Call All Those Who Have Been Cheated On!

SunShineGirly11

I have always heard (especially for women) that if your SO is cheating you will know, whether you want to believe it or not. I'm just curious to know if this is actually true. So if you have been cheated on by a spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, or whatever else did you know?

sixout

Speaking as the other guy, yea they usually know.

sarahmichelexo

i knew!

YourGirl_Tina

You know! it's a gut feeling BUT don't get it mixed up with your erratic emotions!

And one must be good at snooping Lol

whierd

Yeah, I knew, There was a noticeable change in behavior that I kept telling myself was just my imagination and to stop being paranoid. I should have followed my instincts but my nature was to trust.

NormInv

Its always a tell-tale when she cant get it up.

adoreabella

I knew.....

kimad

I have never been cheated on, but I have been lied too. My ex had a nasty gambling addiction.
I knew something was wrong, but I couldn't put my finger on it.

I sense you may feel the same.. might not know 100% the issue is cheating, but your gut will tell you something is off.

Wuggums

Yep I knew. Gut feeling I guess. A little bit of snooping confirmed it, he denied it even when confronted but eventually admitted it. Stayed with him, but I'll never feel the same way about him and will probably never fully trust him again.

erg2013

It has happened to me twice. Different people.
First time, blindsided. He "pocket dialed" me by mistake... heard a conversation I shouldn't have. That was the end of my naivety.
Second time, I knew. Very subtle changes in behavior. It felt horrible, but made me trust my instincts as they were right.

I have never cheated on anyone... ever.

weightedfootsteps

You know when it is happening. Its happened to me...mainly with the two men I cared for most. I left them both. The second one I had children with.

You know...and if you know his friends or his friends girlfriend/wife. They will know something is up.

veggiehottie

I totally knew. It was a weird gut feeling that something was wrong. A little snooping around confirmed it. I tried to make it work after that because I was two months pregnant. Buuuut I just couldn't trust him anymore and finally left him a few months later.

_Pseudonymous_

I knew. I knew he had cheated on several of his ex-girlfriends but I was young and naive and thought it would be different. He stopped wanting to have sex with me, we stopped talking or being affectionate. He became overly jealous of EVERYONE I spoke to, he even suspected me of liking/cheating with his roommate (whom we refer to as wolowitz because he closely.resembles the character from big bang theory). He would spend forever talking to his close female friend, even in the middle of the night. After we broke up other people confirmed my suspicions even though he has yet to own up to them 4 years later. So you know, even if you don't want to believe it you know...

SunShineGirly11

Thanks for your responses!

I was cheated on by my SO before we were married, and forgave him. We now have a kid together, but he'll get weird a few times a month(like either upset all the time, or will be over the top sweet), and I just don't know what to think about it. We lived in different states before when it happened so I didn't see it coming....I may have to go snooping!

MyChocolateDiet

Thanks for your responses!

I was cheated on by my SO before we were married, and forgave him. We now have a kid together, but he'll get weird a few times a month(like either upset all the time, or will be over the top sweet), and I just don't know what to think about it. We lived in different states before when it happened so I didn't see it coming....I may have to go snooping!

this is ironic in light of other threads here. just sayin'.

Ninnylicious

Yeah they always know... unless you are so head over heels in love with the person, then you a blind to it, which is sad

ScatteredThoughts

I may have to go snooping!

Have you talked to him about your suspicions first?

Jeepgal2012

Yes, unfortunately, my intuition was always right. Ugh, it's the worst feeling in the world, too. I hope yours is just having a bad day or something.

TheLuSir

What are you willing to do if you find out the truth?

I would talk about it. No communication, no chance.

DavPul

Of course the always know....

Except for those that didn't know....

And those that thought they knew.....

But nothing was going on.


Everyone else knew what they knew. I guess.

jsiricos

I knew

You dont go from years of tightie whities to silk boxers suddenly for no reason
and.. suddenly wearing PJ's and a silk robe?

PikaKnight

Wait...why especially for women? What's that mean? O.o

whierd

Wait...why especially for women? What's that mean? O.o

She is insinuating that men are more apt to cheat than women. Lawl.

mizzloyal

I had a feeling but my 8yr. old confirmed it when she heard him sneaking and talking on the phone to a women smh

PikaKnight

Wait...why especially for women? What's that mean? O.o

She is insinuating that men are more apt to cheat than women. Lawl.

Lmao. Well if she is, hate to inform you OP but women cheat a lot too. I actually know more guys who have been cheated on than girls.

vtmoon

Wait...why especially for women? What's that mean? O.o

She is insinuating that men are more apt to cheat than women. Lawl.

Ah that makes more sense as an interpretation. I thought she was implying women have a sixth sense.

SunShineGirly11

Wait...why especially for women? What's that mean? O.o

She is insinuating that men are more apt to cheat than women. Lawl.

That's not what I was insinuating....I meant I hear more often from women saying they know when their man is cheating, than men knowing when their woman has cheated.

veggiehottie

Wait...why especially for women? What's that mean? O.o

She is insinuating that men are more apt to cheat than women. Lawl.

Lmao. Well if she is, hate to inform you OP but women cheat a lot too. I actually know more guys who have been cheated on than girls.

It's just stupid either way. Why cheat? If you are unhappy in a relationship, either fix it or get out.

Lyadeia

I have always heard (especially for women) that if your SO is cheating you will know, whether you want to believe it or not. I'm just curious to know if this is actually true. So if you have been cheated on by a spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, or whatever else did you know?

I've actually been cheated on numerous times...

I knew about it quite a good number of times. The last time it happened, I didn't have one farking clue about it until a friend of mine mentioned something and then I investigated.

SunShineGirly11

Have you talked to him about your suspicions first?

I have and he just says its nothing.

whierd

Wait...why especially for women? What's that mean? O.o

She is insinuating that men are more apt to cheat than women. Lawl.

Ah that makes more sense as an interpretation. I thought she was implying women have a sixth sense.

Apparently I was wrong. She was implying that.