Share the REAL reasons why you're fat (or too thin)

Kathymomof4

abandonment issues as a child and other darkness. I chose food as my escape and continued that throughout my adult life. No more, no more!! Healing in more ways than one. :bigsmile:

shytrevoak

Was really active before I got married. College, worked two jobs, always busy. Marriage put on some weight, just chilling with the hub, eating whatever. Had baby #1 almost 5 yrs ago, put on pounds. Lost some but not all. Baby #2 came in Sept, lost my gall bladder in the process (gall stone). I've had to change my eating habits because of it, which has been wonderful. And now I refuse to be like most Mom's out there and let myself go. BOOM!

Jitterbug17

Depo is evil....

SassJess81

Depo is evil....

Agreed!

Reasons (chronological order):

1. Not great nutrition education growing up...always a little chunky
2. Starved myself in high school
3. DEPO SHOT...gained 50 lbs in less than a year
4. Abusive relationship
5. Drinking way too much for years...and eating fast food
6. Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (I suspect triggered by Depo)
7. Extreme depression
8.Married a guy who has the appetite of a horse and always eating fast food, habits rubbed off on me
9. All or nothing mentality...if I screwed up one meal, screw it all!


This past year my doctor referred me to an excellent program that includes a dietician and psychologist. I learned some amazing ways to change my thought process and I am actually losing weight now.

hatkinson87

My dad passed away from cancer when I was six, had an abusive step-dad come in to my life at 7, my grandfather passed away when I was 13, dated an abusive man when I was 19, my uncle committed suicide when I was 22 and my other uncle passed away from cancer when I was 23 and got fired from my first "real" job out of college at 24. Take all of these crazy things and mix them with food and you get me!

So much death and grieving has caused me to turn to food for comfort and the heavier I got, the more I would eat. It's such a miserable, vicious cycle! Now, at 25 (almost 26), I'm the heaviest I've ever been (235 as of Jan 2013) and I'm not going to live the life of an overweight person. My boyfriend of three years has encouraged me to get healthy mentally and physically. It's a challenge because with being an emotional eater I've also picked up the horrible habit of laziness! I don't want to live like this anymore and want to run like I did in college and be overall healthy!

serenapitala

I was sure I couldn't do things, so I never tried.

Beachtreasures

I gained weight being a yo yo dieter -- my lowest weight when dieting was 117 and my highest after tossing in the towel was 208. I would diet and exercise like a crazy person and then once I was at my goal (or close to it) revert back to my old habits. Recently I would gain to around 180 and then diet. Not any more, now just clean healthy living and no fad diets.

Kaylaef

PORTION CONTROL! If i don't watch it I could easily mow through an entire bag of crisps, or three bowls of pasta--I have a big appetite, and come from a food centered family. Dinner was always family time, food brings all my extended family to one place. But we never ate junk food. My Mum cooked every night for us four kids and my dad. I also have Multiple Sclerosis which inhibits my activity a lot. But I try to be as active as possible. Now, its really all about swapping out all that pasta (albeit, home made) for veg.

P.S I am a bit of a wino too..haha I'll watch my portions, but I'll be damned if I stop taking pleasure in a perfect glass of red.

Koholint

Lack of self-control. I also didn't start in a very good place, since I was a chubby little girl and had terrible eating habits. I was very introverted, had few friends, and was bullied constantly at school. So I turned to food for comfort, and I particularly reached for sweets. I had a choice how to handle it and I didn't choose well...

To add, I was turned off to a lot of great healthy foods when I was younger because I thought they were bland, unseasoned, and uninteresting to me... Now I make the same healthy foods to eat for my husband and me but I prepare them in a tasty (still healthy!) way. (: (I can't believe I ate zucchini yesterday at dinner!) My husband is a naturally slim guy, and he motivates me to get healthier so we can go on more adventures together. Soon, all of these reasons will be why I WAS heavy, not why I AM. No more!!

