Drama & Naysayers

skinnybunny_x

This is kind of an odd topic - but one that I've been dealing with lately. It seems like whenever I go to a park in my town, there is always someone either making fun of me working out, or another jogger/walker acting nasty (usually a woman). Does anyone else deal with this? Today another woman literally bumped me off the walking path, then about thirty minutes later, a man asked me very condescendingly while I was doing lunges if it was to "help with walking up and down the stairs?", followed by "Gosh there are so many weirdos at the park nowadays". I remember bullies in 5th grade, but I can't believe adults act this way!

It seems like people are either making fun because you're overweight, or picking on you because they're jealous. I suppose fitness is a touchy topic, and brings out peoples insecurities. Should I be prepared for even more BS when I show off my bikini body (that I'm working SO hard for, and thanks to fitnesspal for helping!), this summer? Women, do you notice drama follows you more now that you're in shape and feeling great? If so, how do you deal with it?

LivMinusTen

Wow, they really are that bad? Seems like bullying to me too and I don't understand people like that.
I love working out outside and when one of my kids has a practice outside I usually walk around the field. I do run when I am behind a building though, because they do look at me, and I want to be invisible. :-) After I am done with my outside workout I feel super, though.

carrieous

nope this has never happened to me and i hear it here all the time which makes me wonder if people arent creating these situations in their own head as an easy "out".

"I cant get healthy because people are MEAN!"

suzely0530

I too can't believe they are that mean to you...they need to get out of high school ! You're gorgeous, so maybe they are just jealous !

Cr01502

Uhm . . . . you're either overly sensitive or you live in a town that hates healthy people getting fit.

CorvusCorax77

This is kind of an odd topic - but one that I've been dealing with lately. It seems like whenever I go to a park in my town, there is always someone either making fun of me working out, or another jogger/walker acting nasty (usually a woman). Does anyone else deal with this? Today another woman literally bumped me off the walking path, then about thirty minutes later, a man asked me very condescendingly while I was doing lunges if it was to "help with walking up and down the stairs?", followed by "Gosh there are so many weirdos at the park nowadays". I remember bullies in 5th grade, but I can't believe adults act this way!

It seems like people are either making fun because you're overweight, or picking on you because they're jealous. I suppose fitness is a touchy topic, and brings out peoples insecurities. Should I be prepared for even more BS when I show off my bikini body (that I'm working SO hard for, and thanks to fitnesspal for helping!), this summer? Women, do you notice drama follows you more now that you're in shape and feeling great? If so, how do you deal with it?

WHOA.

Where do you live????

I have always goin out in public and done my stuff where ever I am and I don't get comments like that I'm sorry. My city is really fitness focused so it's not unusual to see tons of people out running and working out.

I say just let it roll off you like water and do what you do and ignore them as much as possible.

You may also want to carry pepper spray.

1ConcreteGirl

Drama doesn't follow me because I don't encourage it.

kvossandrews

The best thing you can do is smile and enjoy your jog...

Dont waste your time on negative people. Jeolousy that is all it is. DOnt let them win.

LorinaLynn

Nope. When I see other runners, we smile and say hi or nod to each other. Sometimes I get little old men saying things like, "Are you running to catch the bus?" or "Yeah, I just finished a marathon myself..." The worst I ever hear is "Run, Forrest, Run!" And that's not so bad.

MireyGal76

I'd start working on an arsenal of comebacks...

"help with walking up and down the stairs?",
answer: No, actually I do it to trigger random conversations with condescending *kitten*. Look, it works!

"Gosh there are so many weirdos at the park nowadays"
answer: yeah, and they apparently talk to themselves too

DontStopB_Leakin

Drama doesn't follow me because I don't encourage it.

Pretty much.


I've never, ever had this happen to me. Not when I was 280 lbs, and not now.

AngelsInThighHighs

It MAY have been this person.,,

AngelsInThighHighs

I'd start working on an arsenal of comebacks...

"help with walking up and down the stairs?",
answer: No, actually I do it to trigger random conversations with condescending *kitten*. Look, it works!

"Gosh there are so many weirdos at the park nowadays"
answer: yeah, and they apparently talk to themselves too

This is a perfect response for this thread :claps:

Contrarian

I have never experienced this, and I am sorry that you have.

ThisGirl2013

Nothing like that happens here. Yikes!

1ConcreteGirl

The best thing you can do is smile and enjoy your jog...

Dont waste your time on negative people. Jeolousy that is all it is. DOnt let them win.

It's annoying when women say "jealousy" is the reason others behave the way they do. Maybe it makes people feel better to think so, but it's rarely true.

rml_16

There's a bike path where I used to roller blade regularly (I need new ones, so haven't been in a while) and some of the bikers were kind of rude and weirdly territorial. Other than that, nothing of that nature has ever happened to me.

BeachGingerOnTheRocks

Your town sounds like a horrible, horrible place.

I do all sorts of strange things in parks and nobody ever says anything mean.

