romantic advice?

1ConcreteGirl

I'm going to disagree with the "friend-zoned" replies, and here's why. I whole-heartedly believe in soul-mates. One vital detail that most people don't seem to think about is that in order for two soul-mates to come together, BOTH of them have to be ready.

When I was young, I was best friends with a guy who I knew was in love with me for nearly 4 years. It took that long for me to be ready to be involved with him romantically. I'm not with him anymore, but I believe I was meant to be with him when I was.

I'm also absolutely certain that I was meant to be involved with someone I was with a short time before I met my husband. And I KNOW that I'm with the man I was meant to be with for the rest of my life, now.

We can't know what the path will be to our soul-mates, but every life we touch leads us there, and helps someone else on their path. We reach them when we reach them. I know this might all sound strange, but I know what I'm talking about here.

I have to disagree with the comments recommending you take action, as well. As you said, he knows how you feel. If he feels the same way, he'll let you know when he's ready. I recommend you live your life. If someone else comes along who you want to date, do it. If you're meant to be with this guy, it will happen when it happens.

So.... there are soul mates, therefore there are not friend zones, and don't do anything about it.

Solid advice.

whierd

I'm going to disagree with the "friend-zoned" replies, and here's why. I whole-heartedly believe in soul-mates. One vital detail that most people don't seem to think about is that in order for two soul-mates to come together, BOTH of them have to be ready.

When I was young, I was best friends with a guy who I knew was in love with me for nearly 4 years. It took that long for me to be ready to be involved with him romantically. I'm not with him anymore, but I believe I was meant to be with him when I was.

I'm also absolutely certain that I was meant to be involved with someone I was with a short time before I met my husband. And I KNOW that I'm with the man I was meant to be with for the rest of my life, now.

We can't know what the path will be to our soul-mates, but every life we touch leads us there, and helps someone else on their path. We reach them when we reach them. I know this might all sound strange, but I know what I'm talking about here.

I have to disagree with the comments recommending you take action, as well. As you said, he knows how you feel. If he feels the same way, he'll let you know when he's ready. I recommend you live your life. If someone else comes along who you want to date, do it. If you're meant to be with this guy, it will happen when it happens.

Meant to be together, but should do nothing. Legit.

susheetush

I'm going to disagree with the "friend-zoned" replies, and here's why. I whole-heartedly believe in soul-mates. One vital detail that most people don't seem to think about is that in order for two soul-mates to come together, BOTH of them have to be ready.

When I was young, I was best friends with a guy who I knew was in love with me for nearly 4 years. It took that long for me to be ready to be involved with him romantically. I'm not with him anymore, but I believe I was meant to be with him when I was.

I'm also absolutely certain that I was meant to be involved with someone I was with a short time before I met my husband. And I KNOW that I'm with the man I was meant to be with for the rest of my life, now.

We can't know what the path will be to our soul-mates, but every life we touch leads us there, and helps someone else on their path. We reach them when we reach them. I know this might all sound strange, but I know what I'm talking about here.

I have to disagree with the comments recommending you take action, as well. As you said, he knows how you feel. If he feels the same way, he'll let you know when he's ready. I recommend you live your life. If someone else comes along who you want to date, do it. If you're meant to be with this guy, it will happen when it happens.

I came away from reading this going...er, what?

matt2442

I'm going to disagree with the "friend-zoned" replies, and here's why. I whole-heartedly believe in soul-mates. One vital detail that most people don't seem to think about is that in order for two soul-mates to come together, BOTH of them have to be ready.

When I was young, I was best friends with a guy who I knew was in love with me for nearly 4 years. It took that long for me to be ready to be involved with him romantically. I'm not with him anymore, but I believe I was meant to be with him when I was.

I'm also absolutely certain that I was meant to be involved with someone I was with a short time before I met my husband. And I KNOW that I'm with the man I was meant to be with for the rest of my life, now.

We can't know what the path will be to our soul-mates, but every life we touch leads us there, and helps someone else on their path. We reach them when we reach them. I know this might all sound strange, but I know what I'm talking about here.

I have to disagree with the comments recommending you take action, as well. As you said, he knows how you feel. If he feels the same way, he'll let you know when he's ready. I recommend you live your life. If someone else comes along who you want to date, do it. If you're meant to be with this guy, it will happen when it happens.

so you say they are soul mates but they shouldnt do anything? so basically just, nothing?

1ConcreteGirl

I'm going to disagree with the "friend-zoned" replies, and here's why. I whole-heartedly believe in soul-mates. One vital detail that most people don't seem to think about is that in order for two soul-mates to come together, BOTH of them have to be ready.

When I was young, I was best friends with a guy who I knew was in love with me for nearly 4 years. It took that long for me to be ready to be involved with him romantically. I'm not with him anymore, but I believe I was meant to be with him when I was.

