A Woman Needs To Feel Desired
Read this online tonight. I think it's one of the truest, most well written things I've read. I'm certain that some will disagree, but it summed me up pretty well.
'A woman who feels desired is many things:
She is less likely to reach frustration with
you
or the children
or the cat
or the dog.
She is more likely to feel like an important part of
your life
and the home you share
and the children you created together.
She is more likely to look at her own body
and instead of feeling disgust at the way it has changed
since bringing your children into the world,
she is more likely to remember the feel of
your hands on her hips
or trailing down her spine
or the way that you pull her in
and fit her perfectly into the spaces of your own form.
A woman who feels desired
is so much easier to sit across the table from
as she is less likely to be judging
her own skin
her own curves
her own worth
her place in the bed that you share.
She is more likely to care for the body she has been given,
feed it good, whole foods
put it to frequent use in the garden
enjoy the pull of muscle
and increasing strength
as she carries ever-growing children
and becomes more confident with household repairs.
A woman who feels desired will rear children
who see their bodies as perfect works of art
that should be celebrated
respected
and capable of love.
It takes very little to make a woman feel desired.
It does not require
expensive jewelery
exotic flowers
pages of poems
romantic dates
or even dramatic words.
You can tell a woman you desire her
with nothing more than a look
a simple touch
a well placed word
and by listening to what she's saying
and then responding appropriately.
Without those simple things
even a strong woman may start to feel
less.
And less leads to
depression
self loathing
anger
frustration
bad parenting
and a marriage
that may not last the next five years.
So when your wife or girlfriend asks you,
"Do you find me sexy?"
the answer should never be
a long pause
followed by a apologetic
"I just love you."
Lie to me
if you have to,
but tell me "yes"
and then watch
as my confidence continues
to bloom
and my heart stays open
even when the world
is throwing us curve balls.
Because sometimes,
a woman needs to know she is desired
or she'll start to believe
it is no longer true."
'A woman who feels desired is many things:
She is less likely to reach frustration with
you
or the children
or the cat
or the dog.
She is more likely to feel like an important part of
your life
and the home you share
and the children you created together.
She is more likely to look at her own body
and instead of feeling disgust at the way it has changed
since bringing your children into the world,
she is more likely to remember the feel of
your hands on her hips
or trailing down her spine
or the way that you pull her in
and fit her perfectly into the spaces of your own form.
A woman who feels desired
is so much easier to sit across the table from
as she is less likely to be judging
her own skin
her own curves
her own worth
her place in the bed that you share.
She is more likely to care for the body she has been given,
feed it good, whole foods
put it to frequent use in the garden
enjoy the pull of muscle
and increasing strength
as she carries ever-growing children
and becomes more confident with household repairs.
A woman who feels desired will rear children
who see their bodies as perfect works of art
that should be celebrated
respected
and capable of love.
It takes very little to make a woman feel desired.
It does not require
expensive jewelery
exotic flowers
pages of poems
romantic dates
or even dramatic words.
You can tell a woman you desire her
with nothing more than a look
a simple touch
a well placed word
and by listening to what she's saying
and then responding appropriately.
Without those simple things
even a strong woman may start to feel
less.
And less leads to
depression
self loathing
anger
frustration
bad parenting
and a marriage
that may not last the next five years.
So when your wife or girlfriend asks you,
"Do you find me sexy?"
the answer should never be
a long pause
followed by a apologetic
"I just love you."
Lie to me
if you have to,
but tell me "yes"
and then watch
as my confidence continues
to bloom
and my heart stays open
even when the world
is throwing us curve balls.
Because sometimes,
a woman needs to know she is desired
or she'll start to believe
it is no longer true."
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A nice post my friend. :flowerforyou:0
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this is nice. 0 -
Beautiful.
