(To the ladies) Is it really for us? C'mon man........

ninerbuff
ninerbuff Posts: 49,021 Member
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So I dropped by a friend of mine in town yesterday to give him a sweat shirt he left at the gym and stayed for about 15 min. His wife came out during that time in a new outfit asking "How does it look?" And me and the friend answer "Looks good" and then she left. He commented that she had just spent $150 on that one outfit. I said that it wasn't bad for "going out" wear. He said it was for daily "work wear". He then put his head down and shook it, "you should see how much she spends on hair, manicures and pedicures. Why the hell do you think I work so much?" Then we both started laughing out loud. He said, "I don't need all the fancy getup stuff. She says she dresses up and all but says she does it for me. If she really wanted to do something for me..........she could just make a sandwich!" We bust up again. We man hug and I split.

So really, when you say it's for us, it's really for you right? Personally I don't care how my DW spends her money and what she wants to spend it on as long as it doesn't put a financial strain on us or stops us from saving money. But I do hear a lot about the saying "we do it for you" when it comes to clothing. C'mon man.............be honest. It's really for you and everyone else right?

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  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    Yeah, no. Not for you. I dress up for the other ladies (most of the time).
  • footiechick82
    footiechick82 Posts: 1,203 Member
    I'm pretty independent after being a lone gem for almost 4 years... my bf and I have been together for almost 2 now and refuse to let him pay for me. I have a job, a very well paying job. Why do I need him to pay for my clothes? He pays for dinner, he brings me wine and food and snacks if I want them, which I appreciate, but for me to pay $150 for an outfit, sure I will do it - OUT OF MY POCKET because I worked for it!

    Oh yeah and I don't wear makeup during the week at work - ever - because I go to the gym. When I see my bf, I have nice clothes and make up on and I do my hair. So, I guess you can say I do dress up for him :)
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    definitely not for you. I do me for me. Always have. Always will.
  • 4x4play
    4x4play Posts: 200 Member
    It's my money... I do it for me!
  • lyrical_melody
    lyrical_melody Posts: 242 Member
    I dress up for me, but I do put a lot more effort in what im wearing and makeup and hair when I am going to go out or I am going to see my boyfriend.

    Come on...YOU be honest, would you really want your gf or wife wearing jeans and t-shirts or sweatshirts all the time?
  • bmqbonnie
    bmqbonnie Posts: 836 Member
    I try to look nice for my guy especially when we're out and about, but I know in reality he has no inkling of a difference between Mossimo and Gucci. It's more to feel good about myself and out dress the other ladies :drinker: Though I definitely do not like to look slovenly with him. I'd probably live in my bathrobe and sweats if I were single. So it's a little of both.
  • Hezzietiger1
    Hezzietiger1 Posts: 1,256 Member
    Nope... all my pink, manicured toes, waxed brows, and color changes... all me. LOL I feel way cuter when I am put together.
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    I like to look nice for me and for him.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Now I've always wanted to present myself nicely so he's proud to be with me and I make him look good.
    But mostly, it's for me.
  • Ivian_
    Ivian_ Posts: 276 Member
    For me, personally. I like being put together, polished. My man just gets to enjoy it! :)
  • BerryH
    BerryH Posts: 4,698 Member
    I've always been the higher or sole bread-winner so I've always bought my own clothes, and often previous partner's too. I'm seriously broke now, so even spending £40 would cause me to weep a little.

    Have you ever considered that women "do it for you" because you give them positive reinforcement? I'd be happy to hear I have enough shoes if the cash was going into savings for holiday instead, for instance.
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
    I do it for him, which in essence is doing it for me, because when he notices, I get all warm and fuzzy inside.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    I dress up for me, but I do put a lot more effort in what im wearing and makeup and hair when I am going to go out or I am going to see my boyfriend.

    Come on...YOU be honest, would you really want your gf or wife wearing jeans and t-shirts or sweatshirts all the time?

    My wife looks great in pajamas. she looks great in sweatshirts. she looks great in tshirts. and she looks great when she dresses up.

    it matters not one ounce to me what she is wearing.

