At what age do you draw the line on being a bridesmaid?

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  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    My take on Bridesmaids;

    You should only have as many as you can afford to buy a dress for. Asking a friend to be in your wedding and then making them buy their own dress is a SIN!
    The age thing....no limit, but refer back to the above :)

    *HI FIVE*
  • tyrantduck
    tyrantduck Posts: 387 Member
    Never been one, never hope to be. I have WAY too much to deal with in my own life. As much as I love my family and friends, I just wouldn't be able to give them the time they would deserve from a member of their bridal party.
  • SarahBeth0625
    SarahBeth0625 Posts: 685 Member
    I have only been in one wedding, sadly! It was my good friend, though.

    that settles it! You can be in my third wedding :)

    YES!! And if I ever get re-married, I'll have you as my maid of honor. :smile:
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I have only been in one wedding, sadly! It was my good friend, though.

    that settles it! You can be in my third wedding :)

    YES!! And if I ever get re-married, I'll have you as my maid of honor. :smile:


    *SCORE!* As we've established, I can't say No ;)
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    Depends on who it is to be honest... But alas, I will never be asked to be one... apparently I'm not that great at being a close bestie.
  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
    Do you have an age where you can't imagine being a bridesmaid in a full on, big puffy white dress, 250 guests, formal wedding? Have you ever said no to someone?

    Why is the brides maid wearing a puffy white dress? Shouldn't it be teal or coral? Or powder blue? If anyone other than the bride wears a white puffy dress, there is sure to be a cat fight.
  • iorahkwano
    iorahkwano Posts: 709 Member
    I'm 24 and have yet to be a bridesmaid. None of my friends or close family have married. I would cherish an excuse to wear a flashy dress and get dolled up :/

    As for the age thing, I suppose it depends on how the individual feels.
  • avababy05
    avababy05 Posts: 930 Member
    Do you have an age where you can't imagine being a bridesmaid in a full on, big puffy white dress, 250 guests, formal wedding? Have you ever said no to someone?

    Why is the brides maid wearing a puffy white dress? Shouldn't it be teal or coral? Or powder blue? If anyone other than the bride wears a white puffy dress, there is sure to be a cat fight.

    Depends on where your from.

    In the U.K,many times the attendant wear white as well.
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    I was a bridesmaid at 25 and the bride involved me fully on what type of dress I would wear. Likewise when I got married my bridesmaids were 29 &15 and I went dress shopping with them to find out what colour and styles suited and based my wedding colours on that :-)

    I sorta did that... I wanted blue dresses, but the color and the style was too expensive (even David's bridal) so we bought pink (and I despise pink in large doses such as dresses) ones in the similar style...
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    Do you have an age where you can't imagine being a bridesmaid in a full on, big puffy white dress, 250 guests, formal wedding? Have you ever said no to someone?

    I hate to say it, but I have no desire to be in an attendant in a wedding again. Maybe if it was a small destination wedding type affair, but in a formal, church thing, I can't imagine taffeta, bouquets and up-do's anymore.

    My younger brother was only 11 when I got married. So I picked my 12 year old cousin to be a junior bridesmaid to walk down with my brother. They were cute.
  • silvergurl518
    silvergurl518 Posts: 4,123 Member
    i'll admit it. i go here every day: www.offbeatbride.com

    there are no rules! in my future imaginary wedding, there'll be a rock show, tattoos, cupcakes, ice cream, taco bar, photo booth, karaoke, and no rules! my bridesmaids will feel comfortable in whatever they wear--i will have a "basic guideline" but then it's their choice! cuz i've been the bridesmaid wearing an awful pink strapless number and i felt sooooo uncomfortable and self-conscious. JUST SAY YES to being a bridesmaid but NO to ridiculous demands!
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    NEVER I still want to be a flower girl.
  • SatchGallamax
    SatchGallamax Posts: 549 Member
    I'd be a bridesmaid at any age... but all of my friends are super laid-back and informal with a good sense of style.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    I would do it at any age for one of my best friends. I would tell anyone who falls outside of the "best friend" category no at any age.

    SO, you would be my best man?
  • SlvrBluGoddess
    SlvrBluGoddess Posts: 239 Member
    The trick to avoiding being a bridesmaid is to not have any friends.

