Why are men intimidated by Succecssful Women ?
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Why do Strong, Successful, Talented, Women intimidate Most Men.
Just an Observation i had found to be so true in my own life.
Why is this ??? Any thoughts???
My reactive response to your first statement is "Wrong." If anything, most men no matter his income, tend to be magnetised to women who are strong earners. More likely, a woman who is a high producer needs to sieve the men who choose to cross that line with her, aren't motivated by her worth. It's a lot like how it is for men - Women who strictly pursue the rich and wealthy, for the want of a life they covet and do not understand.
Have you considered that maybe you have been dating men who aren't your equals? If you consciously allow men who are somewhat your subordinates (not necessarily financial) - men who are clearly incompatible with you to engage in a relationship of an intimate nature, then the result will be the brash statements, dumbing down your earnings, your abilities and your sense of self-worth.
I find it strange, that you feel the need to carry-over your professional-self into your private relationship, unless that was part and parcel of the attraction. It's as bad as sex only, being the reason 2 people are together; When sex fritters away - what do you have? What are you left with? You need to find a man who complements you; Where everything about you is what he likes; You are portraying a symptomatic side-effect of a woman who engaged herself in a relationship because you settled; You made do. There are way too many men out there who are wonderful men; Men who see you for you and NOT your pocket; Men who like you and couldn't care less - how much you bring home. Men who will see you as a WOMAN first.
@Jaguar vs Taurus. Warren Buffett's son drives a Taurus. Ted Turner's son drives a Taurus. My brother drives a Toyota Hilux. How much are they all worth? Two are heirs to billions and one is a billionaire. What do I drive? An electric :laugh: How much am I worth? Don't ask - or you'll blush! And I certainly am not impressed (and neither should any man) by anyone who thinks that driving an $88K vehicle is a statement piece.
FYI: Not ALL MEN who have money earn it via WALL ST or in fields where a suit is required. Dirty jobs and businesses are fairly BIG INCOME generators too, you know. :laugh:
ETA:?/ Hilux0 -
Lol, I bet you wouldn't hang out with Lorena Bobbit.Meh... nothing intimidates a well-hung man.
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I will probably get flamed for this but my guess is that since those attributes are a turn on to many women you are assuming our minds work the same and they just don't.
While many or most guys like that in a lady it doesn't equate to romantic desire as much so you presume the lack of that happening must be intimidation while in reality it is just the outcome of how we are wired.0 -
I'd like to see more successful people period.0
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Men who are genuinely intimidated by successful women likely reflect the character and lifestyle of that woman back onto themselves. Perhaps they don't feel that their successes can measure up and feel inadequate because of it. If they happen to hold the concept of gender roles in significant regard and have in turn tied their worth as a partner to their ability to be the primary breadwinner and caretaker of the relationship (or family), applying that to being less successful than a potential partner can also cause that sense of inadequacy. There is also the occasional stereotype of a successful person (man or woman) making their success very clear and known to potential partners as if it is a defining characteristic of not only themselves (which is fine) but also of why they are worth your time (or why you aren't worth theirs). This would reflect much more on the attitude surrounding that success than just being successful, though, and I think that most men either respond negatively because of the latter, or are simply predisposed because of past experiences to assume that a successful woman that they meet is going to be snobbish, high-maintenance, judgmental, or any other presumption rather than just a regular person who happens to be successful.
Blanket statements rarely do anyone any favors, though.0 -
They aren't. I'm successful and I get approached all the time.0
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They aren't. I'm successful and I get approached all the time.
i Am Sure It Is Different In The Hamster World.0 -
I no problem being with a successful woman as long she doesn't mind being with a King!!0
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A lot of men (and women) don't enjoy other people's success rubbed in their faces constantly (somebody telling them which of their lofty goals have already been attained). My husband said being married to me is a constant blow to his ego but he manages (always says it with a wink). He thought I was going to be just an ego stroker (due to my background), and man I have tried that but I'm also an insane critical thinker (at times just critical but workin on that one!) so ego stroking and critical thinking don't always go well. But he had enough ego stroking from his Mom (to the exclusion of all thinking!), so he admits that is why he expected a wife to always tell him everything he did was great, big, wonderful and the best instead of a wife looking critically at something and saying "Did you realize your footing in the middle is not level and 2 inches in??"
Personality makes a big difference, what their Mom's were like and if they waited on them hand and foot etc.
Being "successful" does not mean smart, logical or anything else. Many people are insanely successful and you would never know because they don't tell you I tend to like the second kind anyway.
In my husband's field the most "successful" suck at interpersonal relationships (lots of broken marriages) and end up doing a lot of research as well as not doing well in field work due to being better at test taking than applying learned skills.
I'm very independent (that does NOT mean successful LOL), and Dh has told me it is intimidating because everything I do I do better than he does. Then he feels like a little flunky when he works with me because I'm very focused, I want things done my way because they are always the best (not always true), and he feels like a little boy following me around waiting to be given a chore to do (the fact that he isn't home much makes it harder as I'm USED to doing things alone or with 4 children 7 and under). I have learned that it has nothing to do with him being a small man - who doesn't work better with encouragement (assuming they are good workers already and not just pouting), and then trusting them enough to give them jobs and NOT micromanage the stupid little details. DH has a busy job which meant he was not always around, so I do everything myself. My Dad had a long commute and was not around much for 8 years of our lives (it was the only way he could make a living during the high interest mortgage years), so my Mom and I became very independent and able to fix things, handle problems on our own. That can be really hard on a marriage at times (face it, at some point our hubbies need to be the fixer of SOME problem - most men are wired that way and that does not mean it is all bad, it means some times I have to tell him his muscles are mighty big and heck I'd rather he threw the 100lb bales around anyway - I have nothing left to prove. *G)
I prefer the people who appear to be less successful and you find out later from somebody else exactly who they are anyway. . .
