An ex attack
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Wow...I wish I could respond to everyone. I had no idea my post would get that many responses. Your encouraging words really helped. I'm having a tough day today, and I'm surprised at how hard I'm taking this. And wow...some of you had worse things said to you. Men can be such jerks. I will take everyones advice and just use this as something to motivate me. I'm really glad to be a part of this community. Thanks again!0
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I just had to google her, and ummm wow! I'll definitely take that as a compliment!! Thank you! :blushing:Mostly when people attack it's as a direct reflection of their own insecurities. I think you'll find its his problem more than yours. Personally i think you look a bit like Billie Piper but what do I know..:):):):)0 -
He lacks class and tact. He was trying to hurt you. Its the non-physical punch. It hurts more than just taking one to the jaw. Just realize he was trying to hurt you. He played dirty. Cut him out of your life completely. You don't need or deserve poison like that. No one does.0
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Wow...I wish I could respond to everyone. I had no idea my post would get that many responses. Your encouraging words really helped. I'm having a tough day today, and I'm surprised at how hard I'm taking this. And wow...some of you had worse things said to you. Men can be such jerks. I will take everyones advice and just use this as something to motivate me. I'm really glad to be a part of this community. Thanks again!
I'm glad you got some comfort...I went an looked at your pictures, you are very, very beautiful. And what is better, you look healthy and fit. I know what he said hurts, that was the intention, but do use it to keep driving toward your goals.
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Kristy,
All of the above! Don't let anyone steal you away from you. You're awesome and you're brave for just openly sharing. You keep doing the awesome you thing, and when you can, give him opportunity to enjoy his brooding in solitude. You have great things to continue doing!0 -
I think this says it well.I can see where his comments would be hard to shake...but here's the thing: they reflect way more on who he is than who you are. He, in a pinch, was not afraid to pull out the big guns and use your deepest fears and insecurities against you, just to win an argument. He's a douche, and his character is no reflection on who you are.
Stay confident. :flowerforyou:0 -
That sounds about right. I've had exs attacking me before. I have never been overweight. But they attack me because I get over it easy an go out on dates (once I'm single) and they start saying that I'm a slut, my answer sorry I'm single I go out with whoever I want to, not my fault you still crying for me.
Usually when guys attack you out of the no where is because they are missing you and depress because you aren't with him anymore0 -
You're gorgeous, words can sting so badly. Don't let him win!0
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'Friends' who treat me like that are no longer friends. That is not 'friend' behavior.0
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You don't need "friends" like him. Walk away and don't look back.0
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Just break up.
We did break up. Was attempting a friendship, but it's obvious that isn't going to work either.
Depending how long you guys have known each other prior to the relationship actually starting, being "just friends" is just a load of bull.0 -
Oh and just so everyone knows, I did break ties with him! I respect myself too much to put up with that. I may be in a fragile state of mind right now, but I know I don't deserve that!
Thanks again for all the awesome responses! You are all great!0 -
Oh and just so everyone knows, I did break ties with him! I respect myself too much to put up with that. I may be in a fragile state of mind right now, but I know I don't deserve that!
Thanks again for all the awesome responses! You are all great!
Good for you!!0 -
I'm so sorry you had to go through that, words can definitely hurt. My ex-husband once said that he was no longer attracted to me and that both of my best friends were way hotter than me. It really broke me down, and the worst thing was, I wasn't fat at the time, I had gained maybe 8-10 lbs since we had gotten married. It took me a long time to realize that his verbal diarrhea was a mask for how unhappy he was both in our relationship and in general. Its unfortunate that it came out in a way that took away from me.
You need to look at yourself in the mirror, smile, and tell yourself how sexy and amazing you are. Do it multiple times a day. Sooner rather than later you will believe it. And eventually along will come the person who chooses to lift you up rather than tear you down and you'll be able to appreciate him all the more.0 -
think of the girl you want to be - that you feel you are supposed to be - the girl version of you in your head that you know you really are, then become her.
it is painful to hear, but it isnt an insult to tell someone they lack confidence. It's just informing someone of how they present themselves to others and how it is received/perceived. The fact that you stayed up thinking about it so much, proves he touched a tender spot, a truth that you try to protect.
