Father brings his daughter into the men's locker room

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  • Karabobarra
    Karabobarra Posts: 782 Member
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    I'm sure the child predators really appreciate his willingness to make his 4 yr old daughter feel completely comfortable around grown naked men.
  • wmoomoo
    wmoomoo Posts: 159 Member
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    Feels like some of these people didn't read the whole OP before writing their opinions. There is a family locker room which the dad can bring the girl in and yet he chooses to bring her in the men's locker room. That is inappropriate. If there is no family locker room, it will be a different story. Also, I am guessing the OP estimate the girl's age, she could be older/younger than 4. Who knows....
  • oneworkoutatatime
    oneworkoutatatime Posts: 312
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    This is insane!! I would rather miss a workout that bring my daughter to the gym. (even if they have childrens play area I don't like people I don't know watching my kid.)
  • VelociMama
    VelociMama Posts: 3,119 Member
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    My views on this: I don't think it is your place to tell the father how to raise his child. I am completely flabbergasted by the responses on here comparing allowing a child to watch porn and seeing a naked individual get dressed. The man who is bringing his 4 year old daughter into the locker room is not the problem, the people who are sexualizing the experience are problems!! I agree with the person who stated about it being acceptable in different cultures, but at the same time people like the OP need to learn how to take a chill pill and stop being so friggen stuffy.

    Agree, but like anything relating to parenting or children, EVERYBODY has some kind of strong opinion about it.

    It's sad the level of judgment parents have to deal with now.
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
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    It is no different than women taking 4 year old little boys into the ladies locker room.

    I go to a community center there are family change rooms, there is a men's change room there is a ladies change room. Woman are constantly bringing 4-6 year old little boys into the change rooms, my niece (whom is 8) has me hold a towel for her to change behind lest a little boy catch a glimps of her.

    Some people do not think, they tend to forget that little kids get curious too. I see this as being NO different. Do I agree with it? No, Not l especially if there is an availability of a family change room, but people are people and they do what they want. but it is not my place, I used the available changing stalls and if those are busy I will wait in my wet bathing suit before changing.

    If it bothers you, You can always talk to the front desk and express your displeasure with this man, maybe they can talk to him and ask him to NOT take his daughter into the mens change room.

    Edited: one of these days I will get this posting *kitten* down
  • sammielealea
    sammielealea Posts: 245 Member
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    I don't think people realize that children develop long term memory at around the age of 2 or 3. At 4 - this girl will remember this. Its like moms who breast feed past 5,6,7years of age. They don't realize that there kid is going to grow up remembering that..."experience".

    There is nothing horrifying about this experience except that some man yelled at her dad in the locker room. I'm sure she'll remember THAT forever. There's nothing wrong with a child seeing nudity in a non-sexual setting. Even if she remembered that forever, so what?

    But really, the original poster really created an unforgettable situation.

    This. Especially the bold.

    I still don't get why "remembering" the human body is so horrific.

    I completely agree with this. Let's be honest, when family rooms are provided and available, any parent would rather use these when they have their children that are of the opposite sex with them (when they are of the age that they need help or shouldn't be left unattended, of course). When this isn't the case, this parent has their child with them, regardless of their sex (mother/father with son/daughter) because they are good parents. Also, my 2 & 4 year old girl & boy know what private parts are. They know that boys have a penis, that girls have a vagina; boys and girls are different. They also know that these are private parts, and what's acceptable and what's not (yes, these are the exact words we use). Children know what you teach them . . . Always
  • girlonabikedc
    girlonabikedc Posts: 111 Member
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    I'm sure the child predators really appreciate his willingness to make his 4 yr old daughter feel completely comfortable around grown naked men.

    Because feeling frightened and ashamed at the sight of a grown naked man is how we should be raising our future women: be afraid girls, the mens are gonna rape you lolololol.

    Also, if you think that's how child predators work, please don't ever have children.

    Wondering if OP was so disturbed by this because he's a child predator himself. Did the sight of a little girl potentially seeing his wee-wee raise some odd feelings?

    Seriously wish there was an eye-rolling icon available.
  • inskydiamonds
    inskydiamonds Posts: 2,519 Member
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    I'm sure the child predators really appreciate his willingness to make his 4 yr old daughter feel completely comfortable around grown naked men.

