Your most humiliating "fat" experience.

RebekahR84

I remember the first time I realized I was overweight. I have a cleft lip and palate, and some local bullies were making fun of me at the city pool. They were calling me a name to make fun of my birth defect, but that name could also be construed as making fun of my weight. I really don't want to go into what the name was. Anyway, this older kid saw me being teased, so he came up to me and said, "don't listen to them. Look at that guy over there. You're a toothpick compared to that guy!"

Then it dawned on me that not only was I the kid with the facial deformity, I was also a fat kid. Great. Of course, this guy totally meant well. But, damn, I could've used a couple more years without body image issues!

By the way, I've had 13 surgeries, and this birth defect is now virtually invisible, so YAY! Now to deal with my body image issues...

WilmaDennis91

I wouldn't say it was humiliating, but I've compared pics over the years, recently, I'm like, "I need to lose weight." It been a bit embarrassing for my sex life, going to the pool with my friends, and such. I'm just easily self conscious lol

lilimini

I am an English teacher in China. Most ladies are small. About a week ago, I saw a beautiful dress in a size 8. I was walking to the change room with it when the lady working there told me not to bother trying it on because it wouldn't fit. That was a week ago and I only have about 5lbs till my goal weight of 125lbs. Seriously thinking about dropping my goal weight another 5lbs.

Red620Ti

I was getting my 2 year old son dressed on the bed without my shirt on. He reached over, patted my belly and said "Look daddy, ball!"

Was a bit of a kick in the *kitten*, now I'm trying to do something about it.

NoelleS85

All I can think is, you married this man why?

I often ask myself the same question. Too often in fact.

Time to take some steps.

It is terrible to read all the experiences you guys have had Even though I was morbidly obese, I never had anything like this happen to me. The only thing that I hate being overweight is the sweat between my back fat in the summertime! It is so embarrassing.

bornofthorns

I am an English teacher in China. Most ladies are small. About a week ago, I saw a beautiful dress in a size 8. I was walking to the change room with it when the lady working there told me not to bother trying it on because it wouldn't fit. That was a week ago and I only have about 5lbs till my goal weight of 125lbs. Seriously thinking about dropping my goal weight another 5lbs.

As you probably know, sizes in Asia run MUCH smaller than the Western world. I am no geneticist, but some of Asians' size probably is due to just who they are and the environmental factors. AKA get a size 10 dress and laugh about it when you get a size 6 back in the States

kdsp2911

First of all, he should have never talked to you like that. It's just cruel and completely disrespectful.

My most recent humiliating moment was my first plane ride...got on the plane...sat down nervous as I could be....and the seatbelt wouldn't latch!! I wasn't about to tell anybody! We had a layover and from there got on a jet plane (the first was a propeller plane) and I was able to suck in and tug and pull until the seatbelt latched on the jet plane. Same thing happened on the way back. Jet plane seatbelt was fine, propeller plane it wouldn't latch again. So...I'm anxious to see how much weight I've lost when I have to fly to Utah in October...the seatbelt will tell the truth

dunnodunno

First of all, he should have never talked to you like that. It's just cruel and completely disrespectful.

My most recent humiliating moment was my first plane ride...got on the plane...sat down nervous as I could be....and the seatbelt wouldn't latch!! I wasn't about to tell anybody! We had a layover and from there got on a jet plane (the first was a propeller plane) and I was able to suck in and tug and pull until the seatbelt latched on the jet plane. Same thing happened on the way back. Jet plane seatbelt was fine, propeller plane it wouldn't latch again. So...I'm anxious to see how much weight I've lost when I have to fly to Utah in October...the seatbelt will tell the truth

I cannot wait to see how I fit on the plane's seat in July.

ButYouGotMySoul

I was at Six Flags with my best friends, and we stood in line for the "Superman" ride. I'd ridden it before, and I was super excited, but...when I got into the seat, I couldn't get the belt over my lap. I tried and tried and my friend tried to help, but it was no use. I had to get up and walk away after having waited for over two hours in the sun. It was horrifying.

lilbearzmom

smantha32

So, this isn't really the worst thing that has ever happened to me, but I have recently been going to a great healthy restaurant in town called Greens and Proteins. It's super healthy--whole foods, fresh produce, etc. And they list the calories of everything right on the menu. It's awesome.

