At what age do you draw the line on being a bridesmaid?

BusyRaeNOTBusty

I think as soon as I start to have kids. I think I would have too much going on with my child to focus on any sort of wedding. All 3 of my bridesmaids are older than myself, with the youngest being 27 and the oldest being 34. Two are family on my fiance's side (his sister, 29 and his cousin, 34). That said, my bridesmaids dresses are super flattering and they all love them.

Children don't require that much effort. :huh: I have 3 of them. I was in my sister's wedding a couple of weeks ago. I sewed my own dress and two flower girl dresses.

sizzle74

There is an age limit to being a bride's maid? Bride's maids still wear taffeta and up-do's? :huh:

Guess I am going to the wrong weddings.

oregonzoo

This makes me want a wedding even less!

I don't want to torment some woman my age.


That said, I'm ultra careful not to find ugly dresses...

1223345

I think age is irrelevant, but the dress should be age appropriate.

Alex_is_Hawks

Well Im getting married again within a year and Im in my late 40's. My matron of honor just died (age 47) suddenly in Feburary and her husband is going to stand in for her at my wedding. My other maid of honor is 48. So guess we are going to be really unusual because I will have a man of honor now and a maid of honor!

i'm sorry for your loss and that's a beautiful way to still incorporate her.


I have been a bridesmaid 3 times...I could do without doing it again.....

but that being said, if someone really close to me asked I probably would do it again...

i myself will never put someone through that....

Caffeinewitch

Seems like setting an age limit means you just don't want to do anyway. So why not just say " No, thank you. can I help out some other way?"
or even "No thanks, I hope it's lovely anyway"

cubbies77

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Do you have an age where you can't imagine being a bridesmaid in a full on, big puffy white dress, 250 guests, formal wedding? Have you ever said no to someone?

Why is the brides maid wearing a puffy white dress? Shouldn't it be teal or coral? Or powder blue? If anyone other than the bride wears a white puffy dress, there is sure to be a cat fight.

I think she was describing the style of wedding, as in, "A full-on, bride in a big puffy white dress, 250 guests in attendance, formal wedding," as opposed to a smaller, more intimate wedding with a smaller budget. I'm not sure what that has to do with it, though, as I've been to some lovely, small weddings that were just as classy as the big blow-outs.

metermaid11

I have never been a Bridesmaid sadly. All of my friends and family either eloped or had small weddings with no wedding party.

cubbies77

I think the days of all the bridesmaids being matchy-matchy are long gone. Robo-maids with the same dress, shoes, updo, and jewelry are sort of out of style and make me think of the 1980s.

Now, it's more of a "trend" to give the bridesmaids a color and fabric preference and let them order dresses in a style that suits them. Or, the bride will still pick the dresses, but then the bridesmaids wear whatever shoes, jewelry, hair accessory (if any) that they want. I've seen some weddings where the bridesmaids are in the same dress but have on different styles of shoes (all the same color), and I've seen some where the bridesmaids are in varying shades and fabrics in the same color spectrum. Heck, I've even seen different colors altogether. I think it looks nice and keeps the ladies looking like individuals instead of robots.

Here's an example of different dresses in complementing colors:



Here's an example of the same dress but in different colors. I really like this one because they're all jewel tones, and the colors look great:



Here's an example of doing it wrong (completely different styles (ruffles/no ruffles), and the various shades of green clash with each other). It looks like the bar on St. Patrick's Day.

SpeSHul_SnoflEHk

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I would do it at any age for one of my best friends. I would tell anyone who falls outside of the "best friend" category no at any age.

SO, you would be my best man?

No, I am lacking the proper equipment.

You can rent a tux.

Hbazzell

I dont think ther i an age range xcept for if they are really young like "JR Bridesmaids". It doesnt sound like you don't want to because of age, you just dont want to. Tell the person you don't want to. Ef it.