Date him or not - help please??
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Go on the date!0
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his firm is one of my Customers and Suppliers
If you have ANY say in regards to your company's interaction with his company or vice versa, this is EXCEPTIONALLY unethical and unprofessional. In my industry, that's grounds for immediate termination.
IF you can opt out of interaction with his company on the grounds of conflict of interest, then I'd say go for it. If you can't, then I'd say no.
THIS ^^^ Jobs are tough to replace. I have to let my company know I officiate sports and when I was in Procurement we were looked at on the regular for improper benefits and relationships.....
Great insight!0 -
You've been flirting for ages, and asked him when he was taking you out, yet when he has you don't know what to do...?
Poor guy lol... Just go out with him! Why is this even a question? x0 -
his firm is one of my Customers and Suppliers
If you have ANY say in regards to your company's interaction with his company or vice versa, this is EXCEPTIONALLY unethical and unprofessional. In my industry, that's grounds for immediate termination.
IF you can opt out of interaction with his company on the grounds of conflict of interest, then I'd say go for it. If you can't, then I'd say no.
THIS ^^^ Jobs are tough to replace. I have to let my company know I officiate sports and when I was in Procurement we were looked at on the regular for improper benefits and relationships.....
Great insight!
I agree with looking into rules at your work place. Every place is different. Where I work, they really don't care. We have a few married couples, In-Laws, and other relatives (my aunt and uncle work here, they actually met when he worked for a contractor we used, he left and joined our company).0 -
Date him if you're interested in him. I don't see the problem..
This. Just make sure he doesn't take his mickey out where other people can see it.0 -
Were you attravted to him when you met him?
If yes, then go for it. It sounds like it could work, you've known each other a long time
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As for those asking about "taking the Mickey," does nobody know about the marvels of Google?
it's more fun this way.0 -
Follow your gut instinct & your own truth. That's all I can say.
Good luck!!0 -
I have to ask, what does "taking the Mickey out" mean?
It means making fun out of someone.. banter
really? I have never heard that in my entire life. Is that a UK thing or something?
It is indeed 0 -
At least get him tested.0
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^^^You're over thinking it.
Go out and have fun with someone who makes you laugh. :laugh:
Lucky you to have someone want to be with you on Valentines Day
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Loved this
Thank You all, I've stopped dithering and said Yes, having thought through the work issues, I've realised that there aren't really any and I was just freaking out. He really is a sweetie, now.. what to wear :laugh:0 -
As long as it won't affect any working relationship, go for it. You've known him long enough. Say yes, and don't think about it. As females we overthink things and make it more complicated than it needs to be!0
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Yay! Let us know how it goes!0
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You've got nothing to lose and if it did for whatever reason go all tits up then you go back to being customer and supplier 0
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Just bang him and move on to the next. Relationships are overrated.0
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Date him if you're interested in him. I don't see the problem..
Quoted for truth.0 -
I have been friendly with this guy on the phone and e-mail for about six years because his firm is one of my Customers and Suppliers, we've always had a huge laugh and can take the mickey out of each other without a second thought, he has always been a terrible flirt.
We met for the first time at a conference before Christmas and carried on as normal, taking the mickey and chatting away. I didn't think anything of it, after all my confidence is non existent and why would someone like him be interested in me?? We have swapped e-mail's and phone calls since then, always in the same way.
Anyway today I jokingly said so where are you taking me for Valentines and he said I thought you didn't do Valentines and anyway I never thought I stood a chance, you must have a whole line of dates lined up. Being me I just laughed as said yeah but I blew them all off hoping for someone better to come along. And then I changed the subject back to work.
Half an hour ago I checked face-book and he has sent me a friend request and messaged me, saying he is serious about taking me out on Thursday Night and that he thought I wasn't interest in him.
Since then been in total panic mode. Head is scrambled and really don't know what the hell is going on, I mean we have been virtual friends for years why would he do this now?? and how do I respond?
What if it is just another joke? I mean I could laugh it off but what if he means it and I blow it?
And if he is serious where do I put him in my life? Strictly speak he is work and therefore as appealing as a dead frog. Work is Work and Play is Play. But he is not one of my colleagues and therefore do the same rules apply. :huh: :frown:
I'd say go for it!0 -
Give the boy a chance! http://www.hulu.com/watch/23300
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My gut says to go out with him, enjoy the evening, keep it light and see where it goes.
However, my brain is telling me that you need to evaluate your work situatuion. Depending on your industry/company, there could be very strict rules regarding personal interaction with suppliers which you may need to disclose to your employer through a conflict of interest.
Do the quick work check and then go forward...
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Date the s&^t out of him. You obviously like him.0
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Go for it - you already know that the two of you can talk & laugh together (and that's important). If there's no chemistry then you just stay great friends0
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First. Do you like him to be more than just a friend?
Second. If your answer is Yes then what is there to worry about. He obviously finds you attractive and wants to date you. It sounds like you don't have a lot of confidence but sometimes our confidence comes in when we are relaxed and not trying too hard. You obviously have wowed him. One date isn't going to hurt. Have fun and remember:
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Date him. You don't work of the same company, so there's ni issue there. You seem to get along great. He is obviously into you. Go ahead & take a chance.0
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Why is this even a question? He's blatantly interested, if you think he's cool, go out on the date. Geez.
haha...^^That^^ don't make it out to be more than it is~friends who enjoy each other's company, hanging out...just have fun!0 -
Go on the date. If it goes anywhere then great, if not it's only a night out! 0
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"and why would he do this now??" Honey you opened the door (Read your post again). He walked thru. Now you wanmt to analyse it? Date him. cause now that you've opened the door you really can't slam it.0
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He isnt joking so go out with him if you want to but be forewarned he could be using you for more business.0
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Go for it! he sounds interested, but may not want to cross any work/friendship boundaries. If you have a little crush on him as well, what do you have to lose?0
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I have been friendly with this guy on the phone and e-mail for about six years because his firm is one of my Customers and Suppliers, we've always had a huge laugh and can take the mickey out of each other without a second thought, he has always been a terrible flirt.
We met for the first time at a conference before Christmas and carried on as normal, taking the mickey and chatting away. I didn't think anything of it, after all my confidence is non existent and why would someone like him be interested in me?? We have swapped e-mail's and phone calls since then, always in the same way.
Anyway today I jokingly said so where are you taking me for Valentines and he said I thought you didn't do Valentines and anyway I never thought I stood a chance, you must have a whole line of dates lined up. Being me I just laughed as said yeah but I blew them all off hoping for someone better to come along. And then I changed the subject back to work.
Half an hour ago I checked face-book and he has sent me a friend request and messaged me, saying he is serious about taking me out on Thursday Night and that he thought I wasn't interest in him.
Since then been in total panic mode. Head is scrambled and really don't know what the hell is going on, I mean we have been virtual friends for years why would he do this now?? and how do I respond?
What if it is just another joke? I mean I could laugh it off but what if he means it and I blow it?
And if he is serious where do I put him in my life? Strictly speak he is work and therefore as appealing as a dead frog. Work is Work and Play is Play. But he is not one of my colleagues and therefore do the same rules apply. :huh: :frown:
this is a little tricky. if you like him, i would say go for it. if you aren't sure, give yourself some time to evaluate the situation and then act from there. it sounds like you're more scared of him not liking you than anything else. trust me, a guy wouldn't bring up that he wanted to take you out unless he actually wanted to- joking or not. i'm not saying that he's in love with you, but i'll bet he's a least interested in seeing where things are headed. proceed with caution, be yourself and be open to any and all possibilities. after all, he could be your soulmate! 0
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