Is it wrong for me to go out with someone younger?

burning2much
burning2much Posts: 4,846 Member
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I'm 48, in very good shape and I find it hard to go out with women my own age. I want to be with someone who is like me, they need to have energy, athletic and in shape. I know this sounds bad, but I keep on dropping the age limit to find someone compatible, I've dropped it down to 30 now (that is as low as I will go). So, should I feel bad about this?
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  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    No its not wrong unless she is under 18.. I say go with what suits your heart. Older ladies tend too be more mature tho, I find that I like guys that are 5-7 years younger than me.
  • LeanQuest
    LeanQuest Posts: 57
    I'm 48, in very good shape and I find it hard to go out with women my own age. I want to be with someone who is like me, they need to have energy, athletic and in shape. I know this sounds bad, but I keep on dropping the age limit to find someone compatible, I've dropped it down to 30 now (that is as low as I will go). So, should I feel bad about this?

    As long as you have things in common I can't see the problem.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    I'm in a relationship, so this is kind of off topic, but....I just creeped your profile and the pictures of you.....you're 48? GOOD GOD DAMN MAN WHAT IS YOUR SECRET?

    You will have NO problem attracting a woman. Meow. (I am 32. I do not think that 30 is unreasonable.)
  • burning2much
    burning2much Posts: 4,846 Member
    High metabolic rate, I need 3000 calories just to keep my weight...it's not fun
  • EvilDollee
    EvilDollee Posts: 386 Member
    30 and 48 isn't bad, the gap closes as people get older. My fiance is 41. O_o
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    I'm in a relationship, so this is kind of off topic, but....I just creeped your profile and the pictures of you.....you're 48? GOOD GOD DAMN MAN WHAT IS YOUR SECRET?

    You will have NO problem attracting a woman. Meow. (I am 32. I do not think that 30 is unreasonable.)

    He prolly uses oil of olay too great skin
  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    You seem too old for me.
  • burning2much
    burning2much Posts: 4,846 Member
    Dove for men :wink:
  • burning2much
    burning2much Posts: 4,846 Member
    @sleepy, never know
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    Too old for me too...wait Im 61 your too young for me
  • burning2much
    burning2much Posts: 4,846 Member
    From your profile pic, you look amazing!
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    Nope, you should date someone you like and have things in common with regardless of age.

    Are you accepting applications to date you via PM? :wink:
  • burning2much
    burning2much Posts: 4,846 Member
    I don't even know what that means...
  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
    I sure hope no one thinks it's wrong, I date pretty much nothing but older guys myself :laugh:
  • spangey13
    spangey13 Posts: 294
    The rule is half your age plus 7.

    edited because I can't read...


    do what makes you happy.
    rules are more like guidelines anyway
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    Do what you want. But keep in mind no matter the age there will still be difficulties, perhaps you should do a self-check to see what you are doing right or wrong.
  • Spartan_Maker
    Spartan_Maker Posts: 683 Member
    Assuming that you have social skills in addition to being fit (your opening line here calls that into question), you shouldn't put any arbitrary age limit on it, in my view.
  • lila1980
    lila1980 Posts: 63 Member
    I'm 32, hubby is 47. It happens, and it works! The only time we really notice the difference is when we talk popular culture. Anything pre-1980, and I give him a blank stare... lol
  • FitandFab33
    FitandFab33 Posts: 718 Member
    Only if it's wrong for me to date someone older...
  • jsiricos
    jsiricos Posts: 340 Member
    Younger guys
    Age is just a number
  • chels0722
    chels0722 Posts: 465 Member
    Age is just a number. Numbers are for math. Math is for mathematitians.

    I don't see any mathematitians in this thread. So you're good.
  • susheetush
    susheetush Posts: 621 Member
    I actually found the same thing, but in reverse. I tended to go out with guys who were in their late twenties, early thirties because despite the fact they may have been a bit immature, mostly they were fun, active, energetic and were happy to lead active lives.

    Then I met my SO and he's only just over a year younger than me and had all the above attributes, PLUS was mature when he needed to be.

    So I say do what makes YOU happy! If it's a younger girl, then that's what it is.
  • PhotogNerd
    PhotogNerd Posts: 420 Member
    Holy hell! You're 48? Wow

    Shouldn't be an issue dating someone younger.
  • freshvl
    freshvl Posts: 422 Member
    i've dated younger and older, variety is the spice of life
  • zen82
    zen82 Posts: 81 Member
    I'm 48, in very good shape and I find it hard to go out with women my own age. I want to be with someone who is like me, they need to have energy, athletic and in shape. I know this sounds bad, but I keep on dropping the age limit to find someone compatible, I've dropped it down to 30 now (that is as low as I will go). So, should I feel bad about this?

    It's not wrong so long as it isn't obscene/illegal... But don't discount the idea someone your own age could exist with the same energy levels as you! And no offence, but I'm 30 and I'd get loads of messages saying similar when I was doing Internet dating, and used to think it was a bit odd. So maybe you need to worry less about the age thing full stop, and just look for a match - whatever their age! I would never ever reply to any bloke that put his upper age limit below his own. I can understand widening your "range" but to assume women "go off" after a certain age is kind of sexist. And you might end up missing out on a wonderful 48 year old hottie if you only go for women in their 30s!
  • chels0722
    chels0722 Posts: 465 Member
    Oh and BTW,

    Way to rep the 406!

    I'm from Billings myself :)
  • LisaMarie8713
    LisaMarie8713 Posts: 310
    I'm 32, almost 33, and madly in love with my bf.... He's 41. Age is just a number...
  • twinketta
    twinketta Posts: 2,130 Member
    I'm 48, in very good shape and I find it hard to go out with women my own age. I want to be with someone who is like me, they need to have energy, athletic and in shape. I know this sounds bad, but I keep on dropping the age limit to find someone compatible, I've dropped it down to 30 now (that is as low as I will go). So, should I feel bad about this?

    What is wrong with finding someone your own age? Or a little younger???


    I am now 53 my hubby is 41 we met on the internet. 12 years ago and celebrated our 11 year wedding anniversary last week. At the time he was a body builder (aka steroids) but he got past that and now competes in triathlons/double iron men etc..I am just a `normal woman` I try hard to keep in shape.....but is not more about meeting of minds and compatibility along with caring and love? Sometimes you have to look for more than age and body...go for more ...if you look for more you will find it x

    Maybe you are a little bit shallow?
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
    It's wrong for you to assume a 48 year old woman can't have energy, athleticism and be in shape like you.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    No. It is not wrong. Be happy.

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