Is it RUDE to offer your "fat clothes" to a friend?

KimberlyinMN

SO, I've dropped a couple sizes and now have quite a few clothing items that are just way too big to wear and have look good on me. That being said, these clothes are all super cute and have lots of life left in them. So, do y'all think it's rude if I offer them to a friend who would look really cute in them? What I would think, is that it would all really be in how you word the offer. More of a: hey I've got a couple adorable dresses I don't wear anymore, would you want them INSTEAD OF A These are WAY too big on me...I bet they'd fit you :laugh: Obviously that's not what I'm trying to say. But even if you say it in a completely non- demeaning way - is it still rude?

I haven't read the other posts but I'd like to say that I wouldn't think this is rude. Well, maybe if you say "Hey, do you want my fat clothes? I think they'd fit you."

I recently had a co-worker who asked me after a meeting if she could buy my shirt when it got too big. Seriously! I told her she could have it and that I had some other stuff if she wanted it. She told me that she had some smaller sizes that I could have if I wanted them (she'd gained some weight back but she was comfortable at the size she currently is).

I brought her a few bags of clothes the next week, including the shirt she had asked me about. (It was really too big for me when I was wearing it anyhow.) And I brought her another bag a couple of weeks after that. She brought me a big bag of jeans that will be my next size to get into. It was a win-win for both of us! (I've just been donating my clothes anyhow, so why not give it to someone who wants it?)

Songbirdcw

I actually had people waiting for me to get to skinny for my clothes. I wish they didn't actually. I want to hold on to them a little longer and just get a nice belt. I don't see that as being rude. It's charity!

fluffysexyme

My then bff had gb and once she dropped about 100 lbs and I went to visit. She said to me " I'm getting rid of my clothes. If there's anything you want get it now or it's going to goodwill."

short, sweet and to the point.

b7bbs

Bring your friend over to help you "sort your donation clothes". If she is interested then she will ask to take the ones she likes. It is a non-confrontational way to let her choose if she wants them.

I think this is a great idea.

Sparlingo

I've been the grateful recipient of shrunk-out-of clothes. I would be choked if a fashionable friend donated a bunch of cute clothes in my size -- I'm broke! Gimme the clothes !

She'll see your heart and intentions, and if she does, for whatever reason, get offended - that's about her, not about you (unless you were rude/uncaring in the way you offered them).

Ed98043

Personally I Do Not Think It Rude...There Are Numerous Ideas One Could Do... But Here Are ( 2 ) Things You Could Do...First You Could Donate It To The Church ( Where They Will Give It To People In Need, Who Will Appreciate It ), or Second, You Could Sell It To A Used Clothes Outlet ( Like Buffalo Exchange In NYC On 26 Street )...You May Not Get A Lot But You Will Have Some Spending Cash... Food For Thought. Either Way, Know This... Your Life is Better As You Move On To A Healthy Level As You Shed Your Old Weight, To A Better Life & Outlook, In Life As You Move Forward. Just Saying...

Why do some people capitalize every word in a sentence?

I dunno -- and I don't think I could do this if I tried -- too much effort and thought required.

Haha I know, right...

It's a software thing. The person typed in ALL CAPS and either their Word program or this forum converted it to just capitalized first letters. But yeah, doing it on purpose would be a lot of hitting that shift button!