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I'll say the truth instead.0
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Beautiful. 0
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i disagree with this sexist piece of crap. i have no desire to feel desired. i want certain people to hate me. thank u0
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i disagree with this sexist piece of crap. i have no desire to feel desired. i want certain people to hate me. thank u
Because your 19 years old, I will overlook your surly, nasty attitude. I will also say that clearly this is written for married mothers. You are very welcome sunshine.:)0 -
i disagree with this sexist piece of crap. i have no desire to feel desired. i want certain people to hate me. thank u
Because your 19 years old, I will overlook your surly, nasty attitude. I will also say that clearly this is written for married mothers. You are very welcome sunshine.:)
age discrimination, nice. u could've at least responded to what i was actually saying in my post instead of writing it off as 'nasty'. any educated feminist can see how sexist this poem is. & i don't need ur patronising attitude boo 0 -
i disagree with this sexist piece of crap. i have no desire to feel desired. i want certain people to hate me. thank u
Because your 19 years old, I will overlook your surly, nasty attitude. I will also say that clearly this is written for married mothers. You are very welcome sunshine.:)
age discrimination, nice. u could've at least responded to what i was actually saying in my post instead of writing it off as 'nasty'. any educated feminist can see how sexist this poem is. & i don't need ur patronising attitude boo
Lol.0 -
i disagree with this sexist piece of crap. i have no desire to feel desired. i want certain people to hate me. thank u
Because your 19 years old, I will overlook your surly, nasty attitude. I will also say that clearly this is written for married mothers. You are very welcome sunshine.:)
age discrimination, nice. u could've at least responded to what i was actually saying in my post instead of writing it off as 'nasty'. any educated feminist can see how sexist this poem is. & i don't need ur patronising attitude boo
Lol.
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Have a beautiful day, my friend!0 -
i disagree with this sexist piece of crap. i have no desire to feel desired. i want certain people to hate me. thank u
Because your 19 years old, I will overlook your surly, nasty attitude. I will also say that clearly this is written for married mothers. You are very welcome sunshine.:)
age discrimination, nice. u could've at least responded to what i was actually saying in my post instead of writing it off as 'nasty'. any educated feminist can see how sexist this poem is. & i don't need ur patronising attitude boo
While it is true a woman should not place their self image in the hands of the world, when a woman is married and has carried his children and let her husband become her center as he has let her become his, she desires rto be desired by him in the same way she desires him. As our bodies change bringing children into the world it becomes difficult to see yourself as anything more than mom. Tis is reminding our husbands that as it is our job to nurture out children as well as our husbands feelings it is his job to do the same. Marriage is a partnership of mutual support.
I assume that the people you want to hate you are not the people you would choose to be your husband so your comment is irrelevant to this post.0 -
I agree with the OP. A woman should feel desired. I've been to that school of hard knocks and I can honestly say;
Lesson learned!!0 -
i disagree with this sexist piece of crap. i have no desire to feel desired. i want certain people to hate me. thank u
Because your 19 years old, I will overlook your surly, nasty attitude. I will also say that clearly this is written for married mothers. You are very welcome sunshine.:)
age discrimination, nice. u could've at least responded to what i was actually saying in my post instead of writing it off as 'nasty'. any educated feminist can see how sexist this poem is. & i don't need ur patronising attitude boo
While it is true a woman should not place their self image in the hands of the world, when a woman is married and has carried his children and let her husband become her center as he has let her become his, she desires rto be desired by him in the same way she desires him. As our bodies change bringing children into the world it becomes difficult to see yourself as anything more than mom. Tis is reminding our husbands that as it is our job to nurture out children as well as our husbands feelings it is his job to do the same. Marriage is a partnership of mutual support.
I assume that the people you want to hate you are not the people you would choose to be your husband so your comment is irrelevant to this post.
Well said! 0 -
I don't like the implications that a woman needs some sort of approval from a man in order to be happy.
But I do think that a lot of people (not just women) thrive on approval or "desire", I guess, from other people in order to feel good about themselves. At least, I know I do. So yeah, while this might be slightly true, it's presented in a way that is kiiiiiind of sexist.
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I've been married a long time, almost 30 years. There is no one secret to a long lasting relationship, but I do believe there is truth in this poem/writiing. My husband and I are partners. We work hard together to keep the house in good repair, get the bills paid, take care of our son (who's almost out the nest), take care of our friends/family, etc. He's my friend/buddy to go out shopping & eating, vacation with, play with. But what makes it really special is the intimacy we share, emotional and physical. We care about each others feelings, and find each other beautiful physically. Yeah, I have a few grays and wrinkles, and he has less hair & a little paunch. :laugh: But he makes feel like the most cherished, loved, valued and yes, desirable woman in the world.. I think (hope) I do the same for him. When he wants to get frisky, he says in a very sexy voice "Hubba hubba"
I just sent him an e-mail an hour ago with the simple message "I love you, have a great day. Hubba hubba. " Sounds hokey or corny, but I don't care.