The problem is that it's located right next to a gym (GENIUS), and everyone in there is FIT. Oh, except for me. Every single time I go in there, I get dirty looks from people. LIKE, every time. It makes me feel like crap. Healthy, fit people are mean. Okay, not all of them, but the people at this place are rude, man. Makes me feel like a huge monster in the midst of all these tight little bodies.

You need a different gym. Places like that need to go out of business. :explode:

StaticNomad

I got stuck in a pair of spanx that should have fit me. I ripped them trying to get OUT of them and honestly thought I was going to have to tell my daughter to call 911 to get me out of the spanx. My arms were trapped around my head and I was in the dressing room of a Lane Bryants. While no one was there *with* me to see, I was still mortified at how big I'd gotten without realizing it. Though, I do laugh at the story... because it's funny. LOL

LyndaTay

Mine was trying to ride a ride at Sea World. Two workers were bouncing on the bar trying to get it locked. One of the guys asked me if I could hold up my belly so they could try and lock the bar. I said no thank you and walked away. It was embarrassing.

foot1647

When my friend said "You're boobs are bigger than my girlfriends." and started laughing.

I took that as my main motivation and start here logging my food. I had thought wearing 2 shirts with a hoody was hiding my moobs but apparently not. I'm glad he said that though. I feel awesome now, 26 pounds lost since May 9th and just over an inch lost from measuring around my chest.

I really want to go swimming this summer. I haven't gone swimming in years because of my moobs and gut. I don't think its gonna happen though because I have lost 26 pounds but my waist measured at my hips and over my belly button are exactly, to the centimeter, the same size.

littlecrystal

I have one too.. I was pregnant with my 2nd baby at the time, only 3 months pregnant so it did not show yet! My 5yo niece asked my sister while in my presence “Why is she so fat?” My sister said she is expecting a baby… This was true but we both knew I was just fat!

On a positive note, my colleagues did not know I was pregnant until over 5 months of pregnancy because my shape did not changed much and they probably thought I was just getting fatter.
Thanks for reminding me how much it hurts. I need to put more effort.

Remembered many more.

When I was visiting a work abroad office, an inconsiderate male colleague asked if I was pregnant. My child was 2 years old at the time and I was wearing a dress that widens straight from under the boobs. Needless to say I never wear that dress in public again and even at home I try not to wear it.

My husband’s relatives abroad asked me “why are you so big?” They are normally thin in their culture. I had to explain that I got bigger after I had my kids and planning on to losing this weight. I made a promise to myself that next time I go to visit them I will be much smaller.

bornofthorns

When my friend said "You're boobs are bigger than my girlfriends." and started laughing.

I took that as my main motivation and start here logging my food. I had thought wearing 2 shirts with a hoody was hiding my moobs but apparently not. I'm glad he said that though. I feel awesome now, 26 pounds lost since May 9th and just over an inch lost from measuring around my chest.

I really want to go swimming this summer. I haven't gone swimming in years because of my moobs and gut. I don't think its gonna happen though because I have lost 26 pounds but my waist measured at my hips and over my belly button are exactly, to the centimeter, the same size.

I am there with you. I am probably down to an A cup from a C

However, you do you. If you want to go swimming - go swimming. What if you got horribly sick tomorrow and found out you could never swim again? You let what someone possibly would think of you stop you from doing what you enjoy. I know it sucks, I think of it every time I take my shirt off. Then I think, one day I will take it off and someone will say, "Brandon, what happened to your ample mosom?" That will be awesome. My point is, you are working hard, and maybe your reward should be going for a swim. Keep up the good work!

ninjakitty419

While at Walmart my daughter saw a SpongeBob book and said, "Daddy is like Squidward because he's tall and you're like Patrick Star Mommy, because you're pink and fat." I busted out laughing with her of course, but still it wasn't something I was happy to hear lol.

Kids are so honest...My daughter says things like "Look mom that tractor is big like you!" and "Mommy has a big butt." Last night it was "Daddy is itty bitty but mommy is not." (My husband is 130, im 230).

ninjakitty419

I've had so many.... people are cruel.

