Date him or not - help please??

justaweighin
justaweighin Posts: 14
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I have been friendly with this guy on the phone and e-mail for about six years because his firm is one of my Customers and Suppliers, we've always had a huge laugh and can take the mickey out of each other without a second thought, he has always been a terrible flirt.

We met for the first time at a conference before Christmas and carried on as normal, taking the mickey and chatting away. I didn't think anything of it, after all my confidence is non existent and why would someone like him be interested in me?? We have swapped e-mail's and phone calls since then, always in the same way.

Anyway today I jokingly said so where are you taking me for Valentines and he said I thought you didn't do Valentines and anyway I never thought I stood a chance, you must have a whole line of dates lined up. Being me I just laughed as said yeah but I blew them all off hoping for someone better to come along. And then I changed the subject back to work.

Half an hour ago I checked face-book and he has sent me a friend request and messaged me, saying he is serious about taking me out on Thursday Night and that he thought I wasn't interest in him.

Since then been in total panic mode. Head is scrambled and really don't know what the hell is going on, I mean we have been virtual friends for years why would he do this now?? and how do I respond?
What if it is just another joke? I mean I could laugh it off but what if he means it and I blow it?
And if he is serious where do I put him in my life? Strictly speak he is work and therefore as appealing as a dead frog. Work is Work and Play is Play. But he is not one of my colleagues and therefore do the same rules apply. :huh: :frown:
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  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
    Date him if you're interested in him. I don't see the problem..
  • _noob_
    _noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
    Date him if you're interested in him. I don't see the problem..

    BOOO...HISSSSS
  • LittleMissNerdy
    LittleMissNerdy Posts: 792 Member
    It's one date. I say go, have a good time and see what happens.
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
    Do it, if you don't you will always wonder what if.
  • Louttie
    Louttie Posts: 138 Member
    Lifes too short.. you should totally go for it.
  • nashai01
    nashai01 Posts: 536 Member
    I say just go for it. Go on one date and see where it goes. Who knows this may be your husband :0
  • CM9178
    CM9178 Posts: 1,251 Member
    I have to ask, what does "taking the Mickey out" mean?
  • PRMinx
    PRMinx Posts: 4,585 Member
    He's interested. You're interested. Go for it!
  • pinkgumdrop123
    pinkgumdrop123 Posts: 262 Member
    Date him if you're interested in him. I don't see the problem..

    this
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    if you're interested and he's interested, what's one dinner going to hurt? Have fun!
  • Louttie
    Louttie Posts: 138 Member
    I have to ask, what does "taking the Mickey out" mean?

    It means making fun out of someone.. banter
  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
    Why is this even a question? He's blatantly interested, if you think he's cool, go out on the date. Geez.
  • Kristinemomof3
    Kristinemomof3 Posts: 636 Member
    Life is too short to wonder what if, go out, enjoy it and see what happens.
  • crystalflame
    crystalflame Posts: 1,049 Member
    Go for it, it's just one date...
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    That is how my brother in law met and married the love of his life. A supplier for his business, they did phone work for years and years. The met at a convention and were married 2 weeks later. They had 10 beautiful years before he was killed in a car accident. Even now, after a subsequent marriage (that didn't work) she says she will never find anyone like him. Life is a series of chances and decisions. Go for it!!!!!!!!
  • Jennisin1
    Jennisin1 Posts: 574 Member
    DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!! For Realz
  • red_road
    red_road Posts: 761 Member
    Do it, if you don't you will always wonder what if.
  • cuterbee
    cuterbee Posts: 545
    You know, if nothing else, it'll be fun -- you guys like to laugh together. Go, and see how it goes!
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    go for it, and just to be cautious, take some roofies with you just in case he plays hard to get
  • lina1131
    lina1131 Posts: 2,246 Member
    If this guy was not interested in you, there is no way in hell he would have sent you a message asking you out. He's not playing a joke on you. Go out with him and have fun!
  • Songbird1104
    Songbird1104 Posts: 210 Member
    I say just go for it. Go on one date and see where it goes. Who knows this may be your husband :0


    ^^ this.
  • Juliejustsaying
    Juliejustsaying Posts: 2,332 Member
    He told you why he hadn't asked before...you never gave him a sign you were interested, now you have. I'd go for it, chances are he isn't going to stalk you or drug you, he wouldn't have waited 6 years to do that...just saying.

    If you are attracted to him in anyway, always give it a shot, and don't let your inner turmoil show, you haven't shown it before to him, guys (and girls for that matter) like confidence...enjoy yourself, life is short, why the hell not.
  • XXXMinnieXXX
    XXXMinnieXXX Posts: 3,459 Member
    Sounds like you should definitely go. You get along like a house on fire, your not in the same office and if nothing else looks like you'll have a great laugh! X
  • geebusuk
    geebusuk Posts: 3,348 Member
    RISKS

    To laugh is to risk appearing the fool,
    To weep is to risk being called sentimental.
    To reach out to another is to risk involvement.
    To expose feelings is to risk showing your true self.
    To place your ideas and your dreams before the crowd is to risk being called naive.
    To love is to risk not being loved in return,
    To live is to risk dying,
    To hope is to risk despair,
    To try is to risk failure

    But risks must be taken, because the greatest risk in life is to risk nothing.
    The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing.
    He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow or love.
    Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited his freedom.
    Only the person who risks is truly free.
  • Christizzzle
    Christizzzle Posts: 454 Member
    Go for it!!!
  • juliemouse83
    juliemouse83 Posts: 6,663 Member
    Oh, for heaven's sake! Go! :bigsmile:

    You two obviously get along fabulously, and have for six years. Even if nothing comes of it, you'll still have a great date on V-night.

    He sounds interested in you...

    Let us know how it goes! Inquiring minds will want to know. :wink:
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    What exactly is "taking the mickey"?
  • jraines1973
    jraines1973 Posts: 231 Member
    Go For It!!!! :)
  • harvo
    harvo Posts: 4,676 Member
    Let me be the KILL JOY...here is the question. If things go south what effect could it have on the businesses?
  • sugarushlala
    sugarushlala Posts: 7 Member
    RISKS

    To laugh is to risk appearing the fool,
    To weep is to risk being called sentimental.
    To reach out to another is to risk involvement.
    To expose feelings is to risk showing your true self.
    To place your ideas and your dreams before the crowd is to risk being called naive.
    To love is to risk not being loved in return,
    To live is to risk dying,
    To hope is to risk despair,
    To try is to risk failure

    But risks must be taken, because the greatest risk in life is to risk nothing.
    The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing.
    He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow or love.
    Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited his freedom.
    Only the person who risks is truly free.

    Wow! This! ^^^

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