Is it wrong for me to go out with someone younger?

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  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    I think it should be more about compatibility....that's the truth.

    and as long as they over the legal limit and you are compatible why not? I think most people say date within your age range because for MOST people that would create a higher statistical probability of compatibility (same generational experiences, same cultural comfort zones, same age related instances) however that is not true for everyone.

    I date younger. It just happened that way. He's about 7 years younger and it's funny, because when we go out everyone assumes *I* am the young one and he's cradle robbing.

    LOLOLOL....

    but we have a high level of compatibility, we have the same humor, like the same social experiences, we both like being moderately active, he lifts, I've started lifting, he LOVES sex and can keep up with my constant need for it.

    so yeah....do what suits you, not what suits everyone else.

    as long as it's socially responsible and legal that is.
  • ExNihil0
    ExNihil0 Posts: 60
    Trolling for compliments??? Date whoever the F@$# you want!!
  • Irish_Eyes81
    Irish_Eyes81 Posts: 808 Member
    Not at all...I think that sometimes age is such a big deal for people that they lose sight of what might make them happy. If you have more things in common with younger women then go for it....life is too short to wonder what if...find your happy place =) lol
  • laughingdani
    laughingdani Posts: 2,275 Member
    There's something about a well seasoned man....
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    No, but I think it's odd you are looking for anyone based on age *shrug* But that's just me.
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    Doesn't matter to me who you date...

    ... but FYI older chicks know "stuff".
  • MightyDomo
    MightyDomo Posts: 1,265 Member
    If it works and makes you happy then why not? With the exception of under 18 I wouldn't see a problem, some girls mature faster than others and have different mind sets when it comes to where they are in their lives. It's all about what works for you.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Doesn't matter to me who you date...

    ... but FYI older chicks know "stuff".

    Wanna share my pickle?
  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    Go for it. My man is 7yrs older than me. Now I do tease his *kitten* and call him old fart every now and then... lol. But my man is fine and fit and will be like that for as long as he has control of his life. So make sure you keep that body young for your lady. (both my man and I agreed it goes both ways; yes, we're superficial like that!)
  • dewsmom78
    dewsmom78 Posts: 498 Member
    My cousin is married to a guy that is 30 years older than her. He's 2 years older than her Dad. But they've been married 12 years and couldn't be happier.
  • eatcleanNtraindirty
    eatcleanNtraindirty Posts: 444 Member
    Doesn't/shouldn't matter for the most part... I think a 20 yr age difference is the biggest I would ever go.

    The last woman I dated was 12 years my senior. We never had an issue and had a great relationship. It's a shame I moved out of her area...
  • MoreThanMommie
    MoreThanMommie Posts: 597 Member
    I don't see anything wrong with it.
  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    Doesn't matter to me who you date...

    ... but FYI older chicks know "stuff".


    Chicks in their 30's know stuff. By then they tried it all. :glasses:
  • stratusofkiser
    stratusofkiser Posts: 54 Member
    Nothing wrong with it as long as you have things in common
  • snoopytwins
    snoopytwins Posts: 1,759 Member
    It's not that I wouldn't go out with someone my age, where I live it's just hard to find. When I lived in Calif. it was no problem, it's just so limited here. So, don't go making assumptions that I wouldn't date my own age.

    It was the way you phrased you initial post...you said you find it hard to date women your age because you want someone like you with your energy, etc...that's how it read. Not that you want someone like you...however, you have a hard time finding that in single women your age. Big difference.
  • ThisGirl2013
    ThisGirl2013 Posts: 220 Member
    Honestly, age does not always have anything to do with maturity.
    You have to date someone that mentally and physically is a good match.
    I wouldn't say it's bad unless you were that age and trying to date jail bait, you know?
    I think your reasons are honest and realistic and I hope you find what you are looking for!
  • shannonalgren
    shannonalgren Posts: 28
    age make no difference as long as the person is of legal age
  • silvergurl518
    silvergurl518 Posts: 4,123 Member
    I'm 48, in very good shape and I find it hard to go out with women my own age. I want to be with someone who is like me, they need to have energy, athletic and in shape. I know this sounds bad, but I keep on dropping the age limit to find someone compatible, I've dropped it down to 30 now (that is as low as I will go). So, should I feel bad about this?

    oh hey, OP, i'm turning 30 in may ;)
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Where the heck were you when I was 30! I think it's perfectly fine. As it stands I ended up with a much younger husband. We "go", though so it's fine.

    Go=fashion term. it doesn't have to match as long as it "goes" together.
  • Oishii
    Oishii Posts: 2,675 Member
    My pet hate is being patronised, so if I was with an older man, that would be my main concern.
  • silvergurl518
    silvergurl518 Posts: 4,123 Member
    My pet hate is being patronised, so if I was with an older man, that would be my main concern.

    when i was 25, i dated a 46 year old. not because i wanted to date 21 years my senior, and not because i had daddy issues, but because we connected. however, he was twice divorced, a dad, and WAY into his career. and the fact that i was still such a young'n, and very much so comparatively speaking, seemed to come between us. HOWEVER, my most recent ex was 14 years older than me and we got along like peas and carrots, as forrest gump would say. i've dated younger too--but guys younger than me are, as a general rule, more immature--and i prefer a seasoned look anyway. i'll be 30 in may. i'm going to go with compatibility when looking for a partner in crime, but i would like someone who can start a family with me (one day). that can be a wide range of ages....
  • Chieflrg
    Chieflrg Posts: 9,097 Member
    Kinda in the same boat OP as I am 43. My children's mom & I split almost a year ago and I decided not to date anyone for at least a year as I was taking care of them full time and wanted to focus on them exclusively. Year is up and I'm looking to take it REALLY slow and it seems like the younger ladies (late 20s-early 30s) are the only ones available. I definitely don't want to deal with someone that may have daddy issues either. Maybe its just my area, but I notice all the ladies closer to my age are taken and/or just want to have a physical thing behind there man's back. Not my cup of tea to drink.

    Hope you find what you are looking for...
  • JessikaBlayne
    JessikaBlayne Posts: 1,457
    nope
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    I say go with what suits your heart.

    Or lower
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    But I see wut ur doing thar.
  • triciab79
    triciab79 Posts: 1,713 Member
    When I was single, I only considered older guys. You wouldn't be too old for me,34, but oddly enough I have a single friend who is 37 and she wouldn't date a guy your age. I like my men fully grown and the majority of you don't get even close to that until you are in your 40s.
  • DonnaNCgirl
    DonnaNCgirl Posts: 372
    But I see wut ur doing thar.

    LOL :laugh:

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