Sexist writing? I don't know. But if I didn't think my husband loved me and found me desirable, then I may think "why bother being married?" I totally believe people can be happy & complete without marriage. I have an older sister who has never married and is completely content. I get it. But if I am going to be married, I want the whole deal.0 -
What?! LOL
Oh brother.0 -
I don't like the implications that a woman needs some sort of approval from a man in order to be happy.
But I do think that a lot of people (not just women) thrive on approval or "desire", I guess, from other people in order to feel good about themselves. At least, I know I do. So yeah, while this might be slightly true, it's presented in a way that is kiiiiiind of sexist.
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i think there are parts here that are true, and parts that are sexist.
I don't think it's a stretch to say that when anyone feels loved and desired that they go about their life with their head a little higher and a little more strut and confidence, etc. And those things can and do have positive effects on oneself and others around them.
And while I think that there is nothing better than a relationship where 2 people support and love each other and actually need one another for a variety of things in their lives. But the things presented here for women to be are stereotypical like child rearing and gardening. Then the last part where it suggests that she needs to be lied to seems out of place and unnecessary. I think that it's also a little sexist towards men and their role, but I fear that my post is already too long to be read.0 -
I like this. Don't think it's sexist at all.
Thanks OP. :flowerforyou:0 -
Doesn't everyone want to feel desired?
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In my opinion, for me, (since I'm only 18), this could be applied to approval by family and friends as well, not only the man in your life. Of course, some words would change, but the principle still stands and rings true. Maybe that's just my life, or maybe it's true. I don't know. What I DO know, is that I'd give this a big 'like'.0
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women AND men appreciate being desired.
It's JUST as important for a man to know you desire him...it is a two way street.0 -
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While it is true a woman should not place their self image in the hands of the world, when a woman is married and has carried his children and let her husband become her center as he has let her become his, she desires rto be desired by him in the same way she desires him. As our bodies change bringing children into the world it becomes difficult to see yourself as anything more than mom. Tis is reminding our husbands that as it is our job to nurture out children as well as our husbands feelings it is his job to do the same. Marriage is a partnership of mutual support.
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This about sums it up nicely. Since i have been on both sides of the fence I can say my marraige now is better because I know he loves and desires me no matter what I look like. The same can be said for how I feel about him. Sometimes when I am down it changes my whole mood when he puts his arms around me and says," I wish the kids weren't up". Been together for 13yrs and can't wait to continue the next 40 or 50. :happy:0 -
i disagree with this sexist piece of crap. i have no desire to feel desired. i want certain people to hate me. thank u
♫ "Whoa ooo here she comes. Watch out boys she'll chew you up. Whoa ooo here she comes. She's a man-hater!" ♫0 -
This reminds me of that song by Joe so thanks!
Tell me what kind of man
Would treat his woman so cold
Treat you like you're nothin'
When you're worth more than gold
Girl, to me you're like a diamond
I love the way you shine
A hundred million dollar treasure
I'll give the world to make you mine
(La, la, la, la, la)
I'll put a string a pearls right in your hand
Make love on a beach of jet black sand
Outside in the rain we can do it all night
Out to tour the places he would not
And some you never knew would get you hot
Nothin' is forbidden when we touch
Baby, I wanna do
All of the things your man won't do
I'll do them for you (Whoa)
Baby, I wanna do (Hey)
All of (All of) the things your man won't do (Every little thing)
I'll do them for you (Yeah)0 -
Also queue
/aretha franklin "natural woman"0 -
Sexist writing? I don't know. But if I didn't think my husband loved me and found me desirable, then I may think "why bother being married?" I totally believe people can be happy & complete without marriage. I have an older sister who has never married and is completely content. I get it. But if I am going to be married, I want the whole deal.
Agree 100%!0
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