I'm also absolutely certain that I was meant to be involved with someone I was with a short time before I met my husband. And I KNOW that I'm with the man I was meant to be with for the rest of my life, now.

We can't know what the path will be to our soul-mates, but every life we touch leads us there, and helps someone else on their path. We reach them when we reach them. I know this might all sound strange, but I know what I'm talking about here.

I have to disagree with the comments recommending you take action, as well. As you said, he knows how you feel. If he feels the same way, he'll let you know when he's ready. I recommend you live your life. If someone else comes along who you want to date, do it. If you're meant to be with this guy, it will happen when it happens.

I came away from reading this going...er, what?

Don't worry, you're not alone.

whierd

Hehe. Collective DAFUQ?

MyChocolateDiet

I'm going to disagree with the "friend-zoned" replies, and here's why. I whole-heartedly believe in soul-mates. One vital detail that most people don't seem to think about is that in order for two soul-mates to come together, BOTH of them have to be ready.

When I was young, I was best friends with a guy who I knew was in love with me for nearly 4 years. It took that long for me to be ready to be involved with him romantically. I'm not with him anymore, but I believe I was meant to be with him when I was.

I'm also absolutely certain that I was meant to be involved with someone I was with a short time before I met my husband. And I KNOW that I'm with the man I was meant to be with for the rest of my life, now.

We can't know what the path will be to our soul-mates, but every life we touch leads us there, and helps someone else on their path. We reach them when we reach them. I know this might all sound strange, but I know what I'm talking about here.

I have to disagree with the comments recommending you take action, as well. As you said, he knows how you feel. If he feels the same way, he'll let you know when he's ready. I recommend you live your life. If someone else comes along who you want to date, do it. If you're meant to be with this guy, it will happen when it happens.

"soul mates for a reason, a season, or a lifetime." like that?

Athena98501

I'm going to disagree with the "friend-zoned" replies, and here's why. I whole-heartedly believe in soul-mates. One vital detail that most people don't seem to think about is that in order for two soul-mates to come together, BOTH of them have to be ready.

When I was young, I was best friends with a guy who I knew was in love with me for nearly 4 years. It took that long for me to be ready to be involved with him romantically. I'm not with him anymore, but I believe I was meant to be with him when I was.

I'm also absolutely certain that I was meant to be involved with someone I was with a short time before I met my husband. And I KNOW that I'm with the man I was meant to be with for the rest of my life, now.

We can't know what the path will be to our soul-mates, but every life we touch leads us there, and helps someone else on their path. We reach them when we reach them. I know this might all sound strange, but I know what I'm talking about here.

I have to disagree with the comments recommending you take action, as well. As you said, he knows how you feel. If he feels the same way, he'll let you know when he's ready. I recommend you live your life. If someone else comes along who you want to date, do it. If you're meant to be with this guy, it will happen when it happens.

Meant to be together, but should do nothing. Legit.

Wow, smaller words are not less important. I said IF. None of us can know. It'll happen if it's meant to happen.

Athena98501

I'm going to disagree with the "friend-zoned" replies, and here's why. I whole-heartedly believe in soul-mates. One vital detail that most people don't seem to think about is that in order for two soul-mates to come together, BOTH of them have to be ready.

When I was young, I was best friends with a guy who I knew was in love with me for nearly 4 years. It took that long for me to be ready to be involved with him romantically. I'm not with him anymore, but I believe I was meant to be with him when I was.

I'm also absolutely certain that I was meant to be involved with someone I was with a short time before I met my husband. And I KNOW that I'm with the man I was meant to be with for the rest of my life, now.

We can't know what the path will be to our soul-mates, but every life we touch leads us there, and helps someone else on their path. We reach them when we reach them. I know this might all sound strange, but I know what I'm talking about here.

I have to disagree with the comments recommending you take action, as well. As you said, he knows how you feel. If he feels the same way, he'll let you know when he's ready. I recommend you live your life. If someone else comes along who you want to date, do it. If you're meant to be with this guy, it will happen when it happens.

"soul mates for a reason, a season, or a lifetime." like that?

I've never heard that, but I guess it fits.

1ConcreteGirl

I'm going to disagree with the "friend-zoned" replies, and here's why. I whole-heartedly believe in soul-mates. One vital detail that most people don't seem to think about is that in order for two soul-mates to come together, BOTH of them have to be ready.

When I was young, I was best friends with a guy who I knew was in love with me for nearly 4 years. It took that long for me to be ready to be involved with him romantically. I'm not with him anymore, but I believe I was meant to be with him when I was.

I'm also absolutely certain that I was meant to be involved with someone I was with a short time before I met my husband. And I KNOW that I'm with the man I was meant to be with for the rest of my life, now.

We can't know what the path will be to our soul-mates, but every life we touch leads us there, and helps someone else on their path. We reach them when we reach them. I know this might all sound strange, but I know what I'm talking about here.