Feeling more confident and BEING more confident are separate things, but feeling more confident leads to the real deal, so just make sure to keep doing the things you love as you become the lady boss you know you are.0 -
Yep, in summary \m/Just break up.
You are an idiot.
That hurt my feelings.. reported.
Awww That is too bad. Since I am sure you comment was SO helpful to this poor girl who was really hurt. Hope you feel better.
Actually, ma'am, it is genuine advice. If a relationship is working so poorly that you resort to seeking advice on the forum of a fitness website, then my advice would be to just break up.0 -
Yep, in summary \m/Just break up.
You are an idiot.
That hurt my feelings.. reported.
Awww That is too bad. Since I am sure you comment was SO helpful to this poor girl who was really hurt. Hope you feel better.
Actually, ma'am, it is genuine advice. If a relationship is working so poorly that you resort to seeking advice on the forum of a fitness website, then my advice would be to just break up.
Nope. The "just break up" comment has nothing to do with this post and is pretty much always disrespectful and unnecessary. She clearly said she wasn't even with him anymore but good try attempting to make it relevant... It's just what a large group of people (and you ALL know who you are) post when they have nothing better to say. It's old~very old. It was funny maybe the first or second time. Come up with some new material already! :yawn::0 -
Nope. The "just break up" comment has nothing to do with this post and is pretty much always disrespectful and unnecessary. She clearly said she wasn't even with him anymore but good try attempting to make it relevant... It's just what a large group of people (and you ALL know who you are) post when they have nothing better to say. It's old~very old. It was funny maybe the first or second time. Come up with some new material already! :yawn::
Actually, she mentioned they were trying to make it work as friends. So yes, it is relevant. She needs to just break up with him, forget about him, move one with her life, start dating a better guy (in short - just break up).
It's not meant to be funny, it's meant to be direct.0 -
It's just what a large group of people (and you ALL know who you are) post when they have nothing better to say.
I see this sentence about 5 times a day - referring to different posts that are left around the chit chat area of MFP that are similar or are inside jokes - it always makes me stabby.
oh these horrible women always having fun. i wish they would just get fat and get off my free weight loss website, horrible creatures, i wish they would all just find G....
really getting beaten down by all these people who wake up and decide to hate people on the internet who are silly in the chit chat forum. Like seriously, you dont like us, we can never make you like us, we arent trying to make you like us, what do you want? Do you really just want us to give up and leave and stop being health conscious and helping people? Is playing in the fun and games forums just too far - should we just be happy that we met most of our goals and just go away so we dont accidentally allow our success to hurt anyone's feelings. Are our little internet comments actually derailing your fitness goals and personal well-being?
then just stop trying to judge an entire group of people that you couldn't even name if someone asked you to point them out.
Please.
we have to be allowed to play somewhere on this freaking site.
She didnt put this in support and motivation, she put it in Chit Chat, Fun and Games. She set the tone. that's all. Please please please stop being one of the people that believe that there is a group of people on this website that is your enemy.
i cant take it anymore.
edited for spelling before i get shredded for that ish too0 -
Just break up.
You are an idiot.
That hurt my feelings.. reported.
Awww That is too bad. Since I am sure you comment was SO helpful to this poor girl who was really hurt. Hope you feel better.
why didnt you say the same thing to jsiricos? she said the same thing.0 -
It's just what a large group of people (and you ALL know who you are) post when they have nothing better to say.
I see this sentence about 5 times a day - referring to different posts that are left around the chit chat area of MFP that are similar or are inside jokes - it always makes me stabby.
oh these horrible women always having fun. i wish they would just get fat and get off my free weight loss website, horrible creatures, i wish they would all just find G....
really getting beaten down by all these people who wake up and decide to hate people on the internet who are silly in the chit chat forum. Like seriously, you dont like us, we can never make you like us, we arent trying to make you like us, what do you want? Do you really just want us to give up and leave and stop being health conscious and helping people? Is playing in the fun and games forums just too far - should we just be happy that we met most of our goals and just go away so we dont accidentally allow our success to hurt anyone's feelings. Are our little internet comments actually derailing your fitness goals and personal well-being?
then just stop trying to judge an entire group of people that you couldn't even name if someone asked you to point them out.
