Friend requests. Message vs no message

rchupka87

I ignore the request if there is no message. And I clearly state that in the very first sentance on my profile. I figure if they don't even read the first sentence about me that 1.) they really aren't that interested in being my friend, or 2.) it's not the type of friend that I want anyway.

SpeSHul_SnoflEHk

Decline: no msg; any variation of "friends, journey, weightloss, encourage, support each other" blah blah blah lame.

Accept: killer hot guys, smoking hot girls, msg containing any variation of the following: "you're hot, the rougher the better, I'm a girl, lets lez out, I drink too much, sure, go ahead - touch it, toaster strudels are the best, want to see a pic of my cat in my bushes"

I'm beginning to think I *may* not be using MFP for its intended purpose anymore.....

What if the message says "Let's be friends and encourage each other to lez out and continue our journey with toaster strudels because weight loss because cats" ?

I'd accept that one!

SpeSHul_SnoflEHk

I feel that people that post in their description that "I won't add you with out a message.. blah.. blah.. blah" to seem to high on themselves, instant turn off.

Or we have been frightened by real life creepy *kitten* psycho stalkers who googled everything about us and our families. True, a message doesn't guarantee that won't happen again, but it gets rid of the lazy stalkers.

SpeSHul_SnoflEHk

I agree with terrie. It always strikes me as a bit egotistical when someone says out on their profile page that they won't accept without a message. It is broadcasting how "popular" you are. Just don't accept if there is no message. That's fine. I think it is a little weird to friend somebody you don't know anything about. But, don't tell us about it.
I always send a message. Seems only normal, natural and cordial. When I see somebody I want to friend, there is a reason.

Yeah. I am so popular with my 41 friends (One of those is actually myself).

Fit_NYC_

No message, no add... simple as that. There should be a reason for me to see your face on my feed.
I hold myself to the same standards and always send a message.

And including the disclaimer about it on the profile is not vanity, just informational. Some people accept, some don't. At least if they can read, then they know which type I am.

ACepero79

I prefer massages to my friend requests.....wait did I read that wrong....

LetsTryThisAgain54

I still don't know why people make it a Federal Case about a message!!! If you don't like what the person looks like, just don't accept the frigging request. A big deal over nothing!

jbutterflye

I agree with terrie. It always strikes me as a bit egotistical when someone says out on their profile page that they won't accept without a message. It is broadcasting how "popular" you are. Just don't accept if there is no message. That's fine. I think it is a little weird to friend somebody you don't know anything about. But, don't tell us about it.
I always send a message. Seems only normal, natural and cordial. When I see somebody I want to friend, there is a reason.

Yeah. I am so popular with my 41 friends (One of those is actually myself).

I like to think I'm a friend to myself as well. At least I talk to myself, sometimes out loud.

silver_arrow3

I will accept pretty much anyone. It's like being given permission to stalk them and I'm all for it! Then if they turn out to be a dirtbag, I drop 'em (or they drop me when they realize I'm actually incredibly boring).

define dirtbag lol

I don't have one really... But when a person goes from unknown to super-stalker in five seconds flat, adding me to every bit of social media that I'm registered for... That's grounds for blocking, I think.

LMT2012

I don't care really, I mean come on why are we so choosy, the more support the better. If they are annoying I will gracefully remove them. I am not getting married just friending someone on a fitness site.

Thank you and exactly.