Men are not always intimidated by successful women as a rule - they have been stung by the successful, in your face "who you lookin' at!" "I can open a door without a man's help THANK YOU" Beotch's who are out there to prove they can fight and claim their place in the supposed man's world - I'm gun shy of them too and I can say that the majority of successful women i have met due to my husband's career are ones I don't get along with either!
Having said all that, my" career" before I got married did not have a lot of women and I found it ridiculously hard to fight the chauvinistic attitudes constantly because they were sure I could not possibly understand what they were talking about, always trying to pull things over on me, call me "little lady". I had to become rude, in your face, pushy and developed an "you are a little man!" attitude just to get my job done well, and finally decided my job just wasn't worth my attitude that was carrying over to every man I knew and the good men sure did not deserve it!0 -
I no problem being with a successful woman as long she doesn't mind being with a King!!
Only if he's the tops! 0 -
Why do Strong, Successful, Talented, Women intimidate Most Men.
Just an Observation i had found to be so true in my own life.
Why is this ??? Any thoughts???
Men, aren't. Boys, are.0 -
Success and intimidation are 2 different things. A lot of times it's not success that's intimidating but the attitude of intimidation that a woman projects that is actually intimidating and meant to be that way, even if it's subconscious. Some women do this as a sort of defense mechanism, as if they're broadcasting a message that says "I'm not weak and vulnerable and you can't hurt me!" So the men pick up on that and it feels hard and unapproachable, unfeminine, so they automatically back off.
We're all just fancy animals doing what animals do. <--- I heard that quote in a movie not long ago. And it's true. I know that quote had to do with sex, which is a big part of it, but it's also about how we're being. We put off vibes and certain "scents" that others pick up on and react accordingly. We can fool ourselves and say it's the outer trappings that repel, but that's rarely the case. Mostly it's the attitude that we project.0 -
Not a single English course teaching sentence structure, proper punctuation, and when to use title-case was needed to assume success in this thread's creation.
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Seriously ? It`s a thread, not a essay.0 -
I work in business for one of the largest companies in the world.
Nothing sexier than a successful, confident woman!
I completely agree. I don`t think the nasty comments, and negative info is really needed. Just because it wasn`t written to someones` liking doesn`t mean that i have an undesirable in personality either.0 -
I wish you had put "most" in the title like you did in the preamble.
Sorry for that error...... Please forgive me.0 -
My gf/ex/mind effer is on double my salary and it doesnt intimidate me one bit, I knew she had a career when we met, her drive to succeed caught my attention, I find it attractive0
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My experience has been that women are more initimidated by/ jealous of other women's success. Also secaure and confident people (men or women rarely ever feel threatened.
I completely agree.0 -
This is why I have cut back on posting. It does not matter what you say-there are many who feel the need to personally attack you even if it is baseless. Men who measure their self worth based on income will be intimidated if you make more.Why do people ask questions that stereotype the attitudes and behaviors of an entire group because of a few experiences they've had?
Stereo Typing was not the Plan !
I am 33, my experiences have been more than A FEW.
Just looking for feed back. If you don`t have any useful feed back, its OKAY not to respond. Thanks.
Yes most likely the case. Thanks0 -
My gf/ex/mind effer is on double my salary and it doesnt intimidate me one bit, I knew she had a career when we met, her drive to succeed caught my attention, I find it attractive
That`s Awesome.0 -
I am the opposite I suppose. I want a girl that is successful. I have 2 degrees and am going back for more. I plan on being a Psychiatrist within the next 8 years or so... so I would like a woman that takes pride in education as well as her job because I'm not looking to just support someone who doesn't want to do anything with their life.... just sayin.
Yes, Awesome. There is no need to assume i am unpleasant just because i a successful career.0 -
Perhaps it's only the men you are attracted to. Some guys like successful, intelligent, strong women, so find one of them. You don't need to date or marry most guys. So why does it matter if the other 3 or so billion aren't interested?Bahahahaha, Well i didnt mean your Boss, i meant your Girl, or Possible girl.
Men get all indifferent once they find out a few things about me which include Income, Talents, Goals i have Checked off as complete.
I hate when this happens,
Great comment.0 -
OP, may I ask what your career is?0
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Meh... nothing intimidates a well-hung man.
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Only insecure ones are...0
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My exhusband definitely is. he tried to sabatoge my efforts to finish my degree, and told me that I never finish anything I start and that I'm a failure when I decided to improve my fitness.
Now he only gets to see me MAYBE once a week and a few weeks ago he said "wow did your thighs get smaller?" and all I could think was "yep and you're never touching them again."
Right before we split I told him I was joining the kids' taekwondo class, he laughed at me. I've been in long enough to pass 4 belt tests and I've noticed he keeps his distance from me now more than he did before.0 -
The premise isn't true. Its a myth created by train wrecks to justify why no one likes them.0
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Nice brag thread op.
Brag thread ?? Not at all.0 -
OP, may I ask what your career is?
I am Salon Owner / Operator in the Atlanta area. That`s just my day job.0 -
I don't have a Jaguar, and I don't work. No problem having men fall in love with me. Maybe you're missing something they like?0
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Your day job? This just keeps getting better. I'm sorry, but yes your lack of grammar is a huge red flag.0
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