Please.
we have to be allowed to play somewhere on this freaking site.
She didnt put this in support and motivation, she put it in Chit Chat, Fun and Games. She set the tone. that's all. Please please please stop being one of the people that believe that there is a group of people on this website that is your enemy.
i cant take it anymore.
edited for spelling before i get shredded for that ish too
You are so much better with words than I am. All of this times a billion.0 -
He said I wasn't sexy
Um....WTH, is this guy blind or something?!?!? I would say that you a hottie.0 -
Fourteen years ago I had a boyfriend say some really nasty things about me and my body - I had gained over 100 pounds in the time we had been dating, and he told me he was no longer attracted to me, etc. We broke up for this and many other reasons. I have since lost that weight (and gained it back, and then lost it, and then gained again...) But the way that conversation made me feel still sticks with me today. The feelings aren't as strong now, but I still get a knot in the pit of my stomach when I think about the things he said. They were hurtful!
Since then I have worked really hard to become more confident in all areas of my life, and to finally take good care of my body. It's a slow process and I struggle with it at times.
Basically what I'm trying to say is that it's okay to feel so upset and hurt, and know that you can grow and learn from this and become the person you want to be, no matter how much it may hurt to think of things from your past.0 -
It's just what a large group of people (and you ALL know who you are) post when they have nothing better to say.
I see this sentence about 5 times a day - referring to different posts that are left around the chit chat area of MFP that are similar or are inside jokes - it always makes me stabby.
oh these horrible women always having fun. i wish they would just get fat and get off my free weight loss website, horrible creatures, i wish they would all just find G....
really getting beaten down by all these people who wake up and decide to hate people on the internet who are silly in the chit chat forum. Like seriously, you dont like us, we can never make you like us, we arent trying to make you like us, what do you want? Do you really just want us to give up and leave and stop being health conscious and helping people? Is playing in the fun and games forums just too far - should we just be happy that we met most of our goals and just go away so we dont accidentally allow our success to hurt anyone's feelings. Are our little internet comments actually derailing your fitness goals and personal well-being?
then just stop trying to judge an entire group of people that you couldn't even name if someone asked you to point them out.
Please.
we have to be allowed to play somewhere on this freaking site.
She didnt put this in support and motivation, she put it in Chit Chat, Fun and Games. She set the tone. that's all. Please please please stop being one of the people that believe that there is a group of people on this website that is your enemy.
i cant take it anymore.
edited for spelling before i get shredded for that ish too
^ Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. I love it when Yoovie says things because she says it better than any of us ever could.
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He said I wasn't sexy
Um....WTH, is this guy blind or something?!?!? I would say that you a hottie.
This. Dude must have cataracts in his eyes. Oh, and he's a d*****bag.0 -
It's just what a large group of people (and you ALL know who you are) post when they have nothing better to say.
I see this sentence about 5 times a day - referring to different posts that are left around the chit chat area of MFP that are similar or are inside jokes - it always makes me stabby.
oh these horrible women always having fun. i wish they would just get fat and get off my free weight loss website, horrible creatures, i wish they would all just find G....
really getting beaten down by all these people who wake up and decide to hate people on the internet who are silly in the chit chat forum. Like seriously, you dont like us, we can never make you like us, we arent trying to make you like us, what do you want? Do you really just want us to give up and leave and stop being health conscious and helping people? Is playing in the fun and games forums just too far - should we just be happy that we met most of our goals and just go away so we dont accidentally allow our success to hurt anyone's feelings. Are our little internet comments actually derailing your fitness goals and personal well-being?
then just stop trying to judge an entire group of people that you couldn't even name if someone asked you to point them out.
Please.
we have to be allowed to play somewhere on this freaking site.