ElizabethKG1983

I have always struggled with my weight. I am a stress eater. I used to be a smoker and I used that to diet/suppress my appetite and would smoke when I felt like eating. Two years ago I quit smoking and since then have gained 50 lbs. I even thought about taking up smoking again so that I would be able to lose weight. I am finally getting control of my eating but it is still a struggle for me. When I am stressed I want to eat and so I am trying to replace that with healthy ways to de-stress.

ShrinkinManda

I ate too much and moved too little. Got fat Got depressed about being fat. Ate more. Moved less. Got fatter. Repeat ad nauseum.

Exactly the same for me!! Started when I hit puberty.

hc83

Put on weight gaining meds after baby. free from meds now and exercise and eat healthy more than before. everything happens for a reason.

Mamalea32

My weight is normal. My bmi is 19%. I like the way I look, but I somehow ended up with bulimic behaviors. I am trying to use fitness pal to monitor my nutrition and caloric needs. I really want to be healthy. I just have some issues around certain tempting food scenarios. I love to see what others are doing to be healthy. I find it supportive.... I guess. This big admission all is new to me... and kind of uncomfortable.

meganfoster12

I was an athlete for the longest time played any sport going from rugby to hockey to baseball to basketball and more than I got cut from a soccer time and I became upset about this and I slowely turned away from sports and instead turned to staying home and laziness took over me; over the yearts I dealt with many problems and became an emotional eater no I trying to get back to to my athlete body!!

Mamalea32

Binging stinks. I hope you never purged. It is hard to stop that cycle. By the way, I think your abs look perfect!

MrsRogers2010

I was raised primarily by my grandfather (who is addicted to sweets lol). We never had meal time or actual meals. It was pretty much eat what you want whenever you feel like it (which I thought was great when I was a teenager). But I was always very active, out all the time with friends just doing whatever. Then I got pregnant (and gained weight) and moved away from home (and gained more weight). Got depressed/lonely from not having any friends and not knowing the area and where to go to get out of the house (and gained more weight). Although now I do cook meals (at least dinner) I like my southern style food (buttery and fried). I also continued to eat like a teenager Now I'm learning how to still eat the foods I like, but in moderation. My grandfather lives with us now, like I said he's addicted to sweets. Just recently he sent me to the store for 15 boxes of Little Debbies. Luckily I really only like the Nutter Butter bars, so I just didn't buy any of those to reduce my temptation! My husband also loves sweets, every week I have to buy a pie for him and my paw paw (Thank God I don't like pie)! We also enjoy going out to eat a lot. Like so many others, we had to cut back drastically a few years ago on going out to eat and things like that. Now we are financially stable, and doing well, so we do go out at least once a week. I used to love it, before I was trying to loose weight, but now if I know where we're going I spend a lot of time figuring out what I'm going to eat and how much exercise I need to do to compensate for that meal. I also work a desk job, which is new to me. I had always worked at gas stations where you're on your feet, constantly doing something. Right now I weigh almost 20 lbs more than I did at 9 months pregnant, so that's a total of almost 60 lbs I've gained. And I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism after I had my son. I didn't know that much about it didn't stay on medication consistently.

All in all, I only have myself to blame for getting into the mess I'm in. I could have said no to the bad choices in food, and extra helpings, and desserts. And I could have done something to get my lazy butt off the couch while I was a stay at home mom. And that's what I'm hoping to do. Get myself in shape, and loose weight. For myself, my son, and my husband (who by the way, still weighs the same as he did when we first started dating almost 8 years ago, which pisses me off sometimes lol!)

OroroMunroe

I get stressed = Depressed = eating = more depressed = more eating. Its a horrible cycle, I lost alot of weight but than gained back 20 lbs. Since i started my weight loss journey I am learning so much about myself, its more of a self discovery. All the bad and good things about myself, have to face the demons!

sarahxx68

Upset? I'd eat.
Happy? I'd eat.
Bored? I'd eat.
Repeat cycle until weight became a big problem.

youbet41

I am fat.I really have to stop blaming :blushing: in my mouth. So I need to get my *kitten* moving and my mouth shut lol lol. I have to do this I MISS MYSELF. So with a friend I am going to do it...I AM GOING TO BE HOT AND SASSY ..But all in good time. It took me years to get here but bye this fall I am going to be have way there.

