(To the ladies) Is it really for us? C'mon man........

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  • kikilieb
    kikilieb Posts: 118 Member
    I dress up for me, but I do put a lot more effort in what im wearing and makeup and hair when I am going to go out or I am going to see my boyfriend.

    Come on...YOU be honest, would you really want your gf or wife wearing jeans and t-shirts or sweatshirts all the time?
    This!
  • misskerouac
    misskerouac Posts: 2,242 Member
    I dress how I dress for me.

    But I also don't spend much.
    I find things I like and wait for a sale, then i buy it. And I make sure I can mix it with other pieces to get as much wear out of it as I can.

    ETA: If I want to dress for my husband I will throw on my 10$ booty shorts and 5$ tank top that I usually wear around the house in the summer. But sometimes I actually like to get things done around the house.
  • knittingwitch
    knittingwitch Posts: 231 Member
    I have never said that, its always for me.
    My husband hates some of the things I do, but its not for him its for me.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,021 Member
    Okay, a female in my class got a boob job (looked good) and said it was for her husband! But she rarely dressed provocatively till TODAY. So of course the "girls" were noticed by other females.:laugh:

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  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    I dress for me. Heels, skirts, pretty tops, jewelry, scarves.....all for me. With that said, no man works for me to be able to afford to do so. Even more than my clothes, I appreciate my independence. And as another note, nobody would ever mistake my work clothes for going out attire. What is with the sheer amount of inappropriate clothing that people wear in a professional setting?!? Leggings are not pants, shirts with cutouts are not for work, and cleavage and fishnets are not for the office....it's not a tough concept.
  • mmmyotwnz
    mmmyotwnz Posts: 119 Member
    Me. All Me.
    No one can make me feel good about myself until I feel it. The workouts I do, the foods I now choose to eat(and the ones that got the boot) are to make me healthier. I am on this darned never ending plateau, but I choose to keep on moving and trying new thing. I am too stubborn to give up. I like the way my insides feel now.

    As far as having the lastest and greatest new outfit, jewelry shoes etc., that is not an option in my finances now. As much as I would like those new cute shoes, the fact of the matter is I need a new pair of crosstrainers. That is what I choose to start with first. I can't go for a walk/run with shoes that hurt my feet.

    My husband may notice I have pink nails or red but as far as that goes he really has no opinion one way or the other if I paint my own nails. No extra for mani-pedi's, except I do splurge for my hair every 7 weeks.

    If I can save the money up when it's not needed for the graduating HS senior or college freshman, than I can splurge on something for myself, on sale or with a coupon, never full retail.
  • metaphoria
    metaphoria Posts: 1,432 Member
    If women put a lot of effort and money into their appearance, they're high maintenance. If they don't, then they've let themselves go.

    I wish I had money for regular manicures and pedicures, and a good wardrobe. I do what I can to make me feel better and more confident. This definitely projects to my mood, productivity and general well being. My husband and kids benefit from me feeling like a woman, not just a mom all the time. Happy wife, happy life. :)
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    It is, but in a slightly more circuitous way than you'd expect. You see, a woman who feels good is a woman at her best. When a woman feels like she looks good, she's more able to face the world and give the best of herself to others. So, in a way, it's selfish, to make herself feel better, but in a way it's for you, too, because when she feels good, she's able to give you more.
  • Ocarina
    Ocarina Posts: 1,550 Member
    I find that makeup, manicures, eyebrow waxes and purchasing clothes are for me. But I think that we both are better off if I take care of myself because it makes me more confident. When I'm more confident I get out there and do more, accomplish things I probably wouldn't of attempted otherwise, and these things lead to more opportunities. Employers will want me more if I look good, am confident, and well-rounded.

    I also eat well, take care of myself health wise, and am happier because I like how I look and have fun maintaining myself. My husband finds this important too but does it in different ways.... mainly through nicer shirts, good cologne, and keeping himself groomed.

    Personality plays a huge part in this as well of course. As long as you aren't hurting anyone or obsessive compulsive to an extreme I see nothing wrong with it.

