure you're disrespecting me!
I think you're confusing "flirting" and "hitting on". There's a difference.
There is? Okay yeah, I missed that subtle distinction I guess.
I'm not sure its even that subtle. There seem to be a few women here that huddle in corners like scared alley cats and respond with venom to any guy daring to speak to them. At least I see them posting on threads. If you think that a guy speaking to you or even complimenting you automatically means that he's hitting on you, then you may be one these women.
One compliment, or one once in awhile from someone I might spend a lot of time with at work for example is not what I consider flirting, no. Exchanging pleasantries isn't what I consider flirting, no.
Regular comments on my appearance, asking about my plans for the weekend and saying things like 'well we could go get a room ha ha just kidding', asking about the details of my sex life or preferences, or commenting that my boyfriend is a lucky man or why don't I have a boyfriend because I'm so awesome sauce and then continuing to make comments like that is what I consider flirting and a man who is taken and flirting will quickly annoy the crap out of me.0 -
My husband doesn't mind me flirting though I do not flirt in front of him but I am a waitress in a place that is almost a night club scene on most the nights I work, so I get flirted with a lot, I flirt back, may not mean half the crap I say to the guys but I flirt and you better believe I do it for the money lol.
its always about the money!
Most the time, some times I'll flirt with the regulars and not even realize I'm flirting till one of the bartenders points it out lol. I'm a natural flirt though, I flirt and don't realize it, and my husband ask's me sometimes if I realize I just flirted with some guy, but no I don't do it to do it, normally if I flirt I don't realize it, but when I know I'm flirting, trust me I am probably flirting hard. It's always about the money when they are at my table lol, my objective is to get you drunk and get about as much as your ticket is lol. I've done that a few times, I had a guy temp me the exact price of his ticket.0 -
I think there is a lot of confusion here between "flirting" and"hitting on' and /or "letching".
Some people seem to think looking at/talking to members of the opposite sex is somehow flirting too.
I suggest that if you are offended by your partner looking at/talking to members of the opposite sex you go and live in a box on a deserted island/large forest/mountain range etc....0 -
Married.. not dead
Yep!0 -
General rule of thumb is, if you would be bothered by your partner doing something then you shouldn't be doing it.
I don't flirt. I wouldn't want my fiance to flirt.
I don't judge people in relationships who do though, to each their own.
I agree, and by the way VaVaVa Voooom!0 -
My momma taught me that it's like any other muscle - use it or lose it. There is great power in being appropriately social on that level.0
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I flirt all the time, unless I *KNOW* that someone is taken. Its innocent and for the most part is returned and makes me feel good about myself.
Although there is a way to disrespectfully flirt..... But I think each person has to set that limit for themselves. When a person starts calling me "babe, hun, sweetie" or any other "pet name" I get offended.0 -
I don.t. Not often. I think my husband actually encourages it though. He hopes the more I practice flirting online the more I will flirt with him. Weird.
And I flirt with him more than he does with me, anyway. Until I get tired of be the only one flirting, the I take a break....LOL
But no one really flirts with me online. And I may reciprocate, but noway I would start it.
Actually, not sure I would reciprocate. Seems weird.0 -
Flirting helps tension between 2 people sometimes. If you're out to find someone to "hit" on then obviously its WRONG ( when in a relationship) But...people like to smile and laugh and have a good time. Why bring someone down if its harmless?0
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No my husband and I do not do this, My grandfather would flirt with waitresses in front of me and my Grandmother and I hated it I thought it was so tacky!
no to me lusting after another is cheating but my husband and I are very traditional0 -
If you become jealous because your SO flirts, you have some deep seeded issues. Flirting is not something to have ruin a relationship.
Jealousy is a wasted emotion. My spouse is free to flirt all she wants. I am not her owner. I am not her boss. She is not my property. This is 2013 people.
I will say this, is is much easier to flirt now with text, internet, Facebook, etc. Times have changed!0 -
Wait....Is smiling and laughing flirting??
Maybe I do not understand the definition of flirting anymore.
Am I that old?? Yikes!0 -
There is a difference between being friendly and flirting. I think overall you should be friendly with people who haven't given you a reason not to. This doesn't mean being flirtatious if you're in a committed relationship. Flirtation is sexual in nature. I think it's ultra disrespectful.
