marriage or friendship?
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there's no rule on when or if to get married. have fun. if you find your person, then commit - maybe marriage, maybe just agreeing that you're it for each other, whatever works for you -, if you don't find your person, keep having fun.0
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It depends on what you want. My husband was 30 and single when we met and almost 32 when we got married. Before that, he wasn't really ready to settle down, I don't think.
I was the opposite and got married the first time at 18, divorced 4 years later, met my current husband when I was 23 and married him when I was 25. I didn't really enjoy the dating scene all that much. I'm more of a one person woman.0 -
At 28 I'd say don't worry about it.0
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Look within. Not on a fitness website for the answer to this.0
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I don't think it has to be that black or white... If you're enjoying your dating life now then keep at it. If you happen to meet that special someone that you know you can't live without then you settle down (whether that means marriage or some other form of long term commitment). Just don't feel like you HAVE to marry someone because that's what other people are telling you. That's not fair to you, or the other person. When the time is right for you, if it ever is, you'll know it.0
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I got married when I was 18 and my husband was 20. We are still married, amost 23 years later. If I had it to do all over again, I would wait a long time before I got married. I would still marry my husband, but I would wait. Have fun! Enjoy life! Don't sweat marriage.0
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there's no rule on when or if to get married. have fun. if you find your person, then commit - maybe marriage, maybe just agreeing that you're it for each other, whatever works for you -, if you don't find your person, keep having fun.
What maab said.
I personally think no one should get married before the age of 30. So much about you changes between your 20s and 30s.0 -
Don't get married. Just find a woman you hate and buy her a house.0
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28! Get out there and have fun!0
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I didn't get married till I was 31.. I lived my life, did what I wanted to do ( even though I got arrested once or twice) and only settled down when I was ready...
Live life and do what you want to do..you'll know when the right woman comes along.0 -
Its better to have pants0
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Don't get married. Just find a woman you hate and buy her a house.
Pretty much this.0 -
Here's my 2 cents...over time I went from the traditional get married to what I think today. If you don't want kids, or don't want kids now, stay single. Doesn't mean you can't have a steady or longer term relationship, but I personally think marriage is, primarily, for those people whom want to have children. Once you decide to get married and have children, stay married and work on it. I think that once you make the decision to have children, you need to be responsible for those decisions, and aware of what the history means to them. However, it takes two and sometimes the best intentions fall through the floor if other person thinks differently, and more about themselves, or a lifestyle situation exists where it is best for spouse and children to move on. There might be situations where someone actually thinks they met their "soul mate", however, I think, in the end, time and life changes can eventually affect even those types of relationships.
Listen to your "gut"...if it says no or is hesitant...don't ! I truly think you will be far more right, for you, than wrong.0 -
It depends on what you want. My husband was 30 and single when we met and almost 32 when we got married. Before that, he wasn't really ready to settle down, I don't think.
I was the opposite and got married the first time at 18, divorced 4 years later, met my current husband when I was 23 and married him when I was 25. I didn't really enjoy the dating scene all that much. I'm more of a one person woman.
Wow...this is almost exactly me....except for the first marriage. My husband and I met when he was 30 and I was 22. He had had lots of girlfriends but had pretty much resigned himself to the bachelor life. And then he met me!
I had never been in a serious relationship. Pretty much I knew that I wanted to find someone to spend the rest of my life with and didn't mess with casual dating. We got married when he was 33 and I was 25. 0 -
Do both, just don't let your wife catch you dating.0
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Look within. Not on a fitness website for the answer to this.
This...plus, there are no specific ages that make it worth it or not...find who is right for you...you will know..
My coworker just got married this September for the first time...she's 53 and she's absolutely in love..she's also has a lot of friggan hysterical stories of her life. Age doesn't matter as much as finding the right person.0 -
Thanks for all your beautiful comments.
I will be 29 next moth. by mistake I mentioned 28.
Many of you guys recommend me to have fun instead of worrying about marriage. but does having fun and marriage opose each other?
Besides, I am thinking after the age 30 people gradually lose their fresh, healthy appearance. Isn't it a matter of concern? I might not have he same opportunities.
Some people around me push me to go ahead. It will get late!!!
I always had the fear to lose the quality of life I have know after being married
I don't really know what to do.0 -
Do you mean I am still young to marry?
What is an ideal age?0 -
Get married... or don't. Do you need a partner in life to be happy? Will you be satisfied with your life if it doesn't have another person involved? Do you feel the need to have that one piece of paper committing you to the same person for the rest of your life? (Or until divorce obv).
Meh, if you want to... you will. If you don't, I think we as a species are more than capable of living full lives without a spouse.
(This being said I've been married 9 yrs and it's been a hell of a lot of work. So be prepared for it)0 -
I will be 28 years old by next month and single.
I am still doubtfull whether marriage is good? or it isbetter to have dates?
What is your opinion?
Dude, if you aren't sure...don't do it.
Same goes for kids0 -
It's a trap!!! Don't do it!!!0
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Its better to have pants
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Big fan of pants.0 -
If you are not ready to be married, or don't think marriage is a good idea, then you are 100% correct. Aside from that, marriage works or doesn't, as a choice by those in it.0
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Do you mean I am still young to marry?
What is an ideal age?
You are from Iran... Do you celebrate arranged marriages? Is this where the question is driven from? (serious question...)0 -
If you have to ask, you're not ready. I mean that with all sincerity. I married my high school sweetheart at 21, we are coming up on 13 years of marriage, with 3 kids. It's not all rainbows and unicorns, but he is my best friend. Do I wish I had enjoyed my 20's before jumping into marriage and kids? Absolutely! But I wouldn't trade them for anything.0
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are you in a relationship that you love and feel you can't go one more day without or want to spend the rest of your life with? IF so, then marriage is fine. If not, then don't do it.0
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I agree, not a black and white situation. I never thought marriage was for me until my fiance and i started dating. Sometime it takes the right person, some people prefer to just be commited in their own way, do what works for you. and you are only 28, its cool, you have time to figure it out0
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Besides, I am thinking after the age 30 people gradually lose their fresh, healthy appearance. Isn't it a matter of concern? I might not have he same opportunities.
Wrong...take care of your body and you'll be fine. Plus, best time of your sex life starts in your 30's. Woowoo!0 -
My fiance was 38 when we met and always said he would NEVER get married... needless to say he changed his mind. To each their own, if you enjoy being single then that's what's best for you. Or, you may find someone at some point down the road that changes that.0
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I honestly thought I would never meet anyone that I could picture myself marrying....after dating a lot in high school and college you realize what you really find attractive in someone and what you don't... I'm almost 27 and I found Josh (my boyfriend) when I was 25. He's shown me such unconditional love thru a lot of hard times (illness, surgery, my mom's death 6 months ago, etc)... He's my best friend and now I can't picture my life without him... We make each other laugh uncontrollably sometimes, we go to the gym together, but most importantly we talk about everything...Finding someone who you can be good friends with is important! I think it just takes time and you getting out there to meet new people and just have fun! Don't set a timeline because you will only frustrate yourself. Good luck to you!0
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