Most hurtful comments

sarge1109

I've had several people ask me if I was pregnant--the lastest being my 500 lb aunt! Inside I'm boiling but on the outside I'm all nice and play it off. People are so rude and inconsiderate!

april1445

I think in our society, being overweight is the last great sin. Drug addicts and criminals get more understanding than fat people.

1ocean1girl

Ugh. I have been screamed at from cars more times than I could count, many times while I was pushing a baby stroller or just generally had children in tow. Then, one time, I was walking down the street, and I had a red shirt on and someone yelled "Hey, Kool-Aid!" from a second floor window. I didn't wear red for almost 10 years after that. I will never understand the ease with which some people inflict serious emotional scars on others, just for fun.

People have yelled at me too from cars while I was pushing my baby stroller, why is that? Plus I have been called fat, pig, overweight for too many years. But the jokes on them; I have the power to get healthy and fit - and they will always be miserable, lonely, a**holes.

hickorycutie

When i was in school i use to get called "Miss Piggy" and still do from time to time... People can be sooo rude and cruel in todays society... I sure wish i had Miss Piggy's money... That diva is rich and famous!!!! lol

whitesox56

I have to get this off my chest. I had a man "Oink" at me. He was a middle aged, well dressed man, who passed by me as I came out of the cupcake shop as I was picking up cupcakes for a birthday celebration in my office. He made 2 "oink" sounds as he passed by me and went on his merry way - probably feeling pretty good about himself that he was able to point out that I was fat. Thank you stranger, for making me feel bad about myself. Also, on another occasion, I was in Mexico with my family. Anyone who knows me knows that I can't pass by a stray animal without helping. So I bring ziplock bags with me and put some food from the buffets in it and after dinner I go to feed the local strays. I filled up a bag at dinner and took it to feed this tiny little beautiful white cat that was living under the sidewalk in a little hole. Later that night, a guy at the bar says to me "Did you get enough to eat at dinner?" I was confused for a moment then realized him and his wife were next to us and he probably saw me stuffing meat into my purse. "Yes, thank you, why do you ask" he kindly let me know that the buffets were open til midnight and if the 3 plates i had (soup, dinner and dessert, thanks for counting!) weren't enough, then I had a problem. He also walked away, quite proud of himself. I have never told anyone this, and I hate the fact that I am even dignifying their ignorance, but it hurt. Anyone else want to vent and let go of comments that have hurt them?

How rude!! WTF is wrong with people????

Jerrypeoples

I rarely listen to what anyone has to see about me. whether good or bad, I am always my own harshest critic. I am sure I have been called names and i have two particular memories of my adult life where it has been said but more in innocent manner from my friends young kids. Sure i wanted to shake the **** out of them and see how far i could hammer throw them by their feet but apparently that is frowned upon by society.

as long as i am content with myself people can say whatever they like

lyndsaysutton82

I once had a perverted old man tell me "I'd be so pretty if I just lost weight" (after I'd rejected his offer to meet him for illicit activities). I smiled and said "You can fix fat, but you can fix your ugliness". I then promptly had my boss escort him from the office for being a nasty pervert (those earlier comments I've chosen not to mention) and tell him he was no longer welcome at our place of business.

My future niece once meanly (not the cute innocent type of "what kids say" kind of kid) asked me if I was related to Santa because I was fat. I told this precocious 7 year old that I was and that if she kept being mean to people, that she wouldn't get any presents. Needless to say, that was nipped in the bud.

I've been yelled at from cars, both when I was much younger, and as an adult. And you know what I did? I continued to hold my head high. I may have gone home and felt like crap, but I refused to give my tormentors that satisfaction. People use us "fluffy" individuals to make themselves feel better about what ever is going on in their lives, and we have to remember that.

I've always been told that my "feisty confidence" is my best feature, and no matter what size I am, I will stand up for myself. Like I said back when I was 18. I can loose weight, but those a-holes can't loose their ugly souls.

