Anyone else shy about working out in front of their spouse?

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  • victoriannsays
    victoriannsays Posts: 568 Member
    I used to be so shy about it and lock him out of the living room when I worked out.

    Now Im WAY over it, I was sick of planning my workouts around when he was going to be home. The only thing I wont do in front of him is lifting - but my rack is in the garage :)
  • ConleighS
    ConleighS Posts: 1,058 Member
    I know my husband is very supportive of anything I do but knowing that he is more physically fit than I am makes me self conscious... example: because of knee issues it is hard for me to do any jumping, so I was doing modified jumping jacks (step out and back in with arm movement), when he came in and just started doing them. I had to make him leave....sadly partly because it upset me that I couldn't do them....
  • MsLadyVirgo
    MsLadyVirgo Posts: 160 Member
    It throws off my concentration when my dude is at home. I recently joined a gym just to avoid him. Although I still do Pilates and use the Wii @ home, but I kick him out. :huh:

    Like someone else mentioned, I don’t mind the treadmill – it’s the coordinated work-outs that get me.
  • misymousie
    misymousie Posts: 20
    I work out when my Husband is at work! He thinks I'm trying to be sexual and I never get to finish my workout. lol!:laugh:
  • emmalouc93
    emmalouc93 Posts: 328 Member
    Yes!! I thought I was the only one.

    I workout in the bedroom and he is in the sitting room.

    I know he wouldn't laugh or judge, but I just feel I do more if no one is watching. I could never survive in a class ha ha!

    He has seen anything and everything possible - but not me working out.

    We have worked out together sometimes but I always just feel conscious about it.


    There is also the fact we just end up messing and laughing if we do it together... I am more serious on my own hahaha.

    As for the comment above - Yoga with your partner only ends in one way! :P
  • spirit80
    spirit80 Posts: 327 Member
    Thats is my preferred work out partner!
  • Rosie040522
    Rosie040522 Posts: 14 Member
    I can usually get my husband to join me in a workout, he even watches me at some points(not to make fun), but to see if watching me do the moves will make it any easier to do them himself. I am pretty self-conscious...and I will not do it while other family is home, but I do not mind my husband being around or watching. When I first started I was really shy even to do it in front of him, but being that we started together working out to the same dvds, it was easier for me to just do the best I could no matter what I looked like. ;0)
  • tennesseeleigh
    tennesseeleigh Posts: 169
    My husband was front in center for the birth of our son after 40+ hours of labor. He held one of my legs up and open while I pushed. I'm pretty sure there's nothing I could do as part of a workout that would top that. :-) That said, prior to being pregnant/giving birth/breastfeeding, I was terribly self-conscious about him seeing me when I wasn't at my best so I can relate.
  • MrsPong
    MrsPong Posts: 580 Member
    I work out with my husband at the gym. Sometimes I don't like it because I will "jiggle" when I jump or whatever. I try to get over it but hey sometimes it does get to me. He's there to help me... so I know he doesnt care all that much.
  • wrotruck
    wrotruck Posts: 72 Member
    We have a rule at our house: If you're working so am I and if I'm working you better be too.

    So she doesn't care because if she starts a workout, I join in and we do it togeather.

    (She borrowed some kind of "pole dancing excercise" DVD from a friend once... Suddenly I was working late... ALOT.)
  • iceqieen
    iceqieen Posts: 862 Member
    mine laughs. I laugh with him :)
  • MsLadyVirgo
    MsLadyVirgo Posts: 160 Member
    Agree. I so luv the quiet "Me Time". I’m also annoyed by folks wanting to chat-it-up @ the gym. Yhackedy, Yhack, Yhack!
    I'm not shy about it but I look at it as MY time, just for ME. I also in a zone so I hate to have an audience because I lose focus.
  • prettymorbidity
    prettymorbidity Posts: 138 Member
    its not just you. i am terrified to work out in front of my boyfriend. its hard cause that means i have to get up early or run home super fast to finish before he gets there. im embarrassed about not being able to do pushups and other things. im afraid he will round the corner and my big butt is in the air....lol.....i know he would be totally supportive, but i am so self concious, i would be afraid i would be too worried about if he was lookin at me that i may not do as good of job .....i just don't want him to see me jiggle....... just for him to see results........ the question isn't his supportiveness, its my self concious!
  • treehopper1987
    treehopper1987 Posts: 505 Member
    I work out when my Husband is at work! He thinks I'm trying to be sexual and I never get to finish my workout. lol!:laugh:

    LOL :laugh: This happens to me sometimes too
  • prettymorbidity
    prettymorbidity Posts: 138 Member
    mine laughs. I laugh with him :)

    how?! plz tell me how you laugh? cause workouts for me sometimes end with me in tears because im trying so hard but cant do it all or finish! im terrified to work out in front of him. i shouldn't be because we are both really comedic people, but this is a very sensitive issue.......one reason i am working out is to work out my mental self concious problems. i feel like as i get thinner it would be easier to do in front of him .....im just a little jealous cause i wanna laugh and not care and still focus on the video ! :laugh:
  • MsLadyVirgo
    MsLadyVirgo Posts: 160 Member
    Yeah. My fella thinks that he's a "Super Star" too. We tried playing racquet ball together and he went in straight combat mode.
    My husband thinks he's God's gift to comedy AND he ran D1 track in college so he thinks he's a flipping exercise expert. It's better for our marriage that we workout seperately!
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    I work out with my girlfriend, meaning I bench, squat and deadlift her.

