Date him or not - help please??

CM9178

I have to ask, what does "taking the Mickey out" mean?

It means making fun out of someone.. banter

really? I have never heard that in my entire life. Is that a UK thing or something?

hrubyk1804

We women always over-think things. Just go! Have fun, don't over-analyze it and see what happens. You never know, it could turn out wonderfully!!

Alex_is_Hawks

quit asking us to help you make up your mind because you are scared.

Just do it.

if it doesn't work, it doesn't work....you get embarassed, you walk away and you recover...


BUT....if it does work....BOOM....Magic.

and you are already friends....that's miles ahead of anyone else....you know you have that part down.

Just do it...take a deep breath and plunge and do it.

iLoveMyPitbull1225

I think you should accept. This guy might have been carrying on for years literally not knowing you were interested because guys are just that way. Unless you spell it out for them, ESPECIALLY in a virtual communication relationship, he mostly likely truly didnt think you were interested. Men are simple.

If he added you on FB hes thinking about you. he is interested. Do it.

Sballard418

Do it DO it! Don't stress too much, if he does like you more than a friend he fell for the Lady who could joke around with him. Just be yourself and make sure you come back a year later and post wedding dress pictures

AbbieZabba

You're over thinking it.
Go out and have fun with someone who makes you laugh. :laugh:
Lucky you to have someone want to be with you on Valentines Day

suew14

I met my husband through work. He was a client of mine for a couple of years. We stayed friends after the project was over and joked about dating. We had never met in person. He lived in Maine, I live in Colorado. Long story short, we started dating, he moved to Colorado and we have been married for almost 8 years. I say go for it. You were friends first. That's even better. Be confident, relax and have fun!!

EatClean_WashUrNuts

F that. Dating is for the scared. Ask him to marry you

biffdaddy

In my experience, the best relationships are built from the ground up. They start with a friendly non-threatening basis and grow from there if and when those feeling evolve in both persons. It souonds like the two of you have laid the groundwork to give it a chance. If you are truely interested in taking a freindship to the next level, go for it!

By the way, don't ever sell yourself short. Good people have a habit of seeing the good in other people no matter what.. I credit my being married for 22 years on this fact. I was always a bit nerdy and not the best looking guy in a bunch. If my wife hadn't seen past my exterior, I would still be lonely. 10 kids and 2 grandchildren later, I am quite fulfilled. Don't leave a potential chance at happieness lay untried. Best of luch in whatever you decide.

kimad

Do it, if you don't you will always wonder what if.

I agree with this.

brokenjawedmuse

his firm is one of my Customers and Suppliers

If you have ANY say in regards to your company's interaction with his company or vice versa, this is EXCEPTIONALLY unethical and unprofessional. In my industry, that's grounds for immediate termination.

IF you can opt out of interaction with his company on the grounds of conflict of interest, then I'd say go for it. If you can't, then I'd say no.

XAVTAY2

Go for it,,, it sounds like you all know how to have fun together. It's work a date and he did show interest...WHY NOT. Let us know how it goes...

diodelcibo

Flip a coin.

catlbeginagain

Love Love Love this response...hope you're listening!

TigressPat

he's seriously interested, not playing.

However, my own reservation would be that you sort of have to work with him.

if things don't work out (don't bash folks, they usually don't statistically!) it might be akward.

mum212

i dated my supervisor and we are still together 6.5 years later happy as ever, who cares what other ppl work related may think i didn and look where i am, happy!!!!

hey im not saying it will be the same but id go for it and if it dont work out then oh well but if it does then youll be hearing yourself say in a few month, years time im so glad i didnt pass this up x

1ConcreteGirl

I just want to know where you keep putting the mickey.

Liatush

I believe he is being serious - at the first hint that you might actually be interested in him, he jumped for it. Don't laugh it off or he'll think you are not actually interested and will never ask you out again. Let him take you out for VDay and see what happens...

don't let your head over analyze (I do that all too often!) - try and enjoy yourself and if you get along so well as friends, I have a feeling you will have a wonderful time which will lead to more dates!!

mousepaws22

All I can think of reading this is Gavin & Stacey. Good luck!

MumOfADuo

You guys already have an amazing foundation, one that should almost be a REQUIREMENT before dating/marriage....a true honest to goodness friendship. based on nothing but emails and phone calls.....nothing physical to distract etc....almost like courtship (yes, I am VERY old fashioned lol)...I say go and enjoy yourself...dont get all freaked out....you know how well you get along....relax and enjoy some attention......let us know how it goes!!!!:flowerforyou:

g0tr00t

If his wife is OK with it, go for it!


just kidding... :happy:

I say go. You don't have to get married, just have a good time and have a great friend.

cls_333

Sounds like fate. You both sound shy, and without a lot of self esteem, yet you talk easily to each other & laugh & have fun. He might be a once in a lifetime chance. Go for it!

AngryDiet

Put him in the "friend zone," and watch him wallow in self pity.

As for those asking about "taking the Mickey," does nobody know about the marvels of Google?

Adw7677

You've known him long enough, he probably won't physically hurt you. But I gotta say, he sounds an awful lot like my ex-husband who would certainly flirt with you and sleep with you (and every other women he has contact with).

Be careful! If you really like the guy, don't put out right away. Don't let yourself fall head over heals on the first date (sounds like that might be a problem already). And also, don't like a guy JUST because he likes you - took me 20 years to figure that one out! You are entitled to YOUR OWN emotions and opinions.

If you tend to associate sex with love (like most women), you may find it helpful to have a sexbuddy just to keep "those needs" in check. I've found that if you go into a relationship with the mindset of it just being physical, that's how it remains. You don't hear women say this much, but there's nothing wrong with a having a friend with benefits, so long as everyone is on the same page.

The worst part, as others have mentioned, is not knowing. If you have a genuine interest in the guy, there's nothing wrong with going on a date. Have fun!

actingnurse1

quit being such a girl and overthinking/making things way more complicated than they need to be. Its a date. Just go out and have fun. Stop overthinking.

kathymhardy

Oh yes, Gavin and Stacey. Go for it. Have fun. Enjoy. Etc. :-)

RunsOnEspresso

I would say go for it as long as your work allows. Many work places have policies about dating co-workers or clients etc.

sandylion

He asked you out for valentines day, he didn't propose! Relax and go have fun!

KANGOOJUMPS

YEP. DO IT.

harvo

his firm is one of my Customers and Suppliers

If you have ANY say in regards to your company's interaction with his company or vice versa, this is EXCEPTIONALLY unethical and unprofessional. In my industry, that's grounds for immediate termination.

IF you can opt out of interaction with his company on the grounds of conflict of interest, then I'd say go for it. If you can't, then I'd say no.

THIS ^^^ Jobs are tough to replace. I have to let my company know I officiate sports and when I was in Procurement we were looked at on the regular for improper benefits and relationships.....