ladies, a personal question. laides only.

WendyTerry420

I have some depression, but I've always been a pretty depressing person. always out going, but half empty glass. I am on the mirena iud birth control. it's stopped my period and i'm fine with that. I don't want to be pregnant again. my daughter was a hard time and frankly, when I lose the weight, i'd be terrified to gain anything.

I've tried talking to my husband. I tell him I feel gross and disgusting, and all he says is im not and never goes further than that. i'm not a therapy person. I feel they're just in it for the money. bad experience when I was teen. my mom had me see a therapist after my dad died. $75 for an hour, and she was usually 10 minutes late and pushed me out when my hour was up. just asked how I was feeling.

Depression, mood swings, and lack of libido are known side effects of Mirena. You might want to try a different form of birth control.

http://labeling.bayerhealthcare.com/html/products/pi/Mirena_PI.pdf

http://www.healthboards.com/boards/birth-control/560714-mirena-iud-side-effects-why-not-use-form-birth-control.html

danasings

I have good days and bad days when it comes to my sex drive. It takes work for me, because I have depression, two small children, and no one that lives close by to watch the kids for a while so I can get a break from them. I have always had a libido on the lower end of things, especially when my weight was higher.

But my opinion is that you are having more issues than just your sex drive. I am never repulsed by my husband's touch, even when I'm dead tired...one thing that stood out to me in your last post is "he's thinking about the chick in the DVD." Right there, I can tell you that he's not, because she's not the one having sex with him, YOU are. If he's telling you that you are beautiful, believe him. He means it. And don't argue with him about it, say thank you. Because if you continually tell him he's wrong, eventually you might change his mind.

ETA: I mean this in the kindest, gentlest way possible, OP. Not trying to be mean, just stating my opinion. Best of luck.

Trechechus

I can't get enough of my man. So, probably not the right woman to answer this question.

Hollisss

Actually at my heaviest weight I was the most confident sexually.

gauchogirl

Yes, at my heaviest (I've been there two different times with two different husbands) I hated sex, had the same running conversations in my head as you list. But also, yes, as I lost weight it improved (for women, it's all in the head and the hormones) and now I'm at least as likely to initiate sex as my husband. Interestingly enough, with pregnancies 1 and 2, no interest in sex. With 3rd pregnancy I couldn't get enough. Husband was actually sleeping on the couch to get away from ME, LOL.

I think as your opinion of yourself changes (improves), you will find it coming back, assuming you have no other underlying conditions.

broox80

Last year I joined MFP and quickly lost about 20 pounds and found my libido!! Now
I am starting all over again since I just had a baby. Yes the libido increase led to a baby .

MizTerry

I remember losing my drive early, especially after having children. Good heavens, after working all day, keeping up with the kids all night, I just didn't want to be messed with.

Back in June of last year, I went for hormone replacement therapy. It was WONDERFUL! I got my drive back! It's expensive as all get-out though. Sheesh.

mandyneedtolose

I think it is as our bodies change we grow more confidence .. thus changing everything up!!

WendyTerry420

I have good days and bad days when it comes to my sex drive. It takes work for me, because I have depression, two small children, and no one that lives close by to watch the kids for a while so I can get a break from them. I have always had a libido on the lower end of things, especially when my weight was higher.

But my opinion is that you are having more issues than just your sex drive. I am never repulsed by my husband's touch, even when I'm dead tired...one thing that stood out to me in your last post is "he's thinking about the chick in the DVD." Right there, I can tell you that he's not, because she's not the one having sex with him, YOU are. If he's telling you that you are beautiful, believe him. He means it. And don't argue with him about it, say thank you. Because if you continually tell him he's wrong, eventually you might change his mind.

ETA: I mean this in the kindest, gentlest way possible, OP. Not trying to be mean, just stating my opinion. Best of luck.

I agree. I think the other issues are causing a low sex drive.

Rawzy

OKay so here is the thing. Usually your libido should increase with exersice. If its decreasing you could be looking at a lot of other factors affecting your everyday life.
Your sex drive should be improving... First, endurance exercise your stamina. Second, you can become more flexible through aerobic and gymnastic exercise. Third, exercise of any type can prevent you from cramping up during orgasm. Finally, exercise causes the release of endorphins into the limbic and prefrontal areas of the brain. The increased level of endorphins may also influence the buildup of hormones that power your libido. Endorphins also reduce stress, which is a major sex drive inhibitor.
Exercise provides a psychological boost, as well. Regular exercise leads to a higher self-esteem. As you become more fit, you feel more confident and enjoy sex more. exercising also puts you more in touch with your physical body and enables you to feel more sexual, as opposed to the sense of detachment you have if you are ashamed of your body.
But what you have to realize is what you eat can also affect your libido, or sex drive. Whats the use of all this exersice to feel better and healthier is your not feeding your body the proper fuel and nutrients. Foods that boost or improve your sex drive are things like: Avocado, almonds, strawberries, basil, Dark chocalate, Asparagus, bananas, citrus fruits, arugula, HOney, figs. and even seafoods. Try incorporating some of these things do your daily diet, and im sure youll see your sex drive increase as well as making your skin and body feel delicious :P
I study food science and nutrition at school, so i defenatley know my stuff haha. IF you have any questions im here to answer.
ALSO: NOTE: Anxiety and stress and lead to decreased libido and sex drive. This is due to your happy endorphins shutting down because stress is all you can focus and thing about, this is why breathing exersises and yoga is very reccomended when trying to lose weight or exersicing intensely.

hearthemelody

Just remember that the human experiance is a spectrum. Just as some people say they naturally have a high sex drive, some people have a naturally low sex drive. That doesn't mean anything is wrong with them!