I had one a few months ago...while out running I got yelled at by a passing car. "Keep Running Fat *kitten*" I still feel horrible inside when I think about this situation.

Precisely why I don't run outside. In my warped mind, I think "They might not say it but they'll definitely think it" :embarassed:

Same here...I dont really know if anyone has ever said anything when I'm walking, but in my mind I imagine they do. For years I didnt work out at all because I didnt want anyone, even my husband to see me. I still have when he sees me jumping and panting and flopping all over the living room, but I'll do it. It will be quite some time before I will do anything in public like a gym, class, go for a run, etc.

jacalennejax

I posted before. But i'll post a copy.


I have always been big. Mortifying moments started as long back as I can remember.

In 2nd grade- Since my name is Jacalenne- a boy nicknamed me jack-alantern- because I was big and round. it stuck. I left that

In 6 & 7th grade- I would arrive to school late a lot, and would have to walk into the classroom in front of everyone while it was quiet. The teenage boys would make noises like i was shaking the earth, and whisper loudly "BOOM...... BOOOMMMM.....BOOM" everytime I took a step. It was all i could do to make it to my seat quickly.

I thought that i had overcame my issues, but i dont think someone really gets over their issues. I think its still inside me. Just re-reading that old post made me go back to 8th grade and seeing all the guys tease me.

Alioops831

I hadn't seen my 5 year old niece in awhile. I was playing a game with her and out of the blue she said, "You used to be thin and now you're REALLY fat! LOL!" It was like she socked me in the stomach.

ws0606

my worst moment was when I was 18 (18 years ago) my father said to me...."you embarrass me" "the way you look, you're grades" it was the worst moment of my life. 4 months later he sent me to boarding school.

here I am now, 50 pounds heavier. nice.

ws0606

thistimesucess

I was a friends for Christmas dinner and their 4 yr old turned round and said 'why are you so fat? You look like a fat jolly Santa Claus!' (I was wearing a red dress). I played the comment down but underneath I wanted to crawl under the carpet. Started Mfp a week later and am now almost at my goal weight.

Benzz_biiitch

My most humiliating "fat" experience was definitely in the 7th grade...I sat down at the lunch table and didn't want to take up "two spots" so I sat as far as I could on the edge of the table and then it folded up in half...even with other people sitting there :ohwell:

dluberts

my boufirend likes to shake my belly.and giggle and make little jokes about being bigger.I weigh 147 at 5'5''.so not too big.well mr make jokes is in the obese category now so when he does it to me...i turn around and "PEEP"his man boobs that he now has...and tell him to shut up.

AmyZ46

I too have ahad a few humilating moments ,quite a few from my mom which I think hardened me a bit

She has struggled with her weight all her life also ,

When she would loose weight she would tell me ( In front of the whole family ,like during the holidays)
that she had some cloths for me that were way to big for her , and that I could have them if I could fit into them .

She did this all the time..
After I moved to Alaska , she stopped doing it?

I have had a few people ask me if I was expecting and one family member who is not a nice person asked me during one of those holiday get togethers in front of every one in a demeaning way and I answered back no I'm not pregnant I'm just fat ! Did you get a job yet?

No one in my family ever teased me about my weight again

About two years ago I was on a flight from AK to Louisiana and when I found my seat the two people had to get up so I could get into the window seat and the very this woman said " It's going to be cozy "

I was humiliated , she took the arm rest the whole way as I tried to squish myself into the window.

NonnyMary

My humiliating moment is when i have to change in the locker room at the gym, well because my bra is not big enough, to make it fit, i had to rip it under the armpit, so its biggger. I cant find anywhere where i can get a bigger bra. thats fine because no one else sees it except now at the gym... so i have to hide and change in the curtained area where no one else is. I'm saying i have to wear ripped up underwear!

i am so sorry that people on here have unsupportive freinds. Two major people in my life - my bff Chris and my supervisor, (who seems more like a friend than a boss both are encouraging me and telling me they notice I am getting smaller, i lost 27 pounds and they notice and they are so sweet. i appreciate them more! My bff Chris tells me "Good job!" .. thats so nice!

ninjakitty419

In 6 & 7th grade- I would arrive to school late a lot, and would have to walk into the classroom in front of everyone while it was quiet. The teenage boys would make noises like i was shaking the earth, and whisper loudly "BOOM...... BOOOMMMM.....BOOM" everytime I took a step. It was all i could do to make it to my seat quickly.