    Because feeling frightened and ashamed at the sight of a grown naked man is how we should be raising our future women: be afraid girls, the mens are gonna rape you lolololol.

    Also, if you think that's how child predators work, please don't ever have children.

    Wondering if OP was so disturbed by this because he's a child predator himself. Did the sight of a little girl potentially seeing his wee-wee raise some odd feelings?

    Seriously wish there was an eye-rolling icon available.

    Seriously.

    I think that people who think there's anything sexual about an encounter like that have major issues with sex themselves and perhaps something they need to deal with.
  • Maidofmer
    Maidofmer Posts: 908 Member
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    you're totally justified! i'd call the cops. endangerment of a child and all that.
  • inskydiamonds
    inskydiamonds Posts: 2,519 Member
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    you're totally justified! i'd call the cops. endangerment of a child and all that.

    Are you kidding me? The cops have important things to deal with. Not about a little girl who is in no way endangered being taken care of by her dad. Please don't waste important resources like this.

    This is not what the police are for. If the OP was uncomfortable with the little girl seeing him naked, he should have brought it up with management of the gym.
  • Maidofmer
    Maidofmer Posts: 908 Member
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    I'm sure the child predators really appreciate his willingness to make his 4 yr old daughter feel completely comfortable around grown naked men.

    Because feeling frightened and ashamed at the sight of a grown naked man is how we should be raising our future women: be afraid girls, the mens are gonna rape you lolololol.

    Also, if you think that's how child predators work, please don't ever have children.

    Wondering if OP was so disturbed by this because he's a child predator himself. Did the sight of a little girl potentially seeing his wee-wee raise some odd feelings?

    Seriously wish there was an eye-rolling icon available.

    whats so funny about a little girl seeing naked grown men? I know if my little girl seen a naked man, id be furious, not laughing or rolling my eyes. as for the OP, he had the class to make sure she didn't see anything. and i'd rather have my daughter fear grown men than be comfortable with them being naked.
  • ximills
    ximills Posts: 37 Member
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    My dad used to take me into the men's locker room at the YMCA when I took swimming lessons. The story goes that I noticed a man with a long ponytail (it was the '70s) and said loudly "Daddy!! I never saw a girl with a penis before!!!"

    At the Fitness Center where I work, children under 5 must be with their parent in the adult locker room, children over 5 must go to the children's locker rooms. Except for children with special needs.

    I don't understand the problem really. Is it better to leave a little girl alone in the women's locker room and expect her to manage on her own and to trust that nobody shady is in there with her while she's uncared for? She's four. She can not go into a public locker room alone. She is much much safer being with her father where he can keep her safe and keep her with him.

    I'm with you. What is he SUPPOSED to do with her? Assuming your gym doesn't double as men's bathhouse, she is safer by his side. I take my 5 year old in 'women's' facilities where no family rooms exist and have no intention of doing otherwise anytime soon.
    Kids don't tend to sexualize body parts the way most of the people around here seem to be doing.
  • Maidofmer
    Maidofmer Posts: 908 Member
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    you're totally justified! i'd call the cops. endangerment of a child and all that.

    Are you kidding me? The cops have important things to deal with. Not about a little girl who is in no way endangered being taken care of by her dad. Please don't waste important resources like this.

    This is not what the police are for. If the OP was uncomfortable with the little girl seeing him naked, he should have brought it up with management of the gym.

    do you even have kids? the guy is endangering his daughter. the police are supposed to protect and serve, protect the girl by throwing the dad in jail.
  • inskydiamonds
    inskydiamonds Posts: 2,519 Member
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    you're totally justified! i'd call the cops. endangerment of a child and all that.

    Are you kidding me? The cops have important things to deal with. Not about a little girl who is in no way endangered being taken care of by her dad. Please don't waste important resources like this.

    This is not what the police are for. If the OP was uncomfortable with the little girl seeing him naked, he should have brought it up with management of the gym.

    do you even have kids? the guy is endangering his daughter. the police are supposed to protect and serve, protect the girl by throwing the dad in jail.

    I didn't realize I needed kids to know what the police are there for.
    The police don't want you calling them because someone's parenting choice is different than the decisions you would make. They should fine people for abusing calling the police.