Hmmcglothl

I feel very sad that this happened to you. I've had many similar experiences. When I was at my thinnest it was " Wow, you need to eat a cheese burger." with a disgusted look and the lady walked away. In middle school there were no seats on the bus and the ONLY place I had to sit was next to this boy who apparently was embarrassed to have me sit by him. He yells in front of the whole bus, "You can't sit here!! Your *kitten* is too fat!! " After I had my son, I was at my heaviest weight of 170 lbs and now I get ALL THE TIME
"When are you due?"
"Are you pregnant?"
"When you were thin you looked really lanky.."
"She's your height but much smaller than you"
"You only weight 168 lbs? You look a lot heavier than that!"
and the worst one was when I took my son to the fair to ride a ride and the operator who didn't speak English points to the sign that says "Cannot ride if pregnant". I wasn't pregnant and actually had a cute little dress on. You see, I've gained 25 lbs but I'm 5"8" and weigh 168. Not THAT overweight for people to be making so many comments. I have the condition where my stomach muscles are stretched out and you continue to look pregnant long after you give birth, if not forever. It's incredibly difficult to fix this but I've come to terms that EVEN if I lose my 25lbs, I will still look pregnant! I've just decided that the next time someone asks me when I'm due, I going to tell them any minute. They'll think I look great for a 9 month pregnant lady Needless to say that people are *kitten* and I've got a pretty thick skin. Next time someone says something to you I'd suggest you say "Instead of paying attention to my body, it looks like you need to be paying more attention to yours" and then punch them in the face or walk away knowing they must have a terrible life.

roiLEI1554

ouch....never realized how completely RUDE people could be....
though i'd have to say i'd be lying if i never judged someone (at least a little) by how they dressed or by how much they weighed. but there's NO NEED to say such things to people's faces. their circumstances are their own and can be totally different from what other people might assume

excuse my language, but, what an a**hole. seriously.

metsey

He's scum... His opinion is worthless on what matters. Ignore him.

NessV2

I am so very sorry that happened to you. What a jerk. He is truly unhappy with himself or he wouldn't treat other human beings so poorly. Hang in there, you are beautiful, sincerely. Karma will come his way.

MyChocolateDiet

Is it possible the well dressed oinker was a well dressed snorter? I've heard people make some pretty crass and rude noises when clearing their sinus in public. Just this week a lady at a restaurant was doing it and it's pretty gross at dinner, but I must say another guy was doing it on the treadmill next to me and it was just so loud and so distracting...not to him of course since he had his little earbuds in but I was working out with a buddy and wanted to hear her conversation not his sinus contents. I didn't tell the lady because she was overweight and I felt that she might think I was being mean to her for being fat, instead of that I was being mean to her for being gross with her nose. Honestly if it takes more than 3 attempts to clear it's time to excuse yourself and go take care of matters elsewhere, bathroom, outside anywhere out of earshot.

Which brings me to my next point. Is is possible the man had no idea you have this strange habit/practice albeit saintly it's strange to take food home to strays? Is it possible he was mad because taking food from buffets is usually not allowed? It's bad form, like kind of in bad taste. If you order off the menu and take a doggy bag and give it to whomever you want but at buffets and the like, it's not really the thing to do. Further is is possible he was worried assuming it was for you that you'd end up sick eating meat later instead of just coming down to eat again when hungry again? 3 plates isn't a lot and I've noticed people getting up multiple times at those things up to 7 just to try different things, or not mix foods on one plate, not be piggish, that's not a big deal. I think the weird part would be if I saw someone after having unlimited reign over a buffet, feel the strange need to take food home. That's what raises eyebrows. How could he know you do this feeding thing with strays? Try not to take things so personal, and the only person it will benefit is you.

The other day the car scraped leaving a driveway with my husband. When I said ouch, he said it didn't do that earlier before you were in the car. I gave him a sideways glance and he said "i didn't mean it like that", I just meant that this driveway is steep but it can handle one adult and one kid, if you went through without me it'd be ok too, just not us both together. He was informing me so if I needed to go that way again, without him, it's ok. But since I am self conscious about my weight I am looking for other people to be hyper conscious of it too. But they are not. Most people are so self involved, busy, stressed, motivated, etc. to care about our little issues which here seem so big but are really just a drop in the bucket. Try not to take other peoples sinus troubles or buffet economy issues to heart. I may be wrong, but when given the option don't try to think of the worst possible explanation it'll make YOU feel better, and that's why I'm writing this.

Kadesha72

Reading this post and all these comments is heartbreaking!!! I want to reply to ALL of them!!! AAAA.

I never realized how much of an effect my mother had on me until I was older (as most of us do)... but she would always say, "Boys like 26-36-26....." she said it often, and no matter who was there. I had this pointed out to me by a friend from those days, who was always a little heavy, she remembered my mother making those comments. When she said that, I remembered my mom saying that and I was horrified, because then MY bad self esteem made more sense, and I was horrified that she had said this thing to ME, but in front of Beth, who was actually over weight.... she always harped on these things to me, yet I was actually 120 lbs, 5'8".... I WAS 26-36-26... (oh for those days!!! LOL).

