Spousal Cheaters?

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matchbox_girl
matchbox_girl Posts: 535 Member
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Is it ever okay to forgive a cheater? If so, under what circumstances?
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  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
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    Good God woman, what did he eat?
  • matchbox_girl
    matchbox_girl Posts: 535 Member
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    Good God woman, what did he eat?

    My ex-friend/future bridesmaid :)
  • leahartmann
    leahartmann Posts: 415
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    You will probably get as many different answeres as there is people answering. I would say under some circumstances I might forgive. But I have never been in that situation, so what do I know... But you have to decide what´s important for you and where you say Stop. That´s your decision, you can´t ask others for that answer. It is all yours.
  • dirtnap63
    dirtnap63 Posts: 1,387 Member
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    Good God woman, what did he eat?

    My ex-friend/future bridesmaid :)


    Well if he's not Paleo I don't see what the problem is.
  • leahartmann
    leahartmann Posts: 415
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    How long have you known eachother?
  • n8dawg77
    n8dawg77 Posts: 216 Member
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    There's ALWAYS room for forgiveness. If not you'll live in bitterness and that's just as ugly!

    - in my humble opinion...
  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
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    Good God woman, what did he eat?

    My ex-friend/future bridesmaid :)


    Well if he's not Paleo I don't see what the problem is.

    There's the fat content to consider. It may be over his daily limit.
  • mmddwechanged
    mmddwechanged Posts: 1,687 Member
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    You can forgive him, but I wouldn't recommend marrying him.
  • matchbox_girl
    matchbox_girl Posts: 535 Member
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    How long have you known eachother?

    Three years. He was my best friend before we started dating. We've been together a year and a half, have lived together the whole time, and he proposed in December. We were due to be wed in October.
  • Phaedra2014
    Phaedra2014 Posts: 1,254 Member
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    Is it ever okay to forgive a cheater? If so, under what circumstances?

    Yes. It is always okay to process and forgive any wrong that was done to us but it is your right and choice to discontinue the relationship. if you are able to put it all behind you and start fresh, by all means stay with this person. But even if a tiny part of you is still resentful, angry, hurt and in pain, no it is not wise to continue the relationship.

    Allow yourself to heal.
  • ChrisinGA
    ChrisinGA Posts: 116 Member
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    I forgave my gf for cheating, not sure it was right thing, cause I can never forget what she done, that's the hardest part.
    far as the friend keep them as a ex friend. and stay away from them.
  • Eifersucht
    Eifersucht Posts: 34
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    You can forgive him, but I wouldn't recommend marrying him.

    ^^^This^^^
  • Mrs_Bones
    Mrs_Bones Posts: 195 Member
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    There's ALWAYS room for forgiveness. If not you'll live in bitterness and that's just as ugly!

    - in my humble opinion...

    Sure, I believe you can always forgive someone. I could probably forgive someone, but I don't think I could trust them or live with them afterwards. I would take it as a sign that you're better off apart and just go seperate ways. Everybody is different though, you have to decide for yourself what you can live with. If someone didn't love me enough to keep it in their pants, then they wouldn't be worth my time and effort.
  • Microfiber
    Microfiber Posts: 956 Member
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    Is it ever okay to forgive a cheater?

    Forgive him but bring it up every 2months :laugh:

    Seriously though, my ex was a dawg. Each time I forgave him, he only went back out to do it again. He never stopped. Just saying :wink:
  • JJordon
    JJordon Posts: 857 Member
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    So, let me get this straight, he was walking with his pants down/fly open, he tripped, fell conveniently in-between the apex of your so-called friend's/bridesmaid legs and just kept on repeatedly falling until both of them felt..."better"?

    Uh huh.

    I know a great bridge that's looking for an owner.

    If the bridesmaid is no longer your friend for the same crime, now. Why is he still your man?

    It takes two to tango.

    The feeling of uncertainty that he could slip up again. Is it worth it for a lifetime? Because that's a serious character flaw.

    Once the trust is gone, there is no more relationship. It's just that simple.

    Can you trust him around any other woman?
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
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    Eating ain't cheating! Or so I've heard.

    Don't marry him.
  • SprinkledWithEmotion
    SprinkledWithEmotion Posts: 67 Member
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    With your best friend? Ouch.

    Ditch them both.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
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    Good God woman, what did he eat?

    My ex-friend/future bridesmaid :)

    If she fits his macros . . . what's the problem?
  • leahartmann
    leahartmann Posts: 415
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    You can forgive him, but I wouldn't recommend marrying him.
    Yeah, think twice about that. What does he give as an excuse? Was he drunk? In love? He proposed in december and 3-4 months later he cheats!? What happened in between?
  • mmddwechanged
    mmddwechanged Posts: 1,687 Member
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    There really are thousands of fine men out there who are all perfect for you:). Sometimes it's only the space inbetween relationships that we fear.

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