15 year age difference in dating.

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  • BerryH
    BerryH Posts: 4,698 Member
    It makes a lot of difference when you're younger, but not when you're both over 30. I had a very fun relationship with a man 16 years younger than me. Enjoy!
  • BurtHuttz
    BurtHuttz Posts: 3,653 Member
    My wife is 14 months older than I am. It has certainly caused complications because of things she's lived through that I haven't, and we don't always see eye to eye because of it. But the important thing is that we're zodiologically compatible and that transcends age. You can be any distance in years apart as long as you don't try to stick your Taurus in a Virgo.

    With love,
    Burt
  • lacurandera1
    lacurandera1 Posts: 8,083 Member
    My bf of 10 years is 14 years older than me. It's worked so far. :)
  • _SABOTEUR_
    _SABOTEUR_ Posts: 6,833 Member
    My wife is 14 months older than I am. It has certainly caused complications because of things she's lived through that I haven't, and we don't always see eye to eye because of it. But the important thing is that we're zodiologically compatible and that transcends age. You can be any distance in years apart as long as you don't try to stick your Taurus in a Virgo.

    With love,
    Burt

    I thought you didn't see eye to eye because your wife is taller than you? :laugh:
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    enjoy it...you want the same things....so that's the most important thing.

    you say the age doesn't bother you, yet you are asking if the age should bother you.

    does it really not bother you?

    when I was 25 I dated a 54 year old. We had a fantastic time and an epic 2 year relationship. It was phenomenal.

    and we only parted ways because he wanted to retire and and sail the world. whereas I had just finished my academic career and wanted a professional career. it wasn't about commitment it was about life choices.

    He's now sailing the world and I'm enjoying working up the ladder. but we had a great two years.
  • _SABOTEUR_
    _SABOTEUR_ Posts: 6,833 Member
    I usually date men older than me. It's more relaxed and less drama/tantrums.

    Women I tend to date around my age range. But they are generally more mature than men (wild generalisation, I know!)
  • valeriewxy
    valeriewxy Posts: 418 Member
    My gf is 11 years older than me :) We're getting married next year.
  • Show_Stopper
    Show_Stopper Posts: 656 Member
    My boyfriend is 15 years older then me I'm 27 he's 42 he love each other and are happy that's all that matters. Age is just a number. As for the looks maybe they're just jealous don't worry to much about it.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    My bf of 10 years is 14 years older than me. It's worked so far. :)

    wait! was one of you 4 years old when you started dating? because that would be wrong. :noway:

    ETA: doublechecking my math... 14 - 10 = 4... ummm.
  • Amcolecchi
    Amcolecchi Posts: 260 Member
    My best friend is 26 and her husband is 39 and honestly they are perfect for each other, love each other and are great people. Age is just a number, just like color, gender, nationality...none of that is relevant to be in love!
  • wildcatnyc
    wildcatnyc Posts: 2,410 Member
    Go for it...sounds like you are both ok with the age difference. Enjoy!!!
  • Age doesn't matter my friend. If you like her and she likes you then that is all that matters.
    My boyfriend is 14 years younger then I am and I could really care less. We are perfect for each other and love one another more than anything. Go for it!!!!
  • icyeyes317
    icyeyes317 Posts: 226 Member
    My husband and I are 8 years apart. No, that isn't so big when you first think about it...but let me add...

    When we met, he was 19, and I was 27 and had a 5 year old son. Talk about age/life differences. But, here we are almost 6 years later, happily married, and have a son together, and my now-almost-11-year-old loves him.

    I know of an incredibly happy couple that is 21 years apart. They met because the wife was originally dating the son. That didn't work, then about 10 years later, her and the 'dad' ran into each other, and they fell in love. They have been married for 22 years now.

    Age is literally just a number (not counting minors, that is a different topic). You are two adults, secure in who you are, and what you want, and where you want to go in life. F&*#^ what the rest of people say. Do what makes YOU happy. You never know, maybe you found your soul mate. =)
  • melsmith612
    melsmith612 Posts: 727 Member
    From my personal experience and observations, age is really only important when one person in the relationship has much more dating/sexual experience than the other. I think by the time you're 30 and 46, those things don't necessarily have a big impact anymore because both people (presumably) have a lot of experience playing the field and know exactly what they want in a partner.