Crankstr

I have never experienced this, and I am sorry that you have.

me too!

glovepuppet

well this has never happened to me so i think i'll be catty and say that it's either a lie to get you out of working out or you're walking around with a t-shirt that reads ''asking for it!''. you're welcome xx

CLFrancois

turn up your music and ignore- jealousy is a beast. Nothing you can do about it. (and if you are like me, ask them if they wanna race, and then flip them off as you leave them in your dust)

edinphx

ipod plus headphones - turn the music way up! solves those kinds of problems

_Lori_Lynn_

This is kind of an odd topic - but one that I've been dealing with lately. It seems like whenever I go to a park in my town, there is always someone either making fun of me working out, or another jogger/walker acting nasty (usually a woman). Does anyone else deal with this? Today another woman literally bumped me off the walking path, then about thirty minutes later, a man asked me very condescendingly while I was doing lunges if it was to "help with walking up and down the stairs?", followed by "Gosh there are so many weirdos at the park nowadays". I remember bullies in 5th grade, but I can't believe adults act this way!

It seems like people are either making fun because you're overweight, or picking on you because they're jealous. I suppose fitness is a touchy topic, and brings out peoples insecurities. Should I be prepared for even more BS when I show off my bikini body (that I'm working SO hard for, and thanks to fitnesspal for helping!), this summer? Women, do you notice drama follows you more now that you're in shape and feeling great? If so, how do you deal with it?

OMG! this is shocking. I can't see that happening at all where I live. I'm in the midwest I have gone to some northern states and people just walk up and cut ahead of me in line and don't care. Here people would allow "me to go ahead in line" just to be courteous.

I think it is a jealousy thing. Women make fun of me a lot, but I have never had a man do it to my face (beyond high school). Except for on MFP, men dog me here, but that doesn't count.. I have had a woman flirt with my man and then look at me and say, "your *kitten* is fat" right in front of him, etc. That sort of thing. What is happening with you is a jealousy thing. And not sure what is up with that guy. I get very crazy with people who do not mind their business. I used to be known as the, "sweet" one, but now I just tell them to shut up and get the hell away from me NOW!. When you act "a little crazy" it works, lol. I have learned you won't be bothered any more they are too afraid too. I also get a mean face going when I can see someone approaching whom I dont' want to talk to. Or pretend like you are deaf and can't hear them, lol. That one is my favorite. I have done that so many times lol.

slugphat

Next time you encounter something like this you should do the whole superstar thing then offer them a whiff. I think that would be hilarious.

or you could just ignore them and do your thing.

_Lori_Lynn_

The best thing you can do is smile and enjoy your jog...

Dont waste your time on negative people. Jeolousy that is all it is. DOnt let them win.

It's annoying when women say "jealousy" is the reason others behave the way they do. Maybe it makes people feel better to think so, but it's rarely true.

If you know it isn't jealousy , then you have to know that because you know what else it is. Fill us in.

skinnybunny_x

My town is actually a great place, but like one other poster mentioned about her experience, it is territorial at the particular park. Everyone seems to know each other, and if you're not in the little "clique", watch out!

I definitely don't encourage drama, and only speak when spoken to when I'm working out. I'm definitely in "the zone" and am in my own happy place. Not an excuse to NOT get healthy, because I already AM healthy and have a rockin' body.

I have no idea how someone could insinuate that just because it doesn't happen to them, it must be a lie. Blah. Kinda rude. We all have different experiences. This is the support forum after all, the last thing I need is criticism!

I've found that A LOT of women are jealous. It doesn't make me feel good at all, I would rather receive no attention than negative attention or comments. Once again, maybe that is not your experience or your oblivious to it, but I'm sure it happens to most women that are attractive and in shape.

Shrug.

joy5877

The best thing you can do is smile and enjoy your jog...

Dont waste your time on negative people. Jeolousy that is all it is. DOnt let them win.

Totaly agree with this. There are mean and rotten people everywhere. I have seen them on this site - they are bullies and don't even realize. It is easier said than done to say ignore it but you need to try. Good luck!

1ConcreteGirl

The best thing you can do is smile and enjoy your jog...

Dont waste your time on negative people. Jeolousy that is all it is. DOnt let them win.

It's annoying when women say "jealousy" is the reason others behave the way they do. Maybe it makes people feel better to think so, but it's rarely true.

If you know it isn't jealousy , then you have to know that because you know what else it is. Fill us in.

No, thanks. I try not to get involved in discussions with you. :flowerforyou:

skinnybunny_x

Okay Concretegirl, if you won't tell lorryann - I would like to know. What are the other rational explanations?

Contrarian

The best thing you can do is smile and enjoy your jog...

Dont waste your time on negative people. Jeolousy that is all it is. DOnt let them win.

It's annoying when women say "jealousy" is the reason others behave the way they do. Maybe it makes people feel better to think so, but it's rarely true.

If you know it isn't jealousy , then you have to know that because you know what else it is. Fill us in.

No, thanks. I try not to get involved in discussions with you. :flowerforyou:

It's because you are jealous!

_Lori_Lynn_

I've found that A LOT of women are jealous. It doesn't make me feel good at all, I would rather receive no attention than negative attention or comments. Once again, maybe that is not your experience or your oblivious to it, but I'm sure it happens to most women that are attractive and in shape.

Shrug.

the hotter your body starts to look, the meaner the women will be. It's a shame how much looks play a role in how you are treated, but it does. Women are usually very nasty to each other. Oprah once said, she didn't want to lose all her weight, bc it would hurt her ratings bc studies show women don't like "in shape" women as much as ones who are either more like them or out of shape. Not sure of the exact quote, but that is basically what she said.