    Her dad did nothing wrong. She was in his care the entire time.
    If her dad sent her unsupervised into either locker room, I'd be more inclined to say the police should be called. There is nothing obscene or illegal about nudity in a locker room.
  • PaleoPath4Lyfe
    PaleoPath4Lyfe Posts: 3,161 Member
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    My dad used to take me into the men's locker room at the YMCA when I took swimming lessons. The story goes that I noticed a man with a long ponytail (it was the '70s) and said loudly "Daddy!! I never saw a girl with a penis before!!!"

    At the Fitness Center where I work, children under 5 must be with their parent in the adult locker room, children over 5 must go to the children's locker rooms. Except for children with special needs.

    I don't understand the problem really. Is it better to leave a little girl alone in the women's locker room and expect her to manage on her own and to trust that nobody shady is in there with her while she's uncared for? She's four. She can not go into a public locker room alone. She is much much safer being with her father where he can keep her safe and keep her with him.

    The problem is Americans have an issue with nudity and such. Prudes.
  • PaleoPath4Lyfe
    PaleoPath4Lyfe Posts: 3,161 Member
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    you're totally justified! i'd call the cops. endangerment of a child and all that.

    Are you kidding me? The cops have important things to deal with. Not about a little girl who is in no way endangered being taken care of by her dad. Please don't waste important resources like this.

    This is not what the police are for. If the OP was uncomfortable with the little girl seeing him naked, he should have brought it up with management of the gym.

    do you even have kids? the guy is endangering his daughter. the police are supposed to protect and serve, protect the girl by throwing the dad in jail.

    I didn't realize I needed kids to know what the police are there for.
    The police don't want you calling them because someone's parenting choice is different than the decisions you would make. They should fine people for abusing calling the police.

    Her dad did nothing wrong. She was in his care the entire time.
    If her dad sent her unsupervised into either locker room, I'd be more inclined to say the police should be called. There is nothing obscene or illegal about nudity in a locker room.

    Thank you and not everyone has an issue with nudity.
  • veggiehottie
    veggiehottie Posts: 590 Member
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    I am a single mother of a boy. Always had to take him in the locker room with me. Got looks from people, especially moms of little girls. I had no other choice so dealt with the looks. My son was always by my side and could care less about the others in the locker room.

    What else was the dad supposed to do with his daughter? Geesh, people!
  • veggiehottie
    veggiehottie Posts: 590 Member
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    you're totally justified! i'd call the cops. endangerment of a child and all that.

    Are you kidding me? The cops have important things to deal with. Not about a little girl who is in no way endangered being taken care of by her dad. Please don't waste important resources like this.

    This is not what the police are for. If the OP was uncomfortable with the little girl seeing him naked, he should have brought it up with management of the gym.

    do you even have kids? the guy is endangering his daughter. the police are supposed to protect and serve, protect the girl by throwing the dad in jail.

    I didn't realize I needed kids to know what the police are there for.
    The police don't want you calling them because someone's parenting choice is different than the decisions you would make. They should fine people for abusing calling the police.

    Her dad did nothing wrong. She was in his care the entire time.
    If her dad sent her unsupervised into either locker room, I'd be more inclined to say the police should be called. There is nothing obscene or illegal about nudity in a locker room.

    Thank you and not everyone has an issue with nudity.

    Agree! Agree! Agree!
  • Maidofmer
    Maidofmer Posts: 908 Member
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    ok fine, maybe im the only mother upset by this, but there are other ways to not have your daughter exposed to naked grown men. drop them at the kids club. no club? leave them at home. cant do that? get a sitter. or if you have to go to the gym and bring your kid, dress to work out before you leave, then go home and take a shower.
  • nataliescalories
    nataliescalories Posts: 292 Member
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    My views on this: I don't think it is your place to tell the father how to raise his child. I am completely flabbergasted by the responses on here comparing allowing a child to watch porn and seeing a naked individual get dressed. The man who is bringing his 4 year old daughter into the locker room is not the problem, the people who are sexualizing the experience are problems!! I agree with the person who stated about it being acceptable in different cultures, but at the same time people like the OP need to learn how to take a chill pill and stop being so friggen stuffy.

    DITTO!

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