Guys would you date someone with specail needs?

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  • pinkraynedropjacki
    pinkraynedropjacki Posts: 3,027 Member
    My son is dating a special needs girl. But then again he is special needs as well so it all evens out.
  • gvheintz
    gvheintz Posts: 138 Member
    Sure. To be perfectly honest though, for me it would depend on the "special need."
  • KaleidoscopeEyes1056
    KaleidoscopeEyes1056 Posts: 2,996 Member
    My boyfriend has MD, so it doesn't matter to me. It doesn't burden me to take care of him and sometimes stay up all night with him because he's in pain or is sick. The hardest thing is the very shortened life expectancy.
  • tehbasketcasey
    tehbasketcasey Posts: 41
    Absolutely! If the person is interested in me, a nice person with good character, why wouldn't I? Your heart is the most beautiful thing, and what we really fall in love with. Sometimes it takes a while to find that person, and sometimes it happens in the blink of an eye.
  • Fredrigo
    Fredrigo Posts: 134 Member
    I'm a Service Coordinator so I have many people on my caseload who struggle with relationships but I can also tell you I have other people on my caseload in lasting healthy relationships,

    All I can really say is yes if you compare "singleness" in the special needs population it is disproportionate to the average population but that applies to many subsets of the population.

    The more people you interact with and the more social connections you make outside of the Special Needs population the more likely you'll find a healthy relationship (and you shouldn't be ashamed of finding that relationship in the Special Needs population either).

    Oh and parents of Special Needs children please talk with your children about relationships (all kinds) often and at length one of the biggest barriers I face is when a family through nothing but good loving intentions manage to leave their child completely unequipped to deal with perfectly normal unprejudiced rejection.
  • Macgeek74
    Macgeek74 Posts: 298 Member
    I so would. Im all about the person inside and trust.
  • fara180
    fara180 Posts: 1,260 Member
    i think this would depend heavily on the type of disability you are referring to. i see no issue dating someone with mild "special needs." These would include impairments to walking, etc. If it were a more serious issue, such as the inability to communicate (i don't speak sign language and i don't think i would learn just to date someone) then there would probably not be enough interest for me to pursue dating.
  • MM_1982
    MM_1982 Posts: 374
    A lot of people on here know and have family members who have special needs *and* are in a relationship. It really makes me feel like a loser for being single.

    Thanks guys..
  • Chadomaniac
    Chadomaniac Posts: 1,785 Member
    Depends - if sex was one of her special needs then yes
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    No. Probably going to take a hit for being honest, but I wouldn't knowingly get involved in a relationship (if I was single) with a person that had specials needs. If, however, through some unforeseen event, someone I loved some how became a special needs person, I would not leave them. I'd deal with it.
  • stackhsc
    stackhsc Posts: 439 Member
    I am a firm believer that there is someone for every one. I can't say if i would or wouldnt.... If i loved them and was attracted to them id like to think i would.
    I don't think you should let what every your need is define you, hard as that may be. But i also don't think you should hide it from anyone. It sucks that some people may not be willing to give you a chance if they know about what ever it is, but its much better to know that up front than to let yourself fall in love with them and have them bail on you down the road.
  • Papalov100
    Papalov100 Posts: 1,593 Member
    okay guys would you date someone with a seizure disorder?
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    From OP
    okay guys would you date someone with a seizure disorder?

    my sister's friend had that and she had plenty of suitors. she's now married with a couple of kids. the end.
  • lilmissbamaqueen
    lilmissbamaqueen Posts: 184
    okay guys would you date someone with a seizure disorder?

    One of my first bf's in high school had a seizure disorder. He had a seizure in the middle of church one day, and it scared me to death, but it did not for one second change how I felt about him. Girlie, I promise, one day you will meet a guy that will see past it all. Like others have said, EVERYONE has some sort of issue. I suffer from depression and generalized anxiety disorder, and while it's not obvious, it has hindered me pretty heavily on the relationship front. I have finally found a good guy that knows all about it and accepts and loves me despite it all. You will find that too.

    Take care and good luck! :flowerforyou:
  • EatClean_WashUrNuts
    EatClean_WashUrNuts Posts: 1,590 Member
    I have....and sadly lost her
  • JulieBGoood
    JulieBGoood Posts: 120 Member
    My husband is physically disabled & I love him more than anything in the world! He looks a little different than most people but I don't even see that anymore. He is an amazing, kind, funny and smart person. :)
  • Harlequin16
    Harlequin16 Posts: 102 Member
    okay guys would you date someone with a seizure disorder?

