Ladies, should a man be the only one to pursue?

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  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    It would be for the best if you did....most of us don't read the signs....don't ask for directions either LOL \m/
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    I wait until they're a good 3 or 4 drinks in.

    Then I pursue.
  • SlickFootAnna
    SlickFootAnna Posts: 611 Member
    While I think there is a rather "romantic" side to being pursued, I don't mind doing the leg work lol....
  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
    Yes women should persue men. Now if we could only get them to actually do it for reasons that aren't completely shallow and superficial. Good luck with that though!
    I remember you. You're the one that thinks women don't date overweight men. Oh, and you ignored every word I said that went against that idea because it didn't help build your case. How's the love life going?
  • mrphil86
    mrphil86 Posts: 2,382 Member
    I wait until they're a good 3 or 4 drinks in.

    Then I pursue.

    I only wait for one

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  • xXxHBICxXx
    xXxHBICxXx Posts: 370 Member
    I pursued my hubby :happy:
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
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  • Admiral_Derp
    Admiral_Derp Posts: 866 Member
    Yes women should persue men. Now if we could only get them to actually do it for reasons that aren't completely shallow and superficial. Good luck with that though!

    dude, for reals, is there ANY subject about interactions between men and women that you won't throw a wet blanket on? i don't know what that chick did to you, but you got your bitterness dialed to 11, and it's harshing my mellow.

    everybody gets hurt at some point, you just have to learn to

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  • sandi117
    sandi117 Posts: 445 Member
    No! If it weren't for me, my boyfriend and I wouldn't be together. I messaged him (yes, we met online), I instigated the relationship ("So... When do I get to call you my 'boyfriend' instead of 'some guy I'm dating'?") We've been together for over a year and a half. I'm all for traditionalism and everything, but if you see something/someone you like and want it/them, then go for it! Though if he wants to get married, he's asking that question. I did most of the work getting us together =P lol
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,303 Member
    While I think there is a rather "romantic" side to being pursued, I don't mind doing the leg work lol....

    'Leg work' ALWAYS works on me.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    Yes women should persue men. Now if we could only get them to actually do it for reasons that aren't completely shallow and superficial. Good luck with that though!

    you should start collecting cats.
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
    Yes women should persue men. Now if we could only get them to actually do it for reasons that aren't completely shallow and superficial. Good luck with that though!

    Wait...did I miss a memo somewhere? Is there something wrong with shallow and superficial now? Is this like the carbs thing?

    I want to see the double blind peer study or I'm calling this myth busted.
  • NicoleisQuantized
    NicoleisQuantized Posts: 344 Member
    Yes women should persue men. Now if we could only get them to actually do it for reasons that aren't completely shallow and superficial. Good luck with that though!

    you should start collecting cats.

    LOL.
  • bzmom
    bzmom Posts: 1,332 Member
    I initiated sort of speak....
    I asked him to dance with me and told him not to diss me by saying no.
    He used the same exact line when he asked me for my number.
    Been married now for over 15years.........
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    HELL NOI!
    WOMEN DO IT BEST!
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    why should I let someone pass me by waiting on him to say something if he doesn't know I'm available and interested? No way.
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    Hmmm.... I have always thought and/ or been told that women in pursuit are seen as desperate. Or needy.
    I will let a man know I like him. Even if its telling him just that.
    But I want him to pick up the ball.

    Yes.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    why should I let someone pass me by waiting on him to say something if he doesn't know I'm available and interested? No way.

    That's not very lady like of you...
    :wink:
  • emtjmac
    emtjmac Posts: 1,320 Member
    I wish I could get the same satisfaction out of eating vegetables that I get out of eating doughnuts, taco bell and mocha coffee.
  • bLui_bella
    bLui_bella Posts: 39 Member
    It depends on the situation honestly. I am not going to chase anyone down for sure, but if I put the vibe out that I am willing to talk. Then it is up to him to make that next move. If he does not act on it, then I don't need him anyways.
  • mrphil86
    mrphil86 Posts: 2,382 Member
    why should I let someone pass me by waiting on him to say something if he doesn't know I'm available and interested? No way.

    That's also a big thing, how the hell am I supposed to know if you are available or not.

    I'm sure it goes both ways though.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    why should I let someone pass me by waiting on him to say something if he doesn't know I'm available and interested? No way.

    That's not very lady like of you...
    :wink:

    hahahaha. I didn't say I was going to jump his bones right then, but put out "feelers" to let him know I'm interested in getting to know him better and available to do so. :tongue:
  • sizzle74
    sizzle74 Posts: 858 Member
    Yes women should persue men. Now if we could only get them to actually do it for reasons that aren't completely shallow and superficial. Good luck with that though!

    So I should have been persuing men when I was single who I had zero attraction to? Good to know.
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    From another thread - "No; a lady should never make the first move. Always let a man pursue you."

    Thoughts, opinions?

    If the lady is really good and smart, she will be in pursuit, but let the man think that he is. :wink:
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    If the guy is worth it, I don't mind being the one to pursue him. But i do lose interest quick, if he doesn't reciprocate.
  • SpecialSundae
    SpecialSundae Posts: 795 Member
    I don't believe in "The Rules". I wouldn't want to be with a man who wanted me to play games. Whilst I didn't pursue my husband, nor did I play hard to get and we were both open about the fact that we liked each other from the first date.

    If women want to let the man "chase" them, then that's up to them but it's only worth it if that's the sort of person they are. If they're a feisty type of girl but let the man do the chasing then they may end up having to play a false role throughout their relationship.
  • StheK
    StheK Posts: 443 Member
    No. What century is this again?
  • DaniMichelle5
    DaniMichelle5 Posts: 19 Member
    BUT, it's a much bigger turn on to be pursued. I think when a guy is really interested, he will go after what he wants.

    ^^This. Not that's it's a turn on... but a man will always go after what they want. I don't want to "chase" a man who "may" want me.

    I have to agree. Maybe, I am oldschool,or old fashion, call it what you want, but I believe that's the man's role. When a man see someone that want to know, regardless how shy they are, they will make it their objective to get to know that person. if I step out and do the job for the guy, it is like me establishing authority over him, I have now become the aggressor, It will make them seem weak, and who wants that. I think it is ok to show interest, by sending a smile or make eye contact, but the approach is in his court.
  • j4zepedajj
    j4zepedajj Posts: 70
    I think that it should be up to the person most interested.. If you like someone.. just tell them.. go ahead.. We arent in the 5th grade
  • SquidandWhale
    SquidandWhale Posts: 259
    I also thought it a rather asinine assumption that women should only be the pursued. Gender equality.

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