I have to disagree with the comments recommending you take action, as well. As you said, he knows how you feel. If he feels the same way, he'll let you know when he's ready. I recommend you live your life. If someone else comes along who you want to date, do it. If you're meant to be with this guy, it will happen when it happens.

Meant to be together, but should do nothing. Legit.

Wow, smaller words are not less important. I said IF. None of us can know. It'll happen if it's meant to happen.

More importantly, OP live your life like it won't happen.

And if it does, we can all be pleasantly surprised together.

Factory_Reset

I'm going to disagree with the "friend-zoned" replies, and here's why. I whole-heartedly believe in soul-mates. One vital detail that most people don't seem to think about is that in order for two soul-mates to come together, BOTH of them have to be ready.

When I was young, I was best friends with a guy who I knew was in love with me for nearly 4 years. It took that long for me to be ready to be involved with him romantically. I'm not with him anymore, but I believe I was meant to be with him when I was.

I'm also absolutely certain that I was meant to be involved with someone I was with a short time before I met my husband. And I KNOW that I'm with the man I was meant to be with for the rest of my life, now.

We can't know what the path will be to our soul-mates, but every life we touch leads us there, and helps someone else on their path. We reach them when we reach them. I know this might all sound strange, but I know what I'm talking about here.

I have to disagree with the comments recommending you take action, as well. As you said, he knows how you feel. If he feels the same way, he'll let you know when he's ready. I recommend you live your life. If someone else comes along who you want to date, do it. If you're meant to be with this guy, it will happen when it happens.

Meant to be together, but should do nothing. Legit.

Wow, smaller words are not less important. I said IF. None of us can know. It'll happen if it's meant to happen.

IF it was meant to happen, it would've by now.

1ConcreteGirl

Meant to be together, but should do nothing. Legit.

Wow, smaller words are not less important. I said IF. None of us can know. It'll happen if it's meant to happen.

IF it was meant to happen, it would've by now.

But didn't you see that man who waited TWENTY YEARS to declare himself?? Maybe he's just shy.

matt2442

Op where art thou?

susheetush

I'm a big believer that if you don't like something, you change it. If you want more with this guy, the best way to find out if that is possible is to do something. Or be happy not to do something, and forget about it completely, and don't think about it anymore. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Sheesh, it's not rocket surgery.

whierd

If I took 20 years to declare my love for someone, I would expect a punch to the face for wasting time.



Am I alone in not believing in soul mates?

susheetush

If I took 20 years to declare my love for someone, I would expect a punch to the face for wasting time.



Am I alone in not believing in soul mates?

I don't believe in soul mates. At all.

1ConcreteGirl

If I took 20 years to declare my love for someone, I would expect a punch to the face for wasting time.



Am I alone in not believing in soul mates?

I don't believe in soul mates, per se. Not in the sense that there is only one person in the world that you are "meant" to be with.

Nevertheless, twenty years or ten years, if they're wasting their time like that, it might be because someone led them to believe they'd be waiting around.

Factory_Reset

Meant to be together, but should do nothing. Legit.

Wow, smaller words are not less important. I said IF. None of us can know. It'll happen if it's meant to happen.

IF it was meant to happen, it would've by now.

But didn't you see that man who waited TWENTY YEARS to declare himself?? Maybe he's just shy.

OP, if he's shy, you need to be ready to just throw him down and have your way with him. Don't worry girl, you've earned it! Get yours!

Athena98501

I'm going to disagree with the "friend-zoned" replies, and here's why. I whole-heartedly believe in soul-mates. One vital detail that most people don't seem to think about is that in order for two soul-mates to come together, BOTH of them have to be ready.

When I was young, I was best friends with a guy who I knew was in love with me for nearly 4 years. It took that long for me to be ready to be involved with him romantically. I'm not with him anymore, but I believe I was meant to be with him when I was.

I'm also absolutely certain that I was meant to be involved with someone I was with a short time before I met my husband. And I KNOW that I'm with the man I was meant to be with for the rest of my life, now.

We can't know what the path will be to our soul-mates, but every life we touch leads us there, and helps someone else on their path. We reach them when we reach them. I know this might all sound strange, but I know what I'm talking about here.

I have to disagree with the comments recommending you take action, as well. As you said, he knows how you feel. If he feels the same way, he'll let you know when he's ready. I recommend you live your life. If someone else comes along who you want to date, do it. If you're meant to be with this guy, it will happen when it happens.

so you say they are soul mates but they shouldnt do anything? so basically just, nothing?

Nope. Nobody can say they're soul-mates at this point. She says he knows how she feels. If she pushes, and he isn't ready, he'll have to reject her. If he knows how she feels, the ball is in his court.

Factory_Reset

If I took 20 years to declare my love for someone, I would expect a punch to the face for wasting time.



Am I alone in not believing in soul mates?

I'm married and I don't believe in soul mates.