    I say, go for it! If it works for everyone then I don't see a problem. At 30 years old you may change your mind about kids one day yet so I would have that conversation up front as to whether or not she'd be open in the future to adopting or some other circumstance that could conceivably have you being parents together.
  • eliseofthejungle
    eliseofthejungle Posts: 113 Member
    I have heard the rule for creepiness cut-off is half your age plus 7. ("Your" being the older party) Sooo.... 46 / 2 = 23; 23 + 7 = 30 You are borderline but good to go! :bigsmile:





    PS - this is not *my* rule, and if it doesn't work for some of the relationships on here but you are a happy couple then please ignore and I am very happy for you. :flowerforyou:
  • Show_Stopper
    Show_Stopper Posts: 656 Member
    I'm definitely going to just roll with it and see where it ends up.

    With the younger woman/older man relationships on here, did the future ever scare you?

    When you're 25 and your partner is 40, it doesn't seem like it would matter too much. But, it seems that might become a bigger deal when your partner gets older and older.

    This is just something you have to make sure you're ok with now incase it does get serious. Do you want kids/more kids of your own? Are you willing to "take" care of her if needed when you're older like 60 and 75? Just things to think about.
  • SmartAlec03211988
    SmartAlec03211988 Posts: 1,896 Member
    My bf of 10 years is 14 years older than me. It's worked so far. :)

    wait! was one of you 4 years old when you started dating? because that would be wrong. :noway:

    ETA: doublechecking my math... 14 - 10 = 4... ummm.
    Where did you come to the conclusion that one of them was 4 when they started dating...? o.O
  • icyeyes317
    icyeyes317 Posts: 226 Member
    This is just something you have to make sure you're ok with now incase it does get serious. Do you want kids/more kids of your own? Are you willing to "take" care of her if needed when you're older like 60 and 75? Just things to think about.

    There are plenty of people, young and old, that have to make these decisions every day. Using one example, I have a military friend that came back and is now in a wheelchair. I know a girl from high school that was in a car accident that can no longer use most of her body. I watched an accident victim and her husband (a few years apart) find out that she not only would be in a wheelchair forever, but had to have a hysterectomy because the steering wheel of the car she was in crushed her insides (I'm a paramedic). All of their spouses had to make the decision to stand by their loved ones and take care of them. My husband is active duty now, and is almost 25 (as stated in previous post). I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that if ANYTHING happened to him, I would take care of him. And he would do the same for me, and has. Look at Christopher Reeves. His wife stood by him, took care of him until death, after he was thrown from a horse. He wasn't 'old', nor was she. My mamaw took care of my papaw while he was dying (they were 3 years apart) she lived for 15 more years after that, and was buried still wearing her ring. Age doesn't matter. We only live one life, and it can change in a moments notice.
  • 5ftnFun
    5ftnFun Posts: 948 Member
    This is just something you have to make sure you're ok with now incase it does get serious. Do you want kids/more kids of your own? Are you willing to "take" care of her if needed when you're older like 60 and 75? Just things to think about.

    There are plenty of people, young and old, that have to make these decisions every day. Using one example, I have a military friend that came back and is now in a wheelchair. I know a girl from high school that was in a car accident that can no longer use most of her body. I watched an accident victim and her husband (a few years apart) find out that she not only would be in a wheelchair forever, but had to have a hysterectomy because the steering wheel of the car she was in crushed her insides (I'm a paramedic). All of their spouses had to make the decision to stand by their loved ones and take care of them. My husband is active duty now, and is almost 25 (as stated in previous post). I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that if ANYTHING happened to him, I would take care of him. And he would do the same for me, and has. Look at Christopher Reeves. His wife stood by him, took care of him until death, after he was thrown from a horse. He wasn't 'old', nor was she. My mamaw took care of my papaw while he was dying (they were 3 years apart) she lived for 15 more years after that, and was buried still wearing her ring. Age doesn't matter. We only live one life, and it can change in a moments notice.

    Yep, agree. There are no guarantees in life. You just never know what may happen down the road.
  • Surfrider
    Surfrider Posts: 364 Member
    I have heard the rule for creepiness cut-off is half your age plus 7...

    Not sure that would work. I am 35, so by the math it says a 24.5 year old would be ok. Haven't met that many mature 24 year old women!! I am sure they are out there, but few and far between. Not enough to call that "rule" ok in most cases!

    To the OP: you said yourself that you had a great time together and the dating schedule is perfect for you both. What's the problem? It's not like you are committing to marriage or anything yet. Just take it easy and see how it goes.
  • matt2442
    matt2442 Posts: 1,259 Member
    It depends on whether she is a gilf or a milf...gilf a are considerably more impressive but you'll never beat a milf
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    My wife is 14 months older than I am. It has certainly caused complications because of things she's lived through that I haven't, and we don't always see eye to eye because of it. But the important thing is that we're zodiologically compatible and that transcends age. You can be any distance in years apart as long as you don't try to stick your Taurus in a Virgo.

