How do you know someone is the one?

happilyeveractive
happilyeveractive Posts: 167 Member
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Please tell me. Because I'm so confused lately....
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  • sissiluv
    sissiluv Posts: 2,205 Member
    Tell me when you figure it out, I could use the help lol.
  • AuntieMC
    AuntieMC Posts: 346 Member
    You feel like your best version of yourself when you are with him. You have similar goals and lifestyles, and want similar things for the future. You have similar ways of handling money (if you don't, you're going to be fighting about it for your entire marriage!). He is supportive of your hopes and dreams, and you are supportive of his. You have known him long enough to have had time to observe his behavior in a variety of settings, and admire his character. His actions match his words (does he say he loves you but then screams and yells at you? If so, maybe think twice!). How does his father treat his mother? Remember, that is his role model for marriage!

    Yeah, that heart-pumping attraction has to be there, too. But don't let it sway you from looking at the issues of compatibility! Just because someone makes your heart throb doesn't mean he would make a wise marriage choice.

    Good luck!
  • caldon4523
    caldon4523 Posts: 227 Member
    With only 3 posts in over half a hour, the answer is, there is no answer.
  • mattagascar
    mattagascar Posts: 708 Member
    They don't wake you up on the way out
  • Windy_
    Windy_ Posts: 1,012 Member
    When you want them to sing *the song* to you...and they sing *the song* to you...
  • 00sarah
    00sarah Posts: 621 Member
    When you are attracted to them at first sight, then go through hell together.... Life's a *****...and sometimes she has puppies, ya know?
    But if you can still kiss and cuddle and fart in front of each other and laugh...
    Well, that's my experience, anyway...
  • atamrowski
    atamrowski Posts: 417 Member
    Join Match.com. Might find the answer there!
  • FitBeto
    FitBeto Posts: 2,121 Member
    When you dont have to ask yourself if the are the one
  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
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  • tuckerrj
    tuckerrj Posts: 1,453 Member
    When they treat you the way you want to be treated. When I met the one, I knew that I would, in every situation, do right by her. When what I wanted came second. If he treats you like that, he's probably the ONE!
  • FullOfWin
    FullOfWin Posts: 1,414 Member
    When you feel so strongly for them that you feel like there is nothing that you can do that is good enough to express it, a dilemma that almost causes you pain
  • crazytreelady
    crazytreelady Posts: 752 Member
    Two words... Bathroom shenanigans....
    If both of you can deal with the others dirty deeds, you're set for life.

    Oh and when you swear at each other a lot, not in a hateful manner though.
  • perfectingpatti
    perfectingpatti Posts: 1,037 Member
    When you both share the same goal in life, the same things are important to you, and that person makes you want to be a better person.
  • _Witsy_
    _Witsy_ Posts: 609 Member
    Let me know when you find out.
  • monty619
    monty619 Posts: 1,308 Member
    unlocks the driverside door for you while they are inside the car...duh. sheesh havent you watched "a bronx tale"?
  • LittleMiss_WillLoseIt
    LittleMiss_WillLoseIt Posts: 1,373 Member
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  • homerjspartan
    homerjspartan Posts: 1,893 Member
    There is no perfect answer or fairytale ending. You'll know. Don't think it will always be rose petals and champagne.....

    I married the woman of my dreams 15 years ago. Still love her just as much today. And she loves me.

    Not a day goes by that I don't think about bouncing her skull off the fridge and dropping an elbow on her Randy Savage style....

    I am pretty sure she fights the urge to stab through my face with a machete each day also.....

    But we truly love each other.

    True love.
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    When they turn your world upside down, but in the best way possible. When you can't stand the thought of being without them. When you realize that you would do anything and everything in your power to keep them safe and content. When the phrase "I love you" doesn't even begin to express what you feel for them. When you realize that they were the reason you were put on the planet. When you want to be the best person you can be, just for them.

    ....When you realize that they really are your better half. That without them, you're incomplete.
  • PapaverSomniferum
    PapaverSomniferum Posts: 2,670 Member
    it helps if they look at you like this 17975349_922.jpg

    even if you are functionally disabled.

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    at least, that's how i knew.
  • homerjspartan
    homerjspartan Posts: 1,893 Member
    When they turn your world upside down, but in the best way possible. When you can't stand the thought of being without them. When you realize that you would do anything and everything in your power to keep them safe and content. When the phrase "I love you" doesn't even begin to express what you feel for them. When you realize that they were the reason you were put on the planet. When you want to be the best person you can be, just for them.

    ....When you realize that they really are your better half. That without them, you're incomplete.

    *Reading script of Jerry MacGuire*

    Yep. Word for word.
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    When they turn your world upside down, but in the best way possible. When you can't stand the thought of being without them. When you realize that you would do anything and everything in your power to keep them safe and content. When the phrase "I love you" doesn't even begin to express what you feel for them. When you realize that they were the reason you were put on the planet. When you want to be the best person you can be, just for them.

    ....When you realize that they really are your better half. That without them, you're incomplete.

    *Reading script of Jerry MacGuire*

    Yep. Word for word.
    Never seen that movie. Not even lying.
  • upgetupgetup
    upgetupgetup Posts: 749 Member
    No such thing as 'the one'. You could be with a bunch of different people and experience each as 'love', just because you spent time with them and develop a history. But 'the one you're with' should definitely make life easier than harder.
  • joycebug
    joycebug Posts: 309
    I'm not sure I believe in "the one" anymore.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    With the one, you always strive to be best possible version of yourself. They also have all or most qualities you look for in another person.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
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    QFT....and if people think this is messed up..it isn't...and yes, I speak from experience...lol. Much happier alone now :)
  • JonnyR214
    JonnyR214 Posts: 228 Member
    It's when you accept someone for their flaws and all, when all you think about is that person all day and night, when you love them for who they are basically then, they're the one
  • swarovski75
    swarovski75 Posts: 195 Member
    When you can't stay mad at 'em, even when they've earned it. When every awesome thing you do would be that much better if they were there to share it with you. When they make you feel stronger, better, more capable, empowered. When you can't remember what your life was like without them.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    unlocks the driverside door for you while they are inside the car...duh. sheesh havent you watched "a bronx tale"?

    Dude you stole mine! Or, more accurately, we both have good taste in movies.

    But barring that, this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jgT2N_nzocs
  • mtpayne5
    mtpayne5 Posts: 350 Member
    I don't believe in the one but I do believe that you can find someone that you want to be with forever ever
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    In every relationship there comes a moment.

    And that moment you ask yourself "this is trouble, I should quit it now"

    And if you can't. It's probably the one.


    I've waited 3 years to be with my fiance as a family. And it's been a long three years. But three years ago I asked myself if I could just stop, if I could live without him in my life and move on to something more convenient. I could not.

    So if you can't let go, for the right reasons.. Don't.
    But be totally honest with yourself.

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