    except when she's not wearing anything...
  • OkieinMinny
    OkieinMinny Posts: 834 Member
    I do it so i feel good about myself BUT I just had this convo with my husband and I said we also do it so you will be proud to have us by your side and I think this should go both ways (not the amount of $$ on things/hair etc) BUT just the taking pride in your appearance for yourself and your SO
  • MrsSWW
    MrsSWW Posts: 1,585 Member
    We don't have enough income to warrant clothes on a 'pleasure' basis, they have to be practical either for the office, outdoor pursuits such as dog walking or camping, or suitable for working out. If I can find a garment that covers all three of those I'm as happy as a pig in the proverbial.
    My husband would prefer me to walk through the door wearing a bin liner but holding a nice bottle of wine for us to enjoy...
  • Greenrun99
    Greenrun99 Posts: 2,065 Member
    If girls are buying expensive outfits for work, and they probably don't work together.. then its either she is dressing up to look good for another guy.. or she is spending that money to impress the girls in the office or to look more important by buying expensive outfits.
  • footiechick82
    footiechick82 Posts: 1,203 Member
    If girls are buying expensive outfits for work, and they probably don't work together.. then its either she is dressing up to look good for another guy.. or she is spending that money to impress the girls in the office or to look more important by buying expensive outfits.

    If she works in an office it might be mandatory - I see it with the execs at my company. I'm a hoodie and lulu's today - so I don't count as an exec :)
  • oh_em_gee
    oh_em_gee Posts: 887 Member
    I like to look good for the man, but when I am drooling over cute dresses in my goal size, yeah, not thinking about him. Even when I buy lingerie it's a good 75% about what I want
  • Bethie_B
    Bethie_B Posts: 292 Member
    When a man is taking me out, and I dress up, it's for him. I want people that see us to think that he has a hot chick, not that he's dating down.

    But at home, I'm a total "sweats and t-shirt" kind of girl.
  • SherryR1971
    SherryR1971 Posts: 1,170 Member
    I've always heard women dress for other women lol me, personally? I dress for myself!
  • morningmud
    morningmud Posts: 477 Member
    It's for me but you could say it's for my man in the sense that when I wear nice clothes, hair, nails & make-up I have more confidence which translates to more sexy times.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,021 Member
    I dress up for me, but I do put a lot more effort in what im wearing and makeup and hair when I am going to go out or I am going to see my boyfriend.

    Come on...YOU be honest, would you really want your gf or wife wearing jeans and t-shirts or sweatshirts all the time?
    If we're out on a date, of course we'd both dress up better. If out and out, I really don't care what she wears. Jeans and t shirts, I'm cool with that since I don't put a lot of stock into clothing. My wife will always look good to me in whatever she wears.

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  • NikkiSixGuns
    NikkiSixGuns Posts: 630 Member
    I do it for him, which in essence is doing it for me, because when he notices, I get all warm and fuzzy inside.

    ^^ This is true. I put far more effort into my appearance when I'm going to be with my husband (even if it's just staying at home) than I do when I'm going to be by myself. I want HIM to think I look good. Couldn't care less what the rest of the world thinks.
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    Anytime someone says "I do it for me" what they're really saying is "I do it for the validation it gets me from other people."
  • 4x4play
    4x4play Posts: 200 Member
    I dress up for me, but I do put a lot more effort in what im wearing and makeup and hair when I am going to go out or I am going to see my boyfriend.

    Come on...YOU be honest, would you really want your gf or wife wearing jeans and t-shirts or sweatshirts all the time?

    My wife looks great in pajamas. she looks great in sweatshirts. she looks great in tshirts. and she looks great when she dresses up.

    it matters not one ounce to me what she is wearing.

    except when she's not wearing anything...

    awe... that's really sweet!!!
  • veddar79
    veddar79 Posts: 205
    I agree, every time my wife gets all dressed up...I'm thinking its for others to acknowledge shes hot...others i.e. other men. It bugs me to a degree but everyone wants to look good and be noticed. Just don't say its for me
  • MagicalLeopleurodon
    MagicalLeopleurodon Posts: 623 Member
    To a degree it is. I imagine if she didnt maintain a certain appearance and went without makeup and only wore sweats-she'd be frumpy.

    If she dolls up, she is high maintenence.

    I personally enjoy getting all dressed up. unfortunately i dont really gwt many opportunities to go anywhere that i can dress up.
  • rduhlir
    rduhlir Posts: 3,550 Member
    While yeah we will say it is for the guy, and we love it when they complement on how awesome we look...ultimately you are correct, it is all for us. It is to show up that other woman you think looks hot.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    I do it for me, other women, and men.


    And please, be honest. Most men don't want their woman looking sloppy.
  • HotAshMess
    HotAshMess Posts: 382 Member
    I need to look good for work. Looking good makes me feel good....when I feel good, I'm happy and when I'm happy I give him head. So...it is really FOR you? No...does it benefit you? Hell yes. And....I care about my appearance. I want him to like what he sees when he looks at me. I want him to be proud and happy to take me out. Does he hate what I spend and how long it takes? Yes. But he loves taking me out because I put effort into it.

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