Secretly Wishing Your Ex Gets Fat/ter

SleepingBeauty12345

my ex is a **** 90% of the time! but i wouldnt wish health probs on the man.hes my kids daddy,therefore i want him to be around for a long time and healthy!
but yes its normal to feel that way! lol

CalJur

Didn't have to wish. Reality!

YoungDoc2B

Why would you wish something that YOU struggle with on somebody else?

My0WNinspiration

I wish my EX nothing but the best.

shining_light

My ex is still freaking gorgeous, and I wish nothing but the best for him. He's a good man and teaches karate. He always tried to encourage me to be healthier, and I know he's very proud of me for where I am in my life. I have nothing but good things to say about him and while a relationship would never work between us again, I wish him all the best and hope he feels the same about me.

IF he was a jerk, however, yep, I'd probably wish that on him. :P

DaughterOfTheMostHighKing

lol!!!! I laugh because the gentleman who encouraged me to join him on this journey on mfp is no longer here (his profile is but he's mia) and he's gained quite a bit of weight. too bad... BUT I am found by my husband to be and I'm lighter, fit, healthy, and so is he! it's all good.

I actually hope the gentleman finds his way out of fat... he's not lazy... he's a hard worker, and he enjoys food...

davidpearly

my ex and I dated for 7 years.... the last 3 turned into her treating me like crap, walking all over me, and verbally abusing me about a lot of things including my weight..... she has always been skinny and eats what ever she wants.... so secretly would I love to hit my goal and find out she has gained a ton of weight, yeah a little.... I know its wrong to feel that way but what's a guy to do lol

brigettelouray

I wish this everyday on most of them bc they deserve it for putting me thru hell!! bwhahahahaha

Jersey_Devil

don't think about it one bit. i focus on myself.

Timshel_

Is this normal?

I can't say that seeing girls that I knew in high school that wouldn't give me the time of da, seeing them struggling does give me some wrongly directed satisfaction. But I don't wish that on anyone really. Just part of being human I suppose.

Rise above it though.

joycebug

I would rather my ex's wife get fatter...karma's a b*&$%

salcha76

I was a size 28 when with my ex....now a 10....and he has gained 2-4 inches on his pant size at least.....I don't wish evil on him, but silently I'm super proud of myself for improving....Yes...it's normal. But don't focus on it...everyone gets what is coming to them....be proud of yourself & keep up the good work for you (and yes...sometime i'm sure you'll run into him & look fantastic & the look in his eyes will be satisfaction enough!)

BlackStarDeceiver

I'm not sure it's possible.

Micahroni84

Nope- I've been fat, hell I am still fat- I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

Growing up I was the fat kid in my family even though I wasn't fat. My sister was tiny- like under 100 pounds tiny. After her second child she quickly ballooned up to my size, maybe a little bigger. People always asked me if I was happy she got fat or if I felt some kind of "redemption"- that answer is NO- I feel bad!

This^

Jribeiro86

I generally wish only good things for people who have come and go from my life for various reasons.

BUT, that being said, I have an ex who was obsessed with fitness when we dated and had already lost A LOT of weight by the time we got together… I thought that was awesome and encouraged him with his transformation because it made him so happy to be fit, active, and, eventually, quite buff. Meanwhile, on the flip side, I would watch what I ate a little bit here and there, but mostly did my own thing because I was happy with myself and I figured he was too. (Just a note here—I hate to say it, but there’s a dull pain that comes with being the big girl with a hot boyfriend. No one ever gets it, and thinks he can do better. *sigh*) Now, jump ahead in the relationship-- he was acting weirdly distant for a while, but I knew he was busy with a lot of things in his life like work and his dance fitness program and blah blah blah whatever else he had going on, so I didn’t push him. Two days after my birthday that year he told me he wanted to end it because he was getting a lot of female attention all of a sudden and basically said that he didn’t find large, curvy women (i.e. ME) attractive any more. -_- That would be bad enough, but a month later he texted a mutual friend all of these lovey dovey photos of him with… wait for it… HIS DANCE INSTRUCTOR.

…So yeah, a part of me wishes he’d gain a little or go a tad bald or something. haha

akaMrsmojo

I think it is a normal coping mechanism when someone you love hurts you.

My ex hurt me so bad it took 18 years to get over and I finally laid into when our son graduated from high school. I told him exactly how I felt and what he was. I finally got closure.

I think wishing or get enjoyment shows there is still pain.

My ex did get fat BTW, I saw his wedding photos on Facebook, complete with a Lego/Stars Wedding. The fat was a non-issue, now Darth Vador as groomsman made me giggle my a** off.

KJFairywings

Ha Ha! But we LOVE your bad behavior and you are NOT alone!!! I know my EX has gotten fat and his little hag too!!!

skinnyinnotime

I can't imagine for a second how any ex's of mine being fat makes any difference to my life....nope, just can't see how that works.

fimary

hahah.. I felt the same.. still do actually..

Thank God I'm not alone!

ditto

hmp1130

I wish the same thing about my husband's ex all the time... she's constantly remarking on my weight and making fun of me to my SD and it annoys the crap out of me, so that is another motivation of mine to get thin since her making fun of me being fat is the only thing she has... my list however goes on and on for her.

mcshoelovin22

Im wishing to work out and get fit so when my ex stalks my FB and IG he can see how good I look and DROOL! This is my revenge.

digitalbill

My ex wife got fat and it did make me smile.
I never really wished it upon her nor did I have any reason to think she would put on weight but, when my Son showed me her facebook page, I was honestly suprised.
and yes, I will admit that with all of the heartache she caused me, I was a bit happy to see that now that she lost her good looks, she had nothing.

ItsCasey

What a load of saintly people there is on here. Never thinking a bad thought about an ex, only ever wishing them well. In the land of bunnies, candy floss, rainbows and special snowflakes everything must be perfect.

That's a little over the top. Nobody said anything about never having bad thoughts about an ex. But I just don't see the point in hoping an ex gets fat or, worse, celebrating upon the discovery that he/she did, in fact, gain a lot of weight. What difference does it make in your life, honestly? If your ex is fat now, does that make your life better? If your ex went and got super hot, does that make your life worse? It's all in YOUR head. It's got nothing to do with them. If someone else's misery makes you happy, that's pretty freaking messed up.

perfectingpatti

Is this normal?

Perhaps at your age it is normal. I just don't think that wanting others to feel bad so you feel better is ever a good choice. If you have to put others down to make yourself feel better, you need to work on yourself.

perfectingpatti

If someone else's misery makes you happy, that's pretty freaking messed up.

What I was trying to say!

legnarevocrednu

I don't really care if he gets fat, I just want him to find someone who treats him like he treated me. Karma baby...karma.

lizzybethclaire

randomly decided to facebook stalk my ex two days ago - holy cow he's gotten fat........... YAY:blushing:

Do you not hear how rude that makes you sound?

Yeah - I know - I'm a bad person.

You're not a bad person. He made himself fat just like most of us on this site made ourselves fat. I wouldn't want any of my ex's to see me right now, but I wouldn't mind once I hit goal weight :laugh:

MightyDomo

I don't think that way but I understand why. Not everybody wishes the best on an ex because it's easier to feel better when you wish it that way.

However I don't wish unwell on my exes, I just hope that one day they realize what they lost because I am a good catch

imchicbad

I thought death and pain was the wish not fat. But hey who am I to judge. I ll leave it to God, he does a GREAT job.

contingencyplan

I'm in the same boat as imchicbad. Death, pain, horrible horrible things that go way beyond fat.