    It is expensive, takes more time, and maybe more work then needed but the pay off is huge.
  • Louisianababy93
    Louisianababy93 Posts: 1,709 Member
    $150 dollars for an outfit?
    it better be made out of gold... or atleast gold plated.
    I'm sorry but, you can find outfits that look amazing for cheeper than $150.00.
  • strippedandvital
    strippedandvital Posts: 32 Member
    Men SAY they don't care... but then they pass over the girls who don't take that time/spend that money for the ones who do. Keep fibbing, we know you're shallow ;)

    That being said, I've never dressed to impress anyone but myself & I pay for all of it myself. I like that my partner appreciates it, but I wouldn't do it if I didn't want to.
  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    LOL that's total BS. We dress to look good for us. She only says that cuz her man is a sucker and is buying her all that stuff. Sorry, from reading your post, it sounded like your buddy works to support "HER" spending habit. Whatevs. My spouse and I control our own money. We share when necessary, but otherwise, it's our own money. He talks smack about my spending sometimes, but it's MY M'fckn' $$$!!!! LOL
  • Markguns
    Markguns Posts: 554 Member
    Dude, it's for the other ladies, never for us... Where ya been? :bigsmile: :laugh:
  • normatus
    normatus Posts: 27 Member
    I do it for him, which in essence is doing it for me, because when he notices, I get all warm and fuzzy inside.

    Me too!
  • Ed98043
    Ed98043 Posts: 1,333 Member
    I think men do appreciate a woman who's dressed nicely and well-groomed, and most of the time they have no idea how much work goes into it. They just see the overall "pretty and pulled together", not that she's manicured, pedicured, waxed, shaved, plucked, make-upped, accessorized, moisturized, coiffed, perfumed, tooth-whitened, exfoliated, etc...each individual part just makes up the whole impression for them, and they do like it.

    That being said, I know men couldn't be more clueless about designer items. A Prada handbag is purely for other women and for herself. :)
  • pspetralia
    pspetralia Posts: 963 Member
    Most men in my life don't even notice when I change hair color....so no....it's for ouself.

    LOL! This!!!
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    Must chime in here...
    I have noticed woman and men checking me out a lot lately.
    I LOVE IT.
    If my hair is on top of my dome and im wearing a lazy outfit w/no makeup on or...
    If my hair is done, im rocking a sexy outfit and Im piercing someones soul with my great eye makeup.
    I used to spend a lot of money on makeup and clothes, shoes, handbags, facials..but now that Im more mature
    I find the sales, use makeup from Walmart and make some of my own clothes..
    Ive always supported myself, but If I met a great guy that wanted to buy me shizz, Id let him..
  • bonjour24
    bonjour24 Posts: 1,119 Member
    i always try to do the best with what i have. we're skint, so i get my clothes in charity shops. but i try to look good for work- well, at least professional! i spend most of my time when i'm off work in gym clothes anyway.
    when i dress well i feel more motivated to do what i need to do- work clothes and a face of warpaint means my head is in that hard faced space. gym clothes mean that it's time to be gymming it!
    on the rare occassion that we get dressed up to go out, i do like to make an effort. but that's for me. it's nice if he notices, but to be fair he wouldn't notice a hand in front of his face unless it slapped him.
  • sizzle74
    sizzle74 Posts: 858 Member
    My husband would be pissed if I got all frumpy so yes, some of it is for him. Then it's for me. And the rest of the world :) (He better not get all frumpy either! I have sex with him)
  • jogglesngoggles
    jogglesngoggles Posts: 362 Member
    at the risk of sounding like a complete snob, the outfits are for me...I get all dressed up to leave the house becuase I like being the girl that looks so put together that all other girls want to be like her...mwah ha ha, I do not always accomplish this, but I sure try and IF you can afford $150 outfit, why not??...BUT the lingerie, the makeup done at night when you really want to wash it off, the long hair kept down instead of putting it up into a pony tail...yeah, that's all for him!!
  • MbiggsHFD319
    MbiggsHFD319 Posts: 427 Member
    Ok I'm a boots and jeans kinda gal and before I lost weight all my jeans came from Walmart and my boots well they were whatever was cheap and would fit my feet....but after I started losing my hubs bought me my 1st pair of brand name jeans and nice boots so I would look good for him.... Well I was hooked.
    I will admit that I dress the way I do because I am an attention *kitten*, but I also do it to look good for him, after all I am his trophy bride ( all-be-it the only thing I am for him most of the time) and a trophy's gotta shine....
  • robot_potato
    robot_potato Posts: 1,535 Member
    When I look good, I feel good. So I do it for me. When he sees me looking and feeling good, he can't keep his hands off of me. So that's a little for both of us.
  • pudadough
    pudadough Posts: 1,271 Member
    I'm single and make my own money, so the point is moot. I do it all for me.
  • Alyssah09
    Alyssah09 Posts: 357 Member
    Eh it depends. I DO like to look nice for my fiance, but I don't go out and spend money to do that. I will fix my hair and put on makeup and wear something other than a band T shirt and jeans most of the time. So it CAN be for the guy, but sometimes I do it just to make myself feel good.

    80% for my fiance

    20% for me

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