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    Date him or not - help please??

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    edited January 13 in Chit-Chat
    I have been friendly with this guy on the phone and e-mail for about six years because his firm is one of my Customers and Suppliers, we've always had a huge laugh and can take the mickey out of each other without a second thought, he has always been a terrible flirt.

    We met for the first time at a conference before Christmas and carried on as normal, taking the mickey and chatting away. I didn't think anything of it, after all my confidence is non existent and why would someone like him be interested in me?? We have swapped e-mail's and phone calls since then, always in the same way.

    Anyway today I jokingly said so where are you taking me for Valentines and he said I thought you didn't do Valentines and anyway I never thought I stood a chance, you must have a whole line of dates lined up. Being me I just laughed as said yeah but I blew them all off hoping for someone better to come along. And then I changed the subject back to work.

    Half an hour ago I checked face-book and he has sent me a friend request and messaged me, saying he is serious about taking me out on Thursday Night and that he thought I wasn't interest in him.

    Since then been in total panic mode. Head is scrambled and really don't know what the hell is going on, I mean we have been virtual friends for years why would he do this now?? and how do I respond?
    What if it is just another joke? I mean I could laugh it off but what if he means it and I blow it?
    And if he is serious where do I put him in my life? Strictly speak he is work and therefore as appealing as a dead frog. Work is Work and Play is Play. But he is not one of my colleagues and therefore do the same rules apply. :huh: :frown:

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    • Posts: 2,186 Member
      Date him if you're interested in him. I don't see the problem..
    • Posts: 3,306 Member
      Date him if you're interested in him. I don't see the problem..

      BOOO...HISSSSS
    • Posts: 792 Member
      It's one date. I say go, have a good time and see what happens.
    • Posts: 1,651 Member
      Do it, if you don't you will always wonder what if.
    • Posts: 138 Member
      Lifes too short.. you should totally go for it.
    • Posts: 536 Member
      I say just go for it. Go on one date and see where it goes. Who knows this may be your husband :0
    • Posts: 1,251 Member
      I have to ask, what does "taking the Mickey out" mean?
    • Posts: 4,585 Member
      He's interested. You're interested. Go for it!
    • Posts: 262 Member
      Date him if you're interested in him. I don't see the problem..

      this
    • Posts: 5,573 Member
      if you're interested and he's interested, what's one dinner going to hurt? Have fun!
    • Posts: 138 Member
      I have to ask, what does "taking the Mickey out" mean?

      It means making fun out of someone.. banter
    • Posts: 1,704 Member
      Why is this even a question? He's blatantly interested, if you think he's cool, go out on the date. Geez.
    • Posts: 636 Member
      Life is too short to wonder what if, go out, enjoy it and see what happens.
    • Posts: 1,049 Member
      Go for it, it's just one date...
    • Posts: 2,412 Member
      That is how my brother in law met and married the love of his life. A supplier for his business, they did phone work for years and years. The met at a convention and were married 2 weeks later. They had 10 beautiful years before he was killed in a car accident. Even now, after a subsequent marriage (that didn't work) she says she will never find anyone like him. Life is a series of chances and decisions. Go for it!!!!!!!!
    • Posts: 574 Member
      DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!! For Realz
    • Posts: 761 Member
      Do it, if you don't you will always wonder what if.
    • Posts: 545
      You know, if nothing else, it'll be fun -- you guys like to laugh together. Go, and see how it goes!
    • Posts: 1,541 Member
      go for it, and just to be cautious, take some roofies with you just in case he plays hard to get
    • Posts: 2,246 Member
      If this guy was not interested in you, there is no way in hell he would have sent you a message asking you out. He's not playing a joke on you. Go out with him and have fun!
    • Posts: 210 Member
      I say just go for it. Go on one date and see where it goes. Who knows this may be your husband :0


      ^^ this.
    • Posts: 2,332 Member
      He told you why he hadn't asked before...you never gave him a sign you were interested, now you have. I'd go for it, chances are he isn't going to stalk you or drug you, he wouldn't have waited 6 years to do that...just saying.

      If you are attracted to him in anyway, always give it a shot, and don't let your inner turmoil show, you haven't shown it before to him, guys (and girls for that matter) like confidence...enjoy yourself, life is short, why the hell not.
    • Posts: 3,459 Member
      Sounds like you should definitely go. You get along like a house on fire, your not in the same office and if nothing else looks like you'll have a great laugh! X
    • Posts: 3,348 Member
      RISKS

      To laugh is to risk appearing the fool,
      To weep is to risk being called sentimental.
      To reach out to another is to risk involvement.
      To expose feelings is to risk showing your true self.
      To place your ideas and your dreams before the crowd is to risk being called naive.
      To love is to risk not being loved in return,
      To live is to risk dying,
      To hope is to risk despair,
      To try is to risk failure

      But risks must be taken, because the greatest risk in life is to risk nothing.
      The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing.
      He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow or love.
      Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited his freedom.
      Only the person who risks is truly free.
    • Posts: 454 Member
      Go for it!!!
    • Posts: 6,663 Member
      Oh, for heaven's sake! Go! :bigsmile:

      You two obviously get along fabulously, and have for six years. Even if nothing comes of it, you'll still have a great date on V-night.

      He sounds interested in you...

      Let us know how it goes! Inquiring minds will want to know. :wink:
    • Posts: 7,010 Member
      What exactly is "taking the mickey"?
    • Posts: 231 Member
      Go For It!!!! :)
    • Posts: 4,676 Member
      Let me be the KILL JOY...here is the question. If things go south what effect could it have on the businesses?
    • Posts: 7 Member
      RISKS

      To laugh is to risk appearing the fool,
      To weep is to risk being called sentimental.
      To reach out to another is to risk involvement.
      To expose feelings is to risk showing your true self.
      To place your ideas and your dreams before the crowd is to risk being called naive.
      To love is to risk not being loved in return,
      To live is to risk dying,
      To hope is to risk despair,
      To try is to risk failure

      But risks must be taken, because the greatest risk in life is to risk nothing.
      The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing.
      He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow or love.
      Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited his freedom.
      Only the person who risks is truly free.

      Wow! This! ^^^
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