Guys please explain..
Mustang_Susie
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...The Male Code of Conduct
When guys are with a group of guys (work, sports etc.), what is the ultimate goal and what do you do/not do to achieve that goal?
How do your brains work?
Is is really all about "winning"? The competitive drive?
And the real point of my post: how does this carry over into your relationship with your wife/girlfriend? Or does it?
When guys are with a group of guys (work, sports etc.), what is the ultimate goal and what do you do/not do to achieve that goal?
How do your brains work?
Is is really all about "winning"? The competitive drive?
And the real point of my post: how does this carry over into your relationship with your wife/girlfriend? Or does it?
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I have no idea. I try to do what is best for me and my family. If there is a male code of conduct, I have no clue what it is, and don't especially care to.0
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Oh well just like women men really dont share the code of conduct. There may be bits and pieces but not completely shared.
What is the ultimate goal in a group? well define where the group is at, are they single, age? Like women men bond, we like our man time to do manly things!
how do our brains work? well we are very simplistic to please give us something to eat, something to drink, and sex.
winning is how we are defined by society. You never hear about the guy who won second place. You never hear about the bench warmer, you never hear about quite joe at work. You only hear about the star player, the guy at work that speaks up, the guy that wins.
relationships are vastly different from one another, they are also very different compared to a friendship. Sometimes men wear the pants and sometimes they are whipped.0 -
How about if a guy feels disrepsected, put down or insulted in front of other guys? (by a guy)
What response might that evoke?0 -
How about if a guy feels disrepsected, put down or insulted in front of other guys? (by a guy)
What response might that evoke?
That type of thing is most likely going to happen in high school or a bar. I don't hang out in either of those places so I don't have to deal with it. I'm man enough to turn the other cheek when I need to ..........but if he were to touch my child ........he'll get his *kitten* handed to him0 -
I don't even know what you're asking0
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reported for asking to break the bro code.0
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The ultimate goal is to sit back, talk crap to each other and to simply enjoy not thinking. Some of us, have a world of weight on our shoulders, we have things that need to get fixed or resolved. This time we use to forget about those things.
As for the other question, if you are hanging amongst friends, there are unspoken rules about what you can and can't joke about. If those rules are broken, it's likely to get physical. But you know what? We won't hold a grudge. We will be back to bro love as if it never happened.0 -
It's a secret.
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How about if a guy feels disrepsected, put down or insulted in front of other guys? (by a guy)
What response might that evoke?
Your questions are extremely vague and are all over the board. Completely random, even. All guys are different, there are about a thousand unique answers to your questions. What are you really asking/getting at?0 -
we men are still animals, so often it is met with physical force...or with another sharp comment back. However all of this depends on the situation.How about if a guy feels disrepsected, put down or insulted in front of other guys? (by a guy)
What response might that evoke?0 -
It's a secret.
I know, believe me, I know... 0 -
To win. Keep going until I win.
It's not just a game.0 -
To win. Keep going until I win.
It's not just a game.
At what cost?
Any?0 -
*****any bros caught violating rule 1 of the bro code will have their bro card revoked immediately - no access to brotein, broscientology, no broceptions***** \m/0
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How about if a guy feels disrepsected, put down or insulted in front of other guys? (by a guy)
What response might that evoke?
Your questions are extremely vague and are all over the board. Completely random, even. All guys are different, there are about a thousand unique answers to your questions. What are you really asking/getting at?
this is my sense, too. "Ultimate goal" - like there is the same "goal" for me every time i hang out with friends? is it the same goal that all other men have?
"what response" might is evoke? from whom? the person being insulted? the other guys witnessing the insulting?
"how to your brains work?" in regards too? do you think they work the same way as one another's, or work the same way in every situation?
i can't begin to answer any of these.0 -
To win. Keep going until I win.
It's not just a game.
At what cost?
Any?
EVERYTHING has a "cost".0 -
To win. Keep going until I win.
It's not just a game.
At what cost?
Any?
I do not have the authority to answer this.0 -
So I came into this thread expecting something silly, but I'm scratching my head on this one.
How would you feel if someone asked you about the "Female Code of Conduct"? It's not only a sweeping generalization for our entire gender, but it's not even really something that exists...
Physical gender and gender identity / expression are two very different things, anyway.0 -
A lot of guys are pretending like they don't know what you're talking about here.
