Why are men intimidated by Succecssful Women ?

sizzle74

I am sure Freud would say it is related to potty training or Oedipal issues. More likely they are intimidated because they have low self-esteem or small appendages. Or perhaps the women are just bi

I thought she cared because she was single and having dating issues. But she is not. :drinker: Phew.

sizzle74

Well crap. The quoting isn't working. Sorry.

olDave

Well...have you met "most men"? I think not.

crisanderson27

Why do people ask questions that stereotype the attitudes and behaviors of an entire group because of a few experiences they've had?

Stereo Typing was not the Plan !

I am 33, my experiences have been more than A FEW.

Just looking for feed back. If you don`t have any useful feed back, its OKAY not to respond. Thanks.

This is a public forum. It IS OKAY for someone to post anything that may not be the response you don't want to hear.

And unless you've met and dated 100% of all the men in the world, at least in present day - what you asked is generalizing a group of people.

Mostly Likely so, However it wasn`t meant that way , The post had nothing i didnt want to hear, it just wasn`t advice at all.

I am 53, and probably have more experience. The advice was there in my question by implication. If you approach men with this expectation, they will sense the walls you have up, and react to them. That's not to say that some men don't have such fragile egos that they won't be intimidated, but you will have better luck if you do your best to erase that expectation when you are dealing with men.

Oh Absolutely True!!

Just try rolling up in Jaguar to meet your lunch date, as he steps out of his Taurus, Not much has to be said. He is done!

I just caught this post.

Oddly enough, I just recently sold my Taurus. Chances are I wouldn't have been rolling up for a date in it (though I have in the past). More likely on my bike.

But you're wrong about the 'He's done' part...unless she's the one that ends it due to the family car I happened to be driving.

Her loss.

danasings

Bahahahaha, Well i didnt mean your Boss, i meant your Girl, or Possible girl.

Men get all indifferent once they find out a few things about me which include Income, Talents, Goals i have Checked off as complete.

I hate when this happens,

I'm not intimidated or turned off by successful women. In fact, quite the opposite. What I am turned off by is arrogant, snobbish women who blame their lack of a successful relationship on their success and others' perceived discomfort with that success... instead of just realizing that it's their awful/demanding/condescending personality which is the real culprit.

(Please don't read too much into this. I don't know you from Eve and am NOT making a judgement about you.)

Very well said. While reading through the comments I keep finding myself thinking, "Maybe it's perception." OP, I don't know you, and you may not think that you flaunt your success...but maybe the men you meet think that you do. But people will perceive what they want to...and first impressions are hard to change. I hope you can find what you're looking for out there.

Jennloella

I didn't realize many men still were? I think when people don't like you the way you want them to or give you the respect you think you deserve, it's easy to say they're jealous or intimidated. Maybe he's just not that into you.

PetulantOne

Men who are comfortable with themselves usually aren't.

NormInv

Its a turn on. Successful women are hot.

But here is my gripe. When I am out on a date, I do not want to talk about work, nor do I want to check my work phone constantly every few minutes. So thats where I draw the line. I have worked in very important jobs and not many people can say they have achieved more, so if I am able to turn it off for a date, the woman should be able to do so too.

LiftAllThePizzas

It's a fact: women are intimidated by men who are unemployed and live with their parents.

NormInv

It's a fact: women are intimidated by men who are unemployed and live with their parents.

and short. do not forget short.

Guillotined

< single and looking for successful women! :blushing: lol

But to be on topic: I can see how most guys feel that their purpose is to provide. Us men are ugly creatures, so all we would have left is charm. Some men just can't handle that lol.

upgetupgetup

Its a turn on. Successful women are hot.

But here is my gripe. When I am out on a date, I do not want to talk about work, nor do I want to check my work phone constantly every few minutes. So thats where I draw the line. I have worked in very important jobs and not many people can say they have achieved more, so if I am able to turn it off for a date, the woman should be able to do so too.

Ok ^ is a reasonable expectation for just basically civil behaviour, but I think it points to the one thing (*sometimes*) related to success that might put men off, which is feeling deprived of a certain kind of attention. A MILLION (yeah actually a million) studies show how much happier men are in marriage, because of the emotional and domestic work women do to support them. Same studies show women are worse off in terms of stress. Some busy, driven women are better than others at also being nurturing 'enough'.

Re negative emotions even very junior men might feel about a powerful female senior - haven't seen intimidation or fear as often as contempt. They'll probably denigrate her behind her back, or take for granted they'll have her job given time, before they cower.

If men are actually *intimidated* by anything woman-related, it's more likely to be beauty.