    Seizures are a big phobia of mine so i mentally wouldn't be able to :c
  • theologynerd
    theologynerd Posts: 264 Member
    I asked out a guy in a wheelchair once, and he laughed in my face. I wasn't brave enough to ask out anyone else with special needs after that.
  • Mikkimeow
    Mikkimeow Posts: 1,282 Member
    okay guys would you date someone with a seizure disorder?

    I dated someone with epilepsy and to be honest, it initially scared me. Not because it freaked me out, but because I had grown to care for them deeply and didn't want anything bad to happen to him. We eventually broke up, but it had nothing to do with his seizures. Love is blind for a reason.
  • Car0lynnM
    Car0lynnM Posts: 332 Member
    I have Epilepsy, and I am happily married. I have never even considered myself 'special needs'. I take my medication, control the seizures, and continue with love and life. You, too, will find the right person to love. Stop looking, and it will happen. :wink:
  • crazytreelady
    crazytreelady Posts: 752 Member
    My cousin who is one of the most beautiful women I know has been happily married to an amputee for 6 years I believe. I wouldn't call it special needs, but he does have a disability.

    Personally, I have been attracted to men with specials needs and or disabilities.
    Honestly, I think personality is key in a relationship...

    Because I know sure as ****, my boobs aren't gonna be this high forever haha nor will my mind be as sharp as it is now.
  • Papalov100
    Papalov100 Posts: 1,593 Member
    I'm not Epilepsy i have a different seizure disorder . But i know being special needs cant be fun all the time
  • bonjour24
    bonjour24 Posts: 1,119 Member
    I'm not Epilepsy i have a different seizure disorder . But i know being special needs cant be fun all the time

    i don't really consider having seizures as special needs. i consider low IQ as special needs. i think that someone with an unmanaged/ unmanageable seizure disorder should just be careful, and maybe wear a helmet and a bubble wrap suit! i don't think you should let that stop you doing most things or meeting people. the more people you meet the more likely you are to find someone suitable.
  • Papalov100
    Papalov100 Posts: 1,593 Member
    Okay here is another question This one is for ONLY GUYS
    Have you ever though that special needs people are crazy people ?
    Most of my firends for special needs and a lot of them are't but i love them all
    they are all great people .
  • Toria718
    Toria718 Posts: 396 Member
    My husband has tourette's syndrome, his tics used to be much worse, but i personally dont see the tics, only occasionally do I notice them, hasnt been an issue for me but i know alot of people wouldnt want to date or marry someone who can be "embarrasing" in public on occasion with the vocal and physical tics. I love him more than anyone in the world besides my son and to me he is wonderful.
  • AnnieMeredith
    AnnieMeredith Posts: 20 Member
    my boyfriend has physical disabilities and i think it honestly just makes him an even more incredible person, having had to overcome challenged and problem solve. as for attractiveness (which i think is arbitrary when you're in love anyways) he's always been hunky to me.
  • SwimFan1981
    SwimFan1981 Posts: 1,430 Member
    No. Probably going to take a hit for being honest, but I wouldn't knowingly get involved in a relationship (if I was single) with a person that had specials needs. If, however, through some unforeseen event, someone I loved some how became a special needs person, I would not leave them. I'd deal with it.

    This for me too.
  • Papalov100
    Papalov100 Posts: 1,593 Member
    Some days I thank God for making me the way i am and other days i wish i was different if you know what i mean being special needs is not fun all the time and a lot of people like to bully us what do we deervse that for nothing so if you have a problem with someonew with special needs keep it to yourself we dont want to hear anything ugly come out of your mouth .
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
    Some days I thank God for making me the way i am and other days i wish i was different if you know what i mean being special needs is not fun all the time and a lot of people like to bully us what do we deervse that for nothing so if you have a problem with someonew with special needs keep it to yourself we dont want to hear anything ugly come out of your mouth .

    Did you add my brother on Facebook? I told him about you, and he's been bugging me about you ever since.
  • bathsheba_c
    bathsheba_c Posts: 1,873 Member
    My boyfriend and his twin brother are both legally blind. My boyfriend has a good-sized circle of friends and has never had problems dating. His brother is the complete opposite. The only difference is that my boyfriend takes being blind in stride, whereas his brother lets it ruin his self-confidence.

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