    Or just not be good enough friends that they want you in their wedding party.
  • GnomeLover1984
    GnomeLover1984 Posts: 80
    I would do it at any age. I will still have friends and family, even if I get wrinkles.
  • jessmastrilli
    jessmastrilli Posts: 203 Member
    I am actually having a similar problem right now. My mom is getting married in August to this guy. It's both their second weddings and my dad is still around. She asked me to be a bridesmaid. I told her as long as I don't have a lot of responsibilities. Well now she's already setting all these rules - like me having to dance with my new "step-brother." So weird. I tell her no, and she freaks out and starts naming times that she had to do things for me that were out of the ordinary. I reply, "yes I understand but that was YOUR daughter's wedding... not your mother's second wedding." Just weird and I'm mad. I don't want to be a part of this wedding. I was already part of my mom and dad's wedding a long time ago. I hate weddings.
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    I'd still do it! Hopefully my friends are past the whole tacky dress thing since we're all in our late 30's/early 40's now but I'd be so happy for them finding love again, finally getting hitched or renewing vows that I wouldn't really care.
  • raisingemilyjune
    raisingemilyjune Posts: 181
    I think as soon as I start to have kids. I think I would have too much going on with my child to focus on any sort of wedding. All 3 of my bridesmaids are older than myself, with the youngest being 27 and the oldest being 34. Two are family on my fiance's side (his sister, 29 and his cousin, 34). That said, my bridesmaids dresses are super flattering and they all love them.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    I think as soon as I start to have kids. I think I would have too much going on with my child to focus on any sort of wedding. All 3 of my bridesmaids are older than myself, with the youngest being 27 and the oldest being 34. Two are family on my fiance's side (his sister, 29 and his cousin, 34). That said, my bridesmaids dresses are super flattering and they all love them.

    I have a daughter and was still able to be matron of honor at my best friend's destination wedding. I don't think my daughter was any worse off for me taking some time away from mommy-duty to help my best friend with her day.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    I would do it at any age for one of my best friends. I would tell anyone who falls outside of the "best friend" category no at any age.

    SO, you would be my best man?

    No, I am lacking the proper equipment.
  • doughnutwretch
    doughnutwretch Posts: 498 Member
    My thought process is, if they're your good friends or family/in-laws you're close with, you should suck it up and be there for them on their big day and the events leading up to. Regardless of age.
  • Mainebikerchick
    Mainebikerchick Posts: 1,573 Member
    My sister is getting married on Friday the 13th - Sept this year and I am a bridesmaid. Not sure if I'm happy about it or am dreading it but she's my sister and she was in mine in 2010....so maybe I'll opt out after this? Unless someone bats their eyelashes at me and asks real nice....

    <sigh>

    I'm such a pushover.
  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
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  • sPaRkLiNgLYFE
    sPaRkLiNgLYFE Posts: 609
    if someone asked me i'd do it, but i have to have a say on how my dress is made.
  • Biitchstix
    Biitchstix Posts: 41
    I'm only in college and I'm honestly not sure I'd be able to do it, I did once get up and read a bible verse at my cousins wedding when I was about 12 but even that left me cringing a bit :/ (Partly because I'm and atheist but mostly just because the whole tradition seems so forced imo). The idea of stuffing myself into a tacky dress and having to put up with all the prep work/photos etc. is just no...
    but then again I know being in their 60's who LOVE being in wedding and can't understand why I don't even want to have one so I think it just depends more on the person then the age.
  • EDesq
    EDesq Posts: 1,527 Member
    So? Is it an honor for someone to ask/want another person to be in their wedding. I guess it's a balance between your feelings and theirs. NOW, Me, I was asked by My Sister to be in her wedding and I refused...her husband to be was a dog, had another woman pregnant and just a no class dude. My Mom agreed with Me and said she was glad that I was upholding the family name. SOOO, it IS a decision and YOUR feeling are to be considered. Yeah, at some point the "thrill" is gone, like going to an Amusement Park...if you have been to a few, by the time you are 40 you kinda realize that Disney World/Land is just another one.
  • BklynEibhlin
    BklynEibhlin Posts: 119 Member
    I would say yes because someone who thinks enough of me to ask me to be in their wedding party is probably someone I consider worth me wearing a tacky dress. No one, NO ONE is worth me ever wearing dyeable shoes though. I don't know how many weddings I've been in. A quick guess is 8. Four sisters, four friends. I think that's correct.

    As far as being a happy bridesmaid at my age (39), I think it all depends on how age appropriate the bride is willing to go. I'm a big fan of dark/neutral (navy, pewter, mocha) colors and classic style, knee-length dresses for the mature bridesmaid. Ann Taylor actually has a nice selection. I like the idea of picking a color and designer so there's a similar look uniting the bridal party, but then letting everyone pick their own style. You get a little more personality from your party that way, and each person gets to be as comfortable or sexy as they want to be. I pray the one friend who is planning a wedding will change her mind about only having her sister as a maid of honor, no bridesmaids. She's buying her sister silver Louboutins for being in her wedding. I'll jump right into that wedding party! :bigsmile:
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    I love weddings and parties!! I will forever be anyones' bridesmaid that asks me to. But, I love that cheesy shit.
  • Lesa_Sass
    Lesa_Sass Posts: 2,213 Member
    I think as soon as I start to have kids. I think I would have too much going on with my child to focus on any sort of wedding. All 3 of my bridesmaids are older than myself, with the youngest being 27 and the oldest being 34. Two are family on my fiance's side (his sister, 29 and his cousin, 34). That said, my bridesmaids dresses are super flattering and they all love them.

    OH NO! Dont be that crazy lady.

    People that only focus on their children are kind of pathetic if you ask me. There is putting your kid first(which is responsible parenting) and then there is putting your child only. That is just sad. Kids leave...........

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