And in reference to the man who's wife seems angry at his loss of weight.... my husband was in a very long relationship before he met me, and this lady had always been heavier, until after 10 years, she somehow lost LOTS of weight really fast (I say that because she didn't really look good, ya know, I think it might've been drugs or something).... but the point is... there was all sorts of other things going on that caused their relationship to end, but what HE remembers is she got skinny and left him.

He prefers thicker women, but has no judgements about peoples weight... but I think he worries about me losing... I think deep inside he thinks I'll realize I deserve better or something. (which is crap....but negative memories stick much harder than good ones....)

efirkey

The most hurtful comment made to me was by my grandmother. It was a small family gathering and my relatives had make a pot luck type of dinner with home made baked beans, macaroni and cheese, etc. I was the first one out to the kitchen and I was about to make my plate when my grandmother told me not to go first because I would eat all of the baked beans like I was some type of greedy, inconsiderate, fat pig. I was very embarassed and hurt. I was about 40 pounds over weight at the time, but for some reason this comment hurt me more than any other comment I had ever received in my life.

I left the house and went and sat on a rock by myself crying. This is actually bringing tears to my eyes remembering this. A short while later my aunt who is herself overweight came and consoled me and she told me she new exactly how I felt and not to listen to my grandmother, that she was a bitter old woman.

The one good thing that came out of that day was that I felt a deeper bond to my Aunt. Unfortunately, I never looked at or spoke to my grandmother again. Not even when she was on her deathbed a couple of years later. I wish I could have forgiven her while she was still alive.

bethFromDayton

Because of the teasing all through school from being very overweight, suffering from gynecomastia and not having attention from girls like most of his peers he bottled up all the pain and now is a very emotionless, cruel, abusive( mentally,verbally, and, physically), insensitive, and has even resorted to picking on others especially when they are down so he feels better about himself. He has admitted that he would stay with me forever even unhappy just because of my looks.

This saddened me to read. He might be willing to stay with you forever--but if he's emotionless, cruel, abusive, and insensitive, why are you willing to stay with him?

SammieAus

I've had things said to me (or around me) all my life about my weight. And mostly from people I know which can hurt more. When I was in elementary/middle school my grandfather told me I was getting big...I looked like a football player:frown: . I also had a friend tell me (after I started gaining the weight back that I lost) that I reminded him of the Michelin Man (all of my stomach rolls) :huh:
Comments hurt, but you can turn that into your motivation! :flowerforyou:

losingweightfindingme

I've gotten a wide array of descriptions of "fat" in describing me. One guy I met actually called me "seasonably plump" (it was around the holidays). I proceeded to pull a $5 bill out of my purse and handed it to him. When he asked why, I told him, "in 20+ years of battling a weight problem I had never heard that one...I should probably reward you for that stroke of genius. Thank you for such an astounding observation. I'll now stop trying to fit into those damn size 0 jeans."

He left me alone on campus after that...and actually approached me in the hallways before graduation to apologize. Sarcasm and snark tend to be my defense mechanism.

gabi_texanmom

i agree, the mean comments hurt most when they come from people you interact with daily. i was really skinny as a child, gained my weight in college, then got pregnant last year of college. after graduation i was about 60lbs heavier than when i started college. my family and people i hadnt seen since H.S. would HAVE TO comment on my weight. thanks for letting me know because i had no idea i was 60lbs heavier...geez! i'd get the "what happened to you?!?" i hated that one the most!!

i didnt lose the baby weight for a few years. then when i started working out and eating better and lost the weight, i got so many nasty comments about how all my weight would come back if i ate even a bite of something non-diet (such as birthday cake or a quesadilla). UGH some people just love to be negative.

then i struggled with infertility and tried for 6yrs to get pregnant. i gained about 20lbs over the course of a couple years due to hormone therapy and surgeries. i finally got pregnant with my 2nd baby girl and gained about 30lbs during the pregnancy. i hate when people want to comment now on my weight...why would they even ask if my baby was 'worth it'??? what is wrong with people?

amandanilo

Let me first say that in high school, I weighed 130lbs. I thought I was fat because I was constantly tormented by this one group of guys. It was SO hurtful. So hurtful, that to this day, I still think about it and it still bothers me. However, a few years ago I saw one of them - working at a gas station. It was great. Anyways...I WISH I weighed 135 again. That's my goal.
Also, about 6 years ago, I had a guy tell me he couldnt date me because I needed to lose weight and he couldn't get past it. Well, here I am, in a great almost 3 year relationship with a guy and he's lonely.
All these hurtful comments are now my motivation to get fit and healthy again. Never give up, and certainly don't let other people dictate how you should feel about yourself.

titleagent

What a rude thing to say! And who is he to judge you?