Texting is NOT ENOUGH, Pick Up the Damned Phone!!
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I think it's probably more that 30 year old guys are, in general, morons. I've been with my husband for a very long time, but I look around and thank my lucky stars that I don't have to choose from the common lot of 30-something guys out there.
Go to the internet, seriously. At least that way you know you're talking to people who are serious about dating someone and finding a partner. The average guy at the coffee shop or bar isn't looking beyond the next week. I met my husband online quite by accident in 1995, I was looking up some information and he had a web page with a broken link, I sent him a message that said, "your link is broken" and he replied that it wasn't, then helped me download the file on my computer and then we just kept talking. A couple months later we met, 6 months after that we moved in together. 18 years later we're happily married.0 -
Oh and I prefer sexting to actual texting, I like every text to contain something dirty, even if it's from strangers.
She says that, but do you see her number in this response? Nooooo.0 -
Anyone that is so needy that the HAVE to talk on the phone is someone that I generally don't want to date anyway. I hate talking on the freaking phone. I can have a nice long conversation with someone when I am with them. The only way I generally want to talk on the phone is if I don't see someone very often, and there is actually something in particular to talk about that is too long and drawn out for me to want to type if in my phone.0
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I'd rather a text, guess i'm strange like that. It annoys me when my phone rings, unless it's someone I agreed to talk to.
Put me in the strange catagory. I would rather text. Hell I do not even call my own mother most of the time I just text her unless what I have to tell her is going to take too long to text then I will call.
I have social anxiety as well and I communicate 1000 times better through text because I can think through what I want to say, seriously on the phone I can be a bumbling idiot... in text I am less ofa bumbling idiot and more just an idiot lol
The guy I am currently looking at going on a date with did just come out and say "will you go on a date with me?" I said "yeah as soon as our schedules sync of course" this all took place through text and I am totally OK With it.0 -
although i prefer text it is just quicker think i am to old to be have a long drawn out convo over the phone. if you want to talk we can go get dinner or coffee or just take a walk.
i will call the thread starter any time she wants i saw her pics in that other thread :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:0 -
Options. You're discovering what it feels like to be a 19-year old boy, when the girls are all flakey from choosing from lots of options and drop you at a moment's notice.
Courtship died longer than 10 years ago. I remember learning that lesson when I was about 20. All this "asking out" and "dating" and "friendship" and "romance" and stuff failed to produce sex. Then, I discovered I had it backwards, have sex first, and THEN you can date and be romantic!
Nothing's really changed, other than texting makes it a lot easier to do what everyone did anyway.0 -
Dude, dating is depressing. This one time I tried match.com and those men are weird looking and illiterate. They also all have kids from multiple past wives/girlfriends. VERY low quality these days. I'm 25 and it seems pretty hopeless. I guess we're supposed to tell ourselves that the "right" guy will come along at the "right" time. Basically, it's best not to dwell on it.
Also, I hate talking on the phone and would die if I had to do it with some guy I barely know.0 -
I got nothing... my bf and I usually chat on fb to be honest (I on my phone, he on the computer). I really prefer it. And I really really hate when someone leaves me a voice mail.0
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MyHoney and I actually met on a knitting forum, and while we now text quite frequently, when he first gave me his number, it was all phone calls. We would talk for 4 hours at a time (yay time difference between California and South Dakota). I enjoyed being courted by him and I don't think it has anything to do with not being a modern woman - it's just plain nice to have someone speak nicely to you and say poetic things to you. Yes, he opens the doors for me most of the time. But really? We both work full time. We split the bills. It's nothing to do with being "modern."
The guys I met before him that were all about the instant messaging/texting? Were also all about their instant gratification. It sucks.
But it is also today's world. Technology is there. If you don't want them texting you, then tell them that up front. Let them know the expectations you have.
And best of luck!
Favorite and appropriate answer.0 -
Oh and I prefer sexting to actual texting, I like every text to contain something dirty, even if it's from strangers.
YOLO wut up bebz sawz sum roadkill looked like a dead katz must of been there a week cuz it stunked! Lots of maggots all ups in dar and a big ol bear got bears poo on the katz rotted maggot head.
whew! I'm exhausted that was some dirty texting.0 -
I'd rather a text, guess i'm strange like that. It annoys me when my phone rings, unless it's someone I agreed to talk to.
Put me in the strange catagory. I would rather text. Hell I do not even call my own mother most of the time I just text her unless what I have to tell her is going to take too long to text then I will call.