It IS about competition, but also cooperation, and a little bit of sexual tension. In the United States that last part is considered taboo but in most other cultures in the world men are more physically affectionate, dance together, etc.
So when we get together as Men - - it has nothing to do with women and how we are around women has nothing to do with our interactions with men.
If we're on the same team, it's more about cooperation and a little bit about competition with a relatively high amount of sexual tension. If we're on opposing teams, there's a LOT more competition and a pretty high amount of sexual tension. If we aren't engaged in a competitive pursuit like sports but just hanging out at a bar, it's entirely sexual tension.
Any man who disagrees with this is just trying to fool you so you don't know what we ALL really do. Trust me, I've been a man my whole life. The nay-sayers are just so culturally messed up that they can't admit the truth.
With love,
Burt0 -
How about if a guy feels disrepsected, put down or insulted in front of other guys? (by a guy)
What response might that evoke?
Your questions are extremely vague and are all over the board. Completely random, even. All guys are different, there are about a thousand unique answers to your questions. What are you really asking/getting at?
this is my sense, too. "Ultimate goal" - like there is the same "goal" for me every time i hang out with friends? is it the same goal that all other men have?
"what response" might is evoke? from whom? the person being insulted? the other guys witnessing the insulting?
"how to your brains work?" in regards too? do you think they work the same way as one another's, or work the same way in every situation?
i can't begin to answer any of these.
That is an answer in itself.
Thank you for responding.
There are no "right" answers, just your answer
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*****any bros caught violating rule 1 of the bro code will have their bro card revoked immediately - no access to brotein, broscientology, no broceptions***** \m/
^^This^^0 -
A lot of guys are pretending like they don't know what you're talking about here.
It IS about competition, but also cooperation, and a little bit of sexual tension. In the United States that last part is considered taboo but in most other cultures in the world men are more physically affectionate, dance together, etc.
So when we get together as Men - - it has nothing to do with women and how we are around women has nothing to do with our interactions with men.
If we're on the same project it's more about cooperation and a little bit about competition with a relatively high amount of sexual tension. If we're on opposing teams, there's a LOT more competition and a pretty high amount of sexual tension. If we aren't engaged in a competitive pursuit like sports but just hanging out at a bar, it's entirely sexual tension.
Any man who disagrees with this is just trying to fool you so you don't know what we ALL really do. Trust me, I've been a man my whole life. The nay-sayers are just so culturally messed up that they can't admit the truth.
With love,
Burt
So, the short answer is testosterone.0 -
So, the short answer is testosterone.
Right? What else separates women and men!!0 -
So, the short answer is testosterone.
Right? What else separates women and men!!
I can think of several things, and would post pictures, but one more Steeeerike and I'm outta here.0 -
FIGHT CLUB!! LOL0
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Code of conduct is simple It's the same rules we had on the playground in 3rd grade
- Don't be a sissy
- Don't tell the teacher
- No girls allowed (when it's guy time)
- We can tease each other but it's all love
- It's us vs. Everyone
- if we fight there's Absolutely NO hitting in the 8alls0 -
you will be placed on immediate brobation until such time as your broformance can be signed off by your local brosician \m/*****any bros caught violating rule 1 of the bro code will have their bro card revoked immediately - no access to brotein, broscientology, no broceptions***** \m/
^^This^^0 -
A lot of guys are pretending like they don't know what you're talking about here.
It IS about competition, but also cooperation, and a little bit of sexual tension. In the United States that last part is considered taboo but in most other cultures in the world men are more physically affectionate, dance together, etc.
So when we get together as Men - - it has nothing to do with women and how we are around women has nothing to do with our interactions with men.
If we're on the same team, it's more about cooperation and a little bit about competition with a relatively high amount of sexual tension. If we're on opposing teams, there's a LOT more competition and a pretty high amount of sexual tension. If we aren't engaged in a competitive pursuit like sports but just hanging out at a bar, it's entirely sexual tension.
Any man who disagrees with this is just trying to fool you so you don't know what we ALL really do. Trust me, I've been a man my whole life. The nay-sayers are just so culturally messed up that they can't admit the truth.
With love,
Burt
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You cannot reduce the male psyche to a set of stereotypical behaviors.0
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