    I'm gonna bench my housemate tonight :)
  • usafamedic
    usafamedic Posts: 2
    I'm not shy about working out in front of my hubby. He's never laughed at me (he knows better!). However, he likes to "cheer" me on. Then there are other days where he'll sneak in a grope or "oooh yeah!" every time I bend over. He thinks he's being funny/cute, but it's really distracting and annoying. So I try to do my workout before he gets home and I can focus. Sometimes I have no choice though.
  • n0ob
    n0ob Posts: 2,390 Member
    I would get [censored] so much more if she was there to watch me workout...
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    I don't have a spouse, but I do have a boyfriend, and we do some things together (hiking, for example). But I'm not so sure it would be a good idea for us to do our regular workouts together. We have very different philosophies. He loves running. I hate all forms of traditional cardio. He likes isolation lifts. I pretty much only do compound lifts. It is better for our relationship if we avoid having that argument all the time.
  • leannems
    leannems Posts: 516 Member
    I am not embarrassed to work out in front of my husband, but he's a bit embarrassed to do some work outs in front of me. He says he doesn't want me to hear him breathing heavy. So when he does his workouts and I'm at home, I just go in the other room and do something else. No biggie.

    You could ask your husband to do the same.
  • 1brokegal44
    1brokegal44 Posts: 562 Member
    My husband is supportive and honestly, he could use some working out too. Maybe you could you ask your spouse if he'd workout with you instead of watching--then it's a joint effort.
  • prettymorbidity
    prettymorbidity Posts: 138 Member
    I would always ask my husband to go do something while I worked out, but after time I don't care if he watches me... Most of the time he just watches tv while I am watching my workout videos on the computer... Show him what you got!! If anything he may become more attractive to you:) when he sees you working so hard!!! After I am finished I usually sing "I workout!!" or "I'm sexy and I know it"...lol Life is to short!!! Show it OFF!!! :)

    hahahaha that may help me ! im gonna try to workout in front of boyfriend tonight and im gonna sing that the first comment he makes!
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    My husband is too smart and respectful and mature to laugh at what I'm doing. I would nevertheless NEVER subject his poor little eyes to watching me workout...until I am at goal weight that is! Then he is going to get the surprise of his life when he comes home early on one of his "surprise I'm home early days" to find me doing yoga downward dog in a glitter thong and hoody sweatshirt, with sparkle high tops.
  • ejwme
    ejwme Posts: 318
    My husband teaches martial arts, and I'm super shy of practicing any martial arts in front of him... Or strength or calisthenics because that's what he does professionally.

    But I'm a runner, and I can run circles around him. So he's shy about running with me.

    BUT we both work on things together, because I love when he teaches me Tai Chi and Chi Gong, and he loves getting help on his running form from me. We just try to be respectful and supportive. But sometimes we both end up laughing over the silly things we do. We just try to give each other space. I've found the most difficult thing about it for me is I get super frustrated when I learn something new, and he hates when I'm frustrated. Don't have that problem when I'm the one teaching him, so I try and keep that perspective - everybody starts from where they are and travels their own path.
  • irenematilda
    irenematilda Posts: 45 Member
    I thought I was the only one that felt like this too. Silly, when I think that my husband has seen me giving birth - writhing around in agony and screaming the place down while looking like a beached whale - but he already laughs at my dancing (thankfully my youngest son is old enough to go to the odd gig with me now, and having grown up with it probably thinks ALL mums resemble convulsing windmills when they dance and so takes no notice :)). Hubby is almost 6' 3" (a foot taller than I am), and is built like a bag of knitting needles. He has no clue what it's like to carry extra poundage, and isn't always exactly the last word in tact and sensitivity either.

    There's no way in the world I would work out in front of him at my present weight, but I can see that having to change when I get back down to a weight that's a lot more acceptable (to me), because finding the space and privacy to work out in seems harder than doing the workout itself a lot of the time. My husband works from home, as do I, and so there's seldom a time when he's not here if I am. I get round it at the moment by working out after everyone has gone to bed, and I've also got an interval timer set to mute on my phone, which goes everywhere with me so that I can fit in brief sessions whenever a private opportunity presents itself to me. I've a feeling that I've become a lot more familiar with my bathroom floor in recent weeks than I ought to be :)

    I know my husband is embarrassed by bits of his skinny body too, though - I think I've probably seen his legs about twice in twenty years of marriage. I've a feeling that retaliating to any perceived slights by telling him that he's got kneecaps like knots in cotton won't help us notch up another year, so think I'd better stick to working out in private for while :)
  • reneeroberts_88
    reneeroberts_88 Posts: 31 Member
    I feel silly! I tell him to go find something to do if I am doing a workout video. I don't feel like that on a machine so much!
  • SexyLovinmeCook
    SexyLovinmeCook Posts: 1,393 Member
    Not at all...He just looks and be really impressed with the things I can do....He says actually that he can't believe that I go thru all that...lol
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    No although I really don't work out in front of him when I'm at home because he's usually in the basement working. He has, however, come upstairs and peeked in on me where he laughed and imitated me and I told him to get his butt in here and do it because I guarantee he wouldn't be able to LOL.

    We work out together at the gym anyway.
  • sirabe
    sirabe Posts: 294 Member
    I truly don't like working out in front of anyone in my family. I feel sefl consiscious about my form.

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