I thought that i had overcame my issues, but i dont think someone really gets over their issues. I think its still inside me. Just re-reading that old post made me go back to 8th grade and seeing all the guys tease me.

OMG this brought back memories...All throughout elementary and middle school, I delt with stuff like the BOOM BOOM. Here's a few I can think of from Kindergarten to 8th grade in no particular order:

*When I walked, people would overdramatically step several feet out of the way, making comments about how I was going to plow them over.
*A boy on the school bus told me he was going to buy me a tour of the Slim Fast factory for my birthday
*If someone had to sit next to me on the school bus, they would sit way on the end and comment on how I took up all the room (even though they would leave enough space between us for a whole nother person to fit)
*"Fatty Fatty 2 by 4, cant get through the bathroom door" hear this at least once a week

kmartinixx

I've never really had a REALLY embarrassing moment. Don't get me wrong, I'm 5'2'' and 175 lbs, but I have always been "average looking." However, I'll never forget this one conversation a few of the women in my family were having that made be feel REALLY fat. I was about 16 and I was sitting around with my mom, aunts, and cousins who were all a bit older than me and who have all had children. I am probably one of the chubbiest girls on my mom's side of the family. They were all always really skinny and tiny. I mean I am tiny and petite like them, I just got the belly somehow.

Anyways, they were all talking about ho much they weighed when they first got pregnant, all of them weighed between 98-110 lbs, and reached about 125-135 in their pregnancies. And I am the youngest one sitting there HEAVIER than all of them when they were pregnant. That always bothered me. I wanna be thin whenever I get pregnant in the future, and I want to be able to bounce back and get back on my grind. I was embarrassed for a while, but now it is one of the many things that motivates me to become more fit and healthy!

As far as you husband, I am 175 lbs and I wear swimsuits and my boyfriend genuinely tells me I'm beautiful whether it's a one piece or a two piece. I know my boyfriend thinks that I am beautiful all of the time because I can see it in his eyes and hear it in his voice. If you don't have that you've GOT to look for someone who will provide it. Because someone will. Don't waste your life away with someone who doesn't deserve you!

xoxo.

JDanKing

The time I remember feeling most humiliated - I saw a picture of a small group of us (3 or 4), taken at a theme park (don't remember which one). We were sitting on a bench, I was on the left. I was wearing a button-up shirt, and it was stretched so tight that the space between the buttons was stretched open, revealing a big "circle" of me showing through between the buttons. I was so ashamed that I took the picture, tore it to shreds and threw it away.

Now, about the boyfriend/husband: This isn't meant to defend his offensive remark, but instead to help create understanding: being with a seriously overweight partner can be embarrassing/humiliating for the "other guy", too. It sounds like in this case it just boiled to the surface and he failed to engage the filter that should be between his brain and his mouth.

If it was a one-time thing, I hope you can forgive and get past it. If he's like that regularly, tho, you should think about "driving on", if you know what I mean.

Jaulen

So glad I have a wonderful husband who's response to me right away when I made a comment about my weight was:
"I think you'r sexy no matter what you look like. But I don't love you for your body, I love you becuase of who you are."
He's so awesome.

Never recall being fat shamed, at 5'5" the heaviest I ever was was 155 (before having a kid and getting a desk job).
And haven't had anything said to me now either, at least not that I have heard.....any bad comments have come from myself.


I do recall, at 150 pounds, after having joined a gym and hiring a PT to get back into the toned shape I wanted to be, my (now) ex-husband said to me while walking in the mall and passing a VS store "Why can't you look like that?"

I instantly felt hot and flushed with anger and embarassment.....here I was trying to get back in shape while my hubs who was a counch potato and non-active said that to me (I had more muscle tone than him!)? I didn't say anything until a bit later while walking past an American Eagle store, I stopped in front of one of those headless male torso posters and said loudly "Wow! Look at those abs! Why can't you have abs like that?" and then walked away.