Take for example I am a stylist. I can't tell you how many women feel threatened because I am nice to their husbands/boyfriends while servicing their hair. Making small talk, and yes *gasp* touching their hair, scalp and face. I in no way want their man. I am making small talk, even complimenting them on hair features because it's my job and I'm a nice person. It's not like I would drop my panties if they weren't with them. I even invite the woman back to sit in an open chair if possible. The ones who act b*tchy I don't. I tell them they have to sit up in the lobby because our insurance doesn't cover anyone not being serviced to be in actual salon floor. But anyway my rambling point is there is a huge difference between being nice and flirting.0 -
Wait....Is smiling and laughing flirting??
Maybe I do not understand the definition of flirting anymore.
Am I that old?? Yikes!
I think its the same with me, I am kinda bubly, and my husband thought I was flirting with the guy at the 711, but I was just being charistmatic I thought, just being nice, like I would have acted the same way if the chashier were a chick, so somtimes I wonder, cause I will be like that with co workers then they start spending more time around me and start to get unaproprete so I kinda wonder if I send the wrong signal0 -
I flirt. I'm sensible enough to keep it in perspective.0
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Wait....Is smiling and laughing flirting??
Maybe I do not understand the definition of flirting anymore.
Am I that old?? Yikes!
I think its the same with me, I am kinda bubly, and my husband thought I was flirting with the guy at the 711, but I was just being charistmatic I thought, just being nice, like I would have acted the same way if the chashier were a chick, so somtimes I wonder, cause I will be like that with co workers then they start spending more time around me and start to get unaproprete so I kinda wonder if I send the wrong signal
Another reason to go back to being anti-social. It was less confusing for me.0 -
Wait....Is smiling and laughing flirting??
Maybe I do not understand the definition of flirting anymore.
Am I that old?? Yikes!
I think its the same with me, I am kinda bubly, and my husband thought I was flirting with the guy at the 711, but I was just being charistmatic I thought, just being nice, like I would have acted the same way if the chashier were a chick, so somtimes I wonder, cause I will be like that with co workers then they start spending more time around me and start to get unaproprete so I kinda wonder if I send the wrong signal
Another reason to go back to being anti-social. It was less confusing for me.
yea, I have a shirt that says don't talk to me hahahaha0 -
OP: 1Pretty_Busy_Mom said:
What's wrong with flirting??
My answer...Honey ain't nothing wrong with looking. I window shop all the time, just don't buy!
What about you?
I don't remotely flirt - to the extent of being pathetic. I won't even take notice of any other man - despite how expansive their efforts maybe. Being otherwise might've righted so much of what went wrong - I probably should've flirted right back and then some ... [In thought but never once acted on any of that].
My exes by contrast (the pattern - since I'm forced to analyse - reflecting on it) never were of the sort, who'd remotely needed to flirt. Women would simply rid themselves of their knickers, flaunting all they had going for them - for a bite, if but for a moment.0 -
I don't know how to flirt. I just assume that everyone just wants to be friends with me, and I respond in kind.0
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I have a number of female friends away from here. I enjoy their company and friendship, nothing beyond that. We seem to understand the difference between playfulness and hitting, even though the boundary is difficult to describe.
Maybe it's that we respect and trust each other enough that we don't get disturbed even if someone occasionally crosses the line. We're all capable of addressing it if it happens. If there was a lack of respect it might be different.0 -
I am a big flirt.......this is who I am.0
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General rule of thumb is, if you would be bothered by your partner doing something then you shouldn't be doing it.
I don't flirt. I wouldn't want my fiance to flirt.
I don't judge people in relationships who do though, to each their own.
Agree with this0 -
I will take a glance or two at the good looking guys on here but I will not flirt with them, window shopping and flirting are two different things in my opinion and I wouldn't like it if my hubby was flirting with other women (he can look but keep his thoughts to himself) so I don't/wont flirt with other men0
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Anything you wouldn't do in front of a spouse, is wrong anywhere else. But some casual flirting happens to everyone.What's wrong with flirting??
My answer...Honey ain't nothing wrong with looking. I window shop all the time, just don't buy!
What about you?0 -
Personally, I try to not do it... for one, I do respect my husband... and for another, I don't want someone (whether the flirtee or an observer) to take it the wrong way... it just saves myself from a lot of trouble.0
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I encourage my wife to flirt in certain situations. For example, at the bar when we need a drink, on a long line if we're trying to get in to a place in Manhattan, or generally when we need someone's attention. She's way better at it than me. And besides, I don't have boobs.
Its harmless and we trust each other.0 -
So at what point does the ethics or morals come into play?0
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