I am women and today is women day so lets shake it ...:blushing:

beautifulregardless

So, this site is pretty anonymous as in like most people you'll never meet, so it's a safe place to share things. So I think it's something everyone needs to do at some point or another, so if you've already shared with someone else or just yourself, share it again to empower yourself. If you haven't opened up yet, then do it.
What are the REAL reasons why you are fat, or too thin, or out of shape, or whatever? What happened? (breakup, loss, plain laziness etc. etc.)

Chocolate. Milk. Cheese. Sour Cream...
That's seriously it.

& If lasagna was made? I could eat a pan in four days by myself.. a BIG pan.

MrsKuhn

The REAL reason why I am bigger is because of my son. I was 95 pounds never over 100 before I had my son. Tiny little Teeny bopper, Now I am stuck in a rut and cant get much weight off. working hard and not seeing any pay off makes me loose motivation and with no support group and no results i get upset and give up.

youbet41

I am at the beginning one of many beginnings.But there has to be a time when it clicks for you.SO this is going to be it. I have gained so much just because of low selfesteen . Being bored and lazy. This is got to stop not going to be easy but life is not easy..Small steps and I am going to get there. I have to I want to be strong for me and my family. But mostly for ME, MYSELF AND I...s

Goal_Driven

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Goal_Driven

I LOVE TO EAT! eat when stressed, bored and snack often.. those probably got me there too lol

rhilwbrdg

I've always been heavier than my friends, but never overweight. UNTIL university (currently in my 2nd year). Pizza and alcohol. Lots and lots of pizza and alcohol!

keya729

:flowerforyou: Well, I love food I'm not heavy on junk foods but I love to eat and prior to losing 25lbs I wouldn't exercise. I would work, take care of my family, do school work until the wee hours of the morning and start all over again.

This year I made the promise to myself that while my family is very important to me so is ME!! I'm doing weight loss not for my husband, children or anyone else but ME and I've noticed with this thinking I've lost weight, my studying is getting better (9mths left btw lol) and I sleep better. Using MFP has helped so much and knowing that they're people out there in cyberworld that are going through the same things as helped tremendously.

Thank you my cyber friends for motivating,pushing and encouraging me through this process. :blushing:

amrozes

I've been overweight for nearly 20 years. I think weight was my excuse for not participating in life and therefore eliminating "risk" of failure. If someone didn't like me, I'd say it was because I was too fat for them. Men weren't interested in me ... it was because I was fat. My sex life wasn't good .... again it was because I was fat. I married an amazing man 17 years ago who loved me despite the fact that I was fat..... I used my weight like a weapon --- when things weren't good between us I'd tell him it was because he couldn't handle the fact I was overweight. But he hung in there with me and loved me for me. Now as I am losing weight and I'm really starting to participate in life, I'm am having to learn to deal with myself, my failures, my insecurities. I can't hide behind my weight anymore....But boy is it cathartic to shed not only the weight but all the insecurities about myself.

And I also had a love affair with popcorn with butter, homemade chocolate chip cookies, buffalo chicken wings and pizza......... :-)

spickard34

After highschool, parents got divorced, I started college (freshmen 15), boyfriend (now hubby) and I always went out to eat and I had no self control and I quite smoking. So as you can tell I was up against it all, also I am an emotional eater. A month before I got married I looked in the mirror at 180 something and swore I would not be the bride that got married and gained weight I would be the HOT WIFE, that was six years ago and have been trying ever since.

MrsCarter00

Up until two years ago I chose my love for food over loving myself and the way I look! I still love junk but in moderation. Nutella, especially Nutella!

littlebigsteve

cheeseburgers .....