Is it RUDE to offer your "fat clothes" to a friend?

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ashesfromfire
ashesfromfire Posts: 867 Member
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SO, I've dropped a couple sizes and now have quite a few clothing items that are just way too big to wear and have look good on me. That being said, these clothes are all super cute and have lots of life left in them. So, do y'all think it's rude if I offer them to a friend who would look really cute in them? What I would think, is that it would all really be in how you word the offer. More of a: hey I've got a couple adorable dresses I don't wear anymore, would you want them INSTEAD OF A These are WAY too big on me...I bet they'd fit you :laugh: Obviously that's not what I'm trying to say. But even if you say it in a completely non- demeaning way - is it still rude?


Just something to add: I've known here since I was about 5, and we've been sharing/borrowing clothes sine about age 13. But I'm worried it's different to actually give her things because they don't fit - not just because I dont want them anymore
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  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
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    YES YES YES! It doesn't matter how you say it, we know you're giving us your fat clothes. I've been there, and it's totally embarrassing!
  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
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    It. Might depend on how good of a friend.
    Are you and these friends on Facebook. Maybe you could make a general statement of "I have a few dresses I don't wear anymore, cute and in good shape, anyone want them?"
    Less "personal" than zeroing in on that one chubby friend.....

    Maybe Good Will is your best bet. (But I'd not be offended if it were me)
  • ms_leanne
    ms_leanne Posts: 523
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    I just donate to charity.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,775 Member
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    I second the broad offer on Facebook.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
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    I second the donating them idea.
  • SlimSumday
    SlimSumday Posts: 379 Member
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    Are you and these friends on Facebook. Maybe you could make a general statement of "I have a few dresses I don't wear anymore, cute and in good shape, anyone want them?"
    Less "personal" than zeroing in on that one chubby friend.....
    Totally cool idea! :happy:
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
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    Bring your friend over to help you "sort your donation clothes". If she is interested then she will ask to take the ones she likes. It is a non-confrontational way to let her choose if she wants them.
  • sunflowerhippi
    sunflowerhippi Posts: 1,100 Member
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    It. Might depend on how good of a friend.
    Are you and these friends on Facebook. Maybe you could make a general statement of "I have a few dresses I don't wear anymore, cute and in good shape, anyone want them?"
    Less "personal" than zeroing in on that one chubby friend.....

    Maybe Good Will is your best bet. (But I'd not be offended if it were me)

    I have done this, works well and doesn't hurt anyones feelings either. :)
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
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    YES YES YES! It doesn't matter how you say it, we know you're giving us your fat clothes. I've been there, and it's totally embarrassing!

    This. Besides, isn't it rude to "donate" your clothes to your friends anyways? Unless they're in need of course in which case I guess you can
  • endoftheside
    endoftheside Posts: 568 Member
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    If I am size X and my friend has size X clothes because she now wears size X-2, I would be happy to be offered the clothes. But, I am not super picky about where my clothes come from, I view it as an adventure to find things secondhand.

    If she is super self-conscious or in denial about her weight, or only wears new stuff from trendy shops, I would not offer the clothes to her.
  • sunshyncatra
    sunshyncatra Posts: 598 Member
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    Do not offer them directly to the friend. Offering them on Facebook is a good idea. Another idea is to arrange a clothing swap party with a bunch of friends/coworkers. You all bring gently used clothing you don't want anymore and swap. Whatever clothing doesn't have takers can be donated to charity. Everyone wins!
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
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    Not if they're cute clothes.
  • stephenson2012
    stephenson2012 Posts: 94 Member
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    It depends on the friend. I have one that we have very similar taste,. She is loosing also,but not as far along. She appreciated the offer. Her husband really appreciated it because she got some things that fit and he didn't have to pay for them. Others I have donated to Suited for Success. She does not wear business suits
  • KEAVES13
    KEAVES13 Posts: 90 Member
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    I would just bring up in general conversation that you are getting rid of some of your clothes..and leave it up to them to say something about wanting them. :smile:
  • Diamond05
    Diamond05 Posts: 475 Member
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    Not a bad idea. Plus as you go through the process you could tell her to feel free to take anything she' d like, they're going to charity anyway...
  • 1two3four
    1two3four Posts: 413 Member
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    What everyone else said, clothing swaps, open offers on FB....
  • Ed98043
    Ed98043 Posts: 1,333 Member
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    I've been on the receiving end of a friend's "fat clothes"...she had great taste and tended toward designer stuff. Hell yes, I wanted them! I didn't think it was demeaning at all.
  • mmddwechanged
    mmddwechanged Posts: 1,687 Member
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    It has happened to me. I don't mind at all:). But I have never offered because I don't want to offend anyone.
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
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    I gave some of my "fat clothes" to 2 of my sister-in-laws and they didn't mind one bit! :laugh:

    That's what you think! I'm sure I seemed perfectly happy to get the clothes when my mom gave them to me, but inside I was crying.

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