NormInv

Its a turn on. Successful women are hot.

But here is my gripe. When I am out on a date, I do not want to talk about work, nor do I want to check my work phone constantly every few minutes. So thats where I draw the line. I have worked in very important jobs and not many people can say they have achieved more, so if I am able to turn it off for a date, the woman should be able to do so too.

Ok ^ is a reasonable expectation for just basically civil behaviour, but I think it points to the one thing (*sometimes*) related to success that might put men off, which is feeling deprived of a certain kind of attention. A MILLION (yeah actually a million) studies show how much happier men are in marriage, because of the emotional and domestic work women do to support them. Same studies show women are worse off in terms of stress. Some busy, driven women are better than others at also being nurturing 'enough'.

Re negative emotions even very junior men might feel about a powerful female senior - haven't seen intimidation or fear as often as contempt. They'll probably denigrate her behind her back, or take for granted they'll have her job given time, before they cower.

If men are actually *intimidated* by anything woman-related, it's more likely to be beauty.

My personal experience has been that there are people, both men and women, who do the checking-your-phone routine every few minutes because it makes them feel important. I cannot stand that. At my job I deal with multi-million dollar transactions, yet despise the work phone after hours and on weekends, so if a gal who is an assistant to some hot shot professional wants to check her phone every few minutes, it will be a short evening. Exceptions are there, where maybe you are waiting for a important email, but usually frowned upon.

My best date, and a very nice relationship that followed, was with a woman who told me on a first date that she did not bring with her any phones, because she liked to disconnect. I did not know how successful she really was until I got to know her better. She was more successful than me, and I learned so much from her about life and food and art. Loved it!

Also, at a lot of workplaces, men call women *****es, and I could not understand it. But then I understood as I climbed up the ladder. It is because they do not respect these women and are threatened by them. the women in turn learn to have a serious demeanor to be taken seriously, which is then deemed *****y. The woman in a high position has to have the game face on, or she would not be taken seriously by the old white club. This is truer in the financial industry.

Anyway, a successful woman who can turn it off, can teach you a thing or 2, is H O T.

upgetupgetup

Its a turn on. Successful women are hot.

But here is my gripe. When I am out on a date, I do not want to talk about work, nor do I want to check my work phone constantly every few minutes. So thats where I draw the line. I have worked in very important jobs and not many people can say they have achieved more, so if I am able to turn it off for a date, the woman should be able to do so too.

Ok ^ is a reasonable expectation for just basically civil behaviour, but I think it points to the one thing (*sometimes*) related to success that might put men off, which is feeling deprived of a certain kind of attention. A MILLION (yeah actually a million) studies show how much happier men are in marriage, because of the emotional and domestic work women do to support them. Same studies show women are worse off in terms of stress. Some busy, driven women are better than others at also being nurturing 'enough'.

Re negative emotions even very junior men might feel about a powerful female senior - haven't seen intimidation or fear as often as contempt. They'll probably denigrate her behind her back, or take for granted they'll have her job given time, before they cower.

If men are actually *intimidated* by anything woman-related, it's more likely to be beauty.

My personal experience has been that there are people, both men and women, who do the checking-your-phone routine every few minutes because it makes them feel important. I cannot stand that. At my job I deal with multi-million dollar transactions, yet despise the work phone after hours and on weekends, so if a gal who is an assistant to some hot shot professional wants to check her phone every few minutes, it will be a short evening. Exceptions are there, where maybe you are waiting for a important email, but usually frowned upon.

My best date, and a very nice relationship that followed, was with a woman who told me on a first date that she did not bring with her any phones, because she liked to disconnect. I did not know how successful she really was until I got to know her better. She was more successful than me, and I learned so much from her about life and food and art. Loved it!

Also, at a lot of workplaces, men call women *****es, and I could not understand it. But then I understood as I climbed up the ladder. It is because they do not respect these women and are threatened by them. the women in turn learn to have a serious demeanor to be taken seriously, which is then deemed *****y. The woman in a high position has to have the game face on, or she would not be taken seriously by the old white club. This is truer in the financial industry.

Anyway, a successful woman who can turn it off, can teach you a thing or 2, is H O T.

Oh yeah, no, I know exactly what you meant; you were talking about simple respect. Unrepentant phone-checkers of either gender are jerks, I agree. It just made me think about other kinds of attention, which tend to fall more along gendered lines.

Also agree re perceptions of female authority, and strategies to secure it, in business.

olDave

Why do Strong, Successful, Talented, Women intimidate Most Men.

Just an Observation i had found to be so true in my own life.

Why is this ??? Any thoughts???

I rather doubt you have met "most" men.