She didnt put this in support and motivation, she put it in Chit Chat, Fun and Games. She set the tone. that's all. Please please please stop being one of the people that believe that there is a group of people on this website that is your enemy.
i cant take it anymore.
edited for spelling before i get shredded for that ish too
I don't think anyone is my enemy (nor do I care to be quite honest) but I do think it's childish. She clearly posted it for support not for smug "just break up" comments. Is it supportive, genuine, original, sincere, kind, helpful etc? No! It's just someting that the same people post over and over again to amuse each other. If you still find it funny after seeing it posted 100 times a day then more power to you. I don't. I can't take the "just break up" comments (or the multitude of other copy and paste comments that end up on every thread) and you can't take that people complain about them. For the record, I've said this ONE TIME and ONE TIME only because this asinine comment was made on a friends post who I DO CARE about. So if you're lumping me in with people who constantly complain, then I guess you're judging too...0 -
I love you Yoovie. That is all.0
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Nope. The "just break up" comment has nothing to do with this post and is pretty much always disrespectful and unnecessary. She clearly said she wasn't even with him anymore but good try attempting to make it relevant... It's just what a large group of people (and you ALL know who you are) post when they have nothing better to say. It's old~very old. It was funny maybe the first or second time. Come up with some new material already! :yawn::
Actually, she mentioned they were trying to make it work as friends. So yes, it is relevant. She needs to just break up with him, forget about him, move one with her life, start dating a better guy (in short - just break up).
It's not meant to be funny, it's meant to be direct.
Yes, meant to be funny...never funny to the OP though, huh?0 -
It's just what a large group of people (and you ALL know who you are) post when they have nothing better to say.
I see this sentence about 5 times a day - referring to different posts that are left around the chit chat area of MFP that are similar or are inside jokes - it always makes me stabby.
oh these horrible women always having fun. i wish they would just get fat and get off my free weight loss website, horrible creatures, i wish they would all just find G....
really getting beaten down by all these people who wake up and decide to hate people on the internet who are silly in the chit chat forum. Like seriously, you dont like us, we can never make you like us, we arent trying to make you like us, what do you want? Do you really just want us to give up and leave and stop being health conscious and helping people? Is playing in the fun and games forums just too far - should we just be happy that we met most of our goals and just go away so we dont accidentally allow our success to hurt anyone's feelings. Are our little internet comments actually derailing your fitness goals and personal well-being?
then just stop trying to judge an entire group of people that you couldn't even name if someone asked you to point them out.
Please.
we have to be allowed to play somewhere on this freaking site.
She didnt put this in support and motivation, she put it in Chit Chat, Fun and Games. She set the tone. that's all. Please please please stop being one of the people that believe that there is a group of people on this website that is your enemy.
i cant take it anymore.
edited for spelling before i get shredded for that ish too
I don't think anyone is my enemy (nor do I care to be quite honest) but I do think it's childish. She clearly posted it for support not for smug "just break up" comments. Is it supportive, genuine, original, sincere, kind, helpful etc? No! It's just someting that the same people post over and over again to amuse each other. If you still find it funny after seeing it posted 100 times a day then more power to you. I don't. I can't take the "just break up" comments (or the multitude of other copy and paste comments that end up on every thread) and you can't take that people complain about them. For the record, I've said this ONE TIME and ONE TIME only because this asinine comment was made on a friends post who I DO CARE about. So if you're lumping me in with people who constantly complain, then I guess you're judging too...
Way to hijack a thread! Three little words have sent you in such a tizzy!
BTW... I Yoovie too! 0 -
Why do you care about what some *kitten* who is probably making up for his lack of a d*** by acting like one has to say? He is bringing nothing positive to your life. Don't let people like that bring you down. My ex told me I was a cold heartless b**** that was incapable of loving someone when I told his lying, drug abusing criminal a** that there was no chance we'd ever get back together and I wasn't going to be acting like I was still his girl. Don't need that shiz in your life
You need to feel confident and sexy about YOU, you should not need someone else to tell you that. And when a**holes like him makes those kinds of comments it just rolls off your back.0
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