I have social anxiety as well and I communicate 1000 times better through text because I can think through what I want to say, seriously on the phone I can be a bumbling idiot... in text I am less ofa bumbling idiot and more just an idiot lol
The guy I am currently looking at going on a date with did just come out and say "will you go on a date with me?" I said "yeah as soon as our schedules sync of course" this all took place through text and I am totally OK With it.
I agree. I hardly every chat on the phone unless it's my mom or my fiancee.
I'm good with a "Hey, what are you doing, want to go do something" text.0 -
Waiting for the "Call me maybe" jokes. C'mon people!
Call me maybe!
No actually dont just text...0 -
I think it's better to get the sex out of the way. Then you can focus on the relationship rather than applying mathmatical formula to when is the appropriate time to have sex with them.
I don't really text or chat on the phone. I prefer face to face interaction.0 -
I don't mind texting when it comes to quick chats. However, when someone tries to have a full blown conversation with me via text, I get annoyed. Also certain things can be misconstrued/ lost in translation easily via text on a screen.
This may change the day someone invents sarcasm font. Sarcasm font would be awesome!0 -
Oh and I prefer sexting to actual texting, I like every text to contain something dirty, even if it's from strangers.
She says that, but do you see her number in this response? Nooooo.
Gene Wilder, boobies and dogs, I would probably give you my number, looks like we have a bit in common......:drinker:0 -
I know, it seems guys don't want to go on a date unless they are really expecting to get some. That's just ridiculous.
Uh, why else would a man want to date a woman? To sit and hear her talk? Hmmm now that's just ridiculous.0 -
FROM THE OP: Let me clarify: I LIKE texting! I don't think there's anything wrong with it. But if that's the ONLY way we communicate, I have a problem with this. And when I said, Pick up the phone, it could be for 5 minutes, just to say "Hi, how was your day? Want to grab a drink?". I mean, is this absurd?
I dunno. And to the guy suggesting texting isn't the reason I can't "find" a man. First and foremost, I'm not out looking, they come to me.
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I understand that women are expected to do things like call the guy first and ask him out but I really don't like the tone that sets for the relationship.
WHAT? NO... Is this why Im not dating? I ve been doing it wrong all these years.0 -
You know phone calls are really nice but I prefer to just dig through their trash and sniff their underwear.0
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Oh and I prefer sexting to actual texting, I like every text to contain something dirty, even if it's from strangers.
YOLO wut up bebz sawz sum roadkill looked like a dead katz must of been there a week cuz it stunked! Lots of maggots all ups in dar and a big ol bear got bears poo on the katz rotted maggot head.
whew! I'm exhausted that was some dirty texting.
would bang, smash and marry. That was awesome.0 -
I'm also in the "I prefer texting" camp. I'm a phone-phobic sometimes, it makes me nervous/anxious to hold long convos on the phone, but I can text for daaaaaays. 0
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You know phone calls are really nice but I prefer to just dig through their trash and sniff their underwear.
Owwwww Noooooo, lmao....0 -
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You know phone calls are really nice but I prefer to just dig through their trash and sniff their underwear.
Wow, I am so glad to know I'm not alone on that....makes me feel, well, better about myself somehow.0 -
I know exactly how you feel.
Its cause people spend so much through texting/social-network that things are very different now, then it was before.
To be Honest im an old fashion person myself. I like it when a guy ask me out, but i also dont mind asking guys out.
But also a real date like a typical Dinner then movie then drop me home and kiss my cheek/lips. The feeling of nervousness and excitement.
now its just like a game. text and more text then more other stuff hang out (not on a date). no real moral to anything anymore ;-; so sad0 -
OP you read my mind0
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I think it's better to get the sex out of the way. Then you can focus on the relationship rather than applying mathmatical formula to when is the appropriate time to have sex with them.
This is what I (used to) do and apparently, that makes me slutty.0 -
I tend to think people talk on the phone too much especially in this cell phone age. nothing worst than going to the store or to the gym or wheerever and having someone slow you up because they are flapping their lips on their cell phones. Plus half the crap they discuss on those phones should only be discussed in the privacy of their homes.0
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Get a house phone?
What are we, in the 70's??
Rotary dial is where it's at! Try to text with that!0 -
I'm old fashioned too and I felt the same way as you when I was dating but I stood my ground and didn't go out with the men that couldn't call me for a date and then I met my husband. He always called to ask me out and was a perfect gentleman on our dates. The only reason men behave that way is because women haven't let them know it's not okay to behave that way.
oh! once a man asked me if I wanted to "hang out" sometime. My response was "sure I'd like to go on a date with you". he replied "well, I don't really like labels". Needless to say I didn't go out with him... even after he said we could call it a date.
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