    With love,
    Burt

    I had the same problem in my marriage. He was 26 days older than me, and we just couldn't seem to get on the same page. Plus, we were both Tauruses with is a HUGE zodialogical error. We were doomed from the beginning. Divorce was inevitable.
  • crawford4398
    crawford4398 Posts: 441 Member
    I have heard the rule for creepiness cut-off is half your age plus 7...

    Not sure that would work. I am 35, so by the math it says a 24.5 year old would be ok. Haven't met that many mature 24 year old women!! I am sure they are out there, but few and far between. Not enough to call that "rule" ok in most cases!

    To the OP: you said yourself that you had a great time together and the dating schedule is perfect for you both. What's the problem? It's not like you are committing to marriage or anything yet. Just take it easy and see how it goes.



    Completely Agree with this!!
    I have dated one fellow in this sense and while there were differences in ideas and thoughts regarding the future, other areas were "Untouchable" Amazing. All that being said it was never meant for long term in my situation.

    I honestly prefer older men for meaningful relationships, all the way around!
  • Jersey_Devil
    Jersey_Devil Posts: 4,142 Member
    some people have to call ashleymadison or cougarlife to get a women like that. you are getting her for free! proceed! and enjoy!
  • beach_please
    beach_please Posts: 533 Member
    Age is just a number. What is the worse that can happen? It doesn't work out? Go for it. Don't let opportunities pass you by.

    I agree with this. What's the harm in just seeing where it takes you? Who cares about the age difference?
  • I was out and about 2 weekends ago and met a girl at a local bar. I knew when I approached her, that she was considerably older. She was very attractive, so I really didn't care too much. I introduced myself and worked my way into her group of friends. We ended up talking most of the night and exchanged numbers and had a nice kiss as we left the bar and went our separate ways.

    Last weekend we met up for dinner and had a fantastic time. She was funny, flirty, and great to talk to. She sent me a friend request on FB and found out that she's turning 46 in two weeks (I'm 30). I knew there was a big age difference, but it doesn't affect me as much as I think it should.

    She's basically my ideal woman. She's very high maintenance looks (stylish, tanned, in shape, big boobs, etc), but is looking for a very low maintenance relationship. She's very straightforward with me and says she wants something committed, but pretty much a "weekend relationship". We're both very busy professionals and have hectic work/workout/gym routines, so this totally works for me.

    I know I could go out and meet a 25 year old and have a traditional type of relationship. But, this traditional dating thing does appeal to me that much at this stage in my life. I have zero interest in anything very serious (marriage, kids) in my life at this point, so I think this arrangement works for me.

    What kind of experience (good or bad) does everyone have in dating someone considerably older? I'd be interested in hearing other guys experience with this type of situation.

    Dude run with it. She's upfront with you about what she wants and you guys are comfortable. I'm in my mid 30's and have dated as young as 25.

    Everyones experience is different.
  • mum212
    mum212 Posts: 173 Member
    im 25 and my oh is 44 and were happy thats 19yrs gap try it you may like it x
  • SCC88
    SCC88 Posts: 215 Member
    When I was 16, I was always more interested in men in their 30's, at 16 years old it is certainly a taboo subject! However I turned 18 and fell in love with a 29 year old man. We discussed all the time how funny the age gap was, how people react when they find out about it, how awkward it is telling your family. But more importantly we realised that most of our issues lay on what people thought about us, not what we thought of each other!
    My older boyfriend taught me a lot and I in turn also taught him a lot.
    Both our families got over it and we turn our noses up at the people who turn theirs up at us.
    7 years later we are still together and planning our wedding :-)
    My two brothers also cottoned on and are now in long term relationships with women 14yrs their junior! I joke that men are mentally immature and women are always 10 yrs older than their D.O.B. so it evens out ;-)
    When me & my OH hear people gossiping and saying "oh my god she's 5 years older" etc etc, we both agree it actually shows off that persons immaturity!
    I say go for it xx
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    Dude she wants to see you EVERY weekend.

    Sleep with her and lose her number.

    WAY too much commitment right there bud. You can do better.

    :flowerforyou:
  • tabinmaine
    tabinmaine Posts: 965 Member
    All I have got to say is.......

    She is going to ROCK your world........ :wink:

